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I can't spark anymore

Thursday, January 17, 2013

I am just not feeling it anymore. I posted something on one of the team message boards about a suggestion, I recieved several negative responses so I deleted my original message. One person said it's not fair for points for something not everyone does, well I feel the same way, why should people get points for something I don't do? I don't think it's fair that people can put in fitness minutes and exercises a week in advance, what if they get sick, break something and can't do them? Well tough, they entered the points so they stay. On 3 different teams, the same 5 people are in the exact same fitness
minutes and spark points rankings every single week, I don't think that's fair.

My C0-leader on one of my teams is taking much needed personal time and I need help and support for that team to get it sparking again.

I have lost all my motivation for SparkPeople, I see it as a chore every day rather than fun. I may just take a spark break and just post hellos instead of make suggestions.

I'll go curl up in my chair and do some cross stitching.

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MZIZGAYLE 1/21/2013 12:46PM

    I can understand how you feel. I am a group owner from way back when MSN had groups, I have a slowly dying one in the land of Yuku. You can only do so much, you can't force the members to 'behave' and not cheat. Yes it is frustrating and a break is needed...maybe they should take the points away from goals, maybe fix it so a person can't enter in ahead of time, etc. I don't pay much attention to the points and 'awards", I think I am past that in my old age lol. I use this group to help keep me healthy and that is what it should be, not to win a contest and to hopefully gain some more online friends.

Take all the time you need, but don't neglect your health

sending hugs emoticon

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BLUESKY_321 1/18/2013 7:02AM

    I get it, I just got back from a 3 month break. Different reasons, but still a needed break. Now I know what I missed about SP and what I didn't .... and I will only do those things that help support me on my goal to be a healthier me! Enjoy your break and I look forward to "seeing" you when you come back!!!!!

And also know that what you have GIVEN to this community has been appreciated .... you may just need to make sure your "gives" are more in line with your "gets"! ;-)

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PATRICIACAN2012 1/17/2013 12:54PM

    I am sorry that there are people on the team bringing you down :(. I also find it hard to find a team with people from NH that connect. Stay positive if you need help I can help.

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PRINCESSAMY 1/17/2013 12:50PM

    I really don't have much to say that hasn't been said.

I wish I could give you a hug. emoticon

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PMRUNNER 1/17/2013 11:31AM

    SP is a tool to help you become better. The people who take shortcuts or fudge the numbers to get ahead in fitness minutes, sparkpoints, virtual races or other things are only harming themselves.

I have been using more features on SP and like to see the results improving. I try to keep the competition internal and the support external. I cannot compete against the other sparklers, there is always someone losing more, running further, running faster, putting in more minutes, etc, and that is even without the people who are cutting corners and fudging numbers.

I remember getting tweaked when I entered my time in the virtual race and someone had posted a superfast (and totally unrealistic) time. It turned out that they had signed up for the 10k race but had meant to, and did, the 5k race.

Sorry to hear about your negative experience, I hope that you are able to renew and refocus and filter out the negative people!

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BRENDAGAIL9 1/17/2013 11:04AM

    I will miss you while you are gone. Don't worry about what other's do or what the the nay sayers say. People who get points just for points sake are not fooling anyone but themselves.

I enjoy it here and reading people's blogs and getting a look into their lives. I do love to spin the wheel everyday and read the articles and the message boards. I have a lot of friends on a few teams and I consider you one too.

Chehalis, WA

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CARI2012 1/17/2013 10:37AM

    So sorry you're getting discouraged! Are you a competitive person? If so, then I can completely understand the frustration with Sparkpoints. I don't even notice other people's... I just focus on my own. This site is for us to bring each other up and support one another, NOT to bring each other down! If you find a team or individuals are bringing you down, you don't need them! Please let me know if you need support, I'll be glad to do what I can!

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DESERTDREAMERS 1/17/2013 10:10AM

    Take a break, sweetie - think of it like a rest day from exercise.

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MOMMACASSEY 1/17/2013 10:07AM

    Yep, having a hiatus and taking a break never hurt--even from SparkPeople! No matter what, there should be joy in this journey, and if something doesn't give you joy--or any other benefits--then you need time to reconsider doing it.

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ADZY86 1/17/2013 9:32AM

    I do understand your frustration about people entering in points they haven't earned but really, it's not that big of a deal. When I started on SP, I tried to get as many spark points as possible. These days, I don't even bother spinning the wheel! It's just not in the least bit important anymore. I track, I read blogs and articles and check on some Spark pages, and that's it.
When you stop stressing about these things, you'll enjoy it much more. Please don't leave Spark. emoticon

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LANACOTTA 1/17/2013 8:31AM

    Sorry you're having such negative experiences. I agree with the others... and with you... take a break.

