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The Lord's provision

Monday, January 03, 2011

I've blogged about the fact that I was having difficulty finding a dress for my son's wedding, which will take place in the Caribbeans less than two weeks from now. I did find a dress, but it wasn't the right size. When I took it to the seamstress to have it adjusted today, she told me that the top would have to be completely redone, and that the style was not flattering. She recommended I find something else. emoticon emoticon emoticon

I was grateful for her honest feedback, but to say that I was discouraged would be an understatement! Not only because of the cost, but also because of the short lapse of time left to find another one. Then I remembered that my sister had told me that I was welcome to the dress that she wore at her daughter's wedding, and hadn't worn since. I wasn't sure I'd like it, and I was even less sure I'd fit into it! In my desperation, this afternoon, I went to try the dress on. It was *the* dress I'd been looking for and could not find. emoticon

My niece was there, and she called her cousin (who works for a fashion manufacturer) to come over and give her recommendations. Not only did she give advice, she loaned me a silver purse and the accessories to go with the dress! emoticon All I have left to buy are the silver sandals. I'm so grateful for the Lord's provision!

Since my heart attack, last January, I've only been able to work at my secretarial job between 20 and 28 hrs per week. I get by very well when it comes to ordinary day-to-day expenses, but financing this kind of trip is something else altogether! emoticon

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APRILLSCOTT 1/12/2011 6:10AM

    Isn't God emoticon. He always knows what is best and seems to always have the answer if we just listen. I hope you enjoy the wedding and bring us some pictures back. emoticon emoticon

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PENNYAN45 1/7/2011 1:09AM

    I'm glad that everything has worked out for you - and that you have found the dress to wear! You can enjoy yourself at the wedding - as the mother of the groom.
Be sure to take lots of photos so you can share them with us here.


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DEBRITA01 1/6/2011 6:32AM

    emoticon God always points us in the right direction...glad you found "the" dress for the wedding. I'm sure you look beautiful in it and Woo Hoo! fit! Now, don't you feel proud?

Can't wait to see the photos of the wedding...and the fabulous mother-of-the-groom!

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KATE3BOYS 1/5/2011 7:22AM

    God is good ALL THE TIME!

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SHAPNUP 1/4/2011 8:36PM

    Good things come to good people. I'm so happy things worked out for you the way they did. You ARE going to post pics, right? emoticon

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 1/4/2011 1:22PM

    Yes, the Lord does provide. I'm so glad it all worked out as it should. Enjoy your trip and make sure you take (and share) photos!

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LESLIES537 1/4/2011 11:32AM

    God is good! I bet you look fantastic in your dress! I can't wait for pictures! emoticon emoticon

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BUGGYS 1/4/2011 7:40AM

    Relax and enjoy the upcoming events and weddings ...what a joyous glad things worked out for you!!! emoticon emoticon

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ONEKIDSMOM 1/4/2011 7:04AM

    So grateful that this is working out for you! emoticon Now to have a wonderful time and make lots of good memories on the trip!

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NEW-CAZ 1/4/2011 3:26AM

    It was meant to be, I'm pleased for you!
Now you can feel comfortable on the day and enjoy

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LIGHTHOUSEGIRL1 1/3/2011 10:59PM

    Thank you Lord for your always know just what we need. this was a great blog..thank you for sharing ! emoticon emoticon

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CARTOONB 1/3/2011 10:57PM

    Woo Hoo! Love that you found "the" dress and were loaned accessories too! Your trip sounds heavenly (pun intended!). I'm so glad that you get to go and that things are working out for you.

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HOPEFUL2DAY! 1/3/2011 10:48PM

    I just love it when He does things like this!

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    That is WONDERFUL!!! emoticon

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DEVORA4 1/3/2011 10:47PM

  All's well that ends well. Thank God for good sisters. {never had one} There is a saying in Yiddush that translates, "Go in good health and return in good health." emoticondebby

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CORR1220 1/3/2011 10:45PM

    Praise the Lord! God is good! Thanks for sharing!

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SparkFriends kick butt!

Tuesday, December 28, 2010

SparkFriends kick butt... and the butt that got kicked is mine! emoticon emoticon

I'm deeply grateful for the support I received in response to my last blog. I've experienced the "power" of having SparkFriends. Rest assured that I have no intention of giving up! Ever. That's why THIS time is going to be different. But I did recognize the "danger zone" and felt the need the step back and regroup, plus this is a great time of year to do just that.

