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I will NOT pass this way again!

Thursday, March 19, 2009

I was answering a comment left on my page when I really liked the sentence that popped into my head.

This is the 2nd time I am passing this weight - the first time was on the way up!

I will NOT pass this way again!

Hugs y'all!!

  
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CAROL_ 3/21/2009 8:12AM

    I've said that many times before. Usually knew I was lying even as I said it. Though sometimes I was REALLY DETERMINED that THIS TIME would be different, and I said it as a vow.

And then without fail, each and every time I was disappointed in myself and disgusted with myself for breaking my goals yet again, and it seemed pointless and hopeless, as I gained the weight back. In self disgust I stopped trying, and ballooned up to 315lbs. Historically I always kept trying; but historically I also paid an increasingly HEAVIER price in regaining more than I'd lost to creat a new all-time high, plus losing my self respect.

Enter SparksPeople. THIS TIME it really IS different, because I'm losing it slowly enough to build in the lifeskills along the way, yep those "Lifestyle Changes", via the self-educational tools provided by SparksPeople. And when it goes more slowly than other times, because I'm peeling layers of the emotional onion, or because I'm building muscle, that's okay because those are ALSO necessary life skills to keep it off. I'M DOING IT RIGHT THIS TIME AND I WON'T BE BACK.




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LIVNFITNHAPPY 3/20/2009 10:18PM

    I love the title of your Blog!!!
I feel exactly the same way!!!
Thanks Linda for putting it into words that put another smile on my face!
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ONMYWAYTOGOAL 3/20/2009 8:41AM

    How cool is that!!! What a great way to look at your journey!

Happy Friday! Hugs-Laurie

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MARTY19 3/20/2009 7:13AM

    I know that. You are on the elevator going down.

Marty

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_VALEO_ 3/20/2009 6:54AM

    You're so committed to your health journey, I'm sure you won't pass it on the way up again!

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JESSIMAE20 3/20/2009 2:22AM

  I like that saying....That is a good way to look at it!!!

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DINA:-) 3/19/2009 11:16PM

    great way to think about it!

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JERSEYGIRL24 3/19/2009 10:32PM

    I'm sure you won't. You really have your act together. emoticon

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When Life Gets In The Way...

Tuesday, March 17, 2009

When Life Gets In The Way...

I see so many people disappear from SparkPeople that it makes me want to cry. I know, I have heard, "Life Got in the way" of my diet.

And when my Dad went onto dialysis and Ray went into the hospital on the same day, I was saying the same thing. "I have too much on my plate to try to watch what goes into my mouth right now. I will get back on track when Ray gets out of the hospital."

But you know what? Life waits for no one! And I decided right after I had said that, that I have worked too hard to reach the point I am at to throw it away due to "life getting in the way." So on the way home from the hospital I stopped at the grocery and loaded up on veggies. And I do mean loaded up - I bought 20 packages of vegetables!

Next day when I came home from the hospital I realized I was too tired to cook the veggies and almost took the easy way out. Then I learned to cook up several bags of veggies ahead of time and leave them in the fridge and ate *leftovers* until I had finished all I had cooked.

That was a month ago and I am still losing weight while taking Dad to dialysis and Ray to physical therapy.

I share this info only because when "life got in the way," I shoved it aside and made my own way in my life!

And you can too!!

  
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THININSIDE847 3/18/2009 11:18PM

    This is a beautiful and very moving blog. You are soooo right! No matter what, there will always be problems and obstacles in life. The only way to make changes that stick are to learn how to stick to them right alongside those problems.

You are an inspiration and such a strong person!! Thanks for posting this. emoticon

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JENIFIREHARP 3/18/2009 9:54PM

    You are so right about this, since we can't Stop and Start life, we shouldn't Stop and Start being healthy.

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HPLANDER 3/18/2009 8:22AM

    Thank you for posting this. You are leading by example and my hope is that others follow you. I hope you have a good day today and that your life becomes less chaotic soon.

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LUCKY-13 3/18/2009 12:15AM

    I don't think I've heard that message put forth any clearer and easier to understand. You've got a good head on your shoulders! Continue forward, you're reaching those goals you've set for yourself, and you're getting there! GOOD FOR YOU!!!!

