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A few things I have learned this past year.

Saturday, June 13, 2009

I have learned a few things this past year.

# 1. Don't be in a hurry. 2 lbs per week is a lot of weight to be losing and will still add up to 100 lbs in a year.

# 2. Don't be hungry! Never allow yourself to become hungry. Hunger will lead to an uncontrollable binge every time!

# 3. Believe in yourself.

# 4. Be honest with yourself. Hold yourself accountable. No one else matters but if you lie to yourself you will have problems.

# 5. Eat what you need to eat to not be hungry. If the SP range leaves you hungry, eat more. Eat 2000 calories daily. Eat 2500 calories if you need them. If we had all eaten just 2000 calories per day we wouldn't be in this mess to begin with. So you will still lose weight, just a little more slowly. Slow weight loss is not a bad thing.

# 6. Love yourself for who you are. Not for your outer shell but for your inner beauty. And let your inner beauty show to the world. Smile. Smile a lot. Smile at everyone. If someone says something hurtful, smile and wish him or her a pleasant day. You will feel better for it.

Be true to yourself. You are worthy. You are worthy of being loved and respected.

Love you for who you are,

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GYPSYHEART1 6/18/2009 10:30AM

    I just read this blog, Linda, and I loved it. I really need to read this at this point in time. I have been so down on myself, but this little learning lesson is just wonderful. Thanks for sharing it. emoticon emoticon

Pam (aka Gypsy Heart)

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JSMILE50 6/16/2009 4:03PM

    Linda, this and another post you wrote convinced me to start tracking my foods. I also changed my goals to reflect what I really want - a year-long weight-loss process. I know from experience that the slower I lose it, the more permanent the weight-loss is. And I really do want the changes to my lifestyle to be permanent too. Thank you for sharing your wisdom!

Jsmile emoticon

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LIVNFITNHAPPY 6/16/2009 1:03PM

    Wonderful Blog! I voted for it!
You have gained a lot of insight over the past year and continue to be a
Thinspiration for us all!

Thank you for sharing your wisdom!

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FINDINGREALME 6/15/2009 5:28PM

    Great list -- thanks for posting this! #3 and #4 are so true...in the past, I have not logged my WW points or my food in SP...now exactly who was I lying to?

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ONMYWAYTOGOAL 6/15/2009 12:41PM

    Thank you Linda! It's so nice to benefit from someone else's wisdom. You've been through this battle and won. You're a great role model. I was trying to decide which point I felt was most important, but I can't. They're all excellent.


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GRALLEN 6/15/2009 11:59AM

    Excellent points! I'm glad you posted this.

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SHEWWIMONSTER 6/13/2009 8:22PM

    This is a great blog. :) I tend to have trouble with a few of these from time to time. I think not lying to yourself is SUPER important and something I try to do too often. #1 is great also and something I tend to forget---it's going to take me longer than I'd like it to to get there, but that's okay.

Thanks for your comment. :) I've had trouble with the 1000 cal cap in the past, which is why I was hesitant to count cals when I first started here. But my low range is in the high 1500s, and the very few times I haven't made it to my low I was in the 1300s. I'm handling the counting very well and also learning to embrace shorter workouts!

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_VALEO_ 6/13/2009 7:36PM

    Great points!
I second the #1, I've been told several times that I should have lost my 22lbs in less than 3 months by persons around me. I've been on Spark since last October, I have lost nearly 15 lbs -it's about 2 lbs a month.
I'm no longer in my 20 summers, my health is what it is and I don't have time for yo-yo, but I'm satisfied with my turtle way of losing. I don't "cheat" because I'm not dieting, I'm simply trying to eat healthy without any forbidden food. And I do believe, I'll reach my goal before the end of this year.

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MARTY19 6/13/2009 7:21PM

    I believe in #3. As bad as it might have been, being honest with myself has really saved me. But I also know that in order to succeed, you must believe that you are worthy of the changes. As hard as it may be, embrace the changes and love the new you that emerges.
As usual, you blog inspires me to be more than I am.


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JERSEYGIRL24 6/13/2009 6:57PM


Thanks for posting this. Your insights never cease to amaze me. I especially like #6. So many overweight people don't think they are beautiful and have major self esteem issues. I also like #3, which relates to the cheating issue we have talked about in the past. You are only cheating yourself (if you want to call it that).

Anyway, keep those cards and letters coming!!! I love them!!!


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MOLLYJ96 6/13/2009 5:06PM

    So true!! Thank you for the post!

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TILLIEBEE 6/13/2009 5:00PM

    Thank you!
This is beautiful.
I've already been making progress thanks to reading about your journey on your SparkPage and your additional tips about walking a little at night.
You are an inspiration!


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MSLZZY 6/13/2009 4:33PM

    Wonderful-thanks for posting.

