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Friday, August 07, 2009

Do you succumb to laziness?

We commonly procrastinate or put off an activity altogether by saying "It will get done eventually" or "Someone else will do it." Wrong! Being lazy and not taking responsibility are wastes of time. Often the power for change is within us, but without our efforts things would fail or go awry. You cannot rely on help from others, only what your own two hands accomplish on their own. Hard work is a habit that needs constant attention. But be mindful that you are giving your full effort to a project. Apply yourself, value your time, and don't squander it hoping for help.

This is from the Healthy Reflection email 8/7/09 since I am lazy and do procrastinate.

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BLUESKY104 8/7/2009 4:17PM

    Procrastinator -- definitely for me --maybe you -- but lazy -- feel that way but know I'm not really and the little bit I have seen here -- I feel strongly that does not describe you at all.

You have a great blog here


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    yup, I'm lazy and a procrastinator too. But that's ok, I get things done eventually.

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Oh wait, I'm looking into a mirror, LOL

I agree with Debi and Tammy and their comments about you. Lazy and Linda do NOT go in the same sentence
Lazy and Tony go hand in hand though.

Have a great day my friend
Maybe I'll get off my lazy but and get back to work, LMAO


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DEBIPOGUE 8/7/2009 9:51AM

    Linda and lazy do not go together.....sorry try another blog!! LOL YOU are
a better example of success or accomplishment, but I would never pick you for lazy. I do understand though what message you were conveying...we ALL, success or not, have within us the ability to quit or put off till tomorrow. Thanks for the blog.
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THAMLEY 8/7/2009 9:34AM

    I agree with Marty---You are far from lazy! Look at your accomplishments! Thanks for the post--I'm procrastinating right now! I should be outside doing yard work and I just can't seem to get myself psyched for it. I gotta get out there before the heat gets too bad. Well, this post boosted me out of my seat! Bless you for being a constant inspiration. If you choose to be a little lazy, you probably earned it! Have a wonderful weekend. On my way outside now! Tammy

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MARTY19 8/7/2009 9:14AM

    I think you are nuts. You are not lazy. A lazy person would not have lost 90 pounds and motivated so many of us to continue on this journey. You stand as a role model of what can be achieved.

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    Great Words of Wisdom!!!
I'm a bit of a procrastinator, but when I get going I'll finish whatever it is and I'll do it right. I value my time and I hate wasting it on re-doing something that didn't get done correctly the first time. Somethimes, that's just unavoidable though. Thanks for your blog! We all need a little reminder now and then. JUST DO IT!!!

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MEADSBAY 8/7/2009 7:49AM

You're funny, Linda!
I am not lazy and never have been one to procrastinate but I do always look for the quickest easiest way to get things done and just DO IT!

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MSCANDICE25 8/7/2009 7:24AM

    yep this is me and since I've been here I have been working on that I always say I do it in a mintue but dont until 3 hours later so now when I think I just do it!!

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MSLZZY 8/7/2009 7:13AM

    Apply yourself and value your time-great advice! Thanks!

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ANGEL1990GIRL 8/7/2009 6:25AM

  I've been very lazy now for months so I liked this blog post. Thanks for the encouraging words.

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What is motivation??

Wednesday, August 05, 2009

I read motivating articles, blogs and posts all the time.

I am confused.

These articles, blogs and posts do not motivate me. I motivate me.

I lost 90 lbs because I shut my mouth sooner and move my body more often. I really don't shut my mouth sooner - I make smarter choices with my eating. But I do this because I choose to do this. No one is motivating me to do this.

So I am asking, what exactly is motivation? Am I missing something here? If so, I guess I am glad I am missing the point because I have been successful with my chosen program of weight loss.

But I still wonder what it is that everyone seems to be looking for it?

**edit: Thank you! I wasn't trying to be funny or clever - I found myself sitting here wondering "what is motivation?" So this was the best way to find out what others think of as motivation or as motivating.