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DINA:-) 3/17/2009 8:44PM

    very true! i read in a book ("thin for life") that "life getting in the way" is our biggest downfall when we have made a lifestyle change. life is always going to throw curve balls at you and you really have to learn to stick with your new lifestyle despite the ups and downs of life.

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GRALLEN 3/17/2009 2:24PM

    That's great Linda! I am still learning to not let life get in the way of reaching my weight loss goal.

Just yesterday, DH said "It's nice out, let's sit on the back patio and have a couple of beers." I said sure but after I do my work out and r\un for 30 minutes and even then I drank water, not beer.

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CAROL_ 3/17/2009 12:55PM

    That's very inspirational Linda. Yep I do the leftovers thing, too, intentionally, too. For me it's an intentional lifestyle change habit. Leftovers are God's gift. You do actually save time doing it that way - it just doesn't seem like it at the time.

Life got in the way when I moved across the country - I won't tell the story because it was so bad, but just imagine if a one-week move took nine, NINE weeks. A friend who was helping me get through the ongoing train wreck, at one point criticized me for stopping to fix food (instead of having pizza or Chinese delivered). It was meat in crockpot and frozen veggies on stove top (both fast; and crock was already done). However, during those weeks I lost alot of weight. And if I'd been eating pizza and Chinese, it would have only made things worse. When I finally was able to log back in to SP for the first time in months, I was able to move my weight tracker significantly. And, that would be a move in the SMALLER direction; not the other direction.

Sometimes the toughest thing you have to do is, persevere in being true to yourself. Sometimes the toughest thing you have to do is, NOT QUIT doing the right thing, no matter what.

The gravity and ramifications of your situation of your two men going in on the same day, far outweighs my situation. But the principle is the same. We almost gave in and gave up; but we didn't. Right now, we'd be working hard to be taking off that weight RIGHT NOW!, if we'd given in then.

It was worth it. Looking back now, it was worth it to do the right thing then. We have to remember that; when we get on the other side and are looking back, we will say the journey was worth it, the perseverance was worth it, the damn-the-torpedoes-determination was worth it. Sometimes that's the place you have to come to, in order to be able to win. But the success is worth the effort. It's worth it; and we're worth it. Now, we just have to remember that for the next test.

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SUPREME5 3/17/2009 12:54PM

    I JUST LOVE READING YOUR BLOGS . THEY WAKE YOU UP AND LETS YOU SMELL THE ROSES THAT WOULD BYPASS YOU OTHERWISE.
THANK YOU
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YOOHOORENEE 3/17/2009 12:38PM

    You are a very strong woman! I love having you apart of a team I am on so that I can see your inspiration! Thanks for the reminder that we have a choice! It is so easy to take the lazy way out and I do that WAY too much.

Keep spreading your wisdom with us! It is very inspiring!
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DONANNE 3/17/2009 12:10PM

    You are such an inspiration to all of and especially to me...thanks a million...you are so right...Lots of "life got in the way" minutes in everyone's life...the one thing to remember is that if you don't let that happen you will be able to deal with the LGITW minutes and what follows much easier!Hugs to you, special lady!!!

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MARTY19 3/17/2009 11:53AM

    Thank you for saying this. I have wanted to push things away but I don't either. Life is never going to be perfect so you deal with what you have and march forward.

Marty

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LIVNFITNHAPPY 3/17/2009 10:42AM

    Perfect Blog Linda,

We will always have challenges come up. Some are larger and more traumatic than others. You have shown that it is possible to keep the intention for health
and fitness even in the midst of whatever life throws our way!

Thank you for your continuing inspiration!!! emoticon

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_VALEO_ 3/17/2009 10:01AM

    Thanks for sharing this blog.
What an inspiration! You're a true motivator.


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JERSEYGIRL24 3/17/2009 9:59AM

    You are so right, Linda. I probably should make a copy of this and hang it on the fridge or something. Fortunately, I think I have learned this because since I started with SP, I have NEVER given up. The darn thing is that I have also learned that some of the things that you consider to be time-consuming when preparing for weight loss, such as cooking for yourself or chopping veggies, actually end up saving time in the end. I have learned that it is generally quicker to cook a meal than to get in the car, drive to a restaurant, wait to be served, wait for the food, and wait for the check. Of course, shopping and cleaning up take time, but that can all be planned, too. I've learned that it is easy to make excuses and feel sorry for yourself (sometimes justifiably). But at the end of the day, life goes on, and you are the one left to deal with your body.

