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Blog Prompt-Do images of models make you feel bad about yourself?

Tuesday, May 19, 2009


The only one that can make me feel bad about myself is me, myself.

**edit: Yes, Janet! I didn't remember the quote but yes I like it!

***edit: I stopped comparing myself to others. I can admire another without feeling I must compete. I try to be all I can be myself. Then I accept me whether I succeed or fail. I can always try again.

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KATRARWINNER 5/21/2009 12:33PM

    It sometimes does.

I realize I'm harder on myself then other people view of me...well except my mom and relatives. They always called me "American size."

When I talk to my boyfriend about how pretty or hot models on billboards, movies, and magazine ads are he would complain to me that they are too skinny and turns him off. He prefers models like Tyra Banks or Beyonce. Basically women with curves.

No wonder he is always bringing me out to try different food. He is trying to fatten me up. emoticon

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LIVNFITNHAPPY 5/20/2009 10:00AM

    Hi Linda,

You must love this quote by Eleanor Roosevelt too:
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."

It is one of my favorites and I totally agree.


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HPLANDER 5/19/2009 11:43AM

    I agree we can be our best friend or worst enemy. We get to decide.

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MARTY19 5/19/2009 11:20AM

    Not me either. They have airbrushed them to the point even the models don't recognize themselves.


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CHIKAZ 5/19/2009 11:14AM

    Honestly... they used to. A lot. But now, I can say no. Before I started spark I was a pretty unhappy person. And even though I'm nowhere close to my goal yet, after using Spark People for last few months I feel 100 times better about myself than I did before. Maybe it's because I know what I'm capable of where as before, losing weight and changing my life seemed like an entertaining fantasy.

But still it was me making me feel bad about myself, I guess just the images would remind me to keep doing it. lol. I'm glad I'm not the same person I was before.

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MSLZZY 5/19/2009 10:50AM

    I am fine with me right now. I wouldn't want to have their life-skinny or not.

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ALEIGH5 5/19/2009 10:21AM

    Model images make me feel bad (and sad) for young girls and women who see undernourished, ubber thin, unhealthy bodies as ideal.

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ONMYWAYTOGOAL 5/19/2009 10:10AM

    I agree! emoticon

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Dedication, but not perfection.

Sunday, May 17, 2009

I might be a little more dedicated than some, but then my need is greater too.

At 210 I was a heart attack in the making. Genetically speaking, I was on borrowed time. Both my parents started their heart problems at age 57-58 and I was already 56 and getting heart flutters.

I am built like my Dad (his life is in mortal danger if I ever go bald) and he had 3 heart attacks and at least 1 mini-stroke. I made the decision, lose the weight or face the consequences. I simply cannot afford his medications and wouldn't want to be on them even if I could. He takes a dozen daily.

My mother passed away in 2004 and I have had quite an education in doctors and medicines since I had to start helping my Dad on a daily basis. I now have 2 seniors that depend on me daily and no time for poor health. (My Ray is 87.)

So I came back to SparkPeople and started doing the Spark Program. I knew I had to get 45 lbs off at the minimum to be able to maintain what I believed I could handle, 165. I found the Spark Program to be so easy on me that I changed my goal to 148, 135, 130, 125 and now 119.

I am blessed with a walking partner that needed to walk daily even more than I! So we talk non-stop every day it doesn't rain and walk 4-5 miles. I get up at 5am to be able to walk with Cathy at 6am during the summer months which have already started here in Mississippi. Dedication.

Just dedication, determination, devotion and a bit of effort on my part.

Except for yesterday!

This is actually sort of funny.

Well, my weigh-in day is Sunday. Dad's freezer quit on him and I had a 5 lb bag of shrimp that had thawed and he was afraid to use it. So I cooked it all at once. That wasn't the bad part. I ate about a pound of shrimp, 48 shrimp more-or-less with 1/8 cup Shrimp Sauce. Nope this still isn't the bad part.

I was well within my calories! Yahoo! I was going to get through this unscathed!

Yeah, right. Now the bad part. I used Zatarain's Crab Boil. Uh huh. Good old Zatarain's 100% salt it seems, my sodium in the Zatarain's was over 5000, lol. So I went up 2.6 lbs and poor Ray went up 2.7 lbs just since yesterday!

I know it is temporary but today is my weigh-in day and today I am up from last Sunday. So, I fall down and stand no more in the "Last One Standing" competition in one of my teams. I only hope the weight goes down again this week. I never understand why we can gain overnight but take weeks to lose it again.

