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Negativity really is counterproductive.

Saturday, March 06, 2010

Looking in the mirror with disgust is probably the worst thing anyone can do. We are who we are. We are what we are. At my highest weight I could still find things in myself to not only like but to admire.

I am honest. I do not lie, cheat or steal.

I am caring. I can be happy for others having good fortune.

The inner me has not changed. The outer me is only a shell.

When you look in your mirror, please try to see the best in yourself. It hurts me to read blogs that are self-deprecating. Can't you find anything positive to say to yourself?

Try harder. I know that we all have some good within us. Find that good and focus on it. The shell can be changed - One day at a time.
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SB1398 3/10/2010 8:43PM

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This is so motivating, there are so many days when I have doubts about everything I am, and doubt that I have what it takes to reach my goals. I need to follow in your footsteps and think of all the good things in me :-)
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CATHEITE 3/9/2010 11:11AM

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Beautifully written, Linda. Thanks!

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SAVINGHANNAH 3/8/2010 6:29PM

    This is so true, thanks for sharing!

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TEENY_BIKINI 3/7/2010 11:10PM

    That is great advice. Cheers.

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DAWNWATERWOMAN 3/6/2010 11:09PM

    awesome blog! Thanks honey!

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KENNYWHEELS 3/6/2010 10:59PM

    i could agree with you more linda. i am trying so hard to keep negativity out of my life. i am fed up with it
kenny

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KALIGIRL 3/6/2010 6:11PM

    Here here - it's the inside that counts!

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VALERIEMAHA 3/6/2010 6:04PM

    The profoundest Truths are always simple. Reminds me of the chapter of the Dhammapada on the Twin Verses:

1 Our life is shaped by our mind; we become what we think. Suffering follows an evil thought as the wheels of a cart follow the oxen that draw it.

2 Our life is shaped by our mind; we become what we think. Joy follows a pure thought like a shadow that never leaves.

5 Hatred can never put an end to hatred; love alone can. This is an unalterable law.

Thanks for the important wisdom!
Maha

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WALKINGANNIE 3/6/2010 5:42PM

    We need to be reminded of this regularly. There are so many fine human qualities that make people unique and special. I choose my friends because of who they are and how they are and not what they look like.

Thanks Linda for expressing it so well.

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MIKIIO 3/6/2010 3:47PM

    Can't agree more with you, Linda.
I'm a firm believer in the fact that if you want positiveness in your life, you have to think and be positive... negativeness attracts all kind negative things in your life.

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PO_PAZZA 3/6/2010 3:46PM

    Well said. Even the most optimistic of us need an occasional reminder of what is truly important. And cellulite probably needn't be on the list.

Mary

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KAROUSELL46 3/6/2010 1:29PM

    I'm glad you blogged about that. So many times I look in the mirror and only see yucky things I don't like. So I avoid mirrors.Need to change my outlook..Karen

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LOPEYP 3/6/2010 12:27PM

    How right you are Linda. We all have a silver lining. Sometimes we just have to look a little harder to see it.
Have a great day!
Diane

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SLENDERELLA61 3/6/2010 12:13PM

    Thanks, Linda, for another truly profound blog. Of course, the body is just a shell. And of course, our inner selves and our inner beauty is what matters. But it is easy to forget in a world so focused on the outside. Honest and caring are two great qualities! You display those qualities virtually every day, Linda. Thanks. -Marsha

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RAYLINSTEPHENS 3/6/2010 11:55AM

    To JazzerciseGenie - I have posted on your SparkPage. Your blogs are allowed to reflect your inner emotions. What you are describing is not negativity but a depression caused by so much illness within your family. Not the same thing.

You just keep on blogging your inner feelings and thoughts. Praise The Lord if this helps you to deal with your sisters' cancers. Anyone that leaves you a bad comment you can and should report to one of the Spark Coaches.

On behalf of all of SparkPeople, I apologize for the insensitivity of less informed members.

You are welcome in any of my Spark Teams with your blogs describing your inner feelings!

Love,
Linda

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SARAWMS48 3/6/2010 11:07AM

    I think there is a difference between self-loathing and having negative feelings about situations in one's life. I make every effort to see the good side of each situation, but to deny that you feel is sad is another way not to accept yourself. A wise priest I knew used to say, "Be gentle with yourself."

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WATERMELLEN 3/6/2010 11:00AM

    This is really key stuff: thanks! Like you, I'm sad to read self-deprecating blogs or to see people using names for themselves which suggest that self-loathing. I've been there too. But: it's certainly something to be aware of and try to combat.

