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Clothes Shopping....Oh My!!

Wednesday, August 27, 2014

It used to be so much fun when I was a REAL size 2! Now I'm a Chico's size 2 and it ain't pretty.

I've been shopping mostly at Goodwill for clothes the last two years so I've been a bit out of touch with "real" retail clothing. Last summer I did find some petites on reduced and reduced some more sale at Dillard's but I did my usual denial trick and bought them a size smaller thinking....come on now you know what I was thinking. emoticon SIGH. Sad but true.

Now that we're leaving in three weeks I've had the sudden urge to look presentable again. OK I've been presentable but now I want to look shockingly awesome. (HA too late LOL!!) So I've gone back to my old haunt Chico's that has vanity sizing~ 0, 1, 2, 3, 4 covers everything from tiny to voluptuous~ and there I'm a size 2 again. The clothes are cute and casual (or can be dressier) and they travel well. They can be a bit blingy with energetic patterns, so I try to find subtle for the most part. Their prices can be high but there have been my favorite word- SALES- lately closing out Summer items. Yay! Being 5 feet tall can have its advantages when the close-out ankle pants are full length.

I've been finding my best deals online at 3:00 in the morning. I've never ever been one to get much sleep and I just cannot nap during the day. I may drag around but I just can't lie down. So on those nights that seem endless when I'm wide awake, I've been creeping up and have once again discovered the art of Black Belt Shopping. (I'm a reformed shop-a-holic- 30 years in recovery now!!) I've been getting $109.00 jackets for 22 bucks, $50.00 necklaces for 8 bucks, and $79.00 jeans for $27.00. Because I'm no longer in denial (kind of gripes me sometimes lol) I've been ordering my correct size and when I receive them they FIT. What a concept. The local store has had some sales but not as good as the middle-of-the-night- I- got-the-last-one-in-stock-deals. My husband, always the practical one, wonders why in the heck they don't just price the items more reasonably to begin with. emoticon Good question!

I've been up since 3:30 this morning and placed my last order. I missed out on an $8.00 goldtone shell necklace darn it. Was in my basket and by the time I checked out it was sold out. Oh well- some other nice insomniac lady will enjoy wearing it, right!? emoticon

So in the midst of all the changes and packing and still working on weight loss I am feeling good at *this* size about how presentable I will be both on the road and after we arrive and go house hunting. Actually I've already started wearing the outfits and the neighbors must wonder what happened to my old black pants!! I've always been one to take care of my appearance but for these past two years we've been retired and I've just not wanted to get decent clothes at *this* size. I didn't mind buying them too small for "later"! Now I see how misguided that thinking was.

In spite of all of this I was still able to sort through my things and get a gigantic Bed-Bath-and-Beyond bag stuffed with clothes to donate. Many of them ridiculously too small and brand new. I kept the size 10's and 12's (I'm a 14 petite right now) and a few 8's that didn't look tiny. NO more getting anything that doesn't fit *now*~ and I DO plan on (well~ AM) going down down down in sizes. The jackets I'm buying now will fit for at least 1 or 2 more sizes down, and even the pants I can belt up and make last longer. So no more telling myself it's a waste to get decent clothes now! emoticon emoticon

Many of my friends here are at goal or close to it, or several sizes down. I'm sure you've gone through many stages of ecstasy and agony along the way. Don't we just want to move to one of those "colonies" sometimes and be done with it all!? emoticon emoticon

Thanks for keeping me company on a long night~ have a good goal day and stay on track! emoticon

  
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ROCKYCPA 8/28/2014 9:39PM

    Love that you are up in the middle of the night shopping for bargains and find them!

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MEXGAL1 8/28/2014 8:32PM

    so glad that I am not usually awake at 3;30. I hear you about the clothing size. I was a 2 but put 5 pounds on my small frame recently so not sure what size I am now. I am wearing Mexican elastic waist skirts. I still hope to get those five pounds off again. Not sure I will get there but better or I have to buy new clothes.
cheers
Sallie

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DIBANANA 8/27/2014 8:34PM

  I'm petite but alas not a size 2! Congrats. I'm sure you will look lovely

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1BEACHWALKER 8/27/2014 4:06PM

    Wonder what happened to the 1/2 sizes from way back when?! I get so frustrated shopping. Some fit some don't at my size now! More so don't fit, too big and too tight the next size down. You do great finding those deals!! Good for you! Good luck on your move! I assume the house has closed and all is well?! I am so happy for you! Glad it sold so fast! I can only hope that happens for us in the future! emoticon

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MICKEYH 8/27/2014 2:29PM

    I'm shorty too. So I can understand what you said about " the close-out ankle pants are full length." Lol)). That is Another reason I like to shop in thrift store is that they are already alter the length of pants for me. ( smile) I be came very good at shop at goodwill and Salvation Army. I hope I'm not thrift store junky. (Lol))) good luck on your moving!