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GRALLEN 5/18/2009 4:09PM

    One thing about you. You gain a little and you get right back on track to "fix it". Some ppl would give up and say oh well.

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ONMYWAYTOGOAL 5/18/2009 9:04AM

    Thanks Linda! It just proves that you're human and that you struggle here and there along the way with the rest of us. But, you are alson devoted and committed to your goal (s) and you will get to your destination because of your determination. Go Linda!!

I'm glad you shared with us!

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_VALEO_ 5/18/2009 3:58AM

    Thanks for sharing the moment it clicked for you. Sometimes, we need dramatic events to go forward and change our life.

Damn that 48 shrimps and that Zararain! Lol
You know the saying with cakes: 2 seconds in the mouth, 2 years on the hips!
I'm sure it won't take you that long to get rid of this sodium and the extra weight, and the next weigh-in will be good.
To eliminate the sodium, have some herbal tea with cherry stems. Birch juice is great too!

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MSLZZY 5/17/2009 9:51PM

    As dedicated as you are, I have no doubt that the "sodium gain" will disappear much quicker than if you had eaten 5000 of anything else! Hang in there!

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JERSEYGIRL24 5/17/2009 9:30PM


You will never cease to amaze and inspire me. I also feel that I was a health disaster waiting to happen. I could write the line about my dad's medications. I don't want to go into it now (maybe that's a subject for a blog entry of my own), but you certainly did the right thing in taking the bull by the horns. But you really did it big time. emoticon

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SPARKLESSENCE 5/17/2009 9:14PM

    I feel so uplifted by this blog entry of yours, Linda...even if the sodium content was a little high :) You don't know how much you inspire me! We're the same age, and we're both motivated by medical problems...or potential ones. I love that you've got a good walking partner...and for 4-5 miles, too! I'd hazard a guess that despite your genetics, your ticker's going to keep on ticking like the Energizer Bunny's. You're taking such wonderful care of it! All the best - Sara emoticon

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FORMYDARLINGS 5/17/2009 8:27PM

    Poor you!!! I hope the salt was the only ill effect you felt. 48 shrimp!!! That's a whole lot of shrimp for, can I say it?, a shrimp like you! hahahah LOL. I could never plow through that many. Maybe they were just little guys, I hope! Don't be too sad Linda, you will lose that salt weight quickly, as only you know how. I'm sorry about falling down in your contest but try again, there's always another challenge going somewhere. Take care and keep walking,

Gini emoticon

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SPARROW147 5/17/2009 7:49PM

    It is amazing how salt can make your weight go up in one day but take days to get rid of. That happened to me last week. Thank goodness it was right after my weigh in. Thanks for sharing that story. You are the best!

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    Dedication, but not perfection, AND STILL LEARNING!!

Great story and advise.

It just shows no matter how much good we do we can ALL learn from our mistakes/ do-overs!

Thank you dear friend, for sharing.
Another day in the life of us losers and learners. I guess I'll never get a job for the voice over on Day's of our Lives, LOL

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MARTY19 5/17/2009 6:24PM

    You forgot to add motivator, role model, friend. You are all of these as well. Yuo show by example what 1 person can accomplish.


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Why is the term Cheating even used with a LifeStyle Change?

Saturday, May 16, 2009

I have learned that even Weight Watchers encourages people to have one *cheat* food every week. **see below-Marty says WW does NOT use the 'cheat' word!

What I fail to understand is, why use the word cheat at all? Why not *indulge yourself* one time per week? To me the entire concept of cheating is negative.

From Wikipedia:

Cheating is an act of lying, deception, fraud, trickery, imposture, or imposition. Cheating characteristically is employed to create an unfair advantage, usually in one's own interest, and often at the expense of others.[1] Cheating implies the breaking of rules.

There was more in the definition, but the above says it all. Link to definition:

emoticon Interesting, to say the least.

**edit: Thank you Marty! Since you belong to WW, you would know! I read that here on one of the messageboards - but the word cheat might have been out of the mouth of the poster. I appreciate you correcting me!

**MIKIIO, I can indulge myself anytime I have extra calories. However, this doesn't mean I can or would eat a trigger food. I still cannot have cookies, lol.