I didn't compete with anyone but some people need competition to be motivated? I have a friend that has to make it a contest for her to lose weight. I just never understood that. I know people that were motivated by presents and money from family - but it rarely worked either. It just wasn't a strong enough motivation?

I did get the idea to push myself further with my walking this month from another walker at By The Numbers; I didn't think she motivated me though. I just thought I would like to reach a higher daily step count - really it all started with my daily average at Walker Tracker - I dearly want my daily average to reach 20,000 (as a personal accomplishment) but it is still 19,400 so far.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts with me!

**2nd edit: I want to thank all that consider me to be motivating them. I am happy to be here and eager to assist in any way that I can. To watch others reach their goals is very satisfying to me. I wish everyone could reach their goals - and we all can by believing One day at a time does work. Little setbacks need only be little setbacks if we just keep trying.

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ONMYWAYTOGOAL 8/6/2009 10:35AM

    I find motivation in knowing that there are others that have been where I've been, are going where I'm going and have arrived at my destination. Knowing that others are / have takend this same journey is comforting and helps me to continue pushing on each day. That's what works for me.

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JJJ1226 8/6/2009 9:58AM

    Motivation is the fuel or the spark that drives people towards achieving their goals.

All of our behavior, actions, thoughts are influenced by our inner drive to succeed. This is how we motivate ourselves.

We call you, and many people here in spark a motivators because you are a person that reinforces positive actions, with positive actions that you share with us. Your journey...this is how you and all the others motivate all of us.

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SARALYN09 8/6/2009 9:56AM

    I agree with Marty19. Everyone is wired differently! Some life issue or streak of bad days, may get us off-course, and then it's hard to get "moving" in the right direction again!

One of my motivations is motivating others too, like you, Linda. If I'm not doing well, I don't like to drag others down, so I wait until I've got the umph from within to lift others up again. Funny. I think it's probably just a pride issue for me.. which is both positive and negative in my life. When I truly need help, I rarely ask for it.

Even my daily status expresses this though.. LOL..

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MSCANDICE25 8/6/2009 9:36AM

    You are right what is it It has to come from within yourself to do what you want you can have all the cheerleader inthe world but if you not trying to make the change then they are doing you no good!! But I understand you and see were you are coming from

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JERSEYGIRL24 8/5/2009 10:46PM


You are right, the motivation has to come from within. When you are ready (which clearly you have been for some time), it is time. Before that, there is little that anyone else can do or say to help.

Why do most of us recall that proverbial "aha" moment. In my case, it was very mundane. There was no health scare or any particularly embarrassing moment. I just decided that I had enough of being so fat and that I was going to do something about it. Of course, the journey has morphed as it has gone on.

I do find it to be very motivating and inspirational to read other people's success stories. It makes me feel that if they can do it, so can I. This is especially the case when the person seems to similar to me and also if they have overcome unusual adversity to win the battle.

As for other people as motivators, I am not sure myself. Please let me know if you figure it out and can give me great tips LOL. I think that other people can help you with coping strategies, but it seems like you have that under control. As for the push to walk more, that probably has to come from within also. Not that 19,000 plus steps is anything to sneeze at!

I feel like I am starting to ramble here.



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    I kinda feel like you Linda.
I'm my biggest motivator. Comparing myself to other has never worked for me, I would just get mixed feelings (WOW, great for her/ouch, I'm jealous/how the hell did she do it?) and get frustrated and feel bad about myself for being stuck in the same fat body.

I don't know what happened to me, I guess I was lucky this time that the approach I tried worked out for me.
As for motivation? Living in Japan where a size 24-25 in jeans is normal, I guess wanting to be able to buy clothes without struggling to get them over my thighs and butt is a good motivator. LOL.

I also love seeing the success people on SP have had, It just shows that it IS possible, and it keeps me going.


