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Taking a breather!

Sunday, May 15, 2011

Pop had a major meltdown on Saturday when he called, almost crying, to tell me to get him out of the hospital. Thankfully I had the presence of mind to call the nurses station to see what the problem was and they talked him into staying until morning.

Yesterday I went to hospital twice, morning to calm him, afternoon to await the doctor.

Pop had valid complaints - and was misguided in some of his opinions. Long story short - we took care of all his complaints and found out what was really being done for him and he is now content to remain for the balance of his anti-biotic treatments.

Some of it was "separation anxiety" and a lot was just plain discomfort. Now we wait to see if he is discharged today or tomorrow.

Keep on Sparking! Thank you all for your prayers and hugs!!

  
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SIMPLELIFE4REAL 5/17/2011 3:37PM

    Hospitals can be such uncomfortable places to stay in the best of circumstances. Patients really need an advocate for them. It's good that you were able to do that for your father.

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MSLZZY 5/16/2011 2:13PM

    Even the littlest things can upset us. I am so glad you talked
to the nurses first-hugs!

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OLDERDANDRT 5/16/2011 1:54PM

    Continued emoticon for your Dad. I'm glad you got him diffused and made more at ease. You are a great daughter and I admire you thinking enough to call the Nurse's station before jumping the gun......I would have shot and asked questions later! hehe

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BLESSEDGIGI 5/16/2011 9:48AM

    I too have been there and done that. It is soooo hard. You are a fantastic daughter and your father is so blessed to have you. Glad things are going better. God Bless! emoticon

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LIBBYFITZ 5/16/2011 4:55AM

    emoticonSounds like a stressfull time for you and your pop. Glad it all worked itself out. emoticon

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GRALLEN 5/15/2011 8:11PM

    You made the right decision in this situation. Good job. And glad to hear "Dad" is doing better.

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TRYINGHARD1948 5/15/2011 8:11PM

    Your Pop is one lucky man to have you as a daughter. Hope all goes well for the future. emoticon

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CLEVERSPIDER 5/15/2011 7:20PM

    you handled that well.

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DIANESMILES 5/15/2011 6:41PM

    HI Linda !! It's SO HARD having older parents. This past spring BOTH Mum AND Dad were in critical condition. WOW the things my brothers (9 of them !) and I went through !!! I was beyond scared ! We ALL Were !!! Now they are back home (they were in FL we live in ME and Mum has turned critical and hospice has been called in. My heart is torn. Its hard huh? ALL the WORRY about them. At what point did WE become the parents and them the child?

Want to know what's ALMOST FUNNY, but NOT !? I have so many physical disablilities,,, my FOOLISH granddaughter who so sweet and loving,,,, thinks SHES now the one taking CARE OF ME !!! The other day I was in so much PAIN SHE sent ME to bed. LOL it was touching and loving,,,,but ! I am THE GRANDMA ! Gotta love her,,,, awwww

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2PONDS 5/15/2011 3:50PM

    emoticon calling the nurses station to find out what was going on with your Pop, Glad that he did stay to finish anti-botics and that you were able to settle him down. and give him some comfort!! Pray all goes well in his recovery!!! emoticon to you my emoticon
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MARTY19 5/15/2011 3:34PM

    I am so sorry to hear this. I'm glad you were able to resolve this. I'll pray he comes home today.

Love you
Marty

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DESTINYE 5/15/2011 2:22PM

    That is tough, and hope he has calmed down now, not easy getting older...

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NEW-CAZ 5/15/2011 1:42PM

    It's so easy for someone in hospital to get anxious and get the wrong end of the stick.
Not so long ago FIL was accusing staff of moving him all the time- they were in fact trying to prevent bed sores! Took ages to convince him the staff didn't "have it in for him".

You're doing an amazing job taking care of him Linda, huge hugs emoticon emoticon

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LITTLEFARMMOMMA 5/15/2011 12:55PM

    Great big huge emoticon!!!

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ERIN1957 5/15/2011 12:22PM

    Linda, You have done an exceptional job in helping him. My prayers are with him, you, your family and his caretakers.

