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Happy Easter, Happy Spring!

Sunday, April 04, 2010

The only holidays I know of are Passover & Easter - and I wish everyone a happy holiday of their own choosing!

My dad is doing much better! He has become afraid of sleeping pills and we now believe he was addicted to the Ambien which is why he kept needing more and they weren't working. Even though the new pill was reduced by 75%, he is hesitant to use them after having such a bad reaction to them. Apparently still being doped up after Dialysis is not normal - the procedure of Dialysis is supposed to remove all medicines from the body & bloodstream. They were shocked that even after the Dialysis last week he was still groggy from the half a pill.

My dad is now much more alert although still quite weak. The truly scary thing is, had he been in a nursing home, they would have left him on that too high dosage and just let him sleep! This is why I have to try to keep him at home.

Thank you for all your prayers. I do believe in the power of prayer and I know this has helped my father and my family as well as me!

Love you,
Linda
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JERSEYGIRL24 4/7/2010 8:07PM

    So glad your dad is doing better. My grandmother was in a nursing home in the 80s. My aunt had a particular home in mind, but when the time came they did not have room, so she went elsewhere. One day my cousin (a nurse) looked at her meds, and apparently she was really being doped up! So my aunt kicked and screamed and got her into the nursing home she wanted. I believe things improved.

I know Dad is better off at home with you, but I have seen some very loving relatives (and some not quite so loving) who had to move their parents when they became too much too handle. If my mother goes first, there is no way I will be able to handle my father. You are truly a saint, but we already knew that.

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LIVNFITNHAPPY 4/6/2010 12:38AM

    I am so glad to hear that your Dad is doing better. You are right about the nursing home. They would do what is easiest for them and not necessarily what is best for your Dad. He is very lucky to have you!

I also believe in the power of prayer and will continue to hold you, your DH and your Dad in my prayers. Blessings to you all! :)

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GRALLEN 4/5/2010 11:03PM

    So glad to hear of the improvements for you dad. You are right, there is power in prayer, I believe it!

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WRITERGIRLMEL 4/5/2010 10:24PM

    I'm glad your dad is improving. I'll keep him and you in my prayers.

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WALKINGANNIE 4/5/2010 4:14PM

    Happy holiday to you and your family Linda. They are so blessed to have you.

I hope that you are managing to find some time to safeguard your own health and wellbeing as you are so busy caring for others.

Loving thoughts to you and yours.

Annie x

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SIMPLELIFE4REAL 4/5/2010 3:21PM

    Glad to hear that your father is doing better.

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ONEREALLYBIGDOG 4/5/2010 9:40AM

    Thanks for the update, you really have lots to be thankful for.

So glad he has turned the corner and that he has such a loving family to care for him.

Keep up your great work and thanks again

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LOPEYP 4/5/2010 6:42AM

    The elderly need advocates in nursing homes and hospitals, if not they will get lost in the shuffle. You are fortunate that you are able to keep him with you and care for him. You are a good daughter!
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DAWNWATERWOMAN 4/4/2010 10:37PM

    Linda, you, your dad & your family will remain in my prayers. Bright blessings to you. I am so glad that your father seems to be getting better. I am so proud of you for taking care of your dad. You are blessed. Love, Dawn emoticon

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KALIGIRL 4/4/2010 9:46PM

    Glad to hear you're over this hurdle. My dad was on too much morphine until we intervened.
Good thoughts and prayers for you and yours.

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SUPREME5 4/4/2010 9:18PM

    MAY YOUR EASTER BEEN GOOD AND I PRAY FOR YOUR DAD AND FAMLIY TO SEE YOU THROUGH THIS ROCKY SPOT
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MSLZZY 4/4/2010 9:00PM

    Glad you are there for him! Happy Easter!

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KALLY95 4/4/2010 5:24PM

    happy easter to you and your dad enjoy your day

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NANCYMT6151 4/4/2010 4:07PM

    Prayers for your dad and your family and best wishes for this glorious Easter Day!

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CICI510 4/4/2010 3:49PM

    Happy Easter! I will definitely lift your dad up in prayer. emoticon

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RISSASPIECES 4/4/2010 3:10PM

    Nursing homes and hospitals can be very scary places. It makes me sick to think about how many people believe a quiet patient is a good patient.

