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... so I had a heart - to - heart with my DH...

Tuesday, October 12, 2010

... and pretty much it was discussing where to stop the "dieting".

My goal weight and ideal weight according to the charts is 117. I reached 115 because I need the cushion to maintain 117. I do not want to go over 120 this winter and 117 is in the middle of the 5 pound range.

I started obsessing about 115 now and was considering 114 to maintain 115 - too unhealthy for me - so I am going to hover between 115 and 117 but I am not going to obsess about 116 anymore, lol.

It's crazy how difficult it is to come out of "losing mode" and into just being happily maintaining!

I can do it!
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KARA151 10/14/2010 9:37PM

    Even if you go beyond 120...We Still Love You!
I'm back up to 150 but I've finally got time for myself to go to the grocery store and start making my healthy meals again. When I get too busy the first thing I sacrifice is myself. I know I should be happy I'm so busy in this economy, but money isn't the most important thing in my life anymore...now it's me.

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LIBBYFITZ 10/14/2010 7:03PM

    emoticonMaintenance is hard! It is working out what you can eat and as yyou said have a healthy range to keep within. emoticon

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MONKEYSNUFFER 10/14/2010 12:18AM

    You can do it! You are very inspirational for me.

I am most scared of maintaining and I hope that by reading what works on this site, I can do it!

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SLENDERELLA61 10/13/2010 11:38PM

    I 100% understand!! Of course, my happy weight is considerably higher than yours at 126. I'm trying to get to 124 in order to maintain at 126, but instead I've been hanging out around 128. And I can't decide if weighing daily is helpful or not. Maybe 128, which is BMI 20.something, is okay for me. It is hard to decide a final goal weight and be happy maintaining!!

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KRISTHEBOOKLADY 10/13/2010 10:20PM

 
I think the most important thing is not necessarily looking at the scale all the time, but commit to lifting weights and toning your body. If you do that, you will weigh heavier because you are building muscle. Then you will look in the mirror and see a healthier slim and trim looking you.

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SOPHIADARE 10/13/2010 2:21PM

    Right: shoot for 115, but be thrilled with 117 and only start worrying when you hit 119. Looks great to me. I only wish I could get there, but I'll get healthier in time, and oh, I am so very happy for you!

Hooray for Linda!
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MSLZZY 10/13/2010 8:19AM

    The mind sometimes gets stuck so we need to clear our thinking and put things into
perspective. You can do it! HUGS!

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MONGO2TEN 10/13/2010 5:49AM

    It is hard. I've been at goal for over 3 years and still get scale obsessed from time to time. I have a 5 lb. range, but like being at the lower end of the range. When I get up towards the middle, I want to go back into dieting mode. Hubby wants me to relax and enjoy myself and not worry until I'm at the upper range. Hard for me to do.

~Nancy

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RISSASPIECES 10/12/2010 9:43PM

    I agree, the whole maintaining at a certain weight is HARD! I have been under my WW goal for some time, but I wanted to get down to 135 until I noticed all the loose skin on my upper thighs lately! LOL

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GRALLEN 10/12/2010 9:24PM

    Yes, you can do it. Relax, a little.

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BEYOURBEST1 10/12/2010 8:29PM

    You have done a fantastic job. Enjoy the maintenance mode when you decide which is the best weight range for you.

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GINILEE4 10/12/2010 8:16PM

    Well Linda, my friend Kitt52 has the same problem. She keeps lowering her goal when she reaches one. Perhaps you 2 can share and figure out how to be content. Good luck and we love you just the way you are!!!


Gini

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LOPEYP 10/12/2010 7:54PM

    You are the queen of the numbers. I'm sure you'll find the range that'll work for you and be healthy. emoticon

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KAREN42BOYS 10/12/2010 7:49PM

    what a good man to call you on it and help you gain perspective!

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RIMAJO 10/12/2010 6:24PM

    I tend to imagine Maintenance mode as being somewhere between losing mode & normal life.. not watching the calories as much, but not ignoring them either - sorta like a happy medium to keep us on track.

As others have said, if there is anyone that I felt could manage this, it'd be you Raylin. You'll find your groove & will be fine this winter. I know you'll remember this journey, and like most folks.. won't wish to repeat it - so will find that middle ground & be fine this winter. I believe in you & know you believe in you too!

