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Balancing Act.......

Wednesday, May 16, 2007

Okay here it goes, I have finally started working again, (monday was my first day) I have to Thank God, first because I was off for 9 months, which gave me time to work on losing my weight, and slowly get back into the mix of things. I went to the gym on Monday after I got off, however yesterday I didn't have time to go to the gym, so I rushed home, fed my daughter and then I went to hit the track. I am just taking every thing one step at a time, because I have to lose this weight, I really want to reach my goals, I definitely don't want to gain it back, I am going to do this. I even took my lunch so that I would have something to eat, instead of running out to the fast food joints, or the snack machine. I will just take some snacks to keep there for me when I get a munchy or feeling lethargic. LOL..............needing energy. This lifestyle is just something that I have to keep working towards. I just have to be DETERMINED not to let anyhthing get in my way!!!

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WALKOFFPOUNDS 5/17/2007 6:19PM

    Glad you are back in the work force, just don't forget your sistahs

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NILLE1979 5/17/2007 9:26AM

    I was wondering where you were. I was coming to look for you. I hope you like the new job and I hope to find another one myself.

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WORKIN4ME 5/16/2007 8:45AM

    I was wondering where you were yesterday..LOL.. It's hard but we can handle this lifestyle change!!

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For better or worse.........

Monday, May 14, 2007

Listening to the radio today, I heard Michael Baisden say that if you lose weight, gain weight, stop taking care of yourself in the course of a relationship that should be means of breaking up. It got me to thinking.........hmmmm..........How did my spouse feel when I gained weight? I asked him many times before, and his response was always that of " I don't care about your weight" or the "If you want to lose it I will help you" or the " YOu look good the way you are" Its funny though because looking back I look at my own pictures I think, UGH!

I kind of wonder how would I feel if my spouse started gaining weight???? I would actually have to approach him about it, before it got of hand. I think that if you love and care for your spouse that you should be looking out for their best interest. I look back at my own weight gain and think to myself would I want to be my spouse, with me looking the way I looked?? The answer is no, because you would have to take into consideration did I care for myself, I think that its up to us to help take care of one another, think about it health wise, I want to be there to live a long healthy life, see my daughter have kids, and that kid have kids, and so on. I don't think you should leave someone because they gained weight, but if anything

We sometimes confuse looking good, nice clothes, hair done, make up done, and the right shoes as looking good, and yet when we strip away all of that, we are not what we want to be. We have to do this, we cannot just let ourselves go, it's not even about keeping a spouse its about BEING YOU!!!!!!!!

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RIAH929 5/15/2007 12:34PM

    My husband met me when I was chucky. I'v never been a really big girl, but I weighed more than I was comfortable with. A size 12 to 14. I lost 30 lbs and he thought I looked sick. I then put the weight back on and then some. This is why I am currently trying to loose a total of 44lbs. I don't feel good at a size 14. My husband says that he loves me regardless of my size, but I didn't love me. Now he's gained a few lbs that I don't like it and I've told him. Not that I love him any less, but I know I will be less attracked to him if he was a "Pillsberry Doughboy".
He 's getting that under control!

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TORINICOLE77 5/15/2007 10:16AM

    I appreciated that Blog. I'm not married, but you know, I've always thought that I can 't ask someone to do something that I'm not willing to do myself. I'm not losing weight for anybody but me, but eventually, I want someone that loves themself enough to be healthy and I need to be willing to do the same. -T

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WORKIN4ME 5/15/2007 9:29AM

    Well Said Redvelvet!! My weight has constantly changed since I've been married and my husband always supports me through it all but I know it affects things in our life. I don't want to go places and I become depressed when I gain weight but I'm fighting it off this time and I want to keep it off and lead a healthy life for myself.. We can do this girl!!

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VMGALLEGOS13 5/14/2007 9:48PM

    That is so interesting, one thing that my hubby told me once, I have a picture of me at my biggest and this picture is the picture that really hit me oh wow I was big. I had just had my son and I was over 200. My hubby looked at that picture and he said that he never realized that I was so big either. It is like us we don' t notice it until we see a picture or something like that.