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GINILEE4 8/5/2009 8:55PM

    I just LOVE you Linda. !!!! You are so honest and so unassuming. You are motivation in 1 tiny ( now) package. You continue to tell your story and what you do and ideas and on and on. Sweetie, you are the most motivational person I know. emoticon emoticon emoticon


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MEADSBAY 8/5/2009 7:19PM

I am a very self-motivated person, too, but I still love to read your story and blogs and the stories of other success stories here on SP.
It's encouraging for me (if you did it, so can I!) and I get ideas of new things to try and other changes I can make to follow you on the path to better health.
I click quickly away from any whiny or negative people.
I don't want to hear it!

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    Very well said Marty. I agree and I always learn something from other people's stories even if their choices would not be appropriate for me.

But the most motivating thing for me is seeing the success of others. Others who appear to be very similar to myself. When I started this journey on Spark People I was really unsure at my age and given my exercise limitations if I could achieve the goals I so desired. Seeing members like yourself, Linda, who have achieved tremendous success and continue to amaze gives me added strength (you can call it motivation if you like) to reach farther. As a result, I have exceeded my dream goals
and replaced them with new goals to carry me into the future.

The goals themselves have always come from me. And the hard (and yet fun) work has been mine as well. But credit for the extra "juice" to believe I could do it, goes to wonderful members just like you!


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MARTY19 8/5/2009 6:22PM

    I look at the articles as "wake-up" calls. Lessons to be learned, info to be digested. I agree that motivation comes from within, but these articles help some people realize what they need to do, encourage them when they have had it, and teach new ways of doing things. Some people (like you) are strong and self-motivated. You have specific reasons to lose weight and you go for it. Others need more hand-holding. I think whatever gets you to the finish line is terrific.


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I threw caution to the wind... and survived!

Saturday, August 01, 2009

Yesterday I had to attend a funeral so a dress skirt was in order.

It's really hot here in Mississippi so I opted to wear some pretty sandals with my outfit - in the past I would wear pantyhose or a pair of spandex shorts underneath the skirt.

Well, I decided to try to be a normal person - no spandex shorts to keep me from chafing.

Yup, it works - no chafing! Gosh but I love being Normal!!

**Too funny ONEREALLYBIGDOG! I can always count on you to be uplifting!

***Thanks, it was one of DH's Graduating Class. They are dwindling down now, he graduated H.S. in 1939.

***How well I understand Carol! I heard of those slips but never could find one! Now I am thankful not to need one!! Your day will come too!!

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SWEETYKINS012 8/5/2009 7:32PM

    i actually have a big space between my legs. emoticon

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CAROL_ 8/4/2009 4:12AM

    Sorry for your loss.

I chafe and wear pantyhose, with split slip on the bottom. Instead of being a half slip, it's like a pair of shorts made out of slip material. I'm looking forward to the day I'll be normal. For now, the split slip keeps the pantyhose from rubbing against each other, balling up, and ripping on the first time I wear them.

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    I never thought about spandex under dresses before-now I know how they do it! Well.......the new style, as I've seen it, is spandex leggings and "swing" tops. That'll make lots of women happy! I'm glad that I've been blessed with nice legs, except at the top, but that's getting better, thanks to hours and hours on the treadmill!! Thanks for the laughs and I'm sorry for your loss........but, not your weight loss, my gosh! You're down there Girl!!!

Have a happy day!

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BABIE_JANE 8/2/2009 11:08PM

    Congratulations! I have noticed the same thing this summer when I wear my summer dresses without shorts under them. Woo Hoo!

I am so sorry for the loss that had you going to a funeral yesterday.

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JERSEYGIRL24 8/2/2009 6:57PM

    emoticon Linda!!! I've never tried the spandex shorts. I used to wear girdles when I first started wearing stockings, but then pantyhose became popular, and that was (thankfully) the end of that. But chafing is the pits. I actually think I have decent legs, but when I chafe I am reminded that maybe they still have a way to go.