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MARTY19 10/12/2010 5:48PM

    Look where you started and where you are now. Amazing! You are a role model to anyone who says "I can't" emoticon emoticon

Love you,
Marty

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LESSBIGBOB 10/12/2010 5:46PM

    As a phi beta kappa obsessor, I would point out, don't obsess about obsessing. You have been so focused on your goal, my guess is it will take time to relax into achieving it, and if you are like me, to find something else to obsess about.

I think we get so into a fighting mode in dealing with weight issues, that it feels that if you aren't fighting / obsessing you'll be defeated again.

So my 2 cents worth is to have a little cushion if it helps you be comfortable, but you have so many good habits, and patterns of behavior, eating, excercise, etc. that I am sure you know you'll keep this weight from now on without obsessing / fighting, since the lifestyle is you now.

You made it rejoice, relax, and if you need to obsess over weight, I have 150+ you can work on- ha, ha! take care, bob

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WALKINGANNIE 10/12/2010 5:00PM

    I agree that coming out of the losing mode is hard. In fact, I have found it one of the most challenging parts of this experience.

I'm sure that you have made a good decision and know that you will achieve whatever you set out to achieve.

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ASTORRES1 10/12/2010 4:36PM

    YOU can do it...if I know anyone can it is YOU!!!
You are such an inspiration to me.


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Log It To Lose It!

Wednesday, October 06, 2010

I love when I think of simple catch phrases to keep me on target.

Log it to lose it!

It works!!

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PENNYAN45 10/9/2010 7:14AM

    Yup! It workks!

VERY EERIE background for Halloween!!

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    Perfect way to start my day..... emoticon emoticon

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GRALLEN 10/7/2010 10:09PM

    Very cool!

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JAKEANDNELLIE 10/7/2010 5:04PM

    How true!
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SHERRY257 10/6/2010 9:45PM

    thanks! Love it!

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    So true!! emoticon

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REBECCAMA 10/6/2010 7:35PM

  Awesome! I will have to remember that one. Thanks for posting it.

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CBRED1628 10/6/2010 3:55PM

  I like to think of motivational catch phrases also.

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 10/6/2010 3:52PM

    I love it! Thanks for sharing! Love ya, Dawn emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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LESSBIGBOB 10/6/2010 3:14PM

    As a very, very long winded blogger!!! I must say this is one of my favorites! bob

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WALKINGANNIE 10/6/2010 2:59PM

    Yes! I'm back to tracking again.

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MARTY19 10/6/2010 1:56PM

    I always log in my food. Even when I don't like what I see. It keeps me accountable.
Thanks for the special prayer.

Love you
Marty

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SOPHIADARE 10/6/2010 11:13AM

    Catchy phrases like this one are great motivators, especially when they point to a helpful reinforcing behavior!

Thanks, Linda!

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LIBBYFITZ 10/6/2010 10:33AM

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BARNABABY1 10/6/2010 10:13AM

    LOVE IT!! emoticon

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ALNEAGLE 10/6/2010 10:11AM

    emoticon LOVE IT!

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DAWNDMOORE40 10/6/2010 9:34AM

    That is a great catch phrase! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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PAIGESMAMA 10/6/2010 9:30AM

    So simple and so true

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SMB19191405 10/6/2010 9:11AM

    True! Now to follow what you said!
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GLOBEWALKA 10/6/2010 8:31AM

    So apt! I find myself struggling with the temptation not to log in what I just ate......so yes, I'm logging it to lose it, but I'm going to spread it over two days....is that cheating?

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ANNIEONLI 10/6/2010 8:22AM

    Amen!!

SO TRUE!!!

JUST DO IT!!

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_VALEO_ 10/6/2010 7:50AM

    emoticon! Great catchphrase!


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Have a great week Spark Buddies!!

Sunday, October 03, 2010

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ooh! BH!! .... and you're little dog too! Love the profile picture!

**wonderfully wicked Wednesday everybody!

  
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GRALLEN 10/4/2010 10:25PM

    You too!!

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LOPEYP 10/4/2010 11:56AM

    You too Linda!

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    You too! emoticon

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MARTY19 10/4/2010 7:10AM

    Right back at you. emoticon

Marty

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MSLZZY 10/3/2010 11:08PM

    Same to you! HUGS!