Hugs,
~Erin

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JDFAN448HS 5/15/2011 11:48AM

    emoticonBest wishes for a speedy and complete recovery for your Dad. emoticon

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BUNNYCATS 5/15/2011 11:17AM

    Prayers for your Dad! emoticon emoticon

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BEYOURBEST1 5/15/2011 11:12AM

    I wish him a prompt recovery.
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SLENDERELLA61 5/15/2011 11:10AM

    Your dad is so lucky to have you, Linda. I know it isn't easy, but it is blessed work. Be sure to take care of yourself during these challenging times. Regards, Marsha

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NWLIFESRC 5/15/2011 11:09AM

    Be happy you still ave ur dad around

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 5/15/2011 11:03AM

    Glad that you were able to get your dad settled. I'll continue to keep you both in my prayers. emoticon emoticon

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JERSEYGIRL24 5/15/2011 11:03AM

    Wow, sounds like my visit with my father last Saturday. Even though for totally different reasons, I can more than relate. It was very upsetting seeing my father, a very take-charge person, near tears.

Glad you were able to calm him down. Take care, my Spark friend!!!

Love you,


Leslie

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The SP Grand Exodus - are you going too??

Saturday, May 14, 2011

There has been much comment about a spark member's blogs being removed and the member in question leaving SparkPeople. Many are following this member and leaving SP but before you do, make sure you are going of your own accord.

Some blogs really have been of "questionable" content - SP has to not only serve the public for free, but to remain free and available it cannot risk lawsuits, especially from content made by members.

There are rules and regulations for everything in life - I personally have been "mildly offended" by some blogs but I just choose not to leave comments on them.

If you wish to join what is being described as a "grand exodus" I will wish you well - but make sure you are following your own heart and not any mistaken beliefs. Do not follow blindly over the cliffs.

**edit: I do not know which blog was removed, only the blogger. I stopped reading the blogs months ago when they become TMI for me. (too much info)

There are others on SP that give TMI on their personal lives - this is their choice - I choose not to read them anymore.

I only learned of the problem through my "friend feed" and the blogging challenge I was involved in this past week with the 5% Spring Challenge Spark Team/Spirited Underdogs sub-team.

www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_public_jo
urnal_individual.asp?blog_id=4230202

  
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OLDERDANDRT 5/16/2011 1:50PM

    Yeah! I'm not going anywhere! This is actually the first I've heard of it! But if I read a blog and don't like what it said, I just don't go there anymore! To each his own as long as they don't try to force anything down my throat. I am really sorry if we've lost some good members in the fall-out, though. Maybe some will find their way back when they realize they've been like lemmings.
Sorry this hit the 5% challenge!!! It's too much fun and far too successful for folks to be that way!!! So, if someone doesn't like how something is done, they should quietly leave and let the rest continue to have their fun and successes as they come!
Carry on, LInda! emoticon are growing NO moss under our feet!!!!!! emoticon
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SEYSARAH 5/15/2011 2:07PM

    Like you, I've been around for a long time and I'm staying.

This site has so many people who are busy with their own lives and at the same time doing what they can to be healthy that in point of fact it's a small minority of active folks who even know about the situation.

Having said that I hope that any who have left do well in their journey and when they need to, return following the policies and guidelines that have been in place to ensure this site is kept free. You never know, this particular "incident" may trigger staff to look at what they do have and re word as necessary so it's clear to all.

Have a great Sunday and thanks for caring enough to blog.

Nan

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JERSEYGIRL24 5/15/2011 11:51AM

    I am not going anywhere. As long as there is a SparkPeople, and as long as I have internet and the werewithall (sp?) to use it, I will be here.

I vaguely remember seeing a blog by a Jewish girl who used a term in her blog that could have been interpreted as anti-Semitic. The blog was deleted, and even though I did not see the original blog, I know what was said. I will not take a position on whether the blog should have been deleted, but it seemed like the whole incident then took on a life of its own. I assume this was Yoovie.

She made a comment to the effect that she got in trouble for stating that she was Jewish. I totally disagree with this. Many sparkers have stated their religious beliefs. I do remember one comment on a message board that I will not repeat here that was definitely offensive toward non-Christians. Even though the person who made the comment was called out on it, they never apologized (nor did they defend it; it was simply dropped), and to my knowledge the comment was not removed.