I put together a vision collage that's activity oriented. My goal weight: 135. Waist size: 31.5 When I exercise indoors in the Winter, I like to use Leslie Sansone's walking DVD's, so that's a big part of my collage. I put it on my desktop as a reminder of my fitness goals. It's probably not the final version, but here's what it looks like at this point:

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APRILLSCOTT 1/3/2011 9:43PM

    I like your new motivator! emoticon emoticon

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SHAPNUP 12/31/2010 9:15AM

    I like your collage - a very positive motivator!

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JUST_TRI_IT 12/31/2010 1:26AM

    Ah... a new vision collage... I feel one coming on! LOVE THE PATH THAT YOU HAVE LED US ONTO!!


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LRSILVER 12/30/2010 6:55AM

    Great attitude, love your collage. I am a big fan of Leslie too, and hope to restart her DVDs now that I have recovered from surgery.

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SENATOR9 12/29/2010 1:26AM

    Good for you you are on the right track emoticon

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KATE3BOYS 12/28/2010 9:19PM

    I love it! You are Awesome! Keep up the good work and knowing those pitfalls really does help! Thank you for my spark goodie too! We can do this together and I plan to be here right by your side the entire way. What else are Spark friends for!

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LESLIES537 12/28/2010 3:07PM

    LOVE the collage!!
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    Hey, that's a great collage! I have to get off MY butt and make one, too! emoticon

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CARTOONB 12/28/2010 10:37AM

    Very cool! Love the collage and love that you put it on your desktop. You can totally do this!

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 12/28/2010 10:35AM

    Good for you -- what a great way to re-motivate yourself! Keep on going and you'll reach your goals before you know it!

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JHADZHIA 12/28/2010 9:23AM

    Great vision collage!! That is the way to do it!!
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I have no interest in any other website on the net except Sparks, they have the nicest people I have ever met here and astonishingly, never met any jerks, which usually just doesn't happen in a site so large!!

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KASEYCOFF 12/28/2010 9:04AM

    That's a great vision collage, and really focuses in on what you want to do - brilliant! emoticon

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JESPAH 12/28/2010 8:57AM

    Very nice.

That is the main thing that keeps me here, and it's coming up on three years. I love the tracker and the mathematical stuff, but the bottom line is the people. If the people were no good, I wouldn't bother.

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DEBRITA01 12/28/2010 8:53AM

    emoticonLove your attitude....and the collage!
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DEVORA4 12/28/2010 8:27AM

  emoticona side kick if you want another. I know I could always use one more for good luck! emoticondebby

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BUGGYS 12/28/2010 8:22AM

    We will all kick butt in 2011!!! emoticon

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NEW-CAZ 12/28/2010 8:01AM

    emoticon Rej with a positive attitude emoticon emoticon emoticon

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Danger! Danger! Danger!

Monday, December 27, 2010

I've reached the place where I've always given up before. The weight just isn't coming off any more, in fact I'm gaining a little. I've always found Winter to be the hardest as far as physical activity is concerned. I'm not getting my 10,000 steps in, often not even 5,000. My focus and motivation are down.

I'm going to take advantage of this week before the new year to work on new goals and refocus. The pounds come off fairly easily when going from morbidly obese to overweight, but getting from overweight to normal weight is a lot harder. Losing more weight and maintenance are both acceptable options, but regaining the lost weight is not. I need to reflect on what I really want and what I'm willing to do to get it.

My weight chart from March 3rd to December 27th 2010

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VALERIENEAL 1/5/2011 8:49AM

    We are avid gardeners here, and winter is rest time, so I do understand how hard it is to get moving when the rest of nature is at rest.

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APRILLSCOTT 1/3/2011 9:42PM

    You know how winter makes me want to feel! I read something on one of our hospital magazines that said that exercising just 10 minutes more and cutting just 20 calories off of your intake will get a plateau moving! Even this when you are used to being outside and moving and can't because of the weather is horrifying! I guess other ways to get the movement in are what we need to research.