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RIMAJO 10/3/2010 10:11PM

    emoticonYou too Raylin!

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 10/3/2010 9:33PM

    Same to you my friend. Have a great week. Love ya, Dawn emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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Daily Vitamin Supplement...

Friday, October 01, 2010

I think maybe I have arrived!

I am now over an my major vitamins and it is coming from the daily vitamin I think!

Who would have ever thought I wouldn't be needing a daily vitamin to meet my vitamin requirements?!

I love being "normal" at last!

**You're right Marty, I have never been "normal" emoticon
Yes EWESTCOTT, I am tracking my vitamins too!

  
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SIMPLELIFE4REAL 10/3/2010 5:41PM

    Awesome, I think I might start tracking my vitamins too to see where I stand.

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WALKINGANNIE 10/2/2010 2:27PM

    Great job Linda.

I get mine from food too.

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MEADSBAY 10/1/2010 8:35PM

    How do you know you're over? the tracker?
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REBECCAMA 10/1/2010 8:21PM

  Way to go! I stopped taking them before I joined Spark because I wanted to refocus my nutrition on FOOD instead of supplements. Congrats!

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 10/1/2010 7:48PM

    emoticon emoticon Love ya, Dawn PS: Happy WORLD SMILE DAY! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MARTY19 10/1/2010 7:39PM

    "Normal"is relative. You are you and that is great.

Love you
Marty

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LINDAGRAVEL 10/1/2010 7:15PM

    Awsome

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PICKIE98 10/1/2010 6:53PM

    i stopped taking them a couple months ago,, Vit E too..

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KAREN42BOYS 10/1/2010 6:27PM

    wow, that is really wonderful!

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KIMJEWKES 10/1/2010 6:04PM

    Wow, that's not easy!! Way to go!

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    *wooohooo!!* that is awesome!!! good for you. emoticon

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A Touch of Honesty.

Sunday, September 26, 2010

I do not change my weight ticker anymore. Yes, I will if I get to 115.0 but not after that.

Why? Because I want people to see this can be done. I want people to know that no dream is impossible. 95 lbs gone forever.

I will tell anyone, anytime, what I weigh that morning because yes, I weigh every day. But maintenance means fluctuation and I don't feel the need to keep changing the ticker.

This is what SP is all about, helping one another to reach previously thought impossible dreams! The Spark Program works! Start with Stage One and do the steps no matter how silly they seem. I only missed the collage but I might just make one this year for getting me to follow through with exercising!

Hang clothes on the closet door so you can try them on whenever you start to get discouraged! That really works!! Even if they still don't fit, you will know if you are getting closer!

Eat the calories SP tells you to eat! Do not be afraid! Concentrate on your Cardio and you will be burning calories!

Call on me if you need me! That is why I am still here. We all need each other to make this happen!

I love you!
Linda
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**When I first heard people asking for a special maintenance ticker I didn't understand. Now that I am maintaining, I can really see the need.
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FIT-AT-50 10/1/2010 6:06PM

    Great blog, Linda. I can relate to every single point. Maintenance is possible and wonderful and I'm completely convinced that it can last a lifetime! I do believe that at some point, I won't think of myself as being "in maintenance." Having been "in maintenance" for a little over a year, I rarely think of maintenance eating anymore. Healthy eating, which includes proper calories for my current weight, has become my normal, and it is obvious that it is your new normal, too!

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Take care & SPaRk On!
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SIMPLELIFE4REAL 9/28/2010 2:34PM

    I really think there should be a special ticker for maintenance. When I got to goal last year, it was one of the things that threw me off that there wasn't one. It should be a special color and clearly designated.

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SOPHIADARE 9/28/2010 10:28AM

    It really helps, too, that you make this statement about fluctuation at maintenance from having arrived at maintenance and having stayed there.

You have the credibility to say that and we can understand that you have arrived at a lifestyle change, and that you keep checking to make sure you're maintaining the changed attitude, but you're also not getting overly worried about every little thing.

Thank you and good for you!

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TUDI4480 9/27/2010 11:17PM

    What a great blog! Thanks for all you do. You make a difference for so many, including me! Keep on keeping on. And, always enjoy the journey.