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SOPHIADARE 5/19/2009 1:05PM

    I agree that "indulge" is MUCH better than cheat. Our USA culture has many virtues, but we have taken some of those that came from our Puritan heritage too far, as the Puritans sometimes did.

Balance in all things! Moderate indulgence is the point in a lifestyle change: calories and exercise should balance out as quickly as feasible. We should not hate ourselves for the times when we accidentally slip off track. The slips will happen more often if we don't build in reasonable indulgence.

All great points!

Comment edited on: 5/19/2009 1:06:29 PM

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BIONIC2 5/18/2009 6:33AM

    I've always thought that to be true!! This isn't a TEST! This is LIFE! We should enjoy it.....not feel like we've done something so horrible that we need to be expelled from it!

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_VALEO_ 5/18/2009 3:38AM

    Once again, I'm with you. Don't like this term either.

I don't "cheat", and so far I don't "indulge" myself -I'm not strong enough to indulge myself one time a week. If I allow myself to buy chocolate, I know I won't be reasonnable.
Chocolate is my *jones*, and as soon as I begin eating one bar, I want more and more and more... the last thing I want is to sabotage all my efforts.

Keep on sparking!

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SPARKLESSENCE 5/17/2009 4:39PM

    I love your thoughts here, Linda! "Cheating" implies that we're stealthy food criminals, and the term has made me feel sooo guilty at times! I've also hear people say, "I've been BAD!" after indulging. It just seems to me that such value judgments are counterproductive in our struggle to get to - and stay at - a healthy weight. Good for you! - Sara emoticon

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AINTSKEERD 5/17/2009 1:05AM

    What a great point! You are right on. Another word I refuse to use is 'diet', again because of the negative connotations and notion that it is temporary. I use the term nutrition plan instead, when describing my new lifstyle.

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GRALLEN 5/16/2009 10:57PM

    I have to admit I call it a cheat day too. But in reality it's only one meal that I indulge in which I think is pretty good considering I still even try to pick the wisest choice on the menu. But heck, every once in a while you have to let loose and go for the gold. Good blog!

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SPARROW147 5/16/2009 2:47PM

    I have to agree, cheating is so negative. You can still incorporate "cheat" things into your food plans. I have a Skinny Cow fudge bar as my REWARD for staying in my range. I suppose some would consider that a cheat, but I don't.

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MSLZZY 5/16/2009 2:06PM

    Cheating is so neagtive!. Indulge or reward-positive. I agree with the others here. I prefer to reward myself IF I have honestly tracked everything and have
a little wiggle room left on my calories. Or I might indulge for a special occasion. But I watch closely so it doesn't become a daily habit.

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PRAIRIEGIRL44 5/16/2009 1:47PM

    I agree, I don't like the word cheat for something you can do in moderation and shouldn't feel like your cheating yourself! emoticon

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PEPCEA 5/16/2009 1:44PM

    Amen!!! I totally agree with you. I never say 'cheat'. I have certain days that I indulge in a richer fare, usually holidays and my birthday and then only if I actually want something richer. I don't just do it because it's that day. You are awesome and I love your attitude. It's the winner's attitude!

Alex emoticon

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MARTY19 5/16/2009 1:40PM

    I never heard of ww using the "cheat" word. They give you 35 flex points to use during the week. I don't like the word cheat either. It seeems to me that cheating will build on the guilt.
But I cannot control how others think and feel. Each of us makes choices and we live with them.


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LIVNFITNHAPPY 5/16/2009 1:22PM

    I completely agree that the words we use to define our life and this journey of a healthy lifestyle are extremely important. They set the stage
for our mind. We all know that if our mind is not on board with whatever goal we have set, it will most likely be impossible to achieve.

To use a word like "cheat" to describe a part of the "plan" implies (at least to me) that commitment is shaky or that we intend to break the rules we
have set. I have taken the trouble to find ways to incorporate the foods I
love and consider "treats" into my calorie and nutrient range by planning ahead to include them. This way I feel satisfied and have no need to cheat.

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MRSAKINS2005 5/16/2009 12:55PM

    I totally agree. I give myself a "reward" for every week I do great on my eating. Maybe some as small as a tiny chocolate bar or a piece of cheesecake. Something I kicked out of my diet plan and lifestyle change. I hate to call it cheating. Cheating is only if you do it and don't report it for your own personal numbers. As if you'll be judged if you add it in to your food tracker and everyone sees. I again totaly agree with you.

