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Baby Steps Lead to Success

Wednesday, July 11, 2012

I don't know if it will help to know my healthy lifestyle change process, but just in case here it is:

I used to make these lofty, huge, life-sweeping goals--and then I didn't make some or all of them and I quit. I was well intentioned but life made it difficult to focus and I probably wasn't ready to make this a priority. (This was just me, this may be you or not even close to you).

This time I was older, wiser, and more determined to be a healthier me. I made small changes that I could live with. First, I started with my nutrition. I healthy much of the time, but I ate way more than I should and some things weren't as healthy as I thought. I started tracking here and did very well. I learned what was better for me to eat and tried to replace the things that I could. I learned what I could eat at the places we went out to eat at and how much of it to eat. I rarely eat salad, but I like to eat fruit and veggies. I don't say I CAN'T eat something. If I don't eat it it's because I'd rather spend my calories elsewhere. It just isn't worth it sometimes. However, I do eat pizza, brie (I love cheese), and ice cream. I just eat better portions of it. Oh, and I totally ate cotton candy a couple weeks ago (until I thought I'd get sick, lol). I track everything and make sure I am in my range every day. I learned SO much from doing that.

So, then I decide--after tracking became a habit and easy for me, so I'm ready to add something new--that I need to add more fitness into the plan. I start with parking further away from where I need to go and using the stairs instead of the elevator. When I use the restroom at work I use the one on the top floor. I started with just walking up them and slowly I was able to walk up and now I run up. The goal is to be out of breath (but not overly so) by the time I'm at the top. I just slowly increased it. Now I walk/jog 3 or so miles at a time and do Pilates for an hour or so a week. My goal is to slowly increase the jog so I'm jogging about 3 miles at a time, and then I'm going to do a 5k :) I increase slowly because I don't want to add too much so that I injure myself or find a reason to stop totally. I find it's very easy to let myself down, so I try to get myself going by getting others going. I have several people I walk/jog with so that I maximize how often and how much I workout (because my goals may not align with others' goals). If I know I will be walking faster than the person with me, I bring weights so I slow myself down and still get a workout in and I don't frustrate my walking buddy because their fitness level isn't up to mine.

My point is: take baby steps in your healthy lifestyle. Take one or two until you have your balance and then take a couple more. Keep it up, add to it. If you fall down, get back up. Right now, don't wait. Take a couple more steps. Before you realize it you'll be running and it won't be with such effort and concentration. It will begin to be automatic--a habit.

Even if it didn't help anyone (and I hope it helped at least one) it did help me by reflecting on my process so far. I've got a ways to go, but one thing is certain: I WILL get there :)

  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

ADAGIO_CON_BRIO 7/12/2012 5:13PM

    I agree with you absolutely. Sweeping change is terrifying and threatening; small measures can seem manageable.

Very well-done!

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SLOPOKE_SAL 7/12/2012 8:49AM

    SO proud of you!



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TRYINGTOLOSE64 7/11/2012 8:46PM

    Good for you!! Baby steps are the best way to go so you can't fail.

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The Fat Girl in the Mirror

Tuesday, May 01, 2012

I still see the fat girl when I look in the mirror. Granted Iíve not lost everything Iíve wanted to yet, but Iíve lost a lot (56 pounds to date).

I used to look at pictures of myself and hated what I sawómostly because it didnít match the vision of me in my head. Now I look at pictures taken of me and I am amazed at how much thinner I am, and yet when I look in the mirror I see the fat girl.

Itís not a matter of self confidence. I know I am a great mom, student, teacher-to-be, friend, girlfriend, lover, and the list goes on. I know when to be grown up and I know how to be silly. Iím a lot of fun to be around.

The picture in my head is still the same as it was before. Similar to the pictures taken of me now. So, why do I still see the fat girl when I look in the mirror?

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TRAVLNWOMAN 5/2/2012 10:46AM

    I've often wondered the same thing. I swear sometimes I look in the mirror and all I see is the fat girl. But every once in a while I see the thinner me and feel so surprised. I wonder if posting a before picture on the mirror to have something to compare with would retrain our minds. I think I might try that!

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ILIKETOZUMBA 5/1/2012 10:15PM

    Weight loss is one big mind game. What you're feeling is quite normal, I think. I've lost about 110 pounds, surpassed my original goal weight, and reached a very healthy weight...and I still see the fat girl in the mirror sometimes. Sometimes I actually do feel like I'm totally not fat, but sometimes it feels like I'm just as fat as I used to be. I''m hoping that it's just a matter of time before the skewed body image gets straightened out in my head permanently; hopefully we'll both come to accept our new bodies soon. :)

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    Two words.....SELF LOVE!

Stop judging what you see and learn to love yourself for who you are, how you are. If you are doing the right things, feeling good, and learning to love yourself, it will all fall in place. I have photos of myself from long ago that I specifically remember think that I was hideously fat. Oh how I wish I could be "fat" like that again. Sure, I wasn't pixie model thin, but I was OK. We have to stop wanted more and more and learn to love ourselves and accept that we are wonderful no matter what. At least this is what I am working on....DAILY.