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SHAPNUP 12/31/2010 9:14AM

    Hey Rej,

Winter is definitely a challenge for me, and so I am challenging myself this winter. Not so much with exercise as with other physical activity that will make me feel good about myself. This weekend, that happens to be cleaning out all the drawers in my house, and either giving away or throwing away what is no longer useful to me.

The other challenge I'm taking on is learning to cook heathful meals. My doctor does not want me eating any more processed foods, so I'm finally, at my age, learning to cook. I bought myself some vegan cookbooks, and I'm excited about trying new recipes.

I'm also challenging myself to eat at the lower end of the glycemic index.

And no pressure. I'm not perfect and I'm giving myself permission to just be me and not worry so much about it.

Find what works for you, and go for it!

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JUST_TRI_IT 12/31/2010 1:25AM

    OH... I'm glad I read this! Winter seems to have had the same effect on me. I've really never noticed winter in this way before! Your ability to reflect on where you are is quite wise. WE CAN DO THIS!! YES YES YES!!!

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DEBRITA01 12/28/2010 7:12AM

    Winter is a challenge with less sunlight, cold weather, and the temptation of comfort food. You've done great so can overcome these challenges!

The new year gives us a time for reflection and an opportunity to plan our future goals. Just like when you started SP, continue with small goals and build from there. You can do it...I know you can!

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SENATOR9 12/28/2010 6:40AM

    Time of the year cold outside our energy is down we miss the sun in our Canadian winter get dark early days are shorter it seems we gain in the winter and loose more in the summers one day a time .Un jour a la foi emoticon

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ONEKIDSMOM 12/27/2010 8:56PM

    Take a deep breath... you're doing just the right thing... THINKING about how far you've come, how much farther you want to go... and "what you're willing to do" to go there!

The one thing I can tell you is: wherever you decide your destination is, you're worth whatever effort you put forth to get there!

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DOTZCANDOIT 12/27/2010 7:53PM

  Reg, just keep thinking of how far you've come along so far. That's fantastic. You have the power within you. You've proven it.


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LOVE_2_LAUGH 12/27/2010 1:07PM

    You're right. It's all about focus and determining what we really want. I have no doubt you'll come to the right decision. Just the fact that you've gained a few pounds back and are now thinking about the next step is good. You'll figure it out --whether it be continue losing or maintain for a while.

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BARBARAJ73 12/27/2010 12:20PM

    This is a great time for reflection and change. Mix things up - it helps boost metabolism as well as our moods! eg. I bought myself a couple of new workout DVDs and I'm actually looking forward to trying all the workouts! Mixing up the tunes on my playlists... try intervals at whatever exercise you do.

Just remember

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LITTLEFARMMOMMA 12/27/2010 11:48AM

    55Tucker said it all right, and I couldn't say it better! I'm in the same boat as you! It seems the weight just clings when we get to that overweight point! Here's to a newly dedicated set of goals for both of us! emoticon(WE) can do it! emoticon

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55TUCKER 12/27/2010 11:37AM

    Hi Rej. Winter makes me want to curl up with a warm blanket and plunk myself in one place (and of course, something good to eat and drink make that even more appealing). Working on your goals will help you see the direction you would like to go. Don't give up now, you are still on your way to meeting all of your goals. One small step you can take today, is one step better than you are feeling like right now. Choose one small step forward. You can do that.

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PLAYBLUES22 12/27/2010 11:22AM

    Sweetie, don't you quit on yourself!!!!!!! emoticon

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LESLIES537 12/27/2010 11:11AM

    A little self-reflection is always helps you to focus and to know what path you are going to take and what things you want to do to reach your goals. Good for you on working on your plan...before you would've just given up but NOT THIS TIME! You're going to make a plan and follow through! There's no going back, just onward and upward! emoticon emoticon

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KASEYCOFF 12/27/2010 10:37AM

    I know what you mean about motivation and momentum: losing five pounds when it's 3% of the amount you want to lose, rather than 10% of what you have left to lose, fer sher. While this is a rough time of year to get outside and exercise - or walk, or hike - it's also a great time to think about the past year, consider your options, and plan goals for the new year. You CAN do this, and we're all in this with you. emoticon