I was a member of a Yahoo group when I was following Atkins. Some members continued to follow the plan in light of really bad events. Others just gave up. I am also saddened when I see people on SP say that they are taking a break because of family problems. I can understand if you can't log on, post messages, comment on blogs or track your food, but I hope they are not throwing everything they learned to the wind.

I absolutely love your attitude, and it totally explains why you have posted the 80 lb. icon!!!




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ONMYWAYTOGOAL 3/17/2009 9:43AM

    you are so Awesome!!! I'm so thankful that you're here and able to share because you're so right. When things get tough and life gets in the way, we as women tend to take a back seat in order to care for others. I'm glad that you found a way to do both. Huge Cudos for you!!!
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MEGANFAMILY6 3/17/2009 9:43AM

    What an inspiration! emoticon

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SHELTIELADY 3/17/2009 9:36AM

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I get a kick out of the way most of us say "life got in the way" or "this is a journey". Don't get me wrong I totally believe them but how we use those excuses to stop or detour around them is of our own choosing.
You did a great job on that "stop" sign. I'm glad you chose to take the detour instead.

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TEKRU1 3/17/2009 8:42AM

    Wow! That is really impressive! Thank you for posting this.

You are so right. It is easy to make excuses and extraordinary circumstances such as you have been living under make it hard to keep to your eating, but you have done such a wonderful job!

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Height, Weight, BMI

Sunday, March 15, 2009

I still prefer to check my BMI here
www.caloriesperhour.com/index_burn.p
hp
and discovered today that it will accept fractions on height! So, my BMI went up but my height came down by 1/2 inch to be more accurate, this is a good thing! 61.5"
(Yes, it also takes the fractions on the weight, but I knew that before.)

Today, forgive me if this is boasting, my measurements are lower than I can ever remember and it means to me that I must be making muscles!

Weight 131.8" down from 210
BMI 24.5 - Normal down from obese 39
Bust 35.5" down from 46"
Waist 27.5" down from 39"
Hips 35.5" down from 46"
Upper Arms 12!! Wow!! down from 16"
Thighs 19.5!! Wow!! down from 26"
Neck 12.5" down from 15.5"

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WALKING_GIRL 3/16/2009 11:29AM

    You boast all you want, you deserve it! And you inspire me.. :-)

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FORMYDARLINGS 3/15/2009 10:22PM

    Linda, you must be so thrilled and I hope proud of yourself. I know that many of us and members of your family have been encouraging you, but ultimately, YOU are the one responsible for the changes in your life. I am sooo happy for you and congratulations on a new you.

Gini

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HPLANDER 3/15/2009 9:28PM

    Boast away. You are doing so great. I can't wait to see waist measurements under 30. You go girl.

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SUPREME5 3/15/2009 5:11PM

    keep boasting gf
it helps the rest know it can be done. proud of you
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DINA:-) 3/15/2009 2:27PM

    yay! way to go, linda! you rock!

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CAROL_ 3/15/2009 9:15AM

    Congratulations! No by all means please DO tell us, I LOVE hearing about your successes!

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MARTY19 3/15/2009 8:56AM

    I love following your progress. You never give up, you are always positive and you are doing such a fantastice job. You are my inspiration.

Marty

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Time to readjust again

Saturday, March 14, 2009

Time to readjust again. Weight up to 132.1 but that is only sodium - I was *stupid* yesterday and consumed too much. Temporary weight gain.

But after 3 weeks of flying around the 131.'s, I decided to shake things up and switched to *lose 1 pound per week* to see if it will help. My thinking is perhaps I have been making more muscle and not feeding it? 1 pound per week will up my calories so it could have a positive effect. And I would have to up the calories for maintenance anyway so it is a small start.

Have a great day!

  
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MARTY19 3/14/2009 3:30PM

    Maybe that will work for you. While I don't think about it, I wonder how I will do on maintainance. I'll let you take the lead and follow in your footsteps. LOL

Marty

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HPLANDER 3/14/2009 3:17PM

    You look great. I think slowing it down and eating a little more may do the trick.