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LADYVOLSFAN1954 5/1/2012 5:03PM

    It takes a while to retrain your brain to see what is actually there. I still have many days when I see the fatter me (67lbs down now). I guess it's because that's a sight we are so used to and this new person is a stranger to us so we're more comfortable seeing the old "me". You're doing great! Be proud of all you have accomplished. emoticon

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    I go through the exact same things when I look in the mirror. You are doing awesome!

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February Update

Sunday, February 19, 2012

It's been almost a year since I lost my husband. During that time I gained some weight, some perspective, this site, and the great people here. I've also lost almost 50 pounds!

I've moved slowly but surely toward a new life. I've looked ahead more than backwards, putting one baby step in front of the other.

Oddly enough, one thing I didn't expect to find found me. New love.

We knew each other from high school and recently started talking. It was a friendship that became something unexpectedly more.

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SHAN2SHAGG 3/10/2012 1:12AM

    wow, it is so funny how things happen and circumstances change. hoping the best for you and your new friend.

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TOPAZROSE 2/20/2012 6:22AM

    It is so wonderful to read about the positive things in your life. So happy for you.

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SLOPOKE_SAL 2/19/2012 5:34PM

    No wonder we haven't seen as much of you lately!

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JESSICA2140 2/19/2012 1:49PM

    OH! That is such a sweet story! I'm so sorry for your loss...but so happy that you are starting a different chapter in your life!

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January 2012 Goals

Thursday, January 05, 2012

I chose to avoid making goals for December, other than to keep up with the goals from November and to add some core strengthening with Exerbeat.

January goals:

#1 - Continue to track nutrition, fitness, and other goals.

#2 - Continue to drink 8 or more glasses of water a day.

#3 - Continue to embrace healthy eating for a healthy lifestyle.

#4 - Keep doing Exerbeat for core strength and Wii dancing for aerobic exercise.

#5 - Try out the couch to 5k and see what happens :)

Thank you all for your continued support on my healthy lifestyle journey!

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SHAN2SHAGG 1/17/2012 12:45AM

    you can do it! how are things so far!! stick to those goals, post them somewhere and tell someone to keep you accountable. you can do it!! Shan

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TENACITY918 1/6/2012 9:37PM

    Good luck reaching your goals!! Keep your eye on the prize and never give up!!! Have a great 2012!!

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CYNEDRA 1/6/2012 6:06PM

    Great goals.

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PUNKIN175 1/5/2012 8:20PM

    Great goals!!! i really want to do the C25K but I never get very far... Maybe this will be my year!!! Best wishes on all of your goals! You are going to be amazing!!!! : )


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SLOPOKE_SAL 1/5/2012 7:46PM

5 more months and you will be down another 40 pounds!


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A Trip Back in Time

Sunday, November 20, 2011

Losing weight is like taking a trip back in time.

I sat here thinking about the last time I weighed what I do today. It's been about three years. Before I lost my husband. Towards when I started my BS degree.

I continued this thought pattern and imagined a steady loss towards my goal weight, and I can begin to see how losing weight is like taking a trip back in time.

Soon I will be at the weight I was before I started having kids. It won't be long after that and I will be at the weight I was before I got married. Shortly after that, I will be at the weight I was before I met my husband.

I can see this progression continuing and I will have gone back to my high school (or even earlier!) weight. I don't know about you guys, but I find this losing weight/remembering life when you last weighed that amount connection fascinating.

I love the SparkPeople time machine!

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TOPAZROSE 11/25/2011 10:46PM

    Thank you for the time travel blog. It is a positive way of imagining yourself at those weights for what will become your future. Creating a new understanding of our new weight can be tricky. I think you may be onto something with this thinking strategy. :))

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TRAVLNWOMAN 11/23/2011 9:43PM

    I've always thought it would be cool to write a time travel story about a woman who lost a lot of weight but no matter how much she looked in the mirror, she just could not see it. Then one day something transports her back in time to where she was overweight again. Obviously the end of the story would be her going back to current time having realized just how far she has come and finally being able to see herself in the mirror they way everyone else saw her in real life.

Time travel romance stories are my FAVORITE!

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REDWRITINGHOOD 11/21/2011 10:34PM


I write, but I don't think I've ever written anything with a time travel theme. I do enjoy reading those types of books though :)

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TRAVLNWOMAN 11/20/2011 8:48PM

    Awesome blog! I've been thinking along those same lines!

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SLOPOKE_SAL 11/20/2011 11:56AM

    I love time travel stories, it's my favorite genre. I would love to go back to pre-childbirth weight, but it's seems so far out of the realm of possibility. I was too skinny in high school. Perhaps when i make my goal of 175, I can set one to lose another 15!


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