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FYRSTORME1 12/27/2010 10:26AM

    i mstarted to think about that when December hit and the snow started to fly. I noticed how i just plunked it down and started to stuff my face like the squirrels do.....may be good for the squirrels but it isn't good for a human being......I too have had a hard time staying moving during the colder months but i think i am going to cling to you for support and in turn you can cling to me and and we will keep each other moving all winter long. If ever you need me spark mail me or visit my blogs i am going to see if you are on my list of friends and if not i'll add you. Have a great day and we can do this

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ANDI571 12/27/2010 10:20AM

    I am with you. I was thinking about that last night. I haven't really lost anymore since the end of September. I think I am happy where I am at, but still would like to get a few more pounds off. But what I have noticed is, I gain 2, then go back down, gain 2, then back down. I really would like to get maybe 5 to 7 more pounds down.

I did look at myself in the mirror yesterday. I did like what I saw. My waist was going in, my face was thinner than this time last year. I don't mind pictures being taken as bad. That gave me the strength to start throwing away the leftovers I so badly wanted to keep. I sent a big bag of sweets home with my daughter so she could take them to work. I figure even if she forgets, they are out of the house.

Don't give up Rej, we can do this. The difference this time is we have each other to lean on. Stay strong!

On the local news last night, they were saying (for us older folks) that doing weights was better to start sculpting the body verses cardio. It said if you can't lift the heavier weights, then do more repetitions with lighter weights.

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CARTOONB 12/27/2010 10:19AM

    Good for you for seeing what's happening and taking steps to get where you want to go. Good luck!!

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LBIMAMMA 12/27/2010 10:01AM

    Winter months can be a challenge, but don't give up. Everyone hits a plateau; you just need to shake up your schedule a bit. You've done so well, and you need to remember that! Good luck to you emoticon

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KATE3BOYS 12/27/2010 9:29AM

    I think we all hit this wall. Winter is a time when our bodies are in a mode to save fat due to the cold. But that is no reason to stop. You have made a huge improvement this year! I wish I could show the same results and commitment. Just take the time to write down your goals. Maybe do what I am doing. Write them down and then frame them! Put your graph in there and a photo of before and after for this year. That way you have a consistant reminder that you are a winner and worth every thing!

I look forward to seeing your goals this week! Keep you posted and keep up the fight! Gaining is not an option!

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NEW-CAZ 12/27/2010 9:28AM

    Rej hun do not give up now! you've come too far to blow it.
Winter is a worse time for dieters and reaching a plateau makes motivation take a nose dive.
Words of advice? Apart from hang in there? Use the time you can't do cardio to do ST. Muscles burn calories over a longer period and will help your metabolism. Remember you're losing fat now not water and the less weight you have to lose it IS harder to lose. Mix up your calorie intake, maybe even increase it for a few days if you're eating at the lower end, so your body doesn't go into starvation mode. Take on water and mix up your workouts too.
Come on Rej emoticon

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JHADZHIA 12/27/2010 8:55AM

    As long as you have a house to work out in you have no excuses for the lack of activity. Using winter is a lame excuse. I go out in all kinds of weather (usually bitterly cold) and slippery sidewalks to my gym or my bridge club, no choice and as walking is my only transportation, I get my steps in and then some. Walking in snow is actually a good workout, so is shoveling it.. But you can be a shut in if you want, and use Spark's videos to work out with if you don't want to go to the library to borrow some. I love the various DVD's I have purchased, some dirt cheap at yard sales and not even opened!! You can do so many different things with them. This morning I did a power walk with weights and a Latin Dance DVD as my gym is closed for the holidays. If you invest in a stability ball, you can get a workout in just sitting!
You have done so well so far. Now is not the time to give up. You don't take time off from a healthy lifestyle just because the weather is bad..
So don't toss what you have done so far down the tubes, move it to lose it!!
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LJCANNON 12/27/2010 8:20AM

    Hang In There, Rej!! You know what to do--That is obvious from looking at the graph. Now, you just have to do it, even if it means walking in the house. You can get some exercise in with Videos, and YOU ARE WORTH IT!!
emoticonok, Yes, I know walking in place can get BORING, but so can being dead!!

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BUGGYS 12/27/2010 7:45AM

    Plateaus are the hardest to overcome but if you up your exercise, the weight will start the downward spiral...this is a difficult time for me as well and I'm heading back to WW on Wednesday!