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CAPECODDOGFISH 4/4/2010 2:18PM

    You are an angel. I just hope that if I have to be in a NH, I hope some will watch out for me the way you do with your dad. Bob emoticon emoticon emoticon

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    wishing you and your dad a happy easter emoticon

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SLENDERELLA61 4/4/2010 12:08PM

    He is truly blessed to have you. You are a blessing to many. Joyous Easter to you, too, Linda. -Marsha

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MOB8/2009 4/4/2010 12:01PM

    I'm so glad he has such a vigilant daughter to take care of him. That's a scarey scenario! I hope he continues to do well, under your care.

Happy Easter, Passover, or Spring, my friend!

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One Day At A Time!

Wednesday, March 31, 2010

One Day At A Time!

This holds true for so many things! I first heard it at an Overeaters Anonymous meeting. Then I heard it in a song. It has become my mantra.

When my mother died 6 years ago, I started assisting my dad. Words are very important - assisting gives him more independence than if I say I help him.

The first year he was hospitalized 7 times for various operations. I started telling him that we will take things One thing at a time, One day at a time. We still do it.

I believe his knowing that I am concerned gives him the courage and desire to try to get better. This morning he resumed his leg exercises!

One day at a time. If you learn nothing else from SparkPeople, take it One day at a time. When today is over, quit worrying about what you ate and how you did. Just be thankful that tomorrow we are able to try again!
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RENEWEDJUDY 4/13/2010 4:08PM

    I just replied to your last blog and this one caught my eye, so I read it. Just what I needed to be reminded of. You are such a special and caring lady, I don't know how you fit everything in . All I know is that I see your words of encouragement daily on SP and it picks me up.I hope you take at least half as good care of yourself as you do everyone else. You are sooooooooooooo worth it. Love Ya, Gal.......Judy emoticon

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WATERMELLEN 4/3/2010 9:05PM

    One day at a time is exactly right -- and what you are doing for your father is so important: the physical care, the consciousness of his independent and his dignity.

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PO_PAZZA 4/3/2010 7:08PM

    Thank you for reminding us.

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FRAN0426 4/3/2010 5:41PM

    What a wonderful blog and oh so true, live for today as best you can but don't dwell on it once it has passed. Your father is so fortunate he has you to help him, I'm sure he appreciates this very much. To you and your family have a wonderful, happy Easter weekend

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SLENDERELLA61 4/3/2010 5:33PM

    You are definitely loved here, as well as at home. It is beautiful that you can assist your dad. One day at a time is a great mantra. And sometimes, it is one thing at a time, one hour at a time, one minute at a time, one breath at a time. It is so easy to let them pile up one you, when you don't need to do but one at a time. Very wise, Linda. Take care. Love, Marsha

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WALKINGANNIE 4/3/2010 5:08PM

    Hi Linda. I'm just catching up on your blogs after being away.

I'm sorry that you're under so much pressure just now but pleased that you are being sensible about priorities. Your family and YOU must take precedence.

One day at a time is a wise philosophy.

You have always been there for your many Friends. I appreciate this and hope that you can feel just as supported by Sparkies who are sending love to you and your family.

Annie x



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DAWNWATERWOMAN 4/2/2010 9:43PM

    This MUST be the message that I am supposed to read tonight. This is the 3rd blog in a row that I have read with the theme "One Day At A Time". Thanks for reminding me of what is important. I love that every day has a new beginning and can be a do-over. Love ya, Dawn emoticon

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SUZ139 4/1/2010 7:51AM

    (((HUG))) I also live by this motto...
Linda, Thank you for being such a loving and caring person one day at a time!

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KALIGIRL 3/31/2010 8:35PM

    My folks are now gone, but you are right - one day at a time.
As long as you can keep your dad safe and maintain his dignity, you are miles ahead.
Thoughts and prayers with you and yours.
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SPARKLYMOOSE 3/31/2010 8:33PM

    Very well said, it's funny you wrote this blog because this has become my way of looking at things..focus on today and live for it, no point regretting the past and no sense worrying about the future.
I think it's admirable that you assist your father, good for you.