The whole issue of censorship, including deleting "offensive" content, is touchy, I know. I am sorry if a person who is creative and inspirational got caught up in this and decided to leave SP. Anyone is free to come or go as they please. But it doesn't affect my membership here.

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GRACEISENUF 5/15/2011 9:37AM

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MAMADWARF 5/15/2011 9:32AM

    Staying. absolutely. Never considered leaving for a second.

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DAISY443 5/15/2011 7:45AM

    Here's my thought: If you don't like it, don't read it. If Spark people is giving you what you need, stay. If you find the constraints too much, leave. I chose to stay.

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WISLNDR 5/15/2011 7:27AM

    I'm staying - see my blog for today!

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MSLZZY 5/15/2011 7:25AM

    No clue about this but sticking around. SP has been there for me so I see no reason to leave.

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CLEVERSPIDER 5/14/2011 11:43PM

    I wasnt even aware. .. Thanks for the info.

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TRYINGHARD1948 5/14/2011 8:29PM

    Today is the first day I have heard of all this but I am just thankful that all my friends are supportive and on the same wavelength. Cripes, the thought of not being able to turn to Sparks for support and just the day to day trackers has me in a sweat.

PS - not to mention the info, the exercise demos, etc. etc,. etc. emoticon

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MARYANNGI 5/14/2011 6:50PM

    I have new clue who Yoovie is or what the broohaha is all about. Rest assured that I am not going anywhere. SparkPeopel has helped me tremendously and I have no plans on leaving.

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MIZCATHI 5/14/2011 5:51PM

    Interesting that Yoovie is gone - I didn't know until I read this blog. I always found her style of writing to be pop, young, open, sassy. I do enjoy personal blogs, however, because it helps me know the person and their struggles. Questionable content? I mean, we all live breathe and think. We all do the things that come naturally. I don't get it.

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MINIMOE1 5/14/2011 1:34PM

    Eek! SP grand exodus? Your blog title scared me half to death :) (I'm OK after reading it though) Good to see some integrity out there.

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LOPEYP 5/14/2011 1:26PM

    I agree. I missed the who-ha and only saw the aftermath.

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JENJEN1004 5/14/2011 12:56PM

    My thoughts EXACTLY. Thank you for writing this. SP is a free gift that I've been given and I am sooo thankful for it.

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LITTLEFARMMOMMA 5/14/2011 12:26PM

    *sigh* I don't like "mass exoduses". emoticon

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NEW-CAZ 5/14/2011 11:47AM

    I've not got the foggiest idea what you're on about Linda and I'm not a lemming either. emoticon

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RED_WRITINGHOOD 5/14/2011 11:31AM

    I'm here to stay! I joined spark to become a healthier me not to be popular. Friends of course are wonderful to have and blogs are a great way to vent and express yourself. But I am here for weight loss and that is it!

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LIBBYFITZ 5/14/2011 11:10AM

    emoticonI am aware of what the fuss is about but have no inclination to leave. Every one is entitled to do what they feel is in their best interests. This site has a huge number of members and the fact that it is free and uses research to back up it's information, is a big plus for me! emoticon

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IDLETYME 5/14/2011 11:09AM

    I live by my own standards and what I think is right. If I start reading something I don't like, I leave it. When we joined Spark People, we knew the rules. The end!

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MAWDOT35 5/14/2011 10:42AM

    I'm clueless, too, and I'm not leaving! This site is too good and too helpful to ever leave on account of someone else!

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Dorothy

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THREEWHALES 5/14/2011 10:42AM

    Well said! emoticon

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HELEN_BRU 5/14/2011 10:41AM

    Gee, this is all news to me! What could provoke such action??

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GRANDMACOO 5/14/2011 10:39AM

    I, too, live in la-la land most of the time. No clue what is going on, but I'm not leaving.

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JENNY888 5/14/2011 10:31AM

    There is no way I would even think about leaving. I'm here to stay.

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MARTY19 5/14/2011 10:07AM

    I have no idea what is going on. What did I miss?

Marty

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GERMANIRISHGIRL 5/14/2011 9:34AM

    I am not going anywhere. emoticon emoticon

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FITFABJENN 5/14/2011 9:12AM

    I am also oblivious to the exodus, but either way I think I'm here to stay. For the first time in my life, I am not losing weight on a diet. I am making a healthy lifestyle change that will last a lifetime. I am thankful to Spark People and its community of members for making that possible.