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DEVORA4 12/27/2010 7:32AM

  I have to tell you that I am surprised by your blog. You are not taking a few things into consideration.

1. This is Not the Biggest Looser tv show. Anyone's body has to stabilize before the next round of weight loss. That is what's happening with you.

2. Winter does make it harder so I drive or take a bus sometimes to the shopping mall and do my 10000 step plus walk.

3. When you were obese, you lost water retention. Now you are loosing the F A T!


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SLIM_SOFIA 12/27/2010 7:29AM

    When I look at your chart I feel so inspired. I'm overweight, and I can't reach my normal range weight to. I think your achievements are so great, and you're on the right track refocusing on your goals.

Good luck

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KIMOTHY77 12/27/2010 7:15AM

    I, too, struggle in the winter months. I am treating today as my January 1. Happy New Year and keep up the awesome work! Your chart looks awesome!

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What I have in common with Bernie Madoff

Sunday, December 12, 2010

I was sad to read about Mark Madoff’s suicide. It made me think about his father, Bernie Madoff, an old man in his 70’s, sitting in a prison cell (where he belongs!) deprived of all financial or relational wealth, his family the object of shame, hate and ridicule. What a pitiful man! And he could have ended his life in luxury, loved and honored by family and friends. I read that he was a millionaire several times over even before starting his ponzi scheme. Then he let greed take hold of him and through fraud, he became a billionaire.

What Bernie Madoff and I have in common is denial. Thinking that we won’t reap the consequences of our choices. He’s in prison, and I had a heart attack.

Maybe in the beginning, Madoff intended to “pay back” the money he stole, but in time theft became a lifestyle. How many times did I eat unhealthy fast foods, kidding myself into thinking it wouldn’t affect my health, until unhealthy eating became a lifestyle. How many times did I sit on my butt, thinking I’ll be more active… tomorrow.

Maybe Madoff thinks he got caught because of the financial downturn, rather than admitting his imprisonment is the result of his own greedy choices. How often did I blame my unhealthy lifestyle on circumstances. Too busy. Too tired. Too whatever.

Did Madoff’s conscience bother him during all those years he was lying to his friends and stealing from them? When we crush that inner voice often enough, it gets so we can’t hear it anymore. I knew that I was morbidly obese. I knew that I had diabetes, high blood pressure and a high-stress job. I knew that I had a genetic predisposition to cardio-vascular disease. Sometimes that inner voice would warn me that I needed to do something about my weight. But I was also in denial.

I thought that I could fix the problem “later”. I was in denial about the fact that we don’t control “when” we reap the consequences of our choices. When my body said “enough”, and I had a heart attack, that was it!

Denial is thinking that we can continue to do what we’re doing without reaping the consequences of our actions. Sometimes the consequences are a lot worse (or better) than we ever dreamed they could be!

Not only is Bernie Madoff sitting in jail, but his son has committed suicide. His grandson will grow up without a dad. Bernie Madoff could not have foreseen the horror of the consequences of his decisions upon his own life and upon the lives of his family for at least 3 generations.

I’ve been given a second chance, and I intend to make the most of it!

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MAGPIE74 12/31/2010 2:32PM

    Thank you for this insightful blog. I too have been given a second chance. Like you, for too long I denied the consequences of my unhealthy habits. I had a stroke in Aug 2010 but had immediate medical help and will have few long term effects. But the possibility of it happening again looms over my head. So I will take this second chance that I have been given and join you in making the most of it.

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MYOWNHERO 12/27/2010 10:40AM

    Wow...that is sobering. I never thought about it that way before.

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LBIMAMMA 12/27/2010 10:04AM

    Second chances are a gift, and while Madoff is a criminal, I am so proud of you for taking charge of your life! Keep up the good work! emoticon

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    Oh, what a GREAT, insightful blog! I'm so glad I found it! Thank you for such a powerful way to look at life! I am so glad you are here to tell it! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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KASEYCOFF 12/18/2010 5:27PM

    Wow, what a great blog - and really insightful! Thanx for writing this, it is definitely food for thought. :-)

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JHADZHIA 12/14/2010 10:54PM

    Very powerful and moving blog. I wasn't familiar with this Madoff person, but get the principles of it. Most people get into trouble because of denial and turning a blind eye, distancing themselves.
I am so very glad you have decided to turn your life around and save it before it is too late.. Here is to living a healthy lifestyle and looking forward to the future!