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JJJ1226 8/2/2009 3:48PM

    oh, the vision of me looking in my closest, trying to decide with size 10 dress or skirt to wear I am so looking forward to that :)

I can't wait until this emoticon

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First, sorry for your loss, funeral that is.
Your weight loss is great.
I'll have to try the spandex shorts under MY skirt
I had no idea that would help, LMAO

sorry again, just couldn't resist

You are irresistible!

Have a great week, and NO I don't need a goodie of spandex shorts, LOL

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    OMG No chafing? I am dying for that day! Woo Hoo for you! You have accomplished soooo much and I am so happy for you!

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BIG_SCOTS_LASS 8/1/2009 4:45PM

    That's great news for you. I can't wait until I can wear a skirt without shorts. I fear it's a long way off, but I'll get there, eventually.

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    It is wonderful that you could do without the spandex emoticon

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MSLZZY 8/1/2009 3:34PM

    Spandex shorts have to be as miserable as panty hose! Good for you! It feels great to be comfortable and slim at the same time!

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MARTY19 8/1/2009 3:26PM

    Ain't life and being thin wonderful. I love seeing a hole between my legs when I exercise. Keeps that smile on my face. LOL!


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The Shame and Pain of Regaining

Friday, July 31, 2009

Today I read a blog by Nancy Howard, "The Shame and Pain of Regaining"

She ends her blog asking these questions: "Have you experienced a weight loss only to regain? How did it make you feel? If you have lost weight, do you feel it is only a matter of time before you regain the weight or have you accepted the fact that this journey is about changing your life and not just a number on the scale?"

For me the difference really has been SparkPeople!

In the past I did regain every pound I ever lost and each pound picked up a buddy on the way back. It didn't make me feel good but I was never ashamed because no one wants to be fat. I just didn't know how to keep the weight off.

This time will be different because over the past 16 months I have learned how to manage my food budget.

Is this still just a number on the scale? I don't know. I only know I will never be overweight again as long as I am in control of my life. I am old enough to have seen too many debilitating illnesses that take control out of the hands of the person and yes, it can lead to weight gain. But my main focus has always been on my health, not on my size - so I am as confident as anyone can be that I will be able to control my weight from this day forward. I will never again be fat and I will never be hungry again either!!

**edit: for those that wish they can share SparkPeople - we can! I tell people all the time. I try very hard to get them to sign up even if I fear they will not stay. I didn't stay the first time, but I returned 2 years later! Keep trying, even if it takes a couple of years, we don't know who we can reach today.

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CICI510 7/31/2009 7:23PM

    I really needed to read this today. :) emoticon

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FINDINGREALME 7/31/2009 1:13PM

    I also thought of Scarlett O'Hara when I read your blog...almost heard the southern accent too:-)

I still weigh in everyday and get frustrated when it doesn't move or (gulp) moves up but I don't feel that changes who I am. It doesn't make me a failure. This is a big change for me.

Deep down I know I will get there this time...not sure why really...just because I now see that I can do it if I do the right things on a consistent basis. Also, because I truly believe that I deserve it and see now that eating too much or eating the wrong things only hurts me -- it doesn't hurt the person who I am anger with or whatever emotion I am feeling. That is an even bigger change!

Without SP and my friends here, I doubt I would ever have made that connection! As the other poster said, I look at people and wish I could share what I have found but most are still in "victim" mode and are not ready.

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MSLZZY 7/31/2009 12:19PM

    I made my peace with the scale and now focus on how I feel and how my clothes fit! I have more energy and ambition to do more and be more. I guess that is
all the motivation I have received from you and all the other Sparkers who
daily remind me that numbers are just that. Numbers don't tell the whole
I am content with me, comfortable in my skin and so glad that SP changed
my life for the better.
Keep on posting these excellent reminders of why we are here! It is a lifestyle
that promotes good health and good habits! emoticon

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JJJ1226 7/31/2009 10:34AM

    I agree with everyone, Tatter "focus on the positives" I need to do more of this, mscandace, sometimes the scales run me too, I'll have to work on my negative thoughts, jerseygirl, I like Kristi, when I saw her the other week on Oprah I was wondering why she didn't join us here on SP? In fact these last few days, when I see other people (grocery store, drug store, ect.. I find myself looking at them and wishing for them that they will find SP. I can't think of anyone that's wants to be over weight, or anyone that doesn't care about their health.

raylinstephens's, thanks for the post it was a good one

Have A Great Day :) emoticon emoticon

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JERSEYGIRL24 7/31/2009 10:03AM

    You sound like Scarlett O'Hara at the end of GWTW Part 1!!! Maybe that's the southern belle in you LOL.

