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My Dad update

Thursday, April 04, 2013

Sadly my Daddy is now in a nursing home. He is in a 24 hour care place, semi-private room but no one is in with him yet and I know he won't like it when he gets a room mate. My Mother just can't take care of him by herself, she has to lift him, dress him, help him to the bathroom, and she is too weak herself to lift him. The place he is at is right in the same complex as their apartment is, it's a multi level facility with independent living apartments where they live now, Long term care facilities, and many other services so my mother can go over and sit with him whenever she wants to and my Dad can go out for day outings or overnight trips. I know my Dad really needs to be in the home but it still hurts to know he won't have much life left because they won't be there like my mother was. My mother is already trying to get rid of his things which I don't like, what if he wants to go back to the apartment for the day and there is nothing of his there? It just hurts.
So I still have all my trip plans on hold, I don't want to be off somewhere when I get "the call"

There is still snow in my back yard, mostly where the snow falls off the roof of the garage, back of the house and in the woods where the sun doesn't get to much. I found a patch of ice in the drive way the other day the hard way but everything is ok. It's only in the 40's here so it will take awhile to melt.

That is my life for now, mostly still on hold.

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YANKEEBELLA 4/5/2013 6:42PM

    I hear the sadness in your post. It must be difficult to place your Dad in the nursing home section.
I have done a great deal of work as a nurse in that type of setting. I came to love some of my patients as much as I do my family.

Trust that you are doing what is best for him and your mother. She is coping with the change, too, perhaps by moving some of his belongings. It is an anticipatory type of grieving.

My thoughts and prayers are with you. I am a good listener if you need to vent.


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WOWEETOO 4/5/2013 1:08AM

    your ma is coping for sure..it's not that she wants him gone but is trying to put a brave face on herself so you will feel better..she is preparing herself for what is coming and it is inevitable for sure..believe me when i say it is better for her to be accepting..let her know it's ok but if you want some remembrance let her know and she will let you have it..she still sees him and is with him she didn't pop him someplace else..the quality of the time they have to spend together is better because she is not worn out from the constant care she was not able to do very well in the end..visit her as often as you can because when the time comes it will still be hard
peace unto you
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MRSAGAIN2 4/4/2013 10:24PM

    I'm so sorry, hon.

These are never easy times. My heart hurts for you. It's a tough time and right now, made all the more so, with your mother wanting to dispose of your dad's things. Ouch.

I'm just an e-mail away if you want to talk. Life for us both right now is rather crappy.

Sending hugs to you!

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ALFBUNDY 4/4/2013 10:23PM

    It is NEVER EASY when a parent NEEDS to go in a nursing home; but from what I read, that is where he should be; bc of the care he needs.
Try not to get angry at your mother for getting rid of his things. That may be a REFLEX action on her part & possibly a way for her to cope.
He will NOT be alone, & she can still see him EVERY DAY!

Good Luck to all of you.

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NORASPAT 4/4/2013 8:45PM

    Robin I am so sorry it is a long wait. You know my story I stayed in the US for 64 days and went to her bed side because she did regain consciousness. She did one week later so we did get to her funeral too.
Would you like DH and I to come to see you this weekend. Let me know and I can work out a plan. It is hard between the weather, the travelling you have to do and the thought of you there alone. Do you have neighbours close by.
Perhaps CHAIRUL and I could come and meet some where.
Let me know(((((( HUGS))))))) emoticon emoticon emoticon

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I am so sorry to hear about your dad and sorrier still that your mom is disposing of his things already. It has been seven years since my husband had a massive stroke and went to assisted living and yet I kept some of his clothes and hung them in the closet but have finally donated them. He will never come home or be 'normal'. I do have some other things of his that I will keep. I have thought about selling his accordian but it still stays under my bed. He will never play it again and I can barely lift it. We all have our ways of coping with things.

That was not the right way to find the ice patch. Lucky you didn't do serious injury to yourself.

I turned 71 this week and don't feel or look any different. I got a few greetings and a couple cards from residents here and many from my team members. My neighbor gave me a bag of Dole frozen fruits because she said she knows I like them. LoL Well, I guess I do as I eat a lot of fruits but have never bought the frozen ones. I will make a smoothie with my new immersion blender that I bought a few months ago and never used.

