Monday, February 15, 2010
I am working on a paper, due tonight by 7:00 PM...what is wrong with this picture!?
I can not work unless it is under pressure, need to work on this!!
Have a beautiful day everyone, as I vanish to work on my assignment!
God bless and keep SPARKling!!
Friday, February 12, 2010
Lots of school work to do from this week until Monday's class--PPT Matrix, readings, class tomorrow, readings, paper writing-due for Monday's class have me not on SparkPeople for the most part--this weekend.
May your weekend inspire you in many ways, invigorate you within and out--spring is nearly here and energy always goes up for me--and for thee as well-my prayer for all.
Warm sister-spark hugz to all,
Thursday, February 11, 2010
I worked on my assignment for my theories class--lots to do still! I will be busy today between school work and playing with Spencer--oh and I can not forget during my break--facebook, light cleaning, a load of laundry, talking to my mother who calls numerous times a day (gigglesss sound familiar?), and decide what to make for dinner. Seems like an easy day right??? HAHAHA...a woman's work is NEVER done! We all have roles in life that tug at our time. I am a mother, grandmother, wife, student, sister, daughter, and more...each role comes with a list of to do's....much like a honey do list...let us never forget that our most important role, since birth--is daughter of a King...
This princess is off to attack her to do list, with the focus in mine not of this world, but the hereafter--an inheritance worth all the tasks on this earth......
God bless all your goings and comings~
Tuesday, February 09, 2010
I am blessed with a husband who has always been comfy with me just "being me." I am very eccentric and eclectic in my tastes of everything. We have common goals in our marriage of 4 years, but we also have independent ones as well--we take time to be who we are--and not who we think we are expected to be. We rationalize many times ways to please our husbands and I believe husbands do the same (but they often get more frustrated and give up thinking about it). Men have basic needs and when they are fulfilled, I believe they can truly be themselves in a positive way that affects everyone in a likewise positive way. Men have more "ego" than we do as a rule, thanks to testosterone...and if their ego is stroked each day--they will just work harder for you. I remember that old saying, getting more bees with honey...some might think this is old-fashioned thinking but really it is simple and basic truth and why not make it work for our benefit I say, gigglessssss. When I email my beloved in the morning at work, I make sure I let him know that I love him more that moment than all past...lots of OOOO's and XXXXXX's fortify this thought...men are not only visual, they are mentally stimulated as well and this often is more intense and enlightening to keep in our little bag of "good wife" tricks. If I receive a great email back--in large bold print, and smiley emoticons all over the page I know I elicited a great response in him that will carry him through the day. Sometimes he emails me first--really this is what we want them to start doing and by developing this further--we will find that they glide through their day, able to cope with stress or non-stressful work days. He always comes home with the memory of loving emails in his mind...and the rewards are plenty. This is good advice, men crave this from women, positive regard, reinforcement, and all centered on feelings that we sometimes stuff inside (either too shy, mad or sad about something, etc). Men have been known to carry on with "online affairs" with women just as a way to have their ego stroked...sometimes it carries over to real life affairs. I say, we have power ladies--and can bring men to their knees (in a good way--) and once there, they will treat us like the queens we are meant to be in our castle home. I stopped my husband in his tracks one day and he melted like butter--he was mad at someone at work, carried all day around and never shared it with me in email or when we spoke on his lunch break. When he walked in--I asked him how his day was--he started to launch into a huge diatribe about how the day sucked just because of this one individual who got on his nerves and others as well, this snowballed into the entire office being in a bad mood--now my lovely emails to him did get him through the day and I had no idea that he had to get through it all while everyone "stewed." I put my hand up and with a really sweet smile...said to him...Eric, the green in your eyes really lights up when you are fired up...I love your eyes.....he stopped immediately and gave me a huge hug, I could literally feel the stress melting away, he was like butter....I stepped back and asked him to continue and he told me he really felt a weight lifted and his anger just evaporated--he said, "ya know, this guy is probably frustrated too--lots of responsibility was recently dumped on him--
He was able to focus, using empathy, on the other guy's possible office stress--and saw another side of this anger/issue at work. Through that week he told me he was looking at him in a different light and was able to ask him--when he started to get on his nerves--if he was ok, did he need some help with a project...and this in turn had this guy in a much lighter mood with everyone--so little things build people up and little things tear them down--taking manageable bites out of a situation may save overindulgence in negative patterns of behavior related to everyone around us--again, keeping the king of the castle happy, really ensures we are happy too--haha this is why God probably created Eve....hmmm food for thought. So try it and see if this works, give it time--a few weeks--a stroke at a time...ego- building may not happen overnight especially if ego-tearing down was the paradigm in your home or even in a previous marriage...men are really little boys inside, who need to feel loved...it is a rare man who will not respond to this way of living...and if you did your homework before marrying, you should have avoided this type of narcissistic fellow anyway...
Spark hugs and God bless,
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