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    My thought is it's better to eat a small piece of chocolate cake if you are craving it rather than CARVING the cake into ONE portion.


Not a typo, I meant the carving vs. craving


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If I offended you... I am sorry... but...

Friday, May 15, 2009

I was attacked in another person's blog because of me posting my "quit smoking" blog. It was anonymously but since I have the only Quit Smoking blog analogy it is pretty obvious I stepped on at least one set of toes.

I gather "this person" saw himself or herself and so I am to be shot and hung immediately for my opinion. Why is it I am not allowed to have my own opinion in my own blog?

People are forever foisting their opinions of my program at me and picking me apart but that is ok. I thank them all for their opinions. And yes, my family is included, I am not referring to sparkpeople members.

I walk too much, I shouldn't eat ice cream, sugary cereals are bad for me, I need to be eating my veggies raw, I should not eat meats, I eat too many carbs, I need to be using heavier weights, I am getting too thin... the list goes on.

I think anyone that is offended by my "quit smoking" blog needs to rethink their own program if my blog upset them that much that I am being attacked about my own opinion posted in my own blog. I am not asking anyone to agree with my analogy, but I don't deserve to be shot for having an opinion either.

(And actually, there are people who "only smoke on the weekends!" There are also people who only drink on the weekends. I will stand up for the rights of others but not if they are going to shoot me down over my own rights.)

There is a forum that has this very same question and it goes back and forth on having a cheat day, etc. Actually there are so many threads dealing with this as negative and positive that I am only going to try to put the link for the search
if it doesn't work, just use search for message boards and cheat day.

is entitled Hurray For Cheat Day! What did you Eat? this is what I would call a positive feedback thread.

is another, only called Cheat Day?

and there is one that is soooo many pages but at the moment I cannot find it and it literally bounces back and forth with opinions.

If I offended you... I am sorry... but... I reserve the right to have my own opinion.

I have compassion for those that fall off the wagon, so please don't hate me just because I haven't. I have not faltered in adhering to my program, not even at the holidays. This is a lifestyle change for me - quitting is not an option.

I am only guilty of working into my meal plan foods that others might think of as cheat foods. I belive in free choice and I choose to form my living patterns now for the rest of my life. When I reach my goal the only thing I will need to do is add back calories daily until I find the right number for most days. I am also choosing to track daily for the rest of my life rather than regain this weight. I am too old to yo-yo anymore. And too close to a heart attack.

I will not allow others to dictate to me what I can think. I never have and I will not start now.

BTW, I have not left a negative comment knowingly on anyone's page. I have sent private messages rather than risk embarrassment to other members with a public comment. And the owner of any page is always able to remove comments he or she objects to. I won't because everyone has the right to his or her own opinions, even on my page. I only removed one comment in 14 months and it was by mistake and I apologized to the person immediately.

P.S. I do thank you profusely, MIKIIO, for telling me that as a smoker you thought my analogy was good.
Since I smoked for 10 years and know how difficult it is to quit and easy to start again, I thought it was a decent analogy myself.

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LKOPACK 5/18/2009 2:57PM

    Hi Linda,
I really do not see the issue that upset people. You have a formula that works for you and that is cause to celebrate. Everyone is entitled to their opinion or at least last time I checked. Keep up your fabulous work!!!
Laura K.


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JENNTINYSAM 5/17/2009 4:18PM

  WOW! That was a mouth full. Smoking one day a week. Really I dont smoke and if my husband could only smoke on 1 day a week I would be estatic. Ok just kidding.

If its working for you then do it and dont worry about what anyone else is telling you. This is your program and you play it how ever you want.


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MYSHERO 5/16/2009 4:12PM

    BTW - I am now the owner of the OMRON hj 720itc. We are getting acquainted today.

Thanks for the tip. Yvette

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MYSHERO 5/16/2009 4:12PM

    Hi Linda,

You are a caring and open person who has helped so many feel encouraged and inspired. No one has the right to attack you or anyone else for writing anything they feel in a blog. The attacker is dealing with their own issues and needed someone to take it out on. I love you and am glad that you let these things roll off your back (a wonderfully thin back at that) emoticon

Love, Yvette

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SPARROW147 5/16/2009 2:42PM

    Why on Earth would someone think they can attack another person' s opinoin on THEIR OWN PAGE. That is what the blogs are for, getting things off your chest...showing alternate ways of seeing things. I hope this "person" doesn't keep you from blogging. I enjoy reading your blogs. I say poohey on them!