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 5/14/2011 8:50AM

    WOW... Am I living in a vacuum? I don't even know a thing about this "exodus". I am here to stay. Spark People, along with the YMCA, has saved my life and the least that I can do is stay here and continue to get fit. It is part of my life to help give back a part of what I have so freely been given. Love ya, Dawn emoticon emoticon

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SHRINKINGSHERI 5/14/2011 8:32AM

    I'm not leaving. I love this site. The SparkPeople team work hard to keep this site up and running. It cannot be an easy job. I have great respect for all of them.

I have met too many wonderful people whom I consider my friends here. My life would not be the same without all of you.

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CIVIAV 5/14/2011 8:31AM

    Well said! I am here to ...?

Well I keep living, breathing and being an example of healthy living. Spark helps me do this and find my motivation. I'm here for good and glad to have it. I so wish others could be as focused. Way to keep the focus on the reason we are here!

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COOKWITHME65 5/14/2011 8:26AM

    Nicely put. I love Spark. So glad I found it. Wouldn't thing of leaving.

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Friday, Day 7

Saturday, May 14, 2011

5/13 Calories
Eaten 1,537
BMR* 1,434
Exercise 399
Total Burned 1,833
Differential -296

Starting Weight 122
Today's Weight 120
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SIMPLELIFE4REAL 5/17/2011 1:43PM

    Hooray another calorie deficit day!

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SAVINGHANNAH 5/14/2011 2:18PM

    Amazinggggggggggggg!!!!! You ROCK!!!!!!

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Thursday, Day 6

Friday, May 13, 2011

Calories
Eaten 1,267
BMR* 1,434
Exercise 343
Total Burned 1,777
Differential -510

Dad still in hospital but doing great! Weak as a kitten but cranky as an old goat!

Had to have a "late snack" before bedtime - my calories were only 1000 and I know that was too low - so I had an english muffin with a smear of PB to make up the difference. Still a great Calorie Deficit!

Yes, the Exercise number is the calories burned for the day through brisk walking. I aim for 350-400 daily but sometimes I don't make it.

Have a great day y'all and thanks for reading!

  
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SIMPLELIFE4REAL 5/17/2011 1:34PM

    Congratulations on the calorie deficit...it's what it's all about!

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JERSEYGIRL24 5/14/2011 12:28AM

    Sorry, I did not realize your dad is in the hospital. Glad he's ok.

"Cranky as an old goat", huh? Sounds like mine LOL.

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GRANDMACOO 5/13/2011 10:54PM

    Glad your Dad is doing okay. You're doing great!

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NO_SNOW_BODY 5/13/2011 9:45PM

    Good news about your dad great calorie burn

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 5/13/2011 9:23PM

    Looks good. Glad that your dad is doing alright. Will keep you both in my prayers. Love ya, Dawn emoticon emoticon

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SEDONACAT 5/13/2011 4:02PM

    Good job! Hope your dad continues to do well.

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LIZABETT 5/13/2011 1:06PM

    emoticon How do you do it? emoticon emoticon

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KNOBLE0309 5/13/2011 12:14PM

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MARTY728 5/13/2011 11:28AM

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TINATC26 5/13/2011 10:32AM

    Glad to hear your dad is doing okay.. And keep up the great work with your exercise and eating!!

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KINSBAILE 5/13/2011 10:22AM

    I am glad I am that I am not alone. I sometimes cannot get the cals in!

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MAWDOT35 5/13/2011 9:45AM

    Don't you love it when you get to the end of the day and you HAVE to eat a little more to even get into your range of your suggested calories!

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LITTLEFARMMOMMA 5/13/2011 8:53AM

    emoticonGlad to hear the great news about your Dad! Woman, you are FRYING those calories!! emoticon

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COOKWITHME65 5/13/2011 7:50AM

    Wow, I love how you fiqure everything out. I am going to need to educate my seldf more and try to do the same. You are going awesome!

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NEW-CAZ 5/13/2011 7:37AM

    Glad dad's doing okay- they say when they're getting cranky they're on the mend.

You're doing emoticon emoticon

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MARTY19 5/13/2011 7:31AM

    You do a wonderful job with your exercise. As well as everything else.

