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This has been happening in person, not online. One reason for leaving my ticker with my starting weight has been just for the reasons some of you have stated - I want others to know that nothing is impossible with a little dedication. I am not ashamed of having been 210 lbs, and I am certainly not ashamed of reaching my new lower weight. If I could touch people and magically give them the power to work this program I would. But weight loss takes dedication and some working with the numbers. Just like anything in life, there is give and take. How badly do you want that (fill in the blank) *___ food*, do you want it badly enough to eat soup for dinner? For me that answer was a resounding YES! 
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CAROL_
2/26/2009 1:28AM
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Thanks for your encouraging words. I can't figure out what those peoples' problems are - really quite weird. I don't understand the discussion / those having a problem with, you leaving your starting weight - I'm going to leave my 315 on there. Isn't that the whole point? Isn't it for showing others how far you've come, and for encouraging others coming up behind us that they can do it too? Every goal has a beginning and ending - that's what our starting points are, just a reflection of reality - so their point is? It doesn't need an explanation. Some people will be unhappy with anything and have something negative to say - just ignore them. Someone asks me how much I weigh or height, I'm going to tell them, "I'll tell you if you'll tell me". If they're being rude about it, that is.
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WALKING_GIRL
2/25/2009 9:14PM
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I agree 100% and your living proof!! :-) I know I am going to lose 150 pounds this time all by calories in, calories out. All things in moderation and walking, walking, walking.. :-) ( I love my pedometer and Leslie) (all my sp friends!)
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GINILEE4
2/25/2009 8:27PM
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Thanks for the boost Linda. I know that I learn something new every day about myself and I sometimes surprise myself. I am working at making walking a regular habit. It just takes time and perserverance. I have lots of both. I'll meet you at the front of the race one day soon, Gini Report Inappropriate Comment |
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JERSEYGIRL24
2/25/2009 6:08PM
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I get a little uncomfortable when people ask me what I eat. I am not following any specific diet (like Weight Watchers). I like to think of it as the common sense diet for life. I keep fantasizing that I am teaching a weight loss class. This may actually come true on a VERY small scale, as my daughter told me that her boyfriend wants to lose weight, and she told him I would help him. One of the things I keep thinking about is that I imagine people asking things like "Is it ok to eat chocolate?" (or whatever). I think I would tell them, like you, that it may work for me but that doesn't mean it works for everyone. I think I would also tell them that it is not good for you to eat it, but please don't ask me for permission. I am not your mother. It really sounds like you've got the lifestyle thing figured out pretty well. Report Inappropriate Comment |
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DINA:-)
2/25/2009 5:47PM
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great blog, linda! i like your mentality of "yes, i CAN eat whatever i want, but do i WANT to?" i'm proud of you for all you've accomplished! Report Inappropriate Comment |
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MARTY19
2/25/2009 11:29AM
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Amen to that my friend. The sucess you achieve completing this journey is well worth the time and effort it takes. I am a believe in moderation. If I know I can have something if I want it, it seems to lose its appeal. Marty Report Inappropriate Comment |
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SUPREME5
2/25/2009 11:24AM
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YOUR STILL A GREAT INSPIRERATION TO US ALL .ANOUTHER GOOD BLOG. THANK YOU DORENE 
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FLORIDA-BISHOP
2/25/2009 11:05AM
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I think you're doing terrific. It's all about what matters more to a person. Vicki Report Inappropriate Comment |
Having nothing to do with the title, I am having a pretty good day!
I have been asked by so many people, "what do you weigh now?" And then the general comment is, "I don't even weigh that!"
I don't know what the proper response to that is but I say that I am hearing that a lot these days and then I go on to tell people how short I am.
DH was asked by a few people, "what does Linda weigh now?" followed closely by, "well how heavy was she?"
Is it time for me to answer these people with, "well what do you weigh?"
I think I am dealing with the insecurities of other people here so I am going to just continue to be polite and answer the questions honestly and without sarcasm.
What do you think?