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DS9KIE 8/27/2014 1:23PM

    its funny how you can shop for bargains in your PJs ...lol

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PROJECTLORNA 8/27/2014 12:25PM

    Good for you on the sizing. We don't have a Chico's around here so I still shop thrift stores. Although I did find two pair of pants at Kmart for $8.00.Did you talk to your doctor about the sleep problem? I did and he has helped me tremendously by prescribing an antidepressant which works also for sleeping. I wake refreshed now each and every morning. After I finish sparking I am going for a walk. emoticon

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NHES220 8/27/2014 11:41AM

    I love Chico's stuff. I had a suit from there that I loved and grew out of, but I kept it and eventually got back into it. Good for you for finding the bargains!

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ALIIDA 8/27/2014 11:27AM

    It sounds as if you're getting comfortable with your clothing size. That's great!

I wish clothes were a bit more blingy here. For my age group, it tends to be all frump frump frump. Designer stuff looks great, but I would have to be very rich and very skinny.

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NORAM66 8/27/2014 10:38AM

    Greetings fellow nightowl and online bargain shopper! I applaud your upbeat point of view on your wardrobe. I just bought two pairs of Gloria Vanderbilt jeans in a smaller size for $14.99 at Costco. They not only fit like a dream but they come in Short! Lee jeans and these GV's are two brands that come in short lengths that are just perfect for me. I wish I had your gift for selecting jewelry. I wear very little mostly because I don't know what necklace would look good with something. I need a personal assistant. Not being in denial about size is scary and also liberating. Packing up perfectly good or new (with tags) clothing in sizes that are out of the realm of possibility frees up space for great new bargains that do or will reasonably soon fit. I am excited for you in getting some new things you like for your wardrobe. I agree about Chico's and tend to be attracted to the less blingy offerings. Have a wonderful day! Hugs!!

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TERI-RIFIC 8/27/2014 10:09AM

    I think it is a great motivation and encouragement to look good right where you are and not "wait until " whatever. It sounds like you got fantastic deals. I'm sure you look fabulous! I am not a shopper. I would gladly let you shop for me. I need some better fitting clothes for "right now". I'm not waiting for any perfect weight or time - I just don't want to go to the store.

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1CRAZYDOG 8/27/2014 9:53AM

    I'd be dead if I got up @ 3:30 am. Now that is coming from me who is up @ 4 am BWAHAHAHAHAHA

You've got your ducks in a row and as always, wish you luck with your move!

HUGS

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Walk On...

Monday, August 25, 2014

My favorite Aunt had a funny story about when she was pregnant with her first born- my cousin Doug. Auntie Helen was way far along~ big as a house she said~ and had been downtown shopping. As she crossed the street to head toward her car, she felt something slipping half-way through the cross walk. Frugal at the time, she was wearing stretched-out undies and yep the waist band gave way. As her panties slowly fell down, she said she simply let them fall, stepped out of them (this was back in the day of dresses and no hose) stared straight ahead, and kept on walking. She wasn't humiliated at all. It cracks me up to think of what the next person crossing thought of the stretched out undies lying there.

So what has this got to do with weight loss? WELL! There is a point and I will get to it now. There are all kinds of changes going on in my life right now, and although my underpants haven't fallen down, there have been some things where I've had to focus and just keep on walking. In spite of it all, I am determined to stay on Spark and keep my goals alive. I had been 100% off wheat/ gluten for two months (June and July) and really didn't lose an ounce. (and I didn't replace the wheat with junk either) So I went back on for a few weeks here in August, and sure enough I did gain some back of the few measly pounds I'd gotten rid of, and got the old bloat and gigantic waistline back. So even though the weight doesn't fall off for me, I'm back to wheat/ gluten free and now that my experiment is over I'm not messing with it again.