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VALERIEMAHA 3/31/2010 7:55PM

    Perfect timing for your lucid and to-the-point message. Thanks as always, Linda.
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GTRGRL97 3/31/2010 6:20PM

    Thank you for this great blog, and the beautiful reminder!

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RISSASPIECES 3/31/2010 4:03PM

    It certainly is how I take it with my mom! :-) You have a great attitude.

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ASOPA21 3/31/2010 3:32PM

    Thanks for the encouragement and insight. So too often we want instant gratification instead of taking it one day at a time. I think we all need to remind ourselves of this every once in a while.

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GOALIEGRANDMA3 3/31/2010 3:31PM

    You have the right attitude.

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CANDYGETNFIT 3/31/2010 3:17PM

    You touched a soft spot with me, Linda. My "big sister" has total renal failure, congestive heart failure and is insulin dependant diabetic. Two months ago she had her 2nd silent heart attack which caused other problems including kidney failure. She has only been out of the hospital for 3 days and they had to rush her back 2 weeks ago. She now has a permanent port in her left arm for dialysis which she gets 3 times a week. Yesterday they released her to a rehab home where she will be for the next 21 days. In three weeks my other sister is having a large yard sale selling a lot of her stuff. In other words, she'll never go back to living on her own again. She's only 66 yrs old. This is so very hard for me and my other sister. She's always been there for us. She's got her masters in Elementary Ed and in Librarianship. But she's wasting away.

The phrase my other sister, Terry, who is a nurse, always tells me is....we'll take this one day at a time....

My heart goes out to you and I pray for you too. You're an awesome woman and daughter and wife to have to bear what you have to bear on a daily basis! Hang in there and trust God, He'll get you through this...one day at a time.

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MSLZZY 3/31/2010 3:12PM

    It's all in how you say it (help vs assist). One day at a time-good advice! Thank you for sharing. You are a very strong person and I hope you have a great day!

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ONEREALLYBIGDOG 3/31/2010 3:01PM

    Thank you for the WISE WORDS.

It would be much more palatable than to be helped.

I'm gonna assist my way from now on!

Thanks for sharing!
And of course, have a SPlendid Day!

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MEADSBAY 3/31/2010 2:31PM

    So many of my elder care clients keep going day after day because they don't want their kids to be mad or upset or sad if they give up (or worse).
One day at a time is the best we can all do, in so many ways.
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Priorities.

Monday, March 29, 2010

I have had to accept some serious decisions this past month - I have to set priorities in my life.

My father is getting weaker and needs me more than before. His health is paramount to me.

My DH has to fit somewhere into my day. He shares the spotlight with my dad - I am there for whichever one needs me most at any given time. Dad is 87, DH is 88. They do not deserve to be at the bottom of my time.

For this reason I stepped down from one Class Team and just "disappeared" from the other (I am truly sorry). Today I must step down leading At Goal & Maintaining.

I am not quitting SparkPeople and will still be here and will try to assist anyone needing it. I just have to stop some of the "daily chores" that comes with SP (my fitness program is suffering).

If I am not true to myself, then I am not doing my spark program. I will not and cannot put this weight back on.
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I thank all of your for your wonderful comments! I will still be here - I just have to make sure I leave enough time for Dad & DH. And, I must stay on track with my program too.
Feel free to come to me with questions and for support. This is one reason I am stepping down - so I can be more available when needed.
YOU ARE worth this journey!
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LOPEYP 4/1/2010 5:33AM

    Linda,
I understand your priorities. It's tough taking care of loved ones as they age.
I caution you, though, to keep taking care of yourself as well. You don't want to get hurt trying to do it all. Take some time for yourself and get your fitness in.

Take care,
Diane
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SMB19191405 3/31/2010 10:03AM

    You are an inspiration to so many of us. We all understand committments and priorities. Do what is needed and take care of yourself. We are here for you too.
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LIVNFITNHAPPY 3/31/2010 7:34AM

    My prayers are with you and your family! Your priorities are definitely in order!

Obviously you must take care of yourself in order to take care of your Dad, your DH and anyone else. So, I know that you will be here on Spark as much as you can.

