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Who can YOU help today?

Monday, September 14, 2009

I am not sure where I got this idea from but this is my today's huddle in my various teams.

We can all help someone every single day. We can smile at the senior and hold the door to the post office. We can make a funny face to a squirming infant in a shopping cart. We can even pet the head of a dog or cat to make them feel loved.

Here at SparkPeople there are many people in need of a smile, hug, funny face, just an acknowledgment that they are indeed alive and not invisible.

I try not to get so bogged down in my own SP Teams that I might forget the millions of strangers needing a helping hand.

Please consider visiting the Introduce Yourself Forum www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/messageb
and extend the hand of friendship to a new member. Invite them to your favorite teams or just let them know that you saw them and wanted to say hello.

Visit the Blog Page www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_recent_bl
and read a random blog - not all blogs are read and too many never get comments on them.

Go to the SparkPages page www.sparkpeople.com/mypage_home.asp and say hello on a brand new SparkPage. I cry when I see so many never having a comment on them. It only takes a minute to say, "Hey, I like your spark page!"

Who can YOU help today?

Today I put my name in for leader at a team who's leader has been absent for 90 days. Why? Not because I want to be leader - but because I can then send a team email and find out who would like to step forward to help lead the team. It is a good team, an active team, but like all teams - it needs a leader or leaders to let them know they are wanted and needed on the team. We are all fragile creatures. I don't want to be invisible anymore.

Invisible = lonely.

We too are pack animals; we are herd animals. We find safety in numbers and we tend to get rowdy in groups. But to truly break out and have fun we mostly need to be surrounded with friends. We need to feel needed and wanted.

Even at the lowest point in my life, when I was a fat, 4-eyed youngster, I would have welcomed being part of a group. Any group. But I just never made the cut.

I cannot allow this to happen if I can prevent it by saying hello to a new member, or a lonely stranger.

Who Can You help today? emoticon emoticon emoticon

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FINFIN2 9/15/2009 7:32AM

    Great blog, Linda. I try to help and say hi to people I meet... It is really sad when people just turn their head when you say "Hi" to them.

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BOOKWORM100 9/14/2009 8:44PM

    Great Blog, Linda! I didn't know those links existed. I'll check it out!

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    GREAT info Linda,
Thanks for sharing your wonderful insight! emoticon

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EMMABE1 9/14/2009 8:19PM

    Unfortunate, but so, so, true!!

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FORMYDARLINGS 9/14/2009 5:05PM

    Thank you Linda. I did go to one of said sites and found, as you said, a blog with no response. Well now it has a response and a goodie. Hope she comes to my page too. I need all the friends I can get. I just wish I lived close enough to spend more time with you. You are amazing,


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MARTY19 9/14/2009 4:28PM

    What a wonderful reminder of what SP really is. I am always surprised when a new face comments in my blog and leaves a comment. I makes me day and at the very least, I could return the favor. Thanks


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ONMYWAYTOGOAL 9/14/2009 2:17PM

    EXCELLENT BLOG!!! We all want to feel included and acknowledged!

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MSLZZY 9/14/2009 11:18AM

    I printed this so I can refer to it often! Thanks for sharing! You are such an inspiration-a very
loving, caring person. I'm glad you are here at SP! emoticon

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LIVNFITNHAPPY 9/14/2009 9:46AM

I could not have said it better! I totally agree with everything you said and I
make it my intention every day to brighten the day of those I come in contact with and to have a positive impact on every situation.

The need to be heard and acknowledged is strong.

I know that sometimes I feel like I am wearing a cloak of invisibility and I love it when someone can see through it. I am following your lead once again and making a renewed active appearance on more blogs and message boards.

What a GREAT way to start the week! emoticonJanet

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BLUETEDDY 9/14/2009 9:26AM

  I like your attitude emoticon Very positive and you have passed it on to me. I read blogs now and then but have only commented once before. You are right it is nice not to feel invisible.