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SPARKPIXIE 5/16/2009 1:23PM

    I don't know you but the title of your blog here caught my eye.....I'm sorry you were attacked. A similar thing happened to me last month! I posted a blog about MYSELF and my struggle as a Christian, and as a result someone sent an email to her entire team saying that I was a horrible person, a fake Christian and that I attacked her in my blog.

Good grief! It just got out of hand!

You don't owe anyone an apology as far as I can tell. Now if you blogged about someone and used their name, that would be a different story...but its obvious that you didn't do that.

Stick to your opinions, and don't apologize to others who disagree with you. They have a right to their opinion and so do you.

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MRSAKINS2005 5/16/2009 1:00PM

    I have to pipe in here and agree with all the others. There is no need for apologies. It was something that was true for you. It was your blog. That's what our blogs are for. If someone can't handle that much. They have to believe you are being in someway vindictive to them then they should have done this so quietly. That way you could have had a change to say hey this is my blog. If you have your own issue with it please feel free to blog it in yours. Some people I know have an uneasy dispostion. I do myself at time. I would never (or at least do my best to try and never) say anything evil or mean on a blog or on a page. If I have something that needs to be said that doesn't need the world knowing, I will send it in an email and express my feeling and give the other person a chance to voice theirs. It's all opinons. However, sometimes miscontrued as it may be. There is no need for an apology. You are a Spark family member, we are here for the same purpose. TO support and get healthy. Do what feels right for you. Take the negative and turn it into a postive. I have your back now and always. Your Spark sister...Nancy

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    My Dear Linda,

I've bitten my tongue on this long enough.

The problem here is that someone or maybe even more than one think that you are "perfect" (Me included, LOL) but their image of perfect is being a non smoker. Just so I can keep my post short and not rant on terrible here is my short answer.

If they don't live in glass houses, then they should NOT throw stones.

My other thought is more biblical,
let him who has not sinned,
throw the first stone

They threw the first stone
YOU are therefore able to throw the second.

No apology necessary.

We love you as you are, cigarette smoking or not.

Good thing that you did not judge us on our looks, either fat, ugly or whatever shoe fits us.

Keep up ALL your good work
The only one that YOU need to satisfy is You and your Maker.


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MUGSYMOM 5/16/2009 11:09AM

    DEFINITELY no need to apologize. As the other members said, you are allowed to put ANYTHING you want in YOUR blog...that's the reason for them. Keep a chin up and never mind the bad comments. Keep up your good work!

Maryann emoticon

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_VALEO_ 5/16/2009 6:41AM

    Oh really? I can't believe someone could feel offended by your blog! Some persons are really barking up the wrong tree. Well, at least, your blogs don't leave indifferent! *trying to see the bright side*
I'm a smoker, and I found the parallel with food-addiction absolutely brillant.
Keep on writing such witty and wise blogs.
Never mind the malicious gossips, you're a tough nut and an inspiration!
Your health-nut friend! emoticon

PS: curiosity killed the cat... where is this blog? hihi

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EMMABE1 5/15/2009 11:25PM

    I thought that the idea of a blog is that we can express our own thoughts and opinions. To be attacked for doing that shows how narrow minded in the extreme people can be!!
How would this world be if we were all clones of each other - following like sheep!!
Not this little (or not so little) bunny thank you!!


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MEADSBAY 5/15/2009 11:20PM

I'm not seeing any reason for you to apologize to anyone.
It is a free country and you can live your life how you see fit.
You can write whatever you want in your blog.
They can just click away!
You are absolutely one of the most important motivators, in my opinion,
and I bet, in many others as well.
Does that mean I agree with every single little thing you say?(well, 99%)
No, but I am on MY journey, not yours.
You are one of my personal heroes!
Spark on, my friend.
GRAMMY westcott

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JERSEYGIRL24 5/15/2009 10:23PM

    Of course you are entitled to your opinion. After all it is your blog. That is what others (possibly even you) have told me when I have expressed concern that my blog may not be pleasing to everybody. I have reread your blog and see nothing at all offensive in it. Obviously you have found your formula for success. Keep it up!