I refocused my goals into three parts and made sure they had nothing to do with the move we're making, the changes that are happening, etc. I looked straight ahead and picked three things that are important to me: Next April is when have a reunion of sorts (part of the family during their Spring Break) at a beach house we've rented near Charleston, SC for that month. Next my Medicare Birthday (yay!! I'll never be so glad to be a year older as then) in late May- and part three is the end of that same year which is 2015. With all of my weight loss failures, I am still not going to stop trying. When I was first on SP and would see how many years some of the folks had been here with very little results in actual weight loss, it used to make me scratch my head. Now I get it. Some of us are still in the ring, and no we are not lazy, and yes we do have good nutrition and exercise, and no we don't see the same results as some.

Look straight ahead. Let the old stuff fall away- it's of no use. Keep on walking.

Thanks for stopping by~ the support here truly makes a difference and my heart is full from the love and kindness shown. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

  
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1BEACHWALKER 8/27/2014 4:01PM

    Too cute and funny about your aunt Helen! I have an Aunt Helen too, who would have done the same thing...she is a hoot!
We learn as we go! I have tried so many things in 4 years and some worked and some didn't. My husband is now trying gluten free and he is feeling better. So, it may not cause weight loss, but it sure can help you feel better in other ways!
Making goals do work..so keep on going! Glad you are still around SP and blogging with us!! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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SJHARRIS53 8/26/2014 9:45PM

    Sandi, you have gained a great deal of insight during your journey, and are eloquent in your explanation of it. Your post brought a smile to my face, and a feeling of deeper kinship.
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NHES220 8/26/2014 4:53PM

    Love the story about your Aunt! Keep on trucking Sandie!

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ALIIDA 8/26/2014 6:32AM

    It's a great story and a great analogy! Drop the old stuff and keep walking on without embarrassment LOL. Better health is the most important goal IMHO, and you're achieving it.

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LIVINGFREE19 8/25/2014 11:19PM

    Your aunts story was hilarious!

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KANOE10 8/25/2014 10:18PM

    Keep walking my friend. You will do it. You can find a way to your goals at your own pace. It sounds like gluten free works well for you.

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DS9KIE 8/25/2014 9:57PM

    emoticon what a story

great job on the walking

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MEXGAL1 8/25/2014 7:35PM

    I love, love love your Auntie's story and then the way you compared it to your journey,
Thanks for sharing such a great story and your views.
Have a great evening and do keep on sparking!
Sallie

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MICKEYH 8/25/2014 5:52PM

    emoticon emoticon thanks for sharing your Auntie Helen's story. You've made my day! I bet she is the one of auntie every want to have. I'm with you keep on keeping on for our never ending journey. Let's make it joyous one! emoticon emoticon

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THETURTLEBEAR 8/25/2014 3:30PM

    I always get happy when I read your blogs!

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NORAM66 8/25/2014 2:43PM

    "Walk On" is one of my favorite songs by John Hiatt. The story of your aunt is a wonderful analogy. I am finding out time and again how stress/sleep habits play into getting to my weight loss goal. I would imagine that a pending house sale would make for just a little anxiety. You remain true to your goal(s), let go of what does not work for you and keep that forward momentum. You are on the right road and I'm so happy to have met you here!! Good wishes and hugs to you!

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1CRAZYDOG 8/25/2014 2:23PM

    BWAAHAHAHA! Your Auntie has moxie, chuzhpah, courage!!!

You are doing the right thing setting some goals for yourself. Just be kind to yourself. You surely DO have a lot on your plate.

HUGS! Thanks for the story. That made my day!

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COOLRAIN 8/25/2014 1:27PM

    I agree! I used to drop pounds without even trying. Now, I struggle for everyone that comes off. But I'm not giving up either. The support here on SP is great--from the staff to the members. I'm with you! Just keep emoticon . emoticon emoticon emoticon

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TERI-RIFIC 8/25/2014 1:06PM

    There's no shame in keeping on trying!! Quitting is the real problem. Keep on keeping on. Another Spark friend of mine has a saying ... history is not destiny. You've accomplished a lot. Just start from where you are and re-energize. The last time I got off track I quit SP and re-gained 30 pounds. I'm 20 pounds lower than the previous low. So history is not destiny - persistence is more important than perfection. Good for you for staying positive and. Looking forward!! emoticon emoticon

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SUSANNAH31 8/25/2014 12:21PM

    Some of us here have made lots of real changes in our lives to be able to lose and keep the weight off.
And it took a long time. It involved steps and missteps along the way.
Those of us who stay - who persevere in spite of the disappointments- are the real winners.
We have learned the lessons - and we will ultimately be successful in reaching our goals.
You are one of us.
How fortunate we are for having all the support and generosity of our SP friends.