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BIONIC2 9/14/2009 9:01AM

    Well said! You helped me today! I'll pass it forward RIGHT NOW!

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Sunday, September 13, 2009

We had to laugh this morning. I keep getting on the scale dreading and anticipating 120 - today I dropped 1/2 pound after eating 2600 calories yesterday! I even ended the day with 2 tablespoons of peanut butter trying to put my calorie deficit into negative territory. I went so far as to count the amount of time walking my sisters dog, even though that is a very slow walk indeed.

And I lost weight! That is just the funniest thing for me! But I don't want to go crazy with putting back 5 lbs. I want it to be more natural. So again, one day at a time.

**back to needing to regain 5 lbs today emoticon emoticon

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I'm gonna have to take a trip to Mississippi next time you step on that scale, I've been your biggest supporter, so I'll stand behind you while you are on the scale and I'll gently put a toe on the scale to help you UP, LOL

We used to do low-dow tricks like that when we weighed in for wrestling back in college. It was really easy to mess with a guys head just this morning his weight was fine and all of a sudden, he was over his weight class, LMAO

I'm confident that you will break your reverse plateau and remember if nothing else works, I'll drive SOUTH


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JAZZYJUDE 9/13/2009 7:31PM

    Goodness me! We're struggling to lose and you're to gain. I agree with the others, it will happen and the more you stress out about it, the more un-natural your weight loss/gain will be. Hang in there sweeite! Let it happen and your body will balance out in time.

Wow...to have your issue right now! I WILL get there too! You SO inspire me!!
emoticon emoticon Jazzy!!

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IVMAR1 9/13/2009 7:04PM

    This reminds me of "Beware what you wish because you might get it". Isn't it ironic that now you're struggling to gain a couple of pounds when in the past it was just the opposite?

Don't worry, just do it one day at a time. The 5 pounds will come around.



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MARTY19 9/13/2009 5:14PM

    You make me chuckle. Her I am struggling to add more calories and not doing a great job and you continue to lose weight. Oh well, I'll get to where you are someday.


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MEADSBAY 9/13/2009 5:05PM

I often go down after a high cal day- that's why I believe in calorie cycling.
I think it just happens naturally anyway-
I'm just making sure it happens (some low and some high per week).

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CEACARP 9/13/2009 4:55PM

    I know you will make your goal. But i believe you are doing it the correct way. You want to stay with in your good habits to gain the weight or you could find trouble with bad habits wanting to resurface. Keep up the great work.

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EMMABE1 9/13/2009 4:51PM

    It WILL happen - but there is a lighter side - here are 90% people on thids site sweating on losing weight - and here you are sweating on putting it on!!
Oh! well that's the way things go!!

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Friday, September 11, 2009

Today's blog is very difficult for me. I was turned away at the Blood Bank because my weight is too low for my platelet count; and my platelet count was much lower than ever before. A decent enough level, but not for my weight and not for my history. The pheresis machine would not allow me to be hooked up.

I had tried (successfully) to lower the amount of cholesterol consumed - there was no change whatsoever on my cholesterol count - and all it accomplished was to lower my platelet count because of eating less meat products. The protein and fiber in black-eye peas is extraordinary but I guess it will not make platelets. Some of us really do need to eat meat products.

I do not have a cholesterol problem and never have. My walking is a natural way to lower my cholesterol. My platelet donation is a natural form of blood thinner.

I was advised to gain back 5 lbs.

After much soul-searching while driving home I told Ray of my thoughts. He loves the new me. Before he could say anything I acknowledged that it was a cop-out on my part because he loved the old me too, even at 210 lbs. He said he loves me at any weight and thinks 125 would be terrific.

I told him I really like wearing size 4 jeans. But I admitted that is only vanity. I want to be healthy and I had decided that if I was ever turned away from the Blood Bank it would mean my weight was too low for my body. Today that happened.