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JAZZYJUDE 6/13/2009 4:26PM

    This is an AWESOME blog ~ thank you for posting this motivating message. It's all so true, as we have to live our lives as well. Even if we average a pound a week, that's 52 lbs a year! That is even cool too!
emoticon Jazzy!!

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Blog Prompt - Do I force myself to eat...

Tuesday, June 09, 2009

"Do you force yourself to eat healthful foods you don't like? If so, what are they and why?"

This is a "sort of" thing. I don't care for some fruits because of the seeds, but I do eat them because they are good for me and because I picked the Blackberries for free! I will be picking Blueberries for free soon too.

The Blackberry seeds drive me nuts, Strawberry seeds too, but I floss so what the hey. Blueberry skins can sometimes be tough, but they are good for me and will be free so I will eat them too. We are trying to grow a Mulberry tree because the berries are delicious and they will be free too! The best part is they all freeze well for later use. Yes, they tend to be mushy when thawed but I just prepare them still frozen and add them to cottage cheese and yogurt for a very filling and healthy breakfast.

Sometimes I eat to finish my day even if not hungry. That is a good time to reward myself with an indulgence.

If I don't eat the required calories every day I will not lose weight. The flip-side of this is I don't generally wake up hungry so I am free to do my morning walk before breakfast.

**edit: No amount of coercion will get me to eating lima beans, onions or squash! A man's gotta know his limitations, lol.

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_VALEO_ 6/11/2009 5:26PM

    I usually use Blackberries in my morning smoothie -once mixed with a soy or rice milk, you can't feel the seeds or the skin.

You don't like squash? Any kind? Halloween might be not your favorite holiday. :)

Comment edited on: 6/11/2009 5:27:15 PM

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TILLIEBEE 6/10/2009 8:04PM

    We're growing blackberries, raspberries, apples, apricots and pears. The berries are going nuts they're so happy this year. My challenge is to get them before the rabbits and squirrels!
My husband just found out he has to cool it on eating them, so I guess it will be up to me!!!!

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FORMYDARLINGS 6/10/2009 7:34PM

    I have a hard time eating enough calories in a day unless I add a few chocolate bars. I try to eat about 1400 calories. I really don't know how many I should be eating, because I manually changed my range and now I don't know how to get a spark range back again,Anyone who knows please tell me. I try to eat more but and this is lame, I don't have time. I do have time but forget to eat quite often, then when I am hungry, I'm starving and make the first thing I think of . Usually it isn't a good choice. I am trying to work on this behaviour but I need to know my cal range first.


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    Personally, just for me - I won't force myself to eat something I don't like. I do not like raspberry seeds in any way - I like the taste of raspberry so if it's seedless all fruit jam or something then I will totally eat it. I hate mushrooms and don't like tomatoes so i don't eat those either. I have been trying to stretch myself and as Marty said - I am retrying stuff I didn't like as a kid. If there are a few mushrooms on a piece of pizza I will eat it, but I don't put them in my own cooking. I have tried tomato again a couple of times and I still get gaggy. I figure, this healthy eating thing is going to be hard - so why make it harder on myself by forcing myself to eat something I really don't like? But in retrying veggies I have found that I like a lot of the stuff I hated as a child and have added new ones that my mom never used. It's kind of a fun experience!

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    I do eat to make my daily calories and I'm constantly trying new things, but I won't eat things I don't like. I'm forturnate that I already like most healthy foods. There's just a few things that I like that I really shouldn't eat. One thing I hated for most of my life was cottage cheese, but in the last month I tried it with fruit and a little splenda mixed in and it's WONDERFUL!!

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MARTY19 6/9/2009 7:44AM

    I continue to try new veggies that I hated as a child. Some I now like and others... Well at least I try them. I love just about all fruits so that isn't a prblem.


Comment edited on: 6/9/2009 7:44:39 AM

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CHIKAZ 6/9/2009 7:35AM

    I'm trying to think if I've done this before. But I don't think so really. I know that my body wasn't really accustomed to all the veggies I give it now, but I'm learning that I actually like them way more than I thought. I'm not a big fan of blueberries or blackberries, but strawberries on the other hand, I do love. My mom used to grow them when I was a kid and one of the best things I can remember was being able to pick a strawberry and eat it. You couldn't get any fresher than that. I'm so jealous of your garden.

I wish I could grow a big garden. We just don't have that kind of room. Next year I'll probably start one with my mom at her house. But for now I just have my tomato plant on my deck.

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Eating Too Few Calories Stalls Metabolism

Monday, June 08, 2009

Article by EveryDayHealth:

Learn why cutting out too many calories can keep you from losing weight.

Remember, calories are not your enemy!

Check out the Articles at the bottom of the page.

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_VALEO_ 6/11/2009 5:30PM

    True! Thanks for the article.

But all calories are not created equal.


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    thanks for posting this. i am pretty much reading this info everywhere including in Jillian Michaels' new book Master Your Metabolism. I am sure this article will help out a lot of people!