Let me add my name to the LONG list of those you have inspired and assisted in their Spark Journey! You have contributed immensely to my success and continue to be an inspiration. Anyone who visits your SparkPage will be inspired!!!

You can go do what you need to do for your family without any worries. This Spark Family loves you and that Love & Support is with you always.

Thank you for letting us know what's going on with you and support you too!!!
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CANDYGETNFIT 3/30/2010 10:47PM

    So sorry to hear of your dad's failing health! Your loved ones need you more than we do, even though I know you have helped so many on the teams you had to drop!!

You've been such an encouragement to me and I now know that tracking all I eat is so very important! I use that calorie counting book a lot too!

God bless you as you care for those you love dearly!

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CATHEITE 3/30/2010 12:29PM

    Our life situations are always changing, and right now is time for family. Thank you for all that you do for us, Linda.
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CAROLFAITHWALKR 3/30/2010 2:46AM

    Making wise choices is part of the Spark Journey; I'm glad you're doing so!

I just dropped several teams after reviewing first quarter performance in my Spark Journey.

The hard choices are not between bad and good; the hard choices are between better and best.

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 3/30/2010 12:32AM

    It is always important to be true to yourself. Isn't that what Spark People is teaching us? Love ya, Dawn

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SUPREME5 3/29/2010 10:45PM

    TRUSTING YOU WILL DROP IN NOW AND AGAIN WILL BE HARD NOT SEEING YOU ALL THE TIME BUT YOUR LIFE IS YOURS AND ALTHO WE CAN HELP HERE WE CANOT HELP AT YOUR HOME WOULD LOVE IT IF I COULD PLEASE DO HAVE SOME HELP SOMEHOW YOU CANNOT DO THIS 24/7 WITH ONE NEVER MIND TWO TAKE CARE MY FRIEND AND DROP IN ANYTIME
GONNA MISS YOU
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MSLZZY 3/29/2010 10:38PM

    Do what you need to do for your family! They have to come first at times like this. I'll be here for you and I know you'll be here for me, even in spirit!
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MEADSBAY 3/29/2010 9:51PM

    Linda- you have given so much of yourself to so many of us- please know how much we appreciate it and understand when your life pulls you in another direction.
Please remember to take care of yourself, my dear friend.
love,
elizabeth
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GRALLEN 3/29/2010 9:43PM

    First off, I do appreciate everything you have done on spark and all the wonderful words of encouragement you have given me. Second, I understand the need to take care of your Dad and your husband. Use Spark for how you need to use it and everyone will understand if you are not always available.

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ZELLAZM 3/29/2010 7:18PM

    Thank you for all you've done for your fellow Sparkers...I know you'll continue to be an asset to SP even if you don't have the time to devote right now. You've made a good decision.

Praying for you today,
Michelle

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FORMYDARLINGS 3/29/2010 6:58PM

    Linda. Each of us come to the table with our assorted priorities and baggage. You must do what is best for those around you and for yourself. While I know those teams will miss you, you can't lose 1 minute with either of the loves of your life. Be at peace,

Gini

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BRIGHTSPARK7 3/29/2010 6:02PM

    Linda, thank you again for being an inspiration in setting priorities. God bless you and your family.
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GOALIEGRANDMA3 3/29/2010 5:56PM

    understood and God Bless You and Your Family

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ANNIEONLI 3/29/2010 5:23PM

    Linda...you and your family are the priority here...and as you can see, you have a ton of support in spirit. That being said, this time, if you need anything, all YOU have to do is reach out - we'll be here no matter what, and so will Spark. Wish I could help with the team, but my priorities are elsewhere as well and I hear you about things suffering because of a shift in the underlayment. Hang in there and be strong in the fact that you have a wealth of knowledge and an unending supply of Sparkbuds at your disposal to lend an ear if needed!
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EMMABE1 3/29/2010 4:24PM

    We all need to set our own priorities, and you are doing that!!
You have been a great support to me - I know you will always be there for me - but I also know that you are needed more now at home!!
Take care Linda, and Thank you!! Remember we will always be here at anytime you need support too!!

