Saturday, January 30, 2010
I am too tired to write much this evening, but I do want to take the time to thank my Spark Friends who have been so kind responding to my loss of Syd. He was a good man and I will miss him.
My son, Jesse, IS a warm and generous human being, so thank you for commenting on that. He has had a hard time, too, with the loss of three grandparents in as many years. Jesse was a wonderful travel companion on my trips to help out through my father's chemo, and a help with his other grandparents as well.
While it is tough to be with someone when they die, it is also, an a very deep way, an honor to be with someone you love as they make their journey beyond this world. I know this was hard on Jesse, but I also know that he would have regretted not being there for his grandfather when he needed him most.
Again, thank you for your prayers, warm words, and kindness.
Friday, January 29, 2010
My son called me in tears yesterday. His grandfather, my ex-father-in-law, died yesterday morning. I am feeling very sad about this and am worried about my ex-mother-in-law. While I divorced their son, I never divorced them and they have remained part of my family. Syd, who just had his 91st birthday, was diagnosed with lymphoma 2 weeks ago, and last Wednesday, he started his first chemo treatment. It was harder on him than the oncologist anticipated, so they broke the treatment into two parts. half on Wed. and half on Thurs. He seemed tired after that, but nothing out of the ordinary.
Yesterday morning, Bette called my son because Syd had fallen and she couldn't help him. When Jesse arrived, Syd was still lucid, but Jesse couldn't help him up. They called the squad and were told that the squad couldn't get there right away. Next they called the Senior Center, who sent someone right over. Shortly after that, the squad arrived, but it was too late. His heart had already stopped and they could not revive him
In a way, having seen my father through rounds of chemo and radiation, which were both so hard on his aging body, followed by Hospice and death, I think this was not such a horrible thing for Syd. The chemo had already been hard on him, and that was only the first round. Subsequent rounds are even tougher. When he passed away, he was with his wife and grandson, in his own home, with no tubes, respirators, etc. Still, it is sad to have him gone. I wanted to tell my parents so badly, and ended up sobbing and talking to their spirits in the car on my way home after visiting with Bette.
I am worried about Bette; she is so frail and has been dependent on Syd for many things. When my dad died, my mother followed just a couple of weeks later. I found myself going through Bette's house, finding tripping hazards, night lights that needed to be replaced, etc. Before returning home, I went out and bought her a new non-skid bath mat, new bathroom lights and new night lights. It was a fall that killed my mother, and I am so worried about Bette living alone and falling. Jesse is staying with her temporarily. Right now, it is a good thing he is a victim of the jobless rate.
Now my vent:
My ex and his wife are on vacation in Florida, and Jesse has been taking care of their house and business while they are gone. I cannot understand why they didn't come right back when Syd was diagnosed with lymphoma. Overlooking that, I cannot understand why they didn't return for his chemo treatment. But what is stunning, is that they have not even cut their vacation short after Syd died. Jesse and I are there to help Bette, but darn it - it infuriates me that their son is not! I calm myself some by knowing that Bette is in good care with Jesse and try to appreciate the gift my ex has given me of once more reminding me why my decision to extricate myself from that marriage was a good one.
Wednesday, January 27, 2010
I am very happy to report that there was something new in the sky - first a pinky red sunrise, then a blue, blue sky. I haven't seen THAT in a while! It was a very cold morning, but it felt wonderful to see the sun again.
Today was a good day for my step counter feedback. I went for my usual 3 mile walk this morning, but it was for work that the feedback was interesting. Once a month, we like to have multiage activities for the children of the school. The teachers each choose an activity to lead and put up a sign-up sheet for the children so we each do a multiage activity with 1/4 of the children in the school (70 children).
This month, I signed up to do a cupcake decorating activity with the children tomorrow, so cupcakes had to be baked....
No problem -
Great vegan cupcake recipe.
24 excited cooks
Cupcakes for everyone in the school
Yikes! What was I thinking !
My students love to cook, but oh my! Here's where I added the steps on, gathering the materials, setting up the kitchen for cooking, making sure hands were washed and nails were clean, going back and forth between groups, monitoring the measuring and blending, and making sure the children washed the dishes when the cooking was complete. By the end of that venture, we had 70 beautiful cupcakes on trays in the refrigerator, and I had 14000 steps on my step meter.
I have to tell you, there is no place on the cardio tracker for baking 70 cupcakes with 24 preteens. I checked. Not there.
So... my sign-up sheet:
3 kindergarten children
3 1st graders
2 third graders
2 5th graders
2 6th graders
Tomorrow's decorating activity should be, well - active!
We had fun with Stella's birthday party today, but I forgot to bring my camera home; no photos to post today. Maybe tomorrow.
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