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Thursday, August 23, 2007

Today I have decided not to let others influence my way of thinking on my goal to lose weight. I have realized that sometimes what I see and what I feel within this body does not effect anyone except me. I must do what I need to do to bring my health up to par, my sexy back, my confidence back and whatever else I may gain along the way during this journey to a healthier weight. I was talking to someone who told me I looked good just as I was, who claimed that big is beautiful, and that I don't need to lose any weight, not everyone was made to be small. I told this individual I was doing this for my health, I want to be fit and trim. I was also told not to disappear or turn around to look like Star Jones. LOL, for one I am doing this the realistic weight and second of all I am doing this to where I feel comfortable. I want to be able to get around with ease, and not worry about how I am going to fit in whenever or wherever I am going. The problem with this individual was there refusal to hear what I was saying about "ME" and they were merely a stranger living in another body so they truly only have to worry about their body. This individual kept trying to tell me that its okay to be thick and healthy, just exercise, you will be okay. Hmmmmm....... that is not the plan for me. I think some people just dont understand. Not everyone can be slim and trim no matter what. I gain by the thought of a donut, at least it seems like it to me.......

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TORINICOLE77 8/27/2007 9:21AM

    Hey Red,

It's so funny, people are quick to say, "You don't need to lose anymore weight" or "You're going to blow away" and things like that. Now where were these people when I was 278lbs, battling lymphedema in my legs and was diagnosed as "prediabetic"?? They weren't admonishing me then, when I needed it the most. Are they worried about the fact that we're getting our act together and doing something for ourselves for a change?? You are trying to become a new person with a new mindset and some people just can't deal with that, because it forces them to look at themselves and see where they might be lacking. So steer clear of folk that aren't supportive of your journey and just keep moving in the right direction.

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KEENIEBOY 8/23/2007 9:25PM

    People can be very hurtful!! I've noticed that people are quick to tell you that you've gained but find it difficult to compliment you when you are looking good with your weightloss. Red, some people don't even realize that they are miserable so don't let your motivation and excitement about losing weight be discouraged by ignorance. I deal with the same thing every single day. Some of my own family members have upset me! Some people get jealous about the idea of you getting to a smaller weight and looking better than them. I don't understand it but it's true. Whoever this person is, they've noticed your confidence!! Don't share your excitement with this person anymore!!!

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LATONIA38 8/23/2007 8:28PM

    I have learned in my short 38 years with Whom I share my excitement and good news. Not everyone is their to encourage and uplift. Some are as you stated, "Sabotagers!"******Choose wisely who you share with. ******

To your success, Tonia

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RINAKING 8/23/2007 3:28PM

    I had a big person tell me something similar. She said what do you need to lose weight for? I said to be healthy... I might not be sloppy with mine but I am holding alot of weight. I weigh more than I look...

I too don't get why people try to (knowingly or unknowingly) discourage you from a decision that YOU made for YOURSELF. I say just take what people say with a grain of salt and keep working YOUR plan. If their "advice" works for them then good.
People just don't realize we have a mental battle going on everyday to try to keep striving towards our goal, we don't need the extra from them.

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    I agree with Kia. Keep going.

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KEIAHNAM 8/23/2007 7:44AM

    Is she a big girl too? If so, she could be saying those things because she doesn't want to look at herself. Either way, you have to do what's best for you.

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Battling the mind.....

Sunday, August 19, 2007

Sometimes during this journey I have to battle my mind, I have to remind myself that negative thinking can prevent me from achieving my goals. Its crazy how negativity is such a big thing that can turn the smallest goal into the hardest to reach. I just have to remind the ol' me that things are changing and the me in progress is becoming new and improved. UPGRADE is next.......

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RINAKING 8/22/2007 3:01PM

    I totally agree. Especially when I am getting up so early to work out and the bed is calling for me to stay in. I just have to keep reminding myself of my goal and that seems to help. When I am done working out I am so happy I didn't cave. I also remind myself that this time next year I will be done with the "I need to lose weight" part of my life and will be trying to maintain what I have lost.

Hang in there!! You are almost there.