I made a Pro-Con list in my head and all the reasons to stay where I am have nothing to do with health. Yes I do feel great but I worry about occasional dizziness too. I have plenty of energy but I feel a sugar drain sometimes and need a mint. I am a borderline case of blood sugar; I can go either way, high or low. This is because my father has a low blood sugar and my mother had high blood sugar. The doctor said this combination often shows up in the offspring as borderline.

It was not an easy decision, but it was an educated decision to add a couple of pounds to my weight and see where I am in 2 lbs and hopefully in 2 weeks.

This gives new meaning to One day at a time, One pound at a time.

**edit 9/12- I have decided to go for the entire 5 lbs as recommended!
123 is a beautiful number! I have changed my weight ticker to reflect 123 but no, I didn't gain 5 lbs overnight. Today I am 119.1 again. Tomorrow? We shall see! But this way I am now eating to maintain 123 lbs and my Nutrition Tracker is reflecting this as I gain.

My goal is to have a Zero Deficit or even a Negative Deficit for a slow gain back up to 123!

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JENNTINYSAM 9/13/2009 10:07AM

  WOW I cant believe that you can lose too much weight. Oh wait never mind. You can be anorexic. At least the doctors were honest with you.

This was one reason I set my goal at 125 to begin with. If I feel that I need to lose more after that I will change my ticker then but only after I get there.

WTG on figuring out what you are going to do.

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_VALEO_ 9/12/2009 4:40AM

    I now understand better your yesterday's feed. I'm glad you consulted your doctor on that matter, what is important is to stay healthy, even if it means 5 lbs more.
Do you know that having a few extra pounds is better for our health? (and I'm not talking about being overweight here, but being in the middle of normal BMI.)

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FORMYDARLINGS 9/11/2009 7:55PM

    Linda. I can only think that it does not make sense to create one unhealthy life to make another healthier. Know what I mean?

You have worked very hard to get where you are but a number is not what matterrs here. What matters are at least 2 lives.
Think carefully before choosing a number about being your healthiest.

Love ya,



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TN_HAMMOCK 9/11/2009 1:22PM

    This one really hit home for me.

My oldest son is a cancer survivor. He was diagnosed with he was 2 yrs old. His type of cancer meant that he often could not produce mature platelets. Because this kept his blood from clotting correctly, he was in constant danger of bleeding to death....even from a simple bruise.

People like you who donate platelets saved his life.....many many many times. There were several times when donations were down and sometimes it was a scramble to find someone who was compatible AND willing to give.

I was always grateful for those who donated....I never thought of the challenges the donating people might also be facing!

I thank you from the bottom of my heart for wanting to help others. I wish you all the best. Do what you need to do to keep yourself strong and healthy! After all you have accomplished, I am certain you will clear this hurdle too!

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LIVNFITNHAPPY 9/11/2009 11:47AM


You are so generous to share the details of your journey with us. Thank you for that!

BALANCE (physical, mental, emotional, & spiritual) is the quest for us all and HEALTH is the true goal! Determining what those are for each of us is the challenge. Our lives and bodies, while similar, are each unique.

I admire your process of determining what is most appropriate for you. I love your pro and con list! You really had decided to stop at 120 and then got excited about going a little lower. Now you have been given another signal that your first goal was more appropriate. You already know that the number on the scale does not define you. You are an amazing human being and I am proud to call you my friend!

I am looking forward to the next installment of your journey. I know that you
will be successfully back at the blood bank soon!

emoticon emoticon emoticonJanet

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ONMYWAYTOGOAL 9/11/2009 9:58AM

    Linda you are so determined. I bet the blood bank's decision was just reaffirming what you probably already knew. Based on the borderline sugar etc. It's probably best that you gain a pound or two. I know it's disheartening, but staying healthy is sooooooo important.

Way to make the hard decision!!!