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This Sure Felt Good!

Monday, June 30, 2014

My son surprised me with a phone call earlier this morning. He lives back East and we don't chat on the phone a lot so it's always nice to see "Scott" on caller ID. He said- Mom I'm in a class (for work) this morning and we made a Gratitude List of people in our lives earlier today. They just told us to call the first person on the list so I am. My list had #1: My loving and supportive Mom.

Wow. This Mom doesn't hear stuff like that from her grown kid much. Sure made me feel good. He and I have been through thick and thin together. (literally- I have been both small and large lol) It wasn't always easy for a girly-girl like me to be raising a boy by myself through his teen-age years, especially after all we'd been through from other people. We survived and he became a very independent, kind and good man. He's taught me a lot. What an unexpected gift this morning held.

He's the one at the head of the conga line on my Spark Page. I was going to upload it here but couldn't get it to work. (he would roll his eyes over that one LOL) This made me think- I'm going to surprise someone with an unexpected thank-you myself. Making a gratitude list of my own and following through. Sometimes blessings are just so........contagious!

We share some parts of our weight loss journey here, as well as our everyday ups and downs. Life is all of it- but this one little piece- this slice- this is sunshine and hearts. emoticon emoticon Thanks for indulging this Mom by sharing my moment. emoticon

  
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JAVAGAL47 7/3/2014 5:19PM

    That truly was a blessing, we don't always get to hear how our kids feel about us. It was nice of you to share this with us. your Spark friend, Betty emoticon emoticon it sure shows that you raised him right. emoticon

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MICKEYH 7/1/2014 3:52PM

    Wow, thank you so much for sharing heart warming blog. I am so happy for you and what a sweetie is your son. You deserved all he had tell you. And he is really appreciate all you've done to help become such a nice young man. emoticon emoticon

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NORAM66 7/1/2014 10:22AM

    This is so heart-warming. I really like this idea of gratitude, being conscious of those around me who make my life better for being in it and for being in my corner. How much better it is to let these people know what they mean to me as opposed to just thinking it. I am so happy for both you and your son that you are at this place in your lives.

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KANOE10 7/1/2014 9:43AM

    That is so sweet. You are a great mom and your son appreciates you. That is a special gift for the day.

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SJHARRIS53 7/1/2014 8:16AM

    Parenting children isn't easy even when both parents do it together, so kudos to you for obviously doing such a good job solo.

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RHOOK20047 7/1/2014 8:05AM

    Welcome to SparkPeople. Being appreciated by our younguns is a great reward for all the trials we go through as parents. And the reward at the end is the adult we create as we form them through those trying teen years. We are all here for the same reason, no matter what our personal story is. We are here to help each other to get to that healthy point we want to be in our lives. It is not going to be easy, but it is attainable. I have found that changing things up is the way to start weight loss. Make small goals and they will lead to big successes. Welcome and get active on this site. emoticon

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WILSONWR 7/1/2014 7:47AM

    There is nothing more special than hearing those words from your grown kids. After my wife passed away, my daughter told me that I was the greatest inspiration in her life - that I could do anything I set my mind to do. She now has a PhD and just took a great job in Hawaii! (Today is her first day at work.) Those type of statements really do make you feel great. Enjoy the moment!

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1BEACHWALKER 6/30/2014 11:21PM

    How sweet! Glad he did that for his special Mom!

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SUEPERWOMAN 6/30/2014 8:58PM

 
So very sweet!!! I am happy for you, Queenie!

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DWROBERGE 6/30/2014 8:10PM

    Keep focused for success.

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GLORY63 6/30/2014 7:13PM

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Those are moments to enjoy!

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GRACEOMALLEY 6/30/2014 6:59PM

    That was excellent - for him and for you! Thanks so much for sharing that ray of sunshine!
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TERI-RIFIC 6/30/2014 6:32PM

    What a great moment to be able to share! What a loving son. It made me happy just to read this.

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1CRAZYDOG 6/30/2014 6:23PM

    Total Mom awesomeness! You DS deserves a huge hug . . . virtual or otherwise!

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RAYLINSTEPHENS 6/30/2014 4:39PM

    Wow! How awesome for you!! I can't wait to see the Conga Line!

It's great he reached out to touch YOU today!

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NHES220 6/30/2014 3:53PM

    What a great start to the day! Gotta love it!

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