Take care of yourself. Our rain returned overnight and the flowers are all poking their little heads up.

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SEWINGMAMACDS 4/4/2013 11:38AM

    It is so hard to see a parent struggle at the end of their life. I've been there. Sending lots of emoticon .

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MAMISHELI53 4/4/2013 10:55AM

    I'm sorry about your Dad. Make the most of your remaining time with him by visiting often and telling him you love him.
I had to laugh when I read your page, about being a Yankees fan. My late husband grew up in Staten Island, and his team was the METS. So we'd see the Yankee logo and tease that they have the wrong team. But like you say, it's just a game.
My DH had the health issues you face, and died from heart failure before his 58th birthday - but he was not taking the steps to improve his health, which you ARE doing. So, blessings to you as you take this journey to a healthy lifestyle.

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Opening day!

Monday, April 01, 2013

Finally it's Baseball opening day! I LOVE baseball, for those that know anything about baseball, no I don't play, check it out on Google. I was born and raised in Central NY (400 miles north west of New York City) so I am a New York Yankees fan no matter where I live. I refuse to change my favourites just because I move. GO YANKEES!

I had a nice Easter with my daughter and her family. We had a good ham dinner with all the fixings that I normally don't eat and the only leftovers I have is the ham and fruit salad.

As far as April 1st goes, I do NOT believe in pranks, jokes etc and will let people know. It's just plain STUPID!

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YANKEEBELLA 4/5/2013 6:36PM

    I have lived in VA longer than NY but I was born to NYY fans and a NYY fan I will always be.

My dream job is to be the team nurse. I had car tags NYYRN for several years. Not wanting to advertise anymore that I am a nurse I switched to YNKBELL which means I am a mix of Yankee and Southern Belle!

I hope to get to a game this year though Baltimore is the closest stadium.

If only I was younger...I would go after Jeter! Love that guy. Sure hope is is off DL very soon!

Here is to #28 for us this year.


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GAYLLYNNE 4/2/2013 7:51AM

    Go Yankees!!! It's a strange line-up but we will pull through!!!

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ALFBUNDY 4/1/2013 8:13PM

    Not too thrilled with the FINAL SCORE! It's just 1 GAME & I hope they get better. GO YANKEES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! emoticon

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I am glad you had a nice Easter are you back home by now or still visiting . HUGS Pat emoticon emoticon emoticon

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WOWEETOO 4/1/2013 4:09PM

    go cubbies!! go go mariners

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JSALERNO 4/1/2013 12:24PM

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Doing better

Thursday, March 28, 2013

Stupid trick I found to help ME drink more water. When I was in NY, I bought a large package of 8 ounce water bottles because I did not want a case of 1 liter bottles or a 12 pack of large water bottles for my grandson to spill all over. Now those little 8 oz bottles are PERFECT for me to pour 8 bottles and have them either in the fridge or on the table next to me to remind me to drink and it's worked GREAT for a week now. Yes I know I will get comments that tell me to use a large jug instead but I'm sorry that doesn't work for me. I LOVE these little bottles.

I'm feeling a little bit better from the cold but the blowing the nose, coughing and stuffy nose are still here. I do use vicks on my feet at night and sleep great.

I'm still shoveling snow off my front and back porches ever so slowly. It's mostly ice so I have to wait until it gets warm enough in the day so I can go and remove the slush parts. I still have 3 foot piles in the back yard though.

I'm going to my daughter's house in Maine for Easter dinner then back home again. STill not making many plans beyond that since I never know when I will get 'the' call from my mother.

Slowly but surely I'm getting there.

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SEWINGMAMACDS 3/29/2013 11:37AM

    Great idea! Do what works for you. Hope you feel better soon.

I know it is hard waiting for that "call" emoticon emoticon

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WOWEETOO 3/29/2013 5:35AM

    happy easter friend glad the vicks is working..my flu turned into a nasty case of pleurisy so i'm trying not to over breathe lol
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NORASPAT 3/28/2013 10:35PM

    You are having such a rough time. I am glad you will be with your Daughter.

I sent the rest as an Easter GOODIE emoticon emoticon emoticon

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NBARNES 3/28/2013 4:57PM

    What ever works for you is what you need to go with - so it's good to find what works!