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APRILLSCOTT 12/14/2010 9:26PM

    I loved this blog! It gave me a lot to think about! emoticon emoticon

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ONEKIDSMOM 12/14/2010 8:36PM

    Outstanding blog! I hear echoes in my brain, especially this bit: I thought that I could fix the problem “later”.

I think a lot of us can identify with that. Later may show up as it did for you with a health scare... Good for you for getting serious about it now, for coming out of denial... for this way lies freedom!

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NIC1010 12/13/2010 6:06PM

    Great blog, proud of my sister.

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LESLIES537 12/13/2010 11:04AM

    I love your insight. Great blog! Here's to second chances! emoticon

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PENNYAN45 12/13/2010 9:55AM

    I'm glad that you got a second chance.
AND that you are taking advantage of it!

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DEBRITA01 12/12/2010 7:41PM

    emoticonWhat an insightful and powerful blog...thanks for sharing it. Reading it put some things in perspective for me...things I've been in denial about. Bless you...

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SHARONGB 12/12/2010 7:24PM

    Sometimes Denial becomes so comfortable that we don't even notice that we are in it. Thanks for a gentle wake up call. This gives one a lot to think about.

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BUGGYS 12/12/2010 5:17PM

    Thank you so much for this blog and the insight it gave me to keep making good Mary, why is it so hard for the mind to get should be my number one goal and with that will come the weight loss...

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ANDI571 12/12/2010 4:38PM

    You are so on point. I never looked at that story line in the light that you just put it. Your story has inspired me so much since getting to know you, and this just put it even more into perspective.

It's funny. I have been going back and forth about making a batch of cookies. You know it is Christmas, and whatever I don't eat will be frozen for Christmas day, lol. But the funny thing is I have kept putting it off. I put some laundry in, changed a lamp out in the living room, folded some sheets. I think I have been trying to tell myself not to do it. Then I just stopped by the computer after putting the sheets up and read your blog. I think I have my answer. I don't need to make cookies. It's not worth it.

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LJCANNON 12/12/2010 4:10PM

    This NEEDS to be a Most Popular Blog!! Very insightful and HONEST!!!
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JUST_TRI_IT 12/12/2010 4:06PM

    Powerful! Several quotes I get form this insightful blog... One: "When we crush that inner voice often enough, it gets so we can’t hear it anymore." and... "I was in denial about the fact that we don’t control “when” we reap the consequences of our choices."

I read that article about his son this morning and was saddened to see how far Bernie's choices have reached into other's lives... And you are right, our own choices do the exact same thing.


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SHAPNUP 12/12/2010 3:50PM

    What great insight. You've opened my eyes to the ways I've been in denial about my health, and always thinking I'll take care of it later. There will be no later if I don't act now. Thanks, Rej.

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DEVORA4 12/12/2010 1:39PM

  If I hadn't have known you, I would have read your blog due to the unique title of it. I voted for it and hope that enough folks read it so it'll get the readership it deserves.

We are at times all in denial and your blog reminds me of that. It has made me more vigilant on what I eat, although I am in pretty good shape for my age. Thanks is not enough. Holiday wishes, debby emoticon

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THE_BUNNYO 12/12/2010 1:35PM

    Well put... so many we are in denial about upcoming consequences... thanks for posting this!!


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NEW-CAZ 12/12/2010 1:30PM

    WOW what an amazing blog Rej.
Well done you for turning your health around emoticon emoticon

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 12/12/2010 1:22PM

    This is one of the most powerful blogs I've read in a while. Well done. And while I'm fortunate that I did not suffer a heart attack, I can relate to a lot of what you're saying with regard to lifestyle and life choices. I have an opportunity to make positive changes before being forced to due to medical reasons. I wonder why I find it so difficult to "get" that . . . .

Thanks for sharing your thoughts today. I agree with everything you said, both about yourself and Bernie Madoff.

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From size 24 to size 16!