Seriously though, I agree about Spark People. I actually have a blog written offline about Kirstie Alley, and I am probably going to post it soon, maybe today. For some reason, her failure story intrigues me but maybe for different reasons than what Nancy blogged about.

Until SP, I too had lost weight and regained it more times than I care to admit. It is only now that I have been able to control myself. It really is a fabulous plan. I also firmly believe that when you do this for health and lifestyle reasons, you are more successful than when you do it simply to look good (especially to look "skinny" or "like a supermodel"). And of course, the good looks will follow. It sounds like you feel that way, too, and obvously you have been successful.



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MSCANDICE25 7/31/2009 10:02AM

    I like this blog of yours and you are right as long as we are in control we can be were we need to be to living a healthy lifestyle and that is something that we need to keep in mine and dont let the #'s run us like it does me from time to time.. but thank you for this blog!!!

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TATTER3 7/31/2009 10:01AM

    I agree with you. Having a community of support like SP has made a huge diffrence for me as I work toward my goal. The number on the scale is not my focus...the ability to move, climb, and even get in and out of a bathtub more easily are wonderful accomplishments for me. Like you, if I focus on the positives...I won't be overweight forever. Keep Sparkin'!

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Obesity's Toll on Health

Thursday, July 30, 2009


Tuesday, July 28 (HealthDay News)

-- Obesity in the United States now carries the hefty price tag of $147 billion per year in direct medical costs, just over 9 percent of all medical spending, experts reported at a national conference Tuesday in Washington, DC.

"To put that figure in perspective, the American Cancer Society estimates that all cancers combined cost our health care system $93 billion a year. So ending obesity would save our health care system 50 percent more dollars than curing cancer," Health and Human Services Secretary Kathleen Sebelius said Tuesday morning in prepared remarks for the "Weight of the Nation" conference, sponsored by the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.


This was an eye-opener for me! This is just plain scary! The price of Obesity is almost twice the cost of Cancer!

Read the article here at SparkPeople.

Another, related, article:

I cannot afford to take the medicines that would have been prescribed and wouldn't want to take them even if I had the money. Losing this weight was not an option for me, it was a necessity.


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MARTY19 7/31/2009 8:57AM

    This is so scary to read about. And yet so many people ignore the facts. I think alot of the problem has to do with lifestyle changes, TV and fast food. When I was growing up, after school was spend outdoors until supper. We ran, jumped rope, skipped whatever. Kids today don't play outside. Why? TV and video games ensure that kids aren't playing. Their lifestyle is sedentary. Such a shame. And fast food is the easy way to feed a family. It is too bad. Changes have to be started and I don't know how to do it. SP conventions are a great way to begin and I'm glad it is happening.


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CAROL_ 7/31/2009 3:06AM

    I'm with you, avoid pharmaceuticals. Yes it's necessary.

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LIVNFITNHAPPY 7/31/2009 12:00AM

    You are so right, Linda. Very eye opening!

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Thanks for another wake up call blog.
That is the exact reason that I'm here and probably thousands of others too.

Small steps are the way to get to a new destination.
Thanks for your friendship and your knowledge that you so willingly give to all of us.
You are a great motivator.
Thanks again.


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FINDINGREALME 7/30/2009 10:04PM

    Wonderful blog! I also saw this article and it is indeed frightening. I agree that losing the weight was not an option for me either. It gets down to a quality of life issue for me most of all...how do I WANT to live?

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