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BRENDAGAIL9 3/28/2013 3:22PM

    I just read an article about fresh pineapple. It says it is really good for you and might help if you have a cold with the coughing and mucus. Plus it has a lot of vitamins and minerals that are good for the body.

Just a thought. I hope you get over this soon. Great idea with the 8 oz bottles. Do whatever works for you!

Have a good day.

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Down with a cold/flu

Friday, March 22, 2013

Yep, I can tell I am back in the USA, I very rarely get sick when I'm in Saudi Arabia because I don't go out in public that much but here, everyone is sick!
I ache, sneezing, coughing, stuffy nose, runny nose and just tired. I have PLENTY of chicken stock for soup, lemon/honey/ginger mixture syrup, orange juice, pain reliever tablets, Jack Daniels, tea, blankets, heat, water, etc so I guess it's time to curl up and do some cross stitching or take a nap.

I did get out yesterday and had to shovel more snow in order to get back into the house since all the snow slid off the metal room and onto the porch in front of the door. I did get plenty of exercise too!

I REALLY NEED to get over this so I can get back on track!

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-COURT- 3/24/2013 11:16PM

    The Jack Daniels should do the trick. emoticon :-}
Hope you are feeling better.

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GAYLLYNNE 3/23/2013 9:22AM

    Hope you feel better soon!

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BRENDAGAIL9 3/22/2013 10:13PM

    It's a shame that you got sick but you have all the meds and soup to help you to a speedy recovery. I seldom get sick (knock on wood) and am constantly washing my hands. I use my elbow to push buttons. When I leave my apartment I try not to touch too many surfaces. Then get home and immediately wash my hands before I touch anything in here. Seems to be working. emoticon

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WOWEETOO 3/22/2013 8:58PM

    i'm content to stay in and cross stitch also..doing a contract piece wedding sampler and it should be done in a few days and then i have another that i will just do some of the background on..i was hung up for four months with a broken hand but i still managed to stitch..kept me out of trouble for sure lol
hope you feel better soon to ease those sniffles and congestion vicks vaporub on the bottoms of your feet with socks on and it should relieve that cough and congestion for up to eight hours and of course chicken soup
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MJ7DM33 3/22/2013 8:47PM

  Take care! emoticon

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MRSAGAIN2 3/22/2013 1:48PM

    This would be the first time in quite some time that you've been in the States for any part of winter, would it be?

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SPATTEN2001 3/22/2013 10:45AM

    Hope you will get to feeling better soon .... Jack Daniels would be my hubby's choice of meds! How long have you lived in Saudi Arabia? I have some Girl Scout friends who reside there. I have always wanted to visit there but that is a difficult thing to accomplish. At any rate, again, wishing you a speedy recovery!!!

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MIA again

Wednesday, March 20, 2013

The wedding was wonderful even though it was cold and windy, it was nice to see family that I haven't seen in a while.

It was so very hard to say good bye to my Dad knowing it may have been the last time I will see him alive. He was
not well when I left. We made sure we took pictures of the grandchildren and great grandchildren with him.

I've pretty much been holed up in the house for 3 days but I really don't mind it, I find it cozy and comforting. It started snowing in the early hours of Tuesday morning and snowed all day, for over 24 hours. The snow was almost gone and now I have at least 2 feet in my front deck and way more than that in my yard from where the guy plowed my front yard. The snow and ice is melting and sliding off my metal roof and sounds like a train coming. I've shoveled a few times and cleaned off my car a couple of times. I haven't done that in so many years but I really liked it! The snow is still new to me and I really don't mind it still, it's the cold that annoys me.

I've been home 2 weeks but I still have so much to do, seems like I'm busy every day and nothing gets done.

that's my life for now.

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GAYLLYNNE 3/22/2013 8:58AM

    Hang in there. You are doing great. I know how hard it is with an elderly parent. Hugs!

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NORASPAT 3/20/2013 11:39PM

    So sorry you have so much more snow than we did. We had about 10 inches of heavy wet snow. It had drifted in the wind and it was hanging on to the gutters. I snow raked the roof DH used the snow blower he enjoyed doing it but it was rough going. I sure hope this is the end of the storms Flurries I do not mind but this heavy stuff is miserable.
Sorry you had to leave NY, it is good you were able to see your Dad again.
I hope you are able to get out for groceries and hope you have stocked your pantry by now too. HUGS Pat in Maine. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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