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Friday, February 27, 2009

If the knee starts to make noise when you move - not the normal clicking but sort of a grinding/squeaking sound - and it has been in your leg for longer than 10 years, go to your surgeon and have it x-rayed.

Ray's knee actually wore out 2 years ago and it was steel on steel and half the replacement metal was already worn off, very dangerous.

He knew about it making noise but didn't want to go to the doctor because he didn't want another surgery and didn't want to have to do therapy. When he started complaining about pain it was time and I called the doctor against his wishes.

His knee was so bad that he was worked in as early as possible.

They last 10-15 years and Ray's was implanted 20 years ago.

Since even our GP didn't know about what the noise meant I wanted to let others know. Surgery and/or therapy is better than losing the leg to metal shavings poisoning.

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FLORIDA-BISHOP 2/28/2009 11:52AM

    Hope he's going to be ok now.
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DINA:-) 2/28/2009 2:26AM

    that is so dangerous! i'm glad you called the dr against his wishes before anything really bad happened.

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MARTY19 2/27/2009 7:13PM

    That is a pretty scary notion. Thanks for the heads up.


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CAROL_ 2/27/2009 6:59PM

    Wow! It even SOUNDS painful. Yep, just think of all that stuff in his body. You did the right thing. He is fortunate to have you and fortunate to be doing so well.

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Another Page Two!

Wednesday, February 25, 2009

This has been happening in person, not online. One reason for leaving my ticker with my starting weight has been just for the reasons some of you have stated - I want others to know that nothing is impossible with a little dedication. I am not ashamed of having been 210 lbs, and I am certainly not ashamed of reaching my new lower weight. If I could touch people and magically give them the power to work this program I would. But weight loss takes dedication and some working with the numbers. Just like anything in life, there is give and take. How badly do you want that (fill in the blank) *___ food*, do you want it badly enough to eat soup for dinner? For me that answer was a resounding YES!

Do you want to lose the weight badly enough to get off your butt and walk/exercise? Again, for me it is an easy YES!

I am forever being asked what I eat. For my Spark Buddies, my nutrition tracker is open to the public, you can look and see what I am eating.

"But Linda, can you eat fried chicken and fried catfish?" Yup, I can but I cannot tell you if you will be able to. How important is that fried chicken to you?

I still cannot believe I have pretty much given up the chicken skin! At 100+ calories a pop it just isn't worth the calories when I am trying to lose weight. But on the rare occasion that I just cannot resist it, I eat it and make sure my cardio "pays" for it.

This is called a Lifestyle Change for a reason. There is no magic elixir of life that will make us thinner or healthier - it takes time and some effort.

But you can believe me when I tell you that this is so worth the effort!

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CAROL_ 2/26/2009 1:28AM

    Thanks for your encouraging words. I can't figure out what those peoples' problems are - really quite weird. I don't understand the discussion / those having a problem with, you leaving your starting weight - I'm going to leave my 315 on there. Isn't that the whole point? Isn't it for showing others how far you've come, and for encouraging others coming up behind us that they can do it too? Every goal has a beginning and ending - that's what our starting points are, just a reflection of reality - so their point is? It doesn't need an explanation. Some people will be unhappy with anything and have something negative to say - just ignore them. Someone asks me how much I weigh or height, I'm going to tell them, "I'll tell you if you'll tell me". If they're being rude about it, that is.

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WALKING_GIRL 2/25/2009 9:14PM

    I agree 100% and your living proof!! :-) I know I am going to lose 150 pounds this time all by calories in, calories out. All things in moderation and walking, walking, walking.. :-) ( I love my pedometer and Leslie) (all my sp friends!)

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FORMYDARLINGS 2/25/2009 8:27PM

    Thanks for the boost Linda. I know that I learn something new every day about myself and I sometimes surprise myself. I am working at making walking a regular habit. It just takes time and perserverance. I have lots of both. I'll meet you at the front of the race one day soon,


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JERSEYGIRL24 2/25/2009 6:08PM

    I get a little uncomfortable when people ask me what I eat. I am not following any specific diet (like Weight Watchers). I like to think of it as the common sense diet for life.