Points and streaks and all of those things are tools to help along the way, but they are really not important in the long run. What is important is to feel healthy and happy, to learn to make good choices in order to become healthy and happy, and to have fun and make friends along the way.

Hope your stitching perks you up and distracts you.
emoticon Have a hug.

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CHUPAROSA50 1/17/2013 8:28AM

  Go ahead and take a day or two off. Do your cross stitching and enjoy some downtime to reflect. Don't give up, this is about YOU. With or without Sparkpeople. Take from it what works for you and what you enjoy and leave the rest. Have a Great Day.
-K from Newport

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GEEGEELAND 1/17/2013 8:23AM

    I'm sorry you feel this way! I have been on a team that has brought me down as well so I understand. You have to find a team that's better suited for you. Remember that you're doing this for yourself and NOT for all of the negative Nancys out there.

Advance tracking to gain points used to drive me up the wall as well. Now, I don't even look at my points. I just concentrate on my bottom line and try to focus on me while supporting others that need it.

Take a deep breath, say a prayer, and start again. :)

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SNS1968 1/17/2013 8:21AM

    I can't imagine people really argue about spark points. It's not like you get paid for them!
I use sparkpeople for the nutrition tracker & the motivation. Spark points are just an entertaining distraction.
Take a break from spark points for a while & you'll see that it doesn't really matter.

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January bootcamp + biggest loser

Sunday, January 06, 2013

I am doing the January Jumpstart Workout Challenge along with doing the Biggest Loser challenge. I did the first cardio video today and there is a lot of jumping, hopping and "jogging" Well I am VERY LARGE busted and I have the sturdiest high impact sports bra I can find (even looking online) and it still hurts so I have to modify most of the video or hold onto the breasts to keep them from jiggling.
This weeks biggest loser challenge is to videos 3-4 days a week so I guess I'll get that one done.

Plus I am following a blog for extra motivation and exercise. It may be only 5 exercises but she is great!

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NBARNES 1/6/2013 3:35PM

    I also suffer from to much 'action from the girls' and have been known to double-up on the undergarments as well to help keep things in place.

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EBPOOKIE 1/6/2013 12:05PM

    Very Awesome Robin great job and i like Mrsagain suggestion for the way to help the sisters i jog/walk and i that is one of the problems i have when it comes to jog/walk. Good Luck and all i can say is woohoo!!

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MRSAGAIN2 1/6/2013 9:17AM

    I joined that challenge, too.

I sometime struggle with understanding what is required. Thanks for spelling it out for me. :)

Good luck with finding proper suspension for the girls. I am a medium sized chest I wear a sports bra under my already built-in sports bra top, so it's double the protection. For the most part it works.

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JSTETSER 1/6/2013 6:57AM

    I'm also post of the January Jumpstart plan.
I love it. I'm heading out for a walk in 10 minutes.

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MAGA99 1/6/2013 6:31AM

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A Cross stitch finish for 2013

Thursday, January 03, 2013

I have really gotten back into doing my cross stitch and I am so happy doing so. I feel more relaxed and content just stitching. I know it's not something everyone can do but I feel more at peace.
I started this project on December 31 and finished it January 2.
Fleur de lis by JBW designs stitched on 18 count white aida with silk floss. I want to make it to a small pillow decoration with yellow fabric or a yellow frame.

I will be starting to stitching an ornament as part of a stitch along with a group

More of my finished cross stitch pieces can be found in my online photo albums here:




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EBPOOKIE 1/6/2013 2:49AM

    Very beautiful i used to cross stitch many moons ago hmm... lol Beautiful work Robin!!

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NBARNES 1/3/2013 10:51AM

    Love the idea of starting in 2012 and finishing 2013!

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MRSAGAIN2 1/3/2013 7:43AM

    Gorgeous work, as usual!

Congrats on your finish.

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SCAREWALDORF 1/3/2013 2:42AM

    This is really pretty-cross stitch is so therapeutic. I have one on the go at the moment, but it's been taking forever!

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January 1- 2013 goals?

Tuesday, January 01, 2013

I don't make resolutions, I don't say I WILL do this, I can only hope. I know if I did make resolutions and force myself to do things then it would happen, but one doesn't know what will happen day to day to throw things off schedule. Yes I know you take things one day at a time and do what you can. I don't make my Spark plans ahead of time and I personally don't think it's fair for people to put their exercise/fitness minutes in weeks ahead of time, that is cheating.