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RISSASPIECES 3/29/2010 3:44PM

    You will be sorely missed. I hope that things go well with your father and husband. I know everyone here understands and wishes you the very best.

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PALESEPT 3/29/2010 2:37PM

    Linda,
Please take care of yourself and your family first! You're important to us. I wish I had something great to say to you, but everything comes out dumb. I wish you the best of luck!

Pale

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LIZZYP609 3/29/2010 2:24PM

    You have your priorities in line. I know you didn't mention it but I know you are also on that list. So you do what you have to do.

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VALERIEMAHA 3/29/2010 2:07PM

    Your priorities are perfectly aligned!

In solidarity,
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SHUCG1004 3/29/2010 1:53PM

    Linda, you have been so wonderful to all of us. Seriously. Thanks for posting and please let us know if we can help in any way. You, your father and your DH will be in my thoughts and prayers. Be there for your loved ones as much as you can. Be kind to yourself and take care of yourself too. Remember that the quality of the care you give others has to be equal to the quality of care you give yourself. Otherwise, burnout is almost inevitable and definitely quicker than usual. Remember that even 10 minutes a day can make a difference.

Love,
Shu

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KALIGIRL 3/29/2010 1:48PM

    Thank you for all you've done. Please take care of you and yours.
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ONEREALLYBIGDOG 3/29/2010 1:42PM

    Linda,
Take care of yourself AND your family. We will keep each of you in our thoughts and prayers.

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I tried it - - - and it does seem to work!

Thursday, March 25, 2010

After reading Ruby-Doo's reply and re-reading her suggestion and the blog I tried something similar I think.

I don't know if this is what Ruby-Doo and her friend are doing - but here goes:

I eat 1800 calories daily (on average) and I burn 400 calories on average - so this leaves 1400 calories for my body to run on.

Is this what you and your friend are doing, Ruby-Doo?

I just changed my chart to 1.2 activity level (sedentary) and guess what?! It puts my BMR at 1187 and my Calorie Goal and my TDEE at 1424 for maintaining my weight!

The number changes but the end results seem to be the same so go ahead and do it! What have you got to lose but weight?

I thought of this either last night or this morning and this is the first chance I have to try it out and to tell you.

Let me know how you make out please? I really do care! It does seem a lot simpler if it works! Mind you, I was advised you must always leave at least 1,000 calories for your body to function. (I was told this almost 2 years ago by a wonderful lady who just couldn't explain it better. But it did get me started on Calories In vs. Calories Out.)

Love,
Linda

**edit: It isn't quite the same, but this doesn't mean it won't work. We are all different! With my 1.55-moderately active, I wind up with a Calorie Deficit - with the 1.2 sedentary I have a negative number - the difference is about 300 so I really cannot say which will work for anyone. What have you got to lose but weight and inches!
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SLENDERELLA61 3/26/2010 8:54PM

    OK, Linda, I just tried to "change my chart." The only way I could seem to do it was to go to the Fitness page and Change My Fitness Goals. I just took out the cardio. Is that what you did?

Maybe I need to read Ruby-Do's blog. Thanks for the help, Marsha



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SLENDERELLA61 3/26/2010 8:40PM

    Hey, Linda, that's great! One of the things I liked better about tracking on Weight Watchers was the ability to eat more on days (or weeks) I exercise more. I liked earning activity points.

Looks like you've found a way to be more flexible with SparkPeople. I don't like having to commit to a certain exercise program for the week. Life happens. And I usually end up going over what I predicted, burning more than expected. On the other hand if hungry, with your way then you can earn more food by exercising. Good thing. I'm going to go look for that place where you put in the 1.2 or 1.55 or whatever. Thanks. -Marsha

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LEEESA1 3/26/2010 11:35AM

    I believe that's where averaging comes in. I think Sparkpeople averages out your daily calories based on this formula and based on the goals you've put in to make it easy and so that you're not going up and down like that, although having said that, I also believe that's the premise for calorie cycling, another thing I'm going to look into at some point.

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SHUCG1004 3/26/2010 10:38AM

    Linda, so glad that you found an equation that is working for you. You're doing great! Thanks for leaving comments on my activity feeds and my blog. You're an angel!