I keep fantasizing that I am teaching a weight loss class. This may actually come true on a VERY small scale, as my daughter told me that her boyfriend wants to lose weight, and she told him I would help him. One of the things I keep thinking about is that I imagine people asking things like "Is it ok to eat chocolate?" (or whatever). I think I would tell them, like you, that it may work for me but that doesn't mean it works for everyone. I think I would also tell them that it is not good for you to eat it, but please don't ask me for permission. I am not your mother.

It really sounds like you've got the lifestyle thing figured out pretty well.

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DINA:-) 2/25/2009 5:47PM

    great blog, linda! i like your mentality of "yes, i CAN eat whatever i want, but do i WANT to?"

i'm proud of you for all you've accomplished!

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MARTY19 2/25/2009 11:29AM

    Amen to that my friend. The sucess you achieve completing this journey is well worth the time and effort it takes.
I am a believe in moderation. If I know I can have something if I want it, it seems to lose its appeal.


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SUPREME5 2/25/2009 11:24AM

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FLORIDA-BISHOP 2/25/2009 11:05AM

    I think you're doing terrific. It's all about what matters more to a person.

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Gosh but it's cold outside!

Tuesday, February 24, 2009

Having nothing to do with the title, I am having a pretty good day!

I have been asked by so many people, "what do you weigh now?" And then the general comment is, "I don't even weigh that!"

I don't know what the proper response to that is but I say that I am hearing that a lot these days and then I go on to tell people how short I am.

DH was asked by a few people, "what does Linda weigh now?" followed closely by, "well how heavy was she?"

Is it time for me to answer these people with, "well what do you weigh?"

I think I am dealing with the insecurities of other people here so I am going to just continue to be polite and answer the questions honestly and without sarcasm.

What do you think?

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JERSEYGIRL24 2/25/2009 6:01PM

    I agree, people can be so rude, but in this case it doesn't sound like they intend to be. Maybe answering a question with a question is the way to go. If they ask, "How much do you weigh", try asking them the same question before answering it. If asked how much weight you've lost, maybe just say "a lot".

These things happen outside of the realm of weight loss also. Years ago, I worked with a young woman who desperately wanted to have a baby. After two ectopic pregnancies, it was clear that she would not be able to have children (she subsequently adopted). Our boss was a middle aged single woman who, after telling this girl how sorry she was, said something to her to the effect that her doctor told her that she could have had 10 children if she wanted to! It was extremely rude, but if you knew this woman, I don't think she really meant to get my friend upset.

I've also had a lot of rude comments made to me about my height. I am 5'10", which may not seem super tall these days, but when I was growing up, it was. I don't doubt that a lot of comments were made by cruel kids in an effort to upset me (which they clearly did), but in some cases they were made out of ignorance (like the time someone asked me how tall I was when I was born).

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_VALEO_ 2/25/2009 7:02AM

    What a strange (and rude) question to ask your husband! How comfortable is he being asked that?

I can feel some pangs of jealousy and envy in the "I don't even weigh that!" comment, and also frustration. It's a nonsense to compare our weight to someone else's weight, we all have a different weight history, and a different weight which is right for us. What is important how we feel with ourselves and how healthy we want to be!

Firstly I thought I didn't belong here since I had not "lot of pounds" to lose. I must say that I don't really look at the ticker as I think we're all in the same boat, no matter it's 10lb or 100lb to lose, our goals are the same: feeling good about ourselves, building confidence, and being healthier.

I agree with Mob's comment, members who are struggling with their weight can be intimidated with loss such as yours; IMHO, it should be an inspiration: "you can do it too!"

Just keep on what you're doing: great support and tips!
I hear how you feel when being asked those questions -yes, it can be cold outside! ;), but I'm sure that lots of members ask you these questions without meaning any harm, I'd stay polite too because some members are in great distress.
Then it's up to them (us) to follow the lead of persons who achieved or nearly achieved their goals.