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MARTY19 6/8/2009 6:26PM

    Good article. I have heard it before but it is always good to read it again.
I am using ww points as well as logging in the food, so calories are not a big concern. WW has the whole system figured out and I'm going with it.

Love you,

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VKENNER 6/8/2009 6:14PM

    Great Article! I like that fact that I am SUPPOSED to eat! LOL

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Maintenance + Strength Training + Cardio = constant reconfiguring!

Sunday, June 07, 2009

The title says it all.

I keep my Goal Calories the same but adjust daily for Cardio which burns calories.

The increased Strength Training is what makes my weight fluctuate. But I am tackling the Lunges and Squats seriously now to firm up my legs. I managed to do 30 Walking Lunges yesterday as well as about that many regular Lunges. Did Squats intermittently during the day.

Mind you, I will never have 18 year old legs - heck, I didn't have them when I was 18! But if I can get my jiggle under control a little more, by golly I will at least try.

Good day to all!

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_VALEO_ 6/11/2009 5:40PM

    Good job! You're a real inspiration!

The increased strength training will firm you up, so don't be afraid of the weight fluctuations.

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LIVNFITNHAPPY 6/8/2009 11:01AM

    Linda, You continue to INSPIRE!

I, too, am at the maintenance point. At least I think I am. That point is not written in stone but my body seems to be telling me that this is it. Now I am working even more intently on those jiggles.

Your unwavering motivation is so uplifting! The challenge to keep these good habits intact seems daunting at times. When I feel a little shaky, I look at what you're doing and get fired up all over again. This is the blessing - to be able to lift each other and be lifted ourselves to achieve
goals we thought were impossible!

emoticon emoticon emoticonJanet

Comment edited on: 6/8/2009 11:02:11 AM

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CHIKAZ 6/7/2009 11:33AM

    Wow. That is incredible. I need to really start with strength training again.

I can't wait to be at the maintenance point. =)

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MARTY19 6/7/2009 9:49AM

    I could not do all these lunges. My hip would be screaming. But I do admire your ability to change and continue to be successful. You rock girlfriend!


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SARALYN09 6/7/2009 8:32AM

    Don't stress about a pound here or there. Weight fluctuates with or without strengh training! ENJOY the ride.. you deserve it!!! You are living a healthy lifestyle!! What a great place to be - I hope I'm feeling as victorious as you are now, when I'm free enough to enjoy it!! haha! emoticon

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MSLZZY 6/7/2009 7:20AM

    You keep on trying every day and you inspire me! I am trying more strength training, too. It seems to be working.

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Update on Maintenance progress.

Friday, June 05, 2009

Ok, so it wasn't the best week and yet it was!

My weight started climbing again and reached 125.8 emoticon
I checked and double-checked and even triple-checked but my calories were "right-on" so I just kept going and exercising.

I have started doing Squats and even finally was able to do Lunges, just not as many - I can do 6 at a time on each leg! So I know I am making muscles and this will raise my weight.

Yesterday it finally went below 125 again, only 124.9 but it feels awesome! Will it go back to 122? I believe it will, but again this is still "One day at a time".

I believe in me. I believe in SP. Together we can all make this happen.

Hugs y'all,

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JERSEYGIRL24 6/7/2009 10:46AM


You have done amazingly well. I am sure you know it, but I feel your frustration. Just keep at it, and good things will continue to come!!!! You never cease to amaze me!!!



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DEBIPOGUE 6/6/2009 10:10PM

    You are such an inspiration and ALWAYS looking for the bright side!!! I love that about you. I know you will see 122 again......to much grit in you not to. Keep it up my friend, you're doing GREAT!
Debi emoticon

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    Hi Linda, Definitely one day at a time. This style of living is all about the baby steps we take each day. Keep at it and have fun,


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    ; )
you always have something good to see in everything you do
maybe that's why you many love you so much

i'm included in "those", lol

keep up all your great efforts

your ol' buddy
Tony emoticon

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    Always positive! You are an inspiration. The scale went up for me almost a pound today and the only reason I can think of is salt. I had more salt yesteday than I do normally. Bummer! But you've made me feel better and I know ... I just have to keep pushing on and the scale will go back down. emoticon

Happy Friday,

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_VALEO_ 6/5/2009 8:43AM

    It can be frustrating to see the scale going up while sticking to our meals and fitness plan.
Keep on being consistent and your weight will stabilize for good!
I believe in you too!


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MARTY19 6/5/2009 7:44AM

    You know this will happen but you are continuing to make the changes necessary to stay on track. You are my hero.


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MSLZZY 6/5/2009 7:17AM

    You are probably building muscles but oh, we hate to see an up number on that old scale.
Keep on working because toning muscles is a very good thing. My clothes fit so much better even if I don't see a loss. That's all part of the lifestyle. emoticon

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