Shu

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RUBY-DOO 3/26/2010 8:55AM

    Yes I believe that is what we are doing.
So everyday add your caloires burned to 1424. So If you go for a 9 mile walk and burn say 800 calories. Add it to 1424. 1424+800= 2224 for your starting point for the day. So you are essentially adding your exact activity number to the equation. From 2224 you create a deficit of 500 calories. 2224-500=1774. 1774 would be the calories you are aiming to eat for the day.
It is a difference from about 300-400 calories from the other method and I'm not sure it will work also. It is worth a try for me. There are also a few kinks in it as well. Like today is my rest day. My starting point is 1920 and I'm suppossed to create a 500 calorie deficit from that, which would take it down to 1420. I believe that is too low for me since I have a hard run tommorow. Today I'm just going to aim for around 1900 and just not have a deficit for the day. I think to be more accurate you would have to add in your daily calories burned like doing the laundry, dishes, walking the dog, but I'm not sure. I have starting adding extra things in. For example, if I walk to pick the kids up from school or walk to the store I'm now including that in my calorie burn.

I'll let you know if it's working for me.

I think the bottom line for me was I just wasn't eating enough calories to keep up and burn for my activity level.

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LEEESA1 3/25/2010 11:10PM

    Yes, that is exactly it! So then you would add your calories burned onto that 1424 and you would be eating approximately 1800 calories. All we did was rearrange the formula (and change the activity level) so it looks like this:

BMR x sedentary activity level (1.2) + calories burned - desired deficit = calorie allowance for the day

So instead of figuring out how much of a deficit you have, instead you would figure out how many calories to eat given a deficit that you choose.

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 3/25/2010 8:08PM

    now I'm even more confused but hope that it works for you. I did start looking at the calories in/vs out report and found that fascinating. I suspect I am not taking in enough calories but can't make myself eat much more than I am. Love ya, Dawn

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TONYAWC1976 3/25/2010 7:54PM

  I get what you are saying. I track my calories in a notebook and have around 1700. I wear a body bugg to tell me how many steps I take, and how many calories I burn everyday. I try to burn over 3000 a day. That includes all my trips up the stairs to get the kids or go to the bathroom. It seems to be working for me. I am not hungry, or fatigued. I know that 3500 calories is 1 pound, so burning that would burn a pound off. We all have to do whats best for our bodies. Good Luck. Tonya

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"Why can't I just use the sedentary BMR?" - a question I am asked a lot.

Wednesday, March 24, 2010

Yesterday I read a blog that was identical to a posting on the message board at By The Numbers the day before. While identical, they were by 2 different members.

I am not going to say who & what exactly, but the gist of it was, "why can't I just say I am sedentary and use that as the basis for my BMR and eat less to lose more weight?"

You can. Of course you can. But you will not lose more weight by "reporting" less activity. You will wind up on a plateau and we all hate plateaus. The longer you stay at the plateau, the harder it will be to break it.

So, I am posting this for anyone interested - you have free choice about what you eat and how much you eat. You may report or not report the actual calories you are burning daily. In the end, you are the one who will either benefit or be foiled by your program.

You are the only one who will either lose the weight or risk giving up. The choice is yours.

When this happened to me in Oct 2008 I went to the Expert's Forum for Exercise & Fitness and was told I needed to start eating a minimum of 1600 calories daily. It wasn't easy for me but I had stopped losing weight for 3 weeks and I was asking for advice. I discussed it with my DH and we agreed together that what did I have to lose but weight?! While I only increased to 1550 at the time due to being involved in a challenge at one of my teams, it was enough to start me losing again. Once I started losing, I also made sure I accurately entered all my burned calories (to the best of my ability) and it was the last plateau I was ever on.

So I pass the ball back to your court - do you really want to pretend you are sedentary instead of reporting true calories burned daily?

  
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CATHEITE 3/25/2010 9:33PM

    Thanks for sharing your extensive knowledge and experience with us. Your blogs are always so interesting!