Tracking my food? No, there are too many foods I eat that is not listed in the SparkPeople database and they do NOT list nutrition information on packages here in Saudi Arabia not to mention foods here are different from the rest of the world.
Exercise? I will do my best to get in 15 mintues a day. Today I joined the January Jumpstart Challenge team so maybe that will help me be responsible for exercising, plus I belong to that Biggest Loser challenge so I try my best to participate.
Drinking 8 cups of water a day? Not even close. I just can't gag down water, I try but it isn't happening.

My goal is to get through January-May so I can go home to the USA for the summer and hoping my Daddy is still alive to hold all 5 of his GREAT-grandchildren in June.
I wish my sister would fully recover from her surgery in October so she doesn't have to keep being rushed back to the hospital with lung problems,
I wish things would work out for my niece and her new baby so she has a job and they have a place to live,
I pray for a easy and quick delivery of my other nieces baby boy In January
I hope my son has a better year and can get a start on a better life.
I hope my daughter and her family can find a nicer place to live and can stay on top of things.

There is no celebrating/observing New Years in this country, it is forbidden, it's not a holiday. I am fixing beans and cornbread for dinner today-my husband's southern traditional meal. I don't recall having anything special for a New Year's meal growing up in Central New York except the French toast that my mother would make for every holiday breakfast meal.

I Hope 2013 is a GREAT year for you

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MRSAGAIN2 1/2/2013 11:03AM

    Your 2013 wishes for others are sweet.

Hope the first half of the year flies by so you can get home soon.

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NBARNES 1/1/2013 12:15PM

    Just wanted to send a welcome to 2013 note. Not sure I can add anything to what Lanacotta had to say - have a great 'internal' celebration this year.

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BRENDAGAIL9 1/1/2013 11:41AM

    Growing up we never really had traditions other than shooting off a few sparklers and those tiny ladyfinger fire crackers on the 4th of July. No special foods but we ate a lot of fried chicken, biscuits and gravy and greens. I'm from Tennessee but raised from age two in Seattle. Now I'm in the southwestern part of the state. I love Washington and have lived here all but five years of my life.

How difficult for you living in a foreign country and forbidden to do as you like. Maybe someday you can move back to the states for good. Myself, I couldn't deal with all those rules and regulations.

lis, WA

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LANACOTTA 1/1/2013 4:49AM

    Good luck with your goals in 2013, RD. You may not be able to celebrate "externally", but our best treasures are inside of us. So have a great "internal" celebration and get ready for a great year.

Staying upbeat is so hard when you are far away from all the little things that we all take for granted. But you are strong and can do it!


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Happy Boxing Day! Happy Kwanzaa!

Wednesday, December 26, 2012

Happy Boxing to all my friends in the UK, Canada, Australia and to those who celebrate/observe the day!
Happy Kwanzaa to those who celebrate/observe the day!

December 25 kind of sucked here, since it was not on a Thursday or Friday, my DH had to work-they do not give him the day off since they do not acknowledge the day as a holiday, there were no gifts under the tree for me-DH(NOT dear) usually waits until December 24 to go out and shop BUT the company took his car to get it inspected last week and told him it would not pass inspection until something was fixed but they haven't bothered to get it fixed yet. I didn't have much for a dinner, chicken, beets and potato. I don't have everything I wanted to fix the holiday dinner we are having with his co-workers on Thursday so I've had to figure out how to adjust my recipes at the last minute.
I called my family in the USA-first I called my parents and my mother told my father doesn't have much time left, this was his last Christmas on this earth, it was VERY difficult to talk to them after that. We hope he makes it until the end of January when the next Great-Grandson will be born.
Then called our Daughter and son, both our grandsons got BB guns and the exact same kind. At least everyone liked what they got. I couldn't tell them about their grandpa to ruin their day.

So here it is December 26-another sucky holiday over. 148 more days until I am HOME in the USA for the summer or until I have to go home for my Dad.

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BRENDAGAIL9 12/26/2012 10:29AM

    It must be very difficult living in another country when the holiday's come around. I don't know how you cope with it all.

Sorry to hear about your dad. That makes the holiday that much sadder. I, too, am glad it is all over but am coping better this year with it than I did for the last 6+ years since my husband had a massive stroke and I found myself alone. The day of a holiday is what gets me so I just stay home alone to get through the day and the next day I am fine. I almost went down for the potluck yesterday then thought better of it and watched old movies all day.

We were supposed to have a white Christmas but it didn't happen in our area. Christmas Eve I took two friends grocery shopping as neither one has a car and they wanted to stock up 'just in case'.

Do you celebrate New Year's there?

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CATHGREEN8 12/26/2012 8:12AM

    Sorry you got such sad news. I hope your dinner on Thursday lightens your heart some with fellowship.

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