Thursday, December 02, 2010

I haven't worn a bathing suit in probably over 20 years, but with my son's up-coming wedding in the Caribbeans, I figured I'd better get one. Today, I finally worked up the courage to get professionally fitted for some undergarments. I've lost so much weight, that I no longer knew what size I was. While at the boutique, I noticed that they had bathing suits - in December! The saleslady brought me one that I liked, but said that they'd just sold the last size 18. All she had was a size 16. I never thought that I could fit into it, because I've been shopping in plus-size boutiques for years. I wore a size 24. But, it fit perfectly! Tears welled up in my eyes! Was that actually ME wearing a size-16 bathing suit? And I looked pretty good too! Can't say I'm thrilled with my 60-year-old legs, but if I want to look like Caz, I'll have to strength-train like Caz! emoticon

I'm still not sure what dress to wear as the groom's mom. I've been getting mixed messages from the bride and groom. My son is kinda laid back and says, "Just a casual beach wedding. Very casual. Not to worry. He's not wearing a tux, but rather a silk shirt and kaki-coloured pants. But, the bride will be wearing a full-length gown, and the bride's mother too. So the message I get is casual & formal too. emoticon emoticon

Think I can just wear my new bathing suit? emoticon emoticon

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APRILLSCOTT 12/14/2010 9:15PM

    You have done such a wonderful job! emoticon Isn't it wonderful having to make decisions like these! I am crying for ya! emoticon emoticon emoticon for sharing about your great news! It is inspiring me! emoticon

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LOVE_2_LAUGH 12/9/2010 4:46PM

    Congratulations on the weight loss and new, smaller swimsuit! I haven't worn a swimsuit in over 20 years either and am no way near to even thinking about it. So KUDOS to you for your accomplishment!

As for what dress to wear? My personal opinion would be that a beach wedding would be the ultimate in casual style, yet I know how you feel about the the bride's mom wearing a formal dress. I'm sure whatever you choose will be fine. When my son got married 2.5 years ago, it was an outdoor wedding in a local art center/arboretum. I went for a garden party look with mid-calf, flouncie dress. And you know what? Except for the photos that will be taken, the people there are going to be looking at the bride and groom -- not the mothers. Where what you're comfortable in and be happy. The day will be too short to be worrying about what you should/shouldn't have worn.

Maybe you should wear your new swimsuit with one smokin' coverup over it. LOL!

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BEST_LIFE_NOW 12/7/2010 4:13PM

  You have already gotten great advice on what to wear. I just wanted to re-state the obvious ... you will look stunning! emoticon Congratulations on your success!

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RELAXYOURBACK 12/7/2010 10:42AM


Try googling "maxi dress 2010" with say "halter"?
Wear with low sandals and a beautiful wrap? Don't know what colors you like or what shape dress suits you, but I found some pretty beachy things to dress up or down for flexibility...

Halter Maxi Dress in many colors - fabric will travel well

Chandelier Thong Sandal

Rhinestone Sandal

Braided Ankle-wrap Sandal

Gorgeous silk/wool shawl - there are other colors too
R>Alternate dress idea - tunic - comes in wht/ivory/blue/brwn
Thought this looked flowy+romantic w/more upper coverage
Halter dress w/neat bodice detailing - more coverage

emoticonHave fun shopping (and travelling, and mother-of-the-grooming!)

t: not sure why, but my last couple paragraphs glommed together after posting, attempting to fix, but looks ok when I go back in the post. ah well.

Comment edited on: 12/7/2010 10:49:00 AM

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LESLIES537 12/6/2010 10:59PM

    LOL Totally! Wear that non-plus size suit and flaunt it girlfriend! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MARENAMOO 12/6/2010 8:09AM


Wow and double wow. That is amazing to be in a size 16 bathing suit. That is just the best news and not just for the wedding but for your health! You have made such huge strides in regaining and improving your health. I know that when I feel good then I act in a different way - more confident, calmer - so you will be packing a vibrant new you in the suitcase too!

As for the dress - I would look for something long in a pretty flowing fabric with a light gauzy cover up. I googled one and it was not exactly what I had in mind but here goes


halfway down - the apricot one

Maybe something like that could be in a dressy fabric covering a summery dress. Then you could be dressier for the wedding and then casual after.

Whatever you do the most important thing to wear is the confident face of a loving mother.

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JUST_TRI_IT 12/5/2010 9:16PM

    WOOHOO!!! I bet you look smashing. WAY TO GO on getting ready for the trip :) ENJOY EVERY MOMENT!