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NEECHEE144 8/20/2007 11:54AM

    I know what you mean about the negative thoughts. I too have what I call the "itty-bitty committee" thats the chatter I hear between my ears. So the only way I can silence the negative is when I double up on the positives. So keep your positive thoughts rolling at double speed!!

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Mission to Achieve.........

Saturday, August 18, 2007

I am working on 13 days til weigh in. I have been working out faithfully. Its actually quite hard for me to take a day or two off from working out. I know that we are supposed to but I feel the need to always get that workout in the morning. I have been working out twice on some days. I am just so determined to get out of the 220 club. I am on a mission to achieve. I am going to continue my mission and hopefully be out of the 220 club. I am just checking in and staying focused.

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PRAISEGODIMFIT 8/18/2007 11:20PM

    I will be praying for your success. Slimsuccess

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Sunday, August 12, 2007

I have 3 weeks til my September 1st Weigh In, I feel like I haven't been on my spark like I used to be. Life gets busy but I have been working out like I am supposed to. I do know that I am getting ready to add my strength training like I need to. I want to weigh in at 200 or less come September 1st. I weighed in at 226 on the 1st of August. I have been working out 2 times a day just trying to get this weight off. I feel lighter today, however I wont step on the scale with Tom visiting, because he always bring extra baggage. I know I have been sweating like crazy down here. We were in the 100's all last week. Well I am writing up a plan for this week, I do know that I had one day off last week (Mon) but I have been taking the weekends lightly. I did a 30 minute workout yesterday and a 30 minute work out today. To me that is better than nothing, I cant see myself just doing nothing, I really want to work out and lose this weight and keep it off. For good. I have a goal of reaching my goal weight by Jan. 2008. I dont know what I am going to do once I reach that goal. I do know that Success deserves Celebration however it will be a sensitive menu. I do know the difference this time will be the knowledge, the determination and the ability to know that this is a lifelong journey in order to keep the weight off and know that I dont want it to come back, I wont accept it back.

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KTWJAX1 8/17/2007 9:25AM

    Very healthy attitude! Just remember that whatever the scale says on Sept 1, you are movin gin the right direction. I have to tell myelf that. For somereason, once I got under 200, the weight loss seems to be getting harder and harder! But if we never give up, it just has to come off eventually. Good job, Red!

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NEECHEE144 8/12/2007 12:55PM

    Thank you for reading my most recent blog and posting your comments. I think you are an inspiration and I am sending good wishes your way to continue your success.

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WORKIN4ME 8/12/2007 11:46AM

    You can do this Red!! You have all of the key elements to succeed and you have the drive I only aim to achieve. You are looking wonderful and keep up the good work!!!

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Whose Eyes are you Looking through???

Saturday, August 11, 2007

Do you ever get someone who looks through their eyes to say things to you to cause you to re-assess your goals? I caught myself doing this a few days ago. I had someone telling me that they miss the old me, I asked to make sure I was not over reacting, what do you mean by the old me?! They replied the old you was different, now the new you is just different I think you are just changing. When I think of the old me, I see the big girl who had a lack of energy, who ate a lot, based a lot around food, and who was getting to a point where she was wasting away. I wonder why sometimes the positives we do for ourselves have to include negatives from others. I sometimes have to let what others say roll on down the drain, then I also have to take a look at myself and make sure that what I am doing is staying in perspective and being who I want to be and how I want to be. Moving right along all the while using my own eyes to look at me and honestly, or someone who is honest and not intimidated by my progress.

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We cannot edit our posts so I want to make a few corrections.
Your who perspective = Your whole perspective
You are not a can do person = you are now a can do person

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What they are saying is that the old you was the person who was unhappy with herself and it showed. Now that you are happy with yourself, your who perspective of life is more positive. Misery loves company. Now you are not a person who glories misery. Instead, you are not a can do person. You are doing fine. Keep going.

I am gettng the same thing from a lot of people. They are telling me don't lose anymore--people are afraid of your success, because that means they can no longer say it can't be done. It is seldom we are so close to one that is successful in what they set out to do. When we see them do it--it makes us look at ourselves.

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