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M3NOMOFAT 5/14/2007 8:27PM

    Wow Red, this is awesome! I never thought about what you have revealed in your words. My husband has always said he loves me and I am beautiful, but I know that the women of his past were all very thin.

It is amazing that he and I are celebrating 19 yrs of marriage with many ups and downs including my weight. He has stayed consistant and I am learning to do the same. I am enjoying this journey for myself but my family's support and surprising the support of the BBQ's is making a huge difference.
Thanks for your candor. It has caused me to look at myself and the words my husband isn't saying...

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NILLE1979 5/14/2007 7:37PM

    This is the reason I am getting my husband on the ball. He has gained quite a bit of weight and I am not going to pretend that I don't care. I do care. I want him to be healthy and I am trying my best to support him through this.

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The New suit and the long lost girl!!

Saturday, May 12, 2007

I'm looking to be me, looking to be free, to find the girl who is deep down inside of me. She is slowly coming back out, like she was buried beneath the fat. She is me, the long lost me, the me I used to be, I need her to come back and live life like I'm supposed to be, I missed that girl, never realized til layer after layer started peeling away she slowly started coming back alive, its funny how I forgot how to live, like it was lost in the wind but now looking back I realize that I had not forgotten, but had put on a suit of shame, a suit of discomfort, a suit of excuses, a suit of laziness, a suit of so many things the list could go on and on. I am glad that as th suit is peeling away she is showing her face, the new suit is filled with energy, life, love, comfort, motivation and determination. I am proud to wear this suit yet it doesn't fit right just yet I am growing into it, because it is in a one size fits all and as my weight comes down it will be just right, maybe a little big but thats okay its to share with others on this journey as well.

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WALKOFFPOUNDS 5/14/2007 7:23PM

    I am proud of you Red! You are doing a great job. It is nice finding yourself, the person you know you can be.

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RIAH929 5/14/2007 11:08AM

    Wear that suit and wear it proudly!

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PRETTYTAYLOR 5/13/2007 9:57PM

    you go my queen

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M3NOMOFAT 5/12/2007 9:32PM

Your words are beautiful and I share them. I am thankful to become the new me. Also, I am not comfortable yet because I am not my smallest but I am getting there and it is a good feeling! Congratulations to you and I like the you that you are and the you that you are becoming! Blessings of GOD to you!

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Last Day of No Meat!!!!

Saturday, May 12, 2007

I have made it, I never gave it a second thought, this has been something that I have been thinking about for quite some time. I have been thinking about giving up meat, not completely but for most of my diet, meaning maybe once or twice a week, but not even that often, because I am truely not missing anything. I will tell you from this week of not eating meat, I was okay with it, I noticed that not alot of places cater to those who don't eat meat, you have to be creative with your meals if you will make this a lifestyle, I will still eat eggs, beans and nuts although they are a part of the meat family. I am not claiming to be a full vegetarian or a partial vegetarian, I just don't want to eat all of that meat. I did lose 3 lbs since leaving out meat. I am not looking for them so if you see them, I advise you to run as fast as you can. LOL, I do know that I dont feel as heavy after a meal, as I do when I eat meat. I plan to continue to do this maybe this week I will eat meat once, but I want to see what effect this has on my cycle. I wonder if it will lessen my flow. I will write more on that as the time comes.

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TORINICOLE77 5/15/2007 10:19AM

    I didn't do the no meat challenge, but I should try it because I have horrible TOMs. Is that suppose to help?? I'm really not a big meat eater as it is, so it shouldn't be too hard to least for a couple of days a week.

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RIAH929 5/14/2007 11:05AM

    CONGRATS! It's good to hear that you could make it through and want to continue. Congrats on you're weight lost as well.

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LUVLELISA 5/12/2007 8:12PM

    I think I can do without meat 3 to 4 days out of a 7 day week cycle Im thinking long and hard I will talk it over with my DOC 2 see what he says GOOD IDEA but how do u feel do u have more energy??

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Friday, May 11, 2007

Today is another day, yet it is anew because to me every day is a journey on the path to success. I am on a road that has been travelled many times, yet I never got this far down the road to see the accomplishments of hard work and determination. Who would have known that this would be so refreshing and helpful to me.

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LUVLELISA 5/11/2007 7:26PM

    MY SHERO Im soooooooo proud of u

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