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NEW-CAZ 12/3/2010 3:24AM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon *wolf wistles*.
That is amazing Rej, well done you.
Why not get a strappy full length dress and some smart sandles! Something floaty/cotton and vibrant colours- I'm sure you would look amazing emoticon emoticon

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DRB13_1 12/3/2010 12:57AM

    First - BIG PROPS for size 16!!! emoticon emoticon
A nice sarong will be great for the leg issues.
Second - get something YOU feel great in for the wedding. If you want to dress up, do it! You'll look back at those pictures and always be able to smile because you will have such good memories.
Even is your son is going to be casual, I know I love an excuse to dress up, and I wouldn't miss this chance to get something rather special. emoticon Follow the other women on this one, I'd say. emoticon

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DEBRITA01 12/2/2010 9:31PM

    emoticonHow great is that, to have lost so much weight you don't know what size you are! I like that you had yourself professionally fitted...that's the best way to go.
I think a size 16 bathing suit is go, girl! Wear it and be proud!

I agree with Pennyann about wearing a long sun dress with a cute pair of flat sandals...that might be the way to go. Casual, yet in good taste. I know you will find the perfect outfit and be a beautiful mother of the groom...if all else fails, go with the bathing suit emoticon

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DEVORA4 12/2/2010 9:15PM

  Follow the ladies. emoticon emoticonon size 16. You are doing it.

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LIBBYFITZ 12/2/2010 8:47PM

    emoticonSounds like a great idea! What about a nice full length dress in a cotton fabric! I went to ane of my nephews wedding's on a beach and we all wore smart casual. I think as woman I wouds stick to long and some glittery sandals.

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PENNYAN45 12/2/2010 8:41PM

    You could wear a floor - length casual summer dress with low casual sandals. That might be a great way to go.

Congratulations on that smaller sized bathing suit. I'm so happy for you!!

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TEACHINGAGAIN 12/2/2010 8:36PM

    Congratulations on the weight loss! I know it wasn't easy, 'cuz I did the same thing as you did - went from a 24 to a 16 (in some things)! Now the fight is to KEEP IT OFF!

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TURTLETALK 12/2/2010 8:19PM

    It sounds to me like any dress that makes you feel fabulous will be appropriate. I am the mother of the groom this spring also but I have not yet made quite the progress you have. I haven't yet started looking for a dress. Good luck! emoticon

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SHAPNUP 12/2/2010 7:22PM

    Here's my favorite sentence from your blog:

I've lost so much weight, that I no longer knew what size I was.

And here's what I have to say about that:

Holy Crap!!! I sure would like to be able to say that some day.

After reading that, I just can't seem to focus on the dress. Sorry!


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ONEKIDSMOM 12/2/2010 7:01PM

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I am so incredibly thrilled for you! That's great and I know you'll put that new swim suit to good use!

- Barb

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BUGGYS 12/2/2010 6:59PM

    What a special moment you must have had!!! Congrats on the bathing suit...if you feel good, you'll look good! You will find the perfect dress for the wedding, too and you will shine!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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ANDI571 12/2/2010 6:52PM

    I am so excited for you. I am like you, I don't care for the legs anymore. I tried on my swimsuit before we went to Myrtle Beach. I made a boo boo face and said I look like my mother.

I think whatever you decide to wear, you are going to be just beautiful.

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JHADZHIA 12/2/2010 6:52PM

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I vote for the bathing suit!! Show them the hot mamma!!
Well done!!

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WORKTHEGOAL 12/2/2010 6:51PM

    What a beautiful moment for you, be proud, be very very proud!

As for the wedding - why not follow the Bride and Mother of the Bride's example............ you will be representing your side of the family and you don't want anybody thinking you didn't make the grade! You know how judge-mental these things can be - if your son wants to go casual then thats his choice - but us ladies do like to look good especially when so much weight has been lost??!!! lol

Thanks for commenting on my recent photo too x

M x

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55TUCKER 12/2/2010 6:49PM

    The wedding sounds like it will be wonderful. Congratulations on finding a great bathing suit you like and worked so hard for. I know you will find the perfect dress. Keep up what your doing!

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THROOPER62 12/2/2010 6:33PM

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