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SABLE77 3/6/2010 10:18AM

    good post, it helps to have reminders.

Have a Great Day!

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JHADZHIA 3/6/2010 9:15AM

    I am glad you can always see the positive in yourself. That is great to hear! Too much is always focused on the shell.
Losing weight was just a bonus, my goal is and always will be to be as fit as possible and to eat healthy, to try and prevent my condition from crippling me for as long as possible and to recover from the surgeries quickly without regaining the weight like usually what happens when I can't exercise after them for a while.
I more than most people, can appreciate and love the feeling of being able to move!!

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MSLZZY 3/6/2010 9:11AM

    So very true! There has to be something you admire about yourself. Think positive, act positive and be positive!

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ONEKIDSMOM 3/6/2010 9:08AM

    Great reminder... now I have to go think... what is it I value on the inside of me?

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JAZZERCISEGENIE 3/6/2010 9:08AM

    yes thanks for the blog. I am suffering with depression and famile medical problems(2 sisters with cancer) I found out yesterday I am making some team members tired of my talking about how difficult it is. So today I will post only good ideas. I thought blogs was your inner feelings like this but apparantly some find that bad.

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TJB_TX 3/6/2010 8:47AM

    Wow! Thanks for the positive vibes. I agree that what you are on the inside is truly the most important thing and working from the inside out makes a better you.

Have a great day!

tjb

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... And the Award goes to:

Wednesday, March 03, 2010

To the Victor go the Spoils!

I see by my Friends Feed that everyone is receiving Perfect Attendance & Consistency awards today!!

It reminded me of winning a lottery - you have to be in it to win it.

With SP you have to keep coming back to be a loser!!

So Perfect Attendance can make losers of all of us!!

Consistency can make losers of all of us!

2 of my friends received Trivia A Awards!! WTG to the brains of this outfit!!

Everyone seems to be winning 500 SparkPoint Awards! Seems a lot of us are actively working the Spark Program! WooHoo!!

We all seem to be winning 1,000 Monthly Fitness Minutes awards!! We are getting fit!!

I am just so proud of all my *loser* friends!!
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JANNIEWANNIE 3/5/2010 9:20PM

    Who ever thought when they were young that they wanted to grow up and be a "loser". Right now it seems like a wonderful goal. Thank you for sharing. Hugs from j

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LAURIEKRGR 3/4/2010 9:43PM

    I like being a "loser" thanks for all your motivation!

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GONABFIT 3/4/2010 9:22PM

    WOOO HOOOO!! I was so excited to see my awards! congrats to the Losers!

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WALKINGANNIE 3/4/2010 4:57PM

    Thanks for helping me to be a happy loser.

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TRYINGHARD1948 3/4/2010 4:32AM

    You have friends who keep losing? The only way to find yourself.

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MSLZZY 3/3/2010 9:48PM

    Funny how being a "loser" is a BIG deal! But that is the name of the game! Lose it and win with a healthier lifestyle!

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KALIGIRL 3/3/2010 9:24PM

    Here's to all the loser-winners!

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GRALLEN 3/3/2010 9:05PM

    I'm always surprised when I get those awards too but they are a nice surprise to see when I sign on.

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GINILEE4 3/3/2010 8:19PM

    I'm so prooud to be a ' Loser' LOL

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CATHEITE 3/3/2010 8:11PM

    emoticon We're losers!!

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PO_PAZZA 3/3/2010 7:54PM

    Who knew I'd be a winner by being a loser?
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WATERMELLEN 3/3/2010 7:36PM

    Yay us!!

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LOPEYP 3/3/2010 7:24PM

    Yes, we are all surrounded by losers. Yah us! emoticon

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KAROUSELL46 3/3/2010 7:05PM

    It's great to be a LOSER! Hurray us!

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ONEREALLYBIGDOG 3/3/2010 6:44PM

    WTG Losers! emoticon

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CICI510 3/3/2010 6:30PM

    I love being a LOSER!! :)

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SUZ139 3/3/2010 6:29PM

    LOL....Hi my name is Suz and I am a LOSER!!!

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ASTORRES1 3/3/2010 6:25PM

    Reading your blog made me feel better about my week....for the second day in a row...I didnt make it to the gym...because of various circumstances....when I miss ..the guilt feelings rear its ugly head...and then I feel bad about missing....but you just reminded me...that I am successful for being a "loser"....