Love you
Marty

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MSLZZY 5/13/2011 7:22AM

    You are doing mighty fine-hugs!

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AMZY68 5/13/2011 7:03AM

    Well done! 500 cals a day difference adds up to 1lb a week right? So thats a healthy goal and congrats on making the extra effort to reach it today :)

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Wednesday, Day 5

Thursday, May 12, 2011

Calories
Eaten 1,451
BMR* 1,434
Exercise 405
Total Burned 1,839
Differential -388

Had to take Pop to the ER - but a few sugar-free candies held me for 4 hours and Praise the Lord I didn't get hungry before my sister came and relieved me! Came home and finished my Fried Steak and Fried Green Tomatoes from the other day. I always have to guesstimate on fried items but I did add the oil and cornmeal to my tracker! Down 2/10ths today so I did a pretty decent guesstimate!
Had 4 fresh cucumbers from the garden - our first of the season! OMG! Can you say delicious?! Ray picks them small for me and I devoured them whole!

On to Day 5 now - I will show a loss for the week! WooHoo!! I could be down 2 lbs when all is done on Saturday! Keeping fingers crossed - but will take any loss as a win!!

  
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2PONDS 5/12/2011 9:34PM

    Pray that your Dad is doing fine, hope it is nothing serious !!! I am SO JEALOUS that your DH is harvesting cucs. My DH Bob just got the ones he started inside planted yesterday your numbers are emoticon keep it up
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SUPREME5 5/12/2011 9:11PM

    how does your garden grow lol have my early ones started indfoors and soon be outdoors far from picking lol

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SOULOFADANCER 5/12/2011 8:20PM

    Good for you lady you SPARKLE emoticon

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BARNABABY1 5/12/2011 6:53PM

    That is awesome! I hope your dad is feeling better and that it is nothing too serious! emoticon

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LYNNOTT 5/12/2011 3:55PM

    Hope your father is okay. I'm waiting for frost free nights before I do any planting. Good numbers!

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MARTY19 5/12/2011 1:39PM

    Awesome! I see the gardens planted around me, but nothing here yet. I can't wait for the locally grown frshe fruits and veggies.

Marty

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OLDERDANDRT 5/12/2011 1:29PM

    emoticonYou are amazing!!! So, that exercise you listed........405.......is that minutes for the day (Wednesday)? If so, I can only say......WOW!!!!!
Hope your dad is doing ok! You take care and I'm wishing I were helping you eat some fried green tomatoes!!!! YUM!!!

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KNOBLE0309 5/12/2011 12:41PM

    Hope your dad is doing okay. I will pray for a speedy recovery

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TARAHA 5/12/2011 12:09PM

    excellent numbers!

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MSLZZY 5/12/2011 10:26AM

    Fresh cucumbers and my seeds are still in the package. Much too cool and wet to plant
them now. Lucky you! WTG! HUGS!

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LITTLEFARMMOMMA 5/12/2011 9:40AM

    Oh, YUM!!! Where do you LIVE to get fresh cucumbers ALREADY? emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MAWDOT35 5/12/2011 9:12AM

    You're getting there!!! Those last few pounds are the hardest to lose!
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Dorothy

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GRAMMAMARY 5/12/2011 8:59AM

    you're doing a great job even with all the interruptions.
Keep it up.
Love your profile picture.

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MEADSBAY 5/12/2011 8:58AM

    mmmm..fresh baby cukes- so crrrrrrrrunchy!
My best to your dad.
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DOTTIEJANE1 5/12/2011 8:35AM

    Hope your Dad is alright. FRIED GREEN TOMATOES , so good .You are doing great . HAVE a blessed day . Dottie

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NEW-CAZ 5/12/2011 8:06AM

    Hope your dad is okay Linda
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SEDONACAT 5/12/2011 8:01AM

    Hope your dad is OK.
Fried green tomatoes-nothing better unless it's fresh cucumbers from one's own garden. I can't wait for mine to come in.
Have a good one!

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ANDREWS_MOM 5/12/2011 7:38AM

    Sounds like you had a great day- even w/ a hospital visit! Hope you dad is alright.
Garden veggies are always the best!!
Congrats on showing a loss so soon!! :)
Hope you have a good one today!

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