That said, I can see where smoking could be a sore point for some (which is NOT to say that you should revise your blog to keep these people happy). I once read that smoking can be the reason for diets being sabotaged. Here's the typical scenario. DH smokes, and DW is overweight. DW wants DH to quit smoking, but as long as she is overweight, he can throw that in her face if she gets on his case about smoking. If she loses weight, he loses a trump card. So therefore, he is ambivalent about her success. If she loses weight and then gets on his case to quit smoking, he has nothing to throw in her face anymore. So on some level, he doesn't really want her to lose weight because it upsets the balance of power (no pun intended). Maybe you hit a nerve with someone like that. If so, I wouldn't worry about it. If you smoke and the shoe fits...

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HUGGERS1 5/15/2009 6:54PM

    I don't think you should apologize either. Your program works AWESOME for you and through your successes I have been able to work harder myself. You are doing great. Even WW allows cheat days or extra points for that one thing you just really need that week. DON'T stress it, You are doing great, looking great, and I know that you feel better than you have felt in years. Your blog is for your personal journey and those that cannot follow your path shouldn't criticize you. Everyone has their own method and some don't work for others, but you just keep keeping on.

Have a blessed day full of joy knowing that you are making a difference in your life and those around you


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KIKIPETIE 5/15/2009 5:43PM

    Why apologize? You and anyone else has the right to express her/his own opinion/s. What ever happened to 'freedom of speech'?
You shouldn't need to apologize


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MARTY19 5/15/2009 5:38PM

    I agree with you. My blog is for my opinion. I never try to offend anyone, but I am entitled to voice my opinion in my blog. If not, why bother to write them?
On occasion I have been jealous of how well you have done but I am so proud of you for sticking with your program without apologies or any deviance. You rock my friend and I applaud you!


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SPARKLESSENCE 5/15/2009 5:23PM

    I see blogs as opinion pieces...aren't they? I would think that our blogs would be inviolate. Keep on being you, Linda - you already know how much respect and admiration I have for your considerable achievements on Spark. They say nothing succeeds like success...and you are a marvelous success story. And you haven't cheated? Oh, don't I wish I could say that about myself! emoticon Keep on being you! - Your fan, Sara emoticon

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GRALLEN 5/15/2009 4:21PM

    Holy cow! I can't believe someone would actually attack you. You are like the nicest person I have ever met on Spark. You are corrct though. You are certainly entitled to your opinion and the blogs we post on our own pages will always reflect our own opinions. While the person who disagreed also is entitled to their own opinion, they could have been diplomatic in their comment or just not said anything at all. I have read a few blogs where I either didn't undertand the blog or disagreed, so I choose not to comment at all.

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DEBIPOGUE 5/15/2009 4:04PM

    I say AMEN to both this blog and the smoking blog. I thought it was a FANTASTIC analogy! Used it myself in talking to a friend. This IS YOUR page.. No one has to read it if they don't want to. I personally do because you have so much good advice , encouragement and wisdom. The proof is in the pudd'in....no pun intended!! LOL You just keep on being Linda..and I know I'll keep on being blessed. If only they would have signed their name you could at least have sent them back a smoke signal.....oops......that wasn't to nice...If I offended you ......I'm sorry.......but!!!!! I'm in your corner, shake it off and keep on Sparking!!!
Debi emoticon

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WONDERJANE 5/15/2009 3:46PM

    I'm sorry you were attacked for comments you made on your own page. Netiquette is tricky stuff it seems. Do what you need to do to look after yourself, those who ultimately count will respect your boundaries. And thank you for the support you have offered me. Quitting smoking is a difficult journey and like all journeys not a zero-sum game. Keep working towards your goals and you will reach them.

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MSLZZY 5/15/2009 3:42PM

    It is impossible not to offend anyone BUT personal opinions on personal pages are not fair game. I think of it like anything else-if you don't like the way I look or dress-look the other way!
If your opinion does not match mine, then we agree to disagree.
You have worked too hard to let negatives color your world. You have enough negative in your
life (selfdoubts, etc) without anyone else adding to it.
Keep your perspective and focus on what you can do and leave the rest to God! You are in control of you and there's no need to answer to them.
Have a great weekend and continue to blog as you feel. I will stop by to read and comment-hopefully in a positive, supportive way). emoticon

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ONMYWAYTOGOAL 5/15/2009 3:42PM

    Linda - I'm sorry that you were attacked by someone who obiously is unable to see past their own opinions. I've never met anyone on SP or elswhere as that is as kind and encouraging as you are. No matter what the topic, you've always provided me with support and I really appreciate it!!