Comment edited on: 2/25/2009 7:07:14 AM

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MOB8/2009 2/24/2009 10:15PM

    You weigh what is right for YOU and only after a lot of very hard work. So just be honest and say "I weigh less than I did and feel GREAT"! They can always look at your ticker! If they want advice, the best I can think of "there are NO shortcuts to this process!"

I try to remember that a lot of folks on here are intimidated by loss such as yours and they're really struggling to hang on. Just be supportive and remind them that we ALL start at a point less than we want to be at, but that's the whole point of Spark People....to get them OUT of their comfort zone and into the place that's right for THEM!

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DINA:-) 2/24/2009 7:57PM

    very good point! it's strange that when people have lost a lot of weight they get asked how much they weigh and weighed, but you would never ask somebody that otherwise. next time you get asked how much you weigh maybe you can respond with "healthy" and see how that goes.


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FLORIDA-BISHOP 2/24/2009 1:55PM

    I think it's normal to ask that when you're on a site like this one. I'm bad about asking what a person weighs now if they don't have a ticker showing and they say that they weighed a lot to start. Maybe I shouldn't.
I think a lot of us tend to compare ourselves with other people around the same height, thinking maybe our weight goal isn't enough, etc. Know what I mean?

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SUPREME5 2/24/2009 12:30PM

    i agree with marty. people are rude and yes we smile as we tell them i know i feel like giving them the butt kick. if they worked as hard as we do to lose this wieght
they would know. some are ginuine in the intrest of how well you look
don't let thier insecurites rub off on you some are just plain jelous so keep up[ the good work and keep doing what your doing
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MARTY19 2/24/2009 11:48AM

    I would continue to be polite and answer the questions if you are comforable with them. Asking them what they way, is an effective way to stop the noseness. LOL
I still think you deserve the gold medal.


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Ray is on the mend and I miss him so!

Friday, February 20, 2009

It looks like Ray will be another week at the hospital. It's difficult to explain but here they have the hospital and a therapy unit attached. So Ray was 3 days in hospital after his surgery and then went to the therapy unit.

I miss him being here by my side but he is doing very well with his physical therapy and the knee is not causing him undue pain.

Dad now has almost 2 weeks of Dialysis under his belt and he noticed yesterday that he is feeling stronger! He had decided the treatments are well worth his time and effort. He even feels like baking again! Cheesecake is his specialty.

I decided that it is time for a cellphone so I am in the process of picking out a phone and a plan. The flat tire on Sunday pushed me over the edge and I now realize that I can really get stuck out on the road and with 2 seniors dependent on me it just isn't fair to worry them so.

So far I am staying on track with my program and even lost a little this week! I broke 135 and today was 134.2! Yahoo!!

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BEFIT014 2/22/2009 8:09PM

    emoticon on the weight loss! You are doing great!

Sorry Ray is still gone but he's healing so that's good!

I just got a cell phone a couple yrs ago. I got a Nokia & buy minutes card. I get a $50.00 Card with 400 minutes. It lasts me about 5 months, usually longer. I just didn't need one more bill each month to pay. I carry it with me but rarely use it. I'm not the 'gotta have my phone' kind of person. But they are handy to have just in case.

And emoticon on being team leader for the new Class Team! Wishing you the best of luck!

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FLORIDA-BISHOP 2/21/2009 9:45AM

    WTG on the weight loss. I agree you do need a cell phone for when out and about. You never know when you'll need help. I don't have one and really should get one myself.

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SUPREME5 2/20/2009 10:45PM

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MOB8/2009 2/20/2009 9:52PM

    You're just now getting a cell phone???? Good grief, woman. Welcome to the 21st century. Seriously, I didn't want one either so my husband gifted me one on Mother's Day a few years ago. I was NOT happy with the gift, but now I'm totally dependent on it. I removed the house phone line a last year.

I'm delighted to hear that Ray continues to mend and I fully understand how strange it is to have our mate in the hospital while we're at home, alone. It just doesn't hit how much they are truly our "other half" until something like this happens. I hope Ray is able to come home soon. And kudos to your dad for taking up his baking again. Dialysis isn't fun, but it sounds like he's benefiting from the treatments.

Keep us all posted and give Ray and your dad my best.