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GONE2BEACH101 9/11/2009 9:52AM

    I agree!! Your health is of A#1 importance!! I don't think that you'd alter your looks that much at all...and you'll still fit in your 4's. The dizziness concerns me, too. That could cause you or someone else an injury...Sure not something you need to deal with!! I know already what you'd advise one of us to do...It will be OK!! I promise!! emoticon

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DEBIPOGUE 9/11/2009 9:44AM

    Linda you are successful no matter what the # on the scale says. You did it!!! Being healthy is really where you need to be. I think your 2 pound then see plan is a good one. Keep that dizziness in check though no matter what. Size 4, 2 pounds, 5 pounds......you'll ALWAYS be a 10 to me!!!
Blessings and Wisdom in your decision making,
Debi emoticon

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BOOKWORM100 9/11/2009 8:59AM

    I think you're making a good decision. You've worked so hard to become healthy, you want to be sure to maintain that healthiness. Otherwise, what have you really accomplished? You just swapped one unhealthy extreme for another. To say that you listened to your body to find the right weight for you (even if that means gaining 2-5 lbs) and to maintain THAT weight is the best accomplishment anyone can have!

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I'd seen your status yesterday on my iPhone and I wasn't worried about your weight, I was worried about your health. I didn't know and still don't know what the side effects of having a low platelet count is, but I tried to send you positive thoughts and prayers, for your understanding of dealing with your own issues. I 'm glad that you've decided to raise the bar so to speak. I was thinking the worst, if your platelet count was too low, what other effect could it have on your body or your life. Good luck with getting it back in control. I know you will be able to be a donor again soon.

Hang in there,

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SARALYN09 9/11/2009 7:46AM

    I agree with everyone! The "fight" wasn't just about losing a certain number of pounds, it was also about gaining control! And THAT, my friend, you have done, and will continue to do, at whatever weight YOU choose to maintain!! emoticon

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MSLZZY 9/11/2009 7:40AM

    I love my size 4's too but if my doctor told me to gain 5 pounds, I guess I'd heed that advice
and just be glad he didn't say 25! The 5 pounds might not correct the problem but the dizziness is scary. See what happens. No matter what-you are still a winner! emoticon

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MARTY19 9/11/2009 7:05AM

    I guess it is not the size of your jeans - it is the health of your body. If giving platelets is something that is important to you, than another few pounds added on might be the ticket. I do worry about your dizziness.


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    I was turned away once, I think it was just before TOM.
I would say, make sure you feel 100% your best, and eat something before you go to the blood bank. Going on an empty stomach is a bad idea.
Even if you decide to gain a few pounds back, it will not affect your size immediately. I always hear that 3 kilos is one size (6.6 lbs). So if you gain 2 or 3 pounds, you should still be able to fit into a size 4.

Btw, now in Japan, I can't even give blood anymore, because I'm European and I might have mad cow's disease!!!!!!!!!! even hubby who has spent 4 days in England with me gets turned down. Silly country!

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PALESEPT 9/11/2009 6:06AM

    Something to think about, definitely. Sorry you were turned away from the blood bank though. I would also love you, no matter what! You are a great woman!


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Healthy Reflections: What kind of emotional atmosphere are you creating?

Wednesday, September 09, 2009

What kind of emotional atmosphere are you creating?

Positive people are almost always natural leaders and motivators. People gravitate towards them, just as they avoid individuals who continually mope or complain. Take a look at your own attitude. Is it one that others would want to emulate in their own lives? Instead of jumping to throw in a negative comment, try to think of something good to say instead. By no means hold in your feelings, but remember that no one likes to be surrounded by constant pessimism. Attitudes are contagious so fill your environment with happiness, enthusiasm, and optimism!


This is the same premise as smile and the world smiles with you, cry and you cry alone. But sadly that isn't the whole truth. A bad attitude is contagious. A person having a lousy day can turn around totally happy people just with negativity. I try to remember to smile.

I think it was in Reader's Digest, "if you can't say something nice, say nothing at all." Another good one to live by. Sometimes I have to look really deep but generally something positive can be found to comment on in most situations. If not, offer to cry with the other person rather than chance making things worse. Not always doable, but well worth the trying.