I'm happy for you that you've found success at SP on your weight loss journey, and I feel fortunate to have met you on the By The Numbers team because you truly are a MOTIVATOR and friend. . emoticon--Laurie

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SLIMGRAM2 5/15/2009 3:33PM

    YOU GO GIRL! Every one is entitled to their opinion. This is a free country is it not? I have nothing but admiration for you. You are an incredible individual

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Blog Prompt - How do I keep myself motivated?

Tuesday, May 12, 2009

My desire is still there to lose this weight and keep it off. I stay motivated.

The problem is not the motivation, it is the laziness that tends to creep in sometimes. It is the temptation to eat junk foods.

So I accept that I am not perfect and when I can no longer resist temptation, I add the tempting foods to my daily tracker.

And I do have days that I just don't do my exercises.

But I do keep my eyes on the prize and I will reach my goal and then maintain it.

One day at a time.

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JERSEYGIRL24 5/13/2009 11:15PM

    This hits home for me, too. It's probably one of my biggest busters. Some days I am extremely motivated. Other days I really don't care. At all. Not that I really stuff my face, but on those days I probably get less exercise than I should. Like last Saturday, for example. Here is was a beautiful weekend day, but I just sat on my butt for the better part of it.

Just keep in mind that none of us are perfect, but you seem to have this under control better than most of us.

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ONMYWAYTOGOAL 5/13/2009 8:35AM

    Linda--You continue to inspire all of us and to help us realize that we're not alone. Others face the same struggles. Together we can do this. We are all capable of achieving our goals thanks to friends like you and thanks to SPARK!

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SLIMGRAM2 5/13/2009 8:18AM

    Wow Linda that hits home for me. I do have a laziness side to me and love my junk foods. I was just thinking about the tracking issue-being honast with your choices-putting them in the tracker I mean. You are not alone . And you get me looking towards that goal I started a few months ago. You go girl. Your blogs seem to always be the ones I need to hear! Keep up the great work emoticon emoticon emoticon

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_VALEO_ 5/13/2009 7:19AM

    I can so rely on that.... laziness. I could really use a the kick up in the pants I truly deserve!

Keep up looking at the pinata!

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MSLZZY 5/12/2009 10:50PM

    You could be my twin! I'm not perfect, either! What a hoot! I'm not sure the world is ready for us!
Take care, work hard, stay motivated! You deserve the best of everything! emoticon

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    Wow Linda,
Just another reason that you are such an inspiration.
I always learn something from your blogs.
Thanks for sharing, it's always a way to learn from others lessons.

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FORMYDARLINGS 5/12/2009 8:13PM

    It sounds strange, but, it helps me to know that you struggle along and fight your way to the top too. Thanks for being so open. Much appreciated.


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LIVNFITNHAPPY 5/12/2009 8:09PM

    AHhhhhhhh......the eternal challenge!!!

But we usually think that the successful people (like you) are perfect all the time. Hhhhmmm.

What I am coming to understand and learn is acceptance of myself. This time instead of fighting with cravings or portion control head on and punishing myself for my perceived flaws, I have actually been able to listen to my own body and make choices that make it HAPPY & healthy!

For example, my stomach likes to experience fullness. So, I have experimented with healthy recipes on SparkRecipes.com and found foods I love made in the healthiest way. I choose entrees with a serving size of about a cup instead of a thimble and aim for the 300 calorie per serving realm. I have also tried and found foods I have never tasted before like Kale (that I really like cooked with garlic and onions). It is super lo cal and very healthy. Since my stomach is not crying all the time
I have found that when my mind wants a devilish sweet treat I can satisfy it with one Hershey's kiss now instead of a whole bag. I have strategies for eating out and regularly check menus online ahead of the meal.

I have learned (with the advice of the SP coaches) never to call myself lazy and to congratulate myself and thank myself for what I do in the healthy direction instead of getting caught berating myself for what I have not yet done. I look to others (like Linda here) on this site who inspire me daily with their athletic feats and I am coming along in that area too. My strength training has gone from O to 3 times a week and I have biceps now! I am aiming to wear sleeveless tops this summer.

So, my advice and my current adventure is also "One Day at a Time" and look for ways to acknowledge and congratulate yourself. You will be amazed at the good habits you can cultivate over time. There are also thousands of people to reach out to if you need a little help!

I love this quotation, "People often say that motivation doesn't last. Well,
neither does bathing. That's why it is recommended daily."

emoticonto all!!!

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