Thanks so much...Linda.


amy

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SLENDERELLA61 3/3/2010 6:16PM

    Yeah for Losers!! Hooray for dear Linda to lead us and point out our accomplishments!!!

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WRITERGIRLMEL 3/3/2010 6:09PM

    Yay losers!

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MSCANDICE25 3/3/2010 6:02PM

    keep up the good work losers

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LENNIEBINO 3/3/2010 5:55PM

  Yeah to all the losers!!

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Oh No! 2 More Feet of Snow!!

Monday, March 01, 2010

My b-i-l sent this to me today and I just thought it was too cute!

I tell you all now, up front, feel free to copy it and blog it yourself if you want to. This is NOT my picture, it is a picture being emailed all over the WWW.

For anyone not knowing how - you just right-click on the picture and save it to your computer.

Enjoy!


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SHUCG1004 3/3/2010 1:34PM

    You got me, completely!

Thanks for the comment on my blog and my feed. I love it when people like you are faithful to give feedback. You're awesome!

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BARNABABY1 3/2/2010 10:04PM

    emoticon...Now that's what I call having 'cold feet'!!!

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EMILYBEMENT 3/2/2010 5:14PM

    LOL! Love this!!

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GRALLEN 3/1/2010 9:35PM

    OH very funny!! Hardy har har. lol

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HEALTHY4SPRING 3/1/2010 8:34PM

    Linda, you are so funny! Being in New Mexico I don't have too much to complain about... but I am ready for some warmer weather, too!

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KRISI79 3/1/2010 5:32PM

    So cute

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MARTY19 3/1/2010 4:26PM

   
When I got this, I just sat and laughted and laughed.

Marty

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MRSPOTATOHEAD83 3/1/2010 3:41PM

    LOL! Only two feet of snow would be great!

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MSLZZY 3/1/2010 2:41PM

    What a teaser!

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MIKIIO 3/1/2010 2:31PM

    Hahaha, you got me with your title!

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CICI510 3/1/2010 1:52PM

    Wow! Now THAT is cool!!!!

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MEADSBAY 3/1/2010 1:48PM

    thnx- I needed a good laugh!
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KALIGIRL 3/1/2010 1:13PM

    Great fun - particularly for the first day of March!

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MELSY82 3/1/2010 1:11PM

    great, thanks for sharing! What a snowy week we've had!

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ONEREALLYBIGDOG 3/1/2010 1:10PM

    Sure glad that we don't have THOSE two feet of snow to shovel!!


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WALKINGANNIE 3/1/2010 1:06PM

    Too funny!!

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FINDINGREALME 3/1/2010 1:00PM

    LMAO that was great!

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ONMYWAYTOGOAL 3/1/2010 12:54PM

    I got that email earlier.....can you believe!!!

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4A-HEALTHY-BMI 3/1/2010 12:47PM

    HAHAHA
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Brand new, second-hand StoveTop!

Thursday, February 25, 2010

So I went shopping and came home with a new Range, Flat top cooking area.

Couldn't get to sleep - just had this annoying feeling it was wrong. I told DH and took the stove back yesterday morning.

For 20 years I have hated my StoveTop, a GE with coil burners that replaced a faulty GE with coil burners - don't ask. The salesman convinced my DH that my best bet was to replace identical items instead of the StoveTop I had wanted. He also talked DH out of me getting a self-cleaning wall oven, insisting I didn't need it. So we replaced what we had 20 years ago. My only bonus back then was a matching range hood instead of the green one for a now new beige StoveTop and Wall Oven.

Well, it sounds stupid, I just wasn't ready to let go of my existing StoveTop with the burner that had become "floppy" about 3 years ago.

*yes Tony, I am sure you know what the solution was*

So my B-I-L came to measure for my new range only to learn I had returned it. End of story? It took him maybe 10 minutes to fix my existing StoveTop! This is the StoveTop I have learned how to cook on for the past 20 years!! I am ecstatic!! I just wasn't ready for a change and must have really wanted to have this one fixed if at all possible! I mean, I know I am cheap - incredibly cheap - but I must be sentimental too, lol.

I am in hog-heaven with my now fixed 20 year old StoveTop!!

Life is great!

**P.S. The clip had come undone and had flipped over and Bless his heart, Van figured it out and re-clipped the burner! ( I bet you knew this paragraphs back Tony, lol. )
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SABLE77 2/28/2010 4:43PM

    old is good!

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GRALLEN 2/25/2010 9:58PM

    Not cheap, smart.