I do try to create a happy atmosphere.

"Attitudes are contagious. Is yours worth catching?" - Anonymous quote from Healthy Reflections.

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LIVNFITNHAPPY 9/11/2009 12:05PM

    I have been wanting to add my "two cents" to this blog for a couple of days.

I wholeheartedly agree with you about the contagion of attitude. My extra take on what everyone else has said is that you can catch your own attitude. Let's say that you wake up on a particular day and just feel glum! You can start out pretending to be happy and suddenly you actually are! You start to focus on all the "reasons" to be happy and you start to experience them again in the now. And Voila', you ARE happy!


P.S. - Counting my blessings also works quite well for me.

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_VALEO_ 9/10/2009 2:29AM

    I like this quote "Smile, it enhances your face value."
It's true that bad attitude or good attitude is contagious -I'm thinking of companies where I worked, sometimes one person could ruin the general attitude of the whole workplace.

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    : )

Smilin' just for YOU

but then again, I'm always smilin', it also makes people wonder what I'm up to, LOL


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MRS.DOYLE 9/9/2009 4:36PM

    How right. I have to deal with quite a few complaints at work and usually manage to do it calmly and positively. I've seen people stop in mid complaint and look really surprised. It's great when they go away happy and even thank me....rare but it does happen sometimes!!

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    When I was a little girl, my mom taught me that saying. She told me it was Thumper's mom in Bambi that said "If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all." I don't know if that's true.

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MARTY19 9/9/2009 11:52AM

    You are the most positive upbeat person I know. You demonstrate that no matter how difficult the road may be, you can succeed just believing in yourself.


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Actually no, I haven't just cut my hair.

Monday, September 07, 2009

In the last 2 weeks, 3 people have stopped me and asked me if I have cut my hair and then telling me they like it. I said, "thank you."

But no, I have had short hair for about 30 years now, lol, although I did start coloring it again.

I just thought it funny that people know something is different about me but can't quite put their finger on it. emoticon emoticon

Linda emoticon

**edit: it is kind of funny though. I wonder if people ever figure it out later on?

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    Yeah, That is right. I know when I've just come from the salon, my DH will say did you put on makeup? . How can you not see it's my hair that's different. LOL

I;m glad you coloured your hair. Whenever I get really down, I head for the salon and let my stylist go to town.


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IVMAR1 9/8/2009 2:53PM

    Be thankful that at least they noticed "something" different. LOL


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    That kind of thing happens to me alot. I could get new glasses and people ask me if I got my hair cut. I think they notice that something is different, but they aren't sure what. I'm a detail person. I notice those things. It's just who I am and I think people appreciate when you notice what's changed and compliment them on it. I'm sure with coloring your hair you look younger, especially since loosing all the weight too. People are just too funny, aren't they?!

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MARTY19 9/8/2009 6:50AM

    I can so relate to your statement. I have had the same hair color for a year and people still comment on how they like it and is it new. It always gives me a chuckle.


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MSLZZY 9/8/2009 6:36AM

    Maybe the color threw them off! At least they noticed you even if it wasn't for the right reason! You look awesome! You are such an inspiration!

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_VALEO_ 9/8/2009 3:44AM

    I like ONEREALLYBIGDOG's reply! emoticon

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JERSEYGIRL24 9/7/2009 11:07PM

    That is funny, but I would think that based on how much weight you have lost, it shouldn't be hard to notice!

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You could tell them that you lost 92 pounds of hair, LOL

Quite observant NOT

Have a great day!

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    People aren't very observant, are they? Sometimes we notice something is different but can't pinpoint it. When that happens to me, it drives me nuts. Ever recalling just a few lines of song lyrics? emoticon

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BHTX1962 9/7/2009 7:19PM

    How cool is that! The next time they ask about your hair say something about the healthier eating habits that have improved the condition of your hair :-))

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