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JERSEYGIRL24
2/25/2009 6:01PM
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I agree, people can be so rude, but in this case it doesn't sound like they intend to be. Maybe answering a question with a question is the way to go. If they ask, "How much do you weigh", try asking them the same question before answering it. If asked how much weight you've lost, maybe just say "a lot". These things happen outside of the realm of weight loss also. Years ago, I worked with a young woman who desperately wanted to have a baby. After two ectopic pregnancies, it was clear that she would not be able to have children (she subsequently adopted). Our boss was a middle aged single woman who, after telling this girl how sorry she was, said something to her to the effect that her doctor told her that she could have had 10 children if she wanted to! It was extremely rude, but if you knew this woman, I don't think she really meant to get my friend upset. I've also had a lot of rude comments made to me about my height. I am 5'10", which may not seem super tall these days, but when I was growing up, it was. I don't doubt that a lot of comments were made by cruel kids in an effort to upset me (which they clearly did), but in some cases they were made out of ignorance (like the time someone asked me how tall I was when I was born). Report Inappropriate Comment |
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MIKIIO
2/25/2009 7:02AM
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What a strange (and rude) question to ask your husband! How comfortable is he being asked that? I can feel some pangs of jealousy and envy in the "I don't even weigh that!" comment, and also frustration. It's a nonsense to compare our weight to someone else's weight, we all have a different weight history, and a different weight which is right for us. What is important how we feel with ourselves and how healthy we want to be! Firstly I thought I didn't belong here since I had not "lot of pounds" to lose. I must say that I don't really look at the ticker as I think we're all in the same boat, no matter it's 10lb or 100lb to lose, our goals are the same: feeling good about ourselves, building confidence, and being healthier. I agree with Mob's comment, members who are struggling with their weight can be intimidated with loss such as yours; IMHO, it should be an inspiration: "you can do it too!" Just keep on what you're doing: great support and tips! I hear how you feel when being asked those questions -yes, it can be cold outside! ;), but I'm sure that lots of members ask you these questions without meaning any harm, I'd stay polite too because some members are in great distress. Then it's up to them (us) to follow the lead of persons who achieved or nearly achieved their goals. Comment edited on: 2/25/2009 7:07:14 AM Report Inappropriate Comment |
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MOB8/2009
2/24/2009 10:15PM
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You weigh what is right for YOU and only after a lot of very hard work. So just be honest and say "I weigh less than I did and feel GREAT"! They can always look at your ticker! If they want advice, the best I can think of "there are NO shortcuts to this process!" I try to remember that a lot of folks on here are intimidated by loss such as yours and they're really struggling to hang on. Just be supportive and remind them that we ALL start at a point less than we want to be at, but that's the whole point of Spark People....to get them OUT of their comfort zone and into the place that's right for THEM! Report Inappropriate Comment |
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DINA:-)
2/24/2009 7:57PM
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very good point! it's strange that when people have lost a lot of weight they get asked how much they weigh and weighed, but you would never ask somebody that otherwise. next time you get asked how much you weigh maybe you can respond with "healthy" and see how that goes. 
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FLORIDA-BISHOP
2/24/2009 1:55PM
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I think it's normal to ask that when you're on a site like this one. I'm bad about asking what a person weighs now if they don't have a ticker showing and they say that they weighed a lot to start. Maybe I shouldn't. I think a lot of us tend to compare ourselves with other people around the same height, thinking maybe our weight goal isn't enough, etc. Know what I mean? Vicki Report Inappropriate Comment |
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SUPREME5
2/24/2009 12:30PM
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i agree with marty. people are rude and yes we smile as we tell them i know i feel like giving them the butt kick. if they worked as hard as we do to lose this wieght they would know. some are ginuine in the intrest of how well you look don't let thier insecurites rub off on you some are just plain jelous so keep up[ the good work and keep doing what your doing dorene
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MARTY19
2/24/2009 11:48AM
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I would continue to be polite and answer the questions if you are comforable with them. Asking them what they way, is an effective way to stop the noseness. LOL I still think you deserve the gold medal. Hugs, Marty Report Inappropriate Comment |