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ANNIEONLI 2/25/2010 8:21PM

    Nothing wrong with being cheap and sentimental...that is me all over the place too!!! ROFL!!

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MESSENE 2/25/2010 4:49PM

    emoticon emoticon emoticonI have a self cleaning stove, and don't even know how to use it. emoticon
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EMMABE1 2/25/2010 3:41PM

    Its very interesting that we so often resist change in our lives, but I can identify with you in this respect - I am dreading having to change my cooking stove sometime too - its at least as old as yours!!

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SUCHAHOOT 2/25/2010 3:25PM

    I can so identify with this! My Dad gave us his 20 year old Lazy Boy chair when he got a new one. My husband used it for another 20. No duct tape or anything! It was looking worn, we loaded it up in the back of the truck to take to charity. We were finally going to replace it. We got there & TURNED AROUND in the parking lot without unloading it! We just couldn't do it! It was still a great chair, didn't look too shabby in the den, my Dad had since passed, so that played into it, but it was still so funny! We finally let it go shortly before we moved. The mechanism finally gave up. We still laugh about that trip. Glad you like you 'new' stove!
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BRIGHTSPARK7 2/25/2010 2:29PM

    emoticon For this blog!


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CATHEITE 2/25/2010 2:08PM

    I love saving money too! Great for your wallet, great for the environment. emoticon on listening to your instincts!

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GOALIEGRANDMA3 2/25/2010 2:07PM

    You are my kind of gal.

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KALIGIRL 2/25/2010 1:50PM

    Great!!! What fun kitchen things are you planning to do with your savings?

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WALKINGANNIE 2/25/2010 1:31PM

    Too funny!!

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SOPHIADARE 2/25/2010 1:05PM

    Change is good, especially when it's a change from "broken" to "working well" and no fuss or new stuff to learn!

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ASTORRES1 2/25/2010 12:43PM

    Linda...you are too funny. Glad you still have the "old faithful"!!!

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LISA_RENA 2/25/2010 11:48AM

    It seems to be like that in life. We find something that we like that when it is time to replace it we realize we just cant let it go. I have a car like that every year I say I am going to get a new one but almost 5 years later guess what I still am fixing it and driving it. Thankyou for sharing your blog with us.

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ONEREALLYBIGDOG 2/25/2010 11:24AM

    Schuckey darned!

Here I was excited for you getting a new flat top cook top! But if you're happy I'm elated!

Amazing how we perceive what we THINK is the best, when we are finally face-to-face with it, it often seems QUITE different!


Either way, I'm glad that you are happy and in hog heaven. Nothing wrong with that picture AT ALL!

Have a SPlendid Day

Thanks for all the chuckles Linda, you're the best!

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CICI510 2/25/2010 11:10AM

    emoticon That's awesome!!!

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KAROUSELL46 2/25/2010 11:07AM

    Sometimes its so hard to give up what we are use to using. I'm glad it was something simple to fix. I get happy over some of the simplest things....Karen

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MSLZZY 2/25/2010 10:39AM

    We had several electric stoves with coil-type burners, all used, and it was okay. But we had children and I was concerned that they would turn on a burner or touch a hot burner. So when we had the opportunity, we purchased a natural gas stove and I just loved it. If there was no electricity, I could still cook. That stove last almost 18 years but when we remodeled the kitchen, it had serious issues and we replaced it with another gas stove.
My point being, it doesn't hurt to be frugal and yours was easily repaired. You don't have to adjust to a new stove. I'd keep the BIL around for all the little fix-its!

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Dental Cleanings for DH & Me and no problems!!

Wednesday, February 24, 2010

It has been a long time since neither of us had to have any work done!

WooHoo! Only have to pay for the cleanings!!

  
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CATHEITE 2/25/2010 1:15PM

    emoticon Validation that you're taking excellent care of your teeth!

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WALKINGANNIE 2/25/2010 1:13PM

    Smile!!

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SOPHIADARE 2/25/2010 1:00PM

    Good for you! You must both have been flossing and brushing AND having enough good luck not to fall into the "not fair but it happens" percentages! emoticon emoticon

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GRALLEN 2/24/2010 9:58PM

    It feels good when the pearly whites are fresh and clean.

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SLENDERELLA61 2/24/2010 8:57PM

    Great! Good for both of you. Healthy eating may have helped, you know.

Ironically, I went to the dentist today, too. Mine was almost as good as yours!

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ONEKIDSMOM 2/24/2010 8:13PM

    emoticon So... you can buy yourselves something nice instead? Romantic movie? Dinner?

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