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 3/25/2010 6:32PM

    I track truthfully. I choose LIFE not lying. I am grateful that you've addressed this issue. Great job on your success! Love, Dawn

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LEEESA1 3/25/2010 11:50AM

    I'm all about eating more food too! I had wondered why Sparkpeople only uses a 1.2 activity factor as their baseline daily calories for people (or why they didn't give you a choice of which factor to use) The sedentary 1.2 factor works if you're just starting out, but doesn't if you're an active sort of person. But, it also took me awhile to realize that if you put in your weekly average calorie burn in the "Fitness Section" Sparkpeople will increase your daily calories by the average amount you are burning (minus the deficit you put in under your weight loss goals). Brilliant! But not very intuitive... at least for me, but then it always takes me awhile to figure these things out. It seems so difficult to wrap my head around the "more calories" thing, but on the other hand I love the idea of eating more!

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KAROUSELL46 3/24/2010 9:12PM

    A person has to get honest with oneself in order to succeed. You have definantly succeeded and then some. You are emoticon!!......Karen

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RAYLINSTEPHENS 3/24/2010 6:40PM

    I took the leap of faith and added 400 calories to my meal plan on the advice of the "experts" - I felt kind of like, if I am not willing to listen then why did I ask?

It wasn't easy. And I heard from so many people that it just couldn't possibly work. So many people telling me that if I ate 1600 calories I couldn't lose another pound - but I not only continued losing weight, I lost 30 more than I could even dream about losing.

Well, DH & I made the decision together and it did work for me. Like me, you all will have to make your own decision. All I can relate is what I have lived through and I tell if it worked or didn't work. I have blogs where "I blew it" because it didn't work the way I thought it might.

The chart and the CDE information is not mine. The chart was made from information gotten here at Spark and made by a woman who sadly left the program without losing any significant weight.

I do wish you the best of luck! Nothing would please me more than everyone here at SparkPeople reaching their goal weights.

Love,
Linda

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RISSASPIECES 3/24/2010 5:05PM

    I was super, super active for a LONG while and eating a lot more. I spent an average of 90 minutes on the elliptical three times a week, plus bellydancing, yoga and walking. I will admit, at one point, I thought "an I exercising this much just so I can eat more?" I always calculated my WW points based on a sedentary lifestyle, because I am a housewife. I earned those activity points, so it made me feel better about using them. LOL

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EMMABE1 3/24/2010 4:21PM

    If one has been used to the older theory of the less you eat the more you lose, then increasing calories, the amount you eat is extremely hard!!
I know all about this from my experience, I was on a plateau, having had a long period of loosing, I accepted that I needed to increase my calories but I went into panic - I had to reduce them again, then gradually raise them again - but yes, - it works and yes, it is necessary to record it all correctly!!
As you say, what have you got to lose but weight!! And since weight loss or gain is a slow process - if things go wrong then there will always be time to fine tune ones program!!

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GOALIEGRANDMA3 3/24/2010 3:46PM

    This is a reason we are glad you are here. You are a helpful spark friend.

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RUBY-DOO 3/24/2010 2:39PM

    I really do not want to eat less calories! I think I'm not explaining myself well. I just want to be more accurate and maybe explore different ideas. Here's what I posted on Lisa's blog.

I think instead of multiplying by 1.5 the idea would be to just multiply by 1.2 and add your actual calories burned into the equation making it more accurate. So instead of doing the general number of 2400 you would get the exact calories burned for the day. Our Bmr is 1600 x 1.2 = 1920 and from that number add your calories.
For example, on really heavy exercise days when I burn 1500 calories I would add that to 1920 and have a starting point of 3420. 1920+1500=3420. And from that number create a deficit of 500 calories. So on that day I would aim to eat 2920 instead of 2400. On days when I only burn 300 calories I would take 1920+300=2220 and create a 500 calorie deficit based off of that. So I would aim for around 1720 calories.

It's just an idea Lisa and I were exploring. Not sure if it's right but it's an interesting concept.


I really apprieciate your advice! One because you've been there and done that and two you have talked to hundreds of people about weight loss.

Thanks!

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SLENDERELLA61 3/24/2010 2:38PM

    Wise words! Good info. Thanks for sharing your experience. -Marsha

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MSLZZY 3/24/2010 2:32PM

    Not going there!

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