Saturday, November 16, 2013
We're told by fitness experts to not make too many rules in our health plans. We're told that too many rules will cause binges or cause us to sabotage ourselves.
We're told to be strong on our plan but also relaxed enough with the rules to enjoy life.
That might work for most people but it doesn't work for me.
I needed to open my eyes and realize that the tips for success that work for many people don't work for me.
As an example: I'm trying to stay with clean eating. No boxed foods, no preservatives, nothing with more then 7 ingredients and I have to know what those ingredients are. Since I'm just starting out in this way of life I decided to go for the 80/20 rule. As long as I eat clean 80% of the time everything is good and I'm successful. But that wasn't true at all. I used that 20% every weekend to eat junk food and fast food. I ordered pizzas, went to Culvers for cheeseburgers, cheese curds and chocolate concretes, basically ate and drank whatever I wanted. Weekends became my twenty percent. The problem is on Monday the scale would be back up and I would have to lose extra weight that week so I didn't have a gain. It was a crazy roller coaster ride with the scale.
The 80/20 rule might work for a lot of other people but I need more structure and more rules.
I do much better on my health plan the MORE rules I have.
I have to have a rule for every scenario possible. If I don't have a rule, I will let the old me out to have her fun.
This morning I got up and started writing my rules. They're in a notebook that I will carry in my purse. I will also print them out and put them on the fridge.
Some of the rules are basic ideas that we all know to do when trying to lose weight or get healthy; like taking healthy snacks when we go somewhere.
For me, knowing something and doing it are two very different things. In order to do it I MUST have a rule for it. It's a mind thing. I guess my mind likes to follow rules and doesn't like a lot of freedom. For me, freedom equals sabotage. Freedom equals food and lots of it. Freedom gives me an out. It's just a fact that in order to get healthy I cant have much freedom.
Here are some of my new rules:
1- Put on my workout clothes AND shoes first thing in the morning, 6 days a week. (If I put on my workout clothes but not my shoes, I will eventually take off the workout clothes without working out. So I Had to put the shoes into the rule)
2- Take healthy snacks and water with me when I go anywhere.
3- If I'm going to be gone for awhile take a healthy meal with me.
4- On weekends I can have a carton of light iced coffee or a 12 pack of diet soda but NOT both. (When I have both it makes me think that weekends are free to do as I please)
5- I will check the nutrition information online for fast food joints and restaurants then write down the healthiest choices they have. I'll carry that information with me so that if I end up at one of those places I will only order what's in my book.
More rules will be added to these. The fact is I AM different. I NEED a lot of rules to make this work.
Rules rule my healthy universe.
The point of this blog is to let you know that not all the success tips work for all of us. If they don't work for you, quit trying to make them fit you and find your own personal success secrets. Make the health plan fit you, not the other way around.
Now I'm off for my Saturday morning workout.
Have a sparkling day my lovely friends.
Friday, November 08, 2013
I'm a homemaker and an artist. I'm home most of the time. Usually when I go out it's to buy groceries or see the doctor. Jeez, that really makes it sound like I don't have a life at all. Hey, I do go walking outside so that's something. LOL
Today was one of those days I left the house. On my way home my mind started it's normal chit chat with me. My mind is a lovely, smart being who is also obsessed with junk food. Cheap Christmas sugar cookies, vanilla eggnog, donuts and fast food are my downfalls.
On the way home my mind decided to start telling me that it wanted Culvers for lunch. "Oh we'll behave" it said.
"Okaaaaaaay, ummm how do we behave at Culvers?" I asked.
"We'll just have a plain double cheeseburger and a small chocolate concrete. See, that's behaving"
As I mentioned, my mind is very smart, but its also VERY good at manipulation.
I told my mind that we'll go to the store first. Maybe the store would have some junk food that's just as good, but not as many calories. If not, I'll get some cash and go get Culvers.... (That's me manipulating my mind in response to it manipulating me)
In the store my mind said "Hey, lets get a sandwich from the deli. One with lunch meat, cheese and a big chunk of Italian bread. Mmmmmm, bread!!! We haven't had anything except whole wheat and multi-grain bread in so long."
I replied (Not out loud. That would have looked bad) "That sounds good but it's chilly outside so how about something hot?"
My mind got excited and cried out "PIZZA" which is another food that I don't stop eating once I start.
My mind was totally beating me up today and pushing every button for junk food with lots and lots of calories.
But, after many bruises and punches, I finally managed a major compromise with my mind...
I bought an Amys organic Tortilla Pie with black beans frozen meal.
It's spicy and flavorful, less then 400 calories and organic. Yeah, its not the best choice in the world but its better then the gazillion calories and grease I would have eaten at Culvers.
The fact is I go through this manipulation EVERY single time I leave the house. I would love to say that I come out on top and beat my minds manipulation all the time but there are days when it's far smarter and more manipulative then I can handle.