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DINA:-) 3/14/2009 9:54AM

    great idea to change things up when you get stuck like that. good luck!

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H-2-OH 3/14/2009 8:41AM

    Lookin' GREAT, Linda! Wow. Look how far you've come.


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My Happy Weight!

Thursday, March 12, 2009

Today in the Weekly Link Roundup: What's Hot? What's New? by Stepfanie Romine there was a link to The Happy Weight Calculator from Self.

"We all have an "ideal" weight in our mind, but what must you sacrifice to get there. This fun calculator helps you determine a goal weight that will allow you to be happy and healthy! "
www.self.com/calculatorsprograms/cal
culators/happyweight


I thought it would be fun to see where I am in my happy weight so I followed the link and looked around. One link of particular interest to me showed me that indeed I do have a large frame as I was told when I was about 15 years old! Simple test, tape measure your wrist and check the chart for your height. I did both wrists and was surprised they are the same! BTW, you can put in half inches for height, ie: 5' 1.5" is what I entered.
www.self.com/health/2008/01/happy-we
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My "happy weight" would be 129.1 which made me chuckle since I am 131.1 today and have been stuck in the 131's for about 3 weeks now. So near and yet so far. But not one to be complacent, I also followed the link for Ideal Weight Range and that was 100-134 so the median weight would still be in the 120's.

I just wanted to share the info with anyone that misses the Daily Spark Blog. It made me happy to learn I am this close to my "happy weight" finally! Never dreamed it was even possible and here I am just a few pounds away!

  
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DINA:-) 3/13/2009 11:13PM

    great article! i read in a book once that your body is happy at a certain weight so if it's easy for you to be at 135 maybe that's better then struggling to stay at 130. thanks for sharing!

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FORMYDARLINGS 3/13/2009 8:09PM

    I followed the link and found that my target weight is 8 lbs under my happy weight. It is however in my weight range near the bottom, so we'll see what happens. What I found most interesting is the number of calories I need per day. 3300. I have set my own calorie range at 1450 to 1700 . OOPS!!! I guess I should go back to basics and let sparks determin my calorie range. No wonder I have such a hard time losing. ( That and the candy monster LOL)

Gini

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WALKING_GIRL 3/13/2009 4:11PM

    Thanks, this was cool! My goal is 140 and it said my happy weight was 138.2.. :-)

I also love that your shorts don't ride up anymore..lol I can't wait until mine don't anymore.. :-)

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YOOHOORENEE 3/13/2009 1:38PM

    Thanks for sharing that with us today! I'm going to check it out now!

I'm very happy with those results - now if I can only acheive them one day!

My happy weight is 163 - which before I started my weight gain I was 166 and I was VERY happy then! LOL My range would be 125-169.

Thanks for sharing!

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CAROL_ 3/13/2009 3:23AM

    Thanks. My wrist was 7 inches. Definitely large boned. But, when we lose weight won't that measurement go down? I'd still be in the big-boned range, though. It wouldn't go down a whole inch. My watch is loose on my arm, however.

My range was 111 - 150, happy weight was 143. I'm still shooting for 125, but will take a close assessment of my health and fitness and body fat at 150 to see where I want to go (how LOW should you GO).

I distinctly remember weighing 104, and being pudgy. And I was taller then. So I think 111 is not unreasonable, even tho many people tell me no way could I go down to 125 and be healthy. That's just because they've never seen me anyway but fat, ha ha.

125 is the goal I'm keeping until I get much, much closer. 315 to 125 is 190lbs to lose, and so far I've lost 32. So it will be a long while before I have the problem you have of being right on the doorstep; but I'm looking forward to that day! Also looking forward to hearing all about maintaining from you & Marty & others, you'll be maintaining for a long time while I'm still losing, so I can learn from you all that are ahead of me.

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BABIE_JANE 3/12/2009 11:38PM

    Thanks for sharing this with us. I was happy when I saw the link to figure your frame size. I had just asked DH what he thought, lo and behold he was correct...medium. My goal weight is close to my happy weight. One day I will be doing the happy dance for both of us.

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MARTY19 3/12/2009 9:04PM

    I'm just waiting to emoticon when that day arrives.

Marty

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