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DINA:-) 2/20/2009 8:16PM

    how on earth have you survived this long without a cell phone?!?! haha- just kidding!

glad to hear both ray and your dad are doing well. how is ray holding up being in the hospital? it must be hard on him too. i hope the week goes by fast and he is home with you before you know it. :)

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CAROL_ 2/20/2009 8:08PM

    I am amazed at the amount of and seriousness of the challenges you constantly deal with, and that you do so well under fire. You are very inspirational!

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MARTY19 2/20/2009 7:50PM

    emoticon Linda. I can't wait until Sunday to see how close I am to you. LOL
I'm sorry Ray has to stay in the hospital but it is probably best for him. He will home soon enough.
I have verizon with my daughter and I have no complaints. But the carrier was her idea. I'm just along for the ride because she demanded I carry one. LOL


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Monday, February 16, 2009

... so I am up 5/10 = 1/2 pound from yesterday! No problem!! Today is another day.

I write this for others struggling to lose a pound. I am human and I make poor choices sometimes. But I cannot live without food and temptations are going to be coming at me for the rest of my life. The Vegetable Sticks are similar to Fish Sticks in that they might be fried, or baked, but there was obviously something holding them together and that was fattening, lol. But oh so tasty! And as my spark-buddies on my last blog pointed out, it was veggies, heheheh. I chose them because I knew the Tilapia is so low in calories!

I looked in the mirror this morning after weighing and you know what? I am still 15 lbs lower than I ever hoped to be.

Yes, I still have loose skin but as DH pointed out (wanted to slap and hug him at the same time) it didn't look any better when the skin was full of fat!

Another day dawns...

(I didn't want to post it but those Vegetable Sticks might have been over 800 calories! But they still tasted good.)

For Gini, these are not in my house. They were an option in the hospital cafeteria and really shouldn't be on the dinner bar. Believe me, I had no idea each stick would be 100-125 calories and never more will they grace my plate. But now you know why I was berating myself a bit. Still ok, we are allowed to make poor choices once in a while.

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CAROL_ 2/17/2009 2:48AM

    Wow, I'm going to remember that. I might need that in the future. "It didn't look any better when it was full of fat".

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FORMYDARLINGS 2/16/2009 8:02PM

    OK YOU. Those aren't veggie sticks , they're artery busters and big butt adders. No more of those , ever!! Why were they in your house? Here I was feeling so proud of you for being soooo good and worrying about veggie sticks. You tricked me. Fool me once.....LOL

Your day seems to have leveled out after a shakey start. Good reasoning though. Temptation will always be there. You make so many good choices that a little sidestep Won't feel like more than a whisper. Carry on my friend. You are rockin'!!!!!

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LKOPACK 2/16/2009 12:34PM

    I am glad that I am not the only one that has slip ups from time to time
:( However, today is another day to stay within the zone. Thanks for the insight on the skin. Laura K.

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DINA:-) 2/16/2009 11:37AM

    i am worried about loose skin... i can already see it in my thighs and tummy... but like your insightful DH said, it could be worse!

i think you may be reading too much into that 1/2 lb- remember your body weight fluctuates all the time... and i don't think 800 calories can make you gain a 1/2 lb considering there are 3500 calories in a lb and you would have had to have a calorie deficit of -1750 calories :-) i would guess that it could attributed to retaining water if those veggie stick were high in sodium.

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SUPREME5 2/16/2009 11:34AM

    you are still 15 lbs lighter emoticon
yes you may have loose skin but oh the work you put into it to get there.
you go girl

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MARTY19 2/16/2009 9:27AM

    Thanks for the chuckle on the loose skin. On the highway mear my home is a sign that says - modern lipo - finishes what dieting can't. Now I will think of you every time I pass it. My skin is loose but it is better than having it filled with fat.
I wouldn't worry about .5 pounds. You'll have it off in no time. Hospital food is not the best but Ray will be home soon and things will settle down.


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HPLANDER 2/16/2009 9:20AM

    You are very inspirational. I too struggle sometimes with poor choices, but this morning I actually made myself be good (lol).

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