Today was a good day. I won the battle. I take great pleasure when this happens and I'm thankful for every time I manage to out-manipulate my mind.
If I can do this 80-90% of the time I consider myself a success.
That's it from me. I just wanted to share my day with you and let you know that we can all beat the manipulative mind games that we play.
Have a Spartacular day!
Saturday, October 26, 2013
I've decided to start practicing Being in the Moment.
It's not as easy as it sounds but I'm making progress.
When I sit down to eat dinner with hubby at night it takes me twice as long to finish my meal. I've slowed down my eating habits. I now chew and focus on the food in my mouth. I feel the texture, taste all the different flavors coming through, make sure it's fully chewed before swallowing.
Do you know what I've learned since I started doing this?
Food tastes good. It has so many different spices and flavors popping all at once. It has a lot more punch to it then I ever knew. Healthy foods have started to taste good because I'm actually taking the time to taste them. It's amazing!
I also spend my time "In the Moment" when I take a shower. Instead of showering quickly while my mind is on the things I have yet to do, I take a long shower. I focus on the water hitting my head and shoulders. I feel the hot water running down my body. I notice how much the soap lathers and what it smells like. I notice how soft my skin is as I rinse off.
I consider my showers to be treatments in self love now.
When walking I always took my MP3 player with me. I'd stick in the ear buds and off I'd go, walking in my own little world. I no longer do that. Now I leave the MP3 player at home and I notice things around me. The sound of the leaves blowing across the sidewalk, the sound of traffic in the distance, the patterns on the trunks of tress, how the temperature changes when the sun goes behind a cloud, the smell of the air around me.
Did you know that the smell of the air changes depending on the temperature? Fall air has a cool, crisp, refreshing scent to it.
I find that my mind starts to wonder when I'm on my walk to household chores, art to be made, Spark things to do, etc. I always pull myself back by closing my eyes and focusing on my breathing and footsteps. I open my eyes and feel the muscles moving in my legs and the muscles tightening in my rear. Then I go back to looking at the world around me.
I've noticed such a big difference in my life since I started doing this. I seem to be more attuned to everything around me. Even making the bed has become something almost magical. Its like my eyes and ears have been opened.
The only problem I've found with this "in the moment" living is I also notice the aches and pains more then I did before. But I figure that's part of it. So I go ahead and focus on the pain, feel the pain, and then I know what areas of my body are weak and need to be tended to. I now listen to my body and don't push certain areas too hard while torturing other areas.
I plan on taking my camera with me when I walk now. That will help me focus even more. It will cause to be notice even smaller details. And to top it off I'll have pictures of my walk and be able to look back at the way the world changes around me.
All in all, good and bad, I would highly recommend Living in the Moment.
Friday, October 25, 2013
One "rule" of losing weight and getting healthier is not to reward yourself with food.
Personally I don't think it is quite as black and white as that.
Lets take my day as an example:
I went grocery shopping and filled my cart with fresh produce and clean foods.
I also threw in my favorite treat; A carton of 100 calorie Iced Coffee.
My plan was to come home, put groceries away, pour myself a glass of iced coffee and go play in my art studio.
You don't see any mention of exercise in there, do you?
That's the way my days usually go. I come up with a million reasons not to exercise. I need a push. I need motivation.
Getting healthier is not good motivation for me when I'm feeling lazy and coming up with my excuses. Fact is, when I don't want to exercise, I just tell myself I don't care if I get healthy or lose weight. I just want to enjoy my life.
I could tell myself that I'll look better, I'll feel better, I can buy sexy clothes, I'll be so proud, blah, blah, blah...
What I hear out of all that is the blah, blah, blah part....
What did I do to handle my exercise laziness today? I told myself I could NOT have my iced coffee until I went for a walk.
So, is that motivation or a reward?
While I was out walking, my mind started it's evil self talk.
It said to itself, "I'll just walk around the block and then I'll go home and have my iced coffee."
Logical me said that wasn't good enough. That would have been cheating in this mind game I play.
Instead I told myself I had to walk as far as I normally do or I could shave off the one extra block if I took the Hill of Doom home.
I chose the Hill of Doom which I never take because that hill is pure physical torture.
Again I ask, is that iced coffee motivation or reward?
This game I play cannot be played if I chose a double cheeseburger, onion rings and a chocolate shake as my motivation. The only way I could burn off those calories is if I walked a gazillion miles. That's not happening.
So, in my esteemed opinion, if the treat is low in calories and it gets me off my butt and burning more calories then what that item is, I consider that motivation.
I could be wrong since the experts disagree with me. But until the experts come up with something not food related to make me Want to exercise and to push myself a bit farther, I'll stick with my misguided thinking and keep playing the game.
Have a sparktacular day!!!!
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