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GRALLEN 9/27/2010 9:00PM

    Boy, I needed this blog. I'm not really putting in the effort to lose the weight and this week I've decided to re-focus my attentions. Some of that re-focus is relinquishing some of my team leader duties. I've already put some feelers on some of the teams. I'm glad you are here and keep writing these blogs. They really encourage me.

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SLENDERELLA61 9/27/2010 7:57PM

    Another great blog, Linda! I think you are right. Changing your weight ticker daily or probably even monthly is too much when you are maintaining. I'm grateful that you are here for all of us.

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REBECCAMA 9/27/2010 9:33AM

  Thanks for this. I've been wondering about some people's tickers. I suppose another option would be just not to share your ticker at all. Leave it hidden.

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ASTORRES1 9/27/2010 8:36AM

    I agree...I stopped changing mine for every lb or two I yo-you with.....



amy

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MSLZZY 9/27/2010 6:49AM

    I don't change but ticker anymore either. Maintenance means being ever vigilant with my daily choices and activity. It's great to know you are still there for all of us. HUGS!

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SHERRY257 9/26/2010 7:54PM

    Linda, thanks! I just love your inspiration and encouragement. 95# Wow! emoticon

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MERRY40 9/26/2010 7:27PM

    Way to go, Linda! Congratulations on your awesome accomplishment! I hope that within the next year, I will be able to have had the great accomplishment that you have had. I've been at a standstill for awhile now and I need to get motivated to cut back even more and eat healthier. I hope that I can learn what you now know. God bless.
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TRYINGHARD1948 9/26/2010 4:06PM

    Linda, you are inspirational. Thank you for being you.

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NHGRL68 9/26/2010 12:38PM

    emoticon on all you have accomplished. 95 lbs is AMAZING! You're an inspiration to us all. Thanks for sharing. emoticon emoticon

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MIMICOTO 9/26/2010 10:49AM

    Great blog and great advice! Well said!\\ emoticon

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KELLEEH 9/26/2010 10:22AM

    Good advice. Thanks!

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JENNY888 9/26/2010 10:21AM

    I can see your point but at the same time I also think everyone needs to know that weight does fluctuate even on maintenance so they do not think they are different.

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JLWOF1 9/26/2010 10:14AM

    Thanks for the words of inspiration! You are a true leader! Thanks for all you do and say!

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LOPEYP 9/26/2010 10:12AM

    Anything is attainable with a little effort and perseverance!

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CINDBABE 9/26/2010 9:43AM

    Thanks for the blog, and your inspiration. It is important to have people like you for support!

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CATHEITE 9/26/2010 9:29AM

    I weigh myself every day too. I think that's important; also important to accept that minor weight fluctuations are a normal part of life. Thanks for doing what you do, Linda. You're terrific!


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MARTY19 9/26/2010 9:13AM

    Thank you my friend for posting this blog. It is something we all need to read. And having you for a friend makes this journey so much better.

Love you,
Marty

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MEADSBAY 9/26/2010 9:00AM

    Love you, too!

You always know exactly the right thing to say.

The scale can run your life- a range and some fluctuation is normal!

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_VALEO_ 9/26/2010 8:16AM

    And never ever quit your goals nor quit on you! That is why I am still here! emoticon

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ONEKIDSMOM 9/26/2010 7:58AM

    Another sensible and motivating blog, Linda!

I'm kind of with you about the ticker. One thing I have never done with mine is acknowledge how far I am from my lifetime highest weight. It dawned on me just this week, that at one point in my life (1989, and again in 2005) I tipped the scale at 224 pounds. Lately, the scale is hovering around the 125 point, and showed me 124 one day... and the number "100 pounds"... "Barb, you have discarded 100 pounds since 1989... not all at once, but over time!"

So, yes, people, if you keep working at it, maybe even over decades with slips, falls and backslides, it is possible! We CAN do this, and we're worth it!

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RIMAJO 9/26/2010 7:53AM

    A great blog Raylin, lots of good input. Like Dawn, I too see you as an inspiration - you've accomplished something I'm working hard to achieve. If only I could get there quicker..


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DAWNWATERWOMAN 9/26/2010 7:25AM

    You're right... we all need one another! You are such an inspiration to me. Thanks for sharing your journey with us. Love ya, Dawn emoticon

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