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Best time to Renew

Thursday, January 02, 2014

There couldn't be a better time to get back on track. This is a new year and I will make a new start. Out with the old and in with the new. Out with the cupcakes, candy and chips. In with the veggies, fruits and good fits! Back on the treadmill for now and forever. The sugar blues will be gone before the blink of an eye. The binge was definitely not worth it and it did not solve anything. It brought pain and even agony. Ring in the New Year with positive voices.... Of self love, acceptance, peace and of course , good will to all... Especially oneself. A goodie year for all!!

  
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    Great determination, you can do it!!!

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Prejudice about Overweight

Wednesday, June 26, 2013

I have been "blessed" with the opportunities of being slender during certain times of my life and also being quite overweight during times of my life. I can compare those times and while really being the same person on the inside during all those times, I can say that I was treated differently as an overweight person. I liked myself more while slender and I know many other people did too. One person told me long ago..."Don't ever let yourself get like that again"! It wasn't just men who reacted differently to being overweight vs. being slender either.
Yet, during those years of being overweight, I tortured myself with asking"why don't people like me?"
Of course, we cannot say that everyone is prejudiced about weight but I think the percentage is extremely high. It has been inferred that some of us pack on the pounds because we know deep down that it will keep people away. This can be something unconscious. Why would we want to be lonely? When we keep people away, we do end up lonely. And I'm tired of being lonely! So I push forward with this challenge of wanting to be healthy, happy and .... Not lonely!

  
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WHITNEYTEACHER 7/11/2013 11:38AM

    Andrea, I haven't talked to you for quite a while and decided to check out your page and see what's new. I think we all can relate to what you're feeling. It's hard for some people to look deeper than the surface, that's really sad for them but it's also hard for the person they're being critical of. I think we've all figured out different ways to cope with insensitive clueless people and those ways are sometimes more successful than others. The bottom line is that, whether we should or not, we care about what others think of us. For me, I tend to avoid contact with people who make me feel less than good about myself. I rely on my Spark friends a lot for the positive feedback I need. I think that's one of the great things about this site, we understand each other and can relate to what other people on this site feel and are going through. You are a beautiful person inside, if someone isn't willing to look inside and find that beauty it's their loss, not yours.

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JANEMARIE77 6/29/2013 10:20AM

    i know that others treat us different when heavier but for myself I have found that its more about me them. When I am happier with me, treating myself with love and kindness I am nicer to others when My first thoughts of the morning are positive and grateful and not negative and self defeating I go into the world with a better outlook and my day is always better. if I am looking for the good compared to looking for the bad my life is truly no different but a thousand time a better place to live

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KANOE10 6/27/2013 11:06AM

    I agree with you about the prejudice. It is sad but true. I hope you stay as happy and as healthy as you can.

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_BABE_ 6/27/2013 2:49AM

    I get that men have their preferences because it's closely to tied to attraction/sexuality and all that good stuff. To each their own right? But when women dislike a woman as a friend based on weight then I really have to wonder what weight represents to them.



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1BEACHWALKER 6/26/2013 10:59PM

    I totally agree! I have even have had my own family shun me due to being overweight. Maybe it may be me thinking that way to a certain extent. But, believe me when you have your own sisters not want you to go shopping with them or invite you to their parties, etc. it makes me feel that way. And by the way- they are the slim ones! I used to be slim too and I see a difference in the way people act towards me and toward others too. Ask a lot of people here on SP or read their blogs. I think children can be cruel too, when they see fat people go by. Have seen it with my own eyes. As the others said in their comments, there are many prejudices out there, and obesity is one of them. It is sad when people feel that way, but all we can worry about is ourselves and not worry about what they think. It will help us in the long run to being confident, happy, healthy people!! emoticon emoticon

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CIRANDELLA 6/26/2013 7:47PM

    I hope you hear the applause from where I sit, PSHOWS! It's rather thunderous in support of the views you've expressed here. What someone ELSE ways is none of my business! What *I* weigh certainly is, and that's more than enough for my concern. Now, if someone engages in a harmful activity which threatens my health or life, such as texting while driving or driving drunk, THAT'S another story. Love your thoughts! emoticon

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PATRICIAAK 6/26/2013 7:37PM

    The beauty of the soul outshines the beauty of the body.
IMHO, shallow people make shallow comments.

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BARBANNA 6/26/2013 6:14PM

    If you think it's tough being overweight, what about prejudice against senoir citizens, attractive people, smart people, handicapped people, foreigners, aliens and short people... LOL There are many other ways people are prejudice and obesity is just one. I know that we all have our unconscious and some very conscious feelings about other people. I try very hard to love everyone, but I know that in my unconscious mind there are people I would pick first for something or vote for based on their appearance. I agree that we must avoid being so hyersensitive about it. The older I get the less I care about any of this stuff. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MERRYMARY42 6/26/2013 6:02PM

    well, if we can believe the statistics, and all we have to do is look around us, we are a obese America, so pretty silly throwing stones at ourselves. I am over weight, and try as I do, it is sure hard to get down, anyway, I think we think worse of ourselves way more than other people do, perhaps, someone that cares for us, wants us to be healthier for our own good, but the only time I even look at someone that is very heavy, it is not the weight, it is the way they carry it, carry themselves and when a person wears something way too tight, lets face it, makes them look heavier.
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CATLADY52 6/26/2013 5:34PM

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MPETERSON2311 6/26/2013 4:58PM

    I think being overweight absolutely carries certain ideas that are just not true. And even if you are overweight and happy people can look at you like, "how dare her!"

Just gotta do things for you, and I think you are on the right path to do that

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SUMTHINGSPECIAL 6/26/2013 3:29PM

    I think it's not easy - but in life we really need to learn to be immune to other people's criticisms. It is not fair - because given the time - I'm sure we could produce quite a list of their own faults. Life is not about judging each other - it should be to bask in the glow of friendship, no matter our differences. Everyone brings something wonderful to the table - if we are only willing to see.

I know that people may say "wow - you are so much better now" or "don't ever get that way again." Yes - there is truth in that, but mostly those comments are superficial. it is not that "you are so much better now" because you can fit into a slinkier dress or it makes you so much prettier. Instead - it is because you are healthier - you can do things that you never did before - you have much more energy - vitality - and love for life.

People may say "don't ever get that way again" and perhaps they are only seeing the baggy clothes that really don't hide the truth. It is not "don't ever get that way again" because you now look like everyone thinks you should or because you look better in tight fitting pants. Instead - it is because you should never take for granted the good health that comes from eating right and exercise. You should never take for granted the fact that you may have extended your life - and the quality of your life - by making the right directions.

I'm not one to tolerate superficial words - but that's just me. You have a lot to celebrate - and yes, I am thrilled that when we lose weight we also look great. It's just not the most important thing - and I think a lot of people overlook that.

So glad you are here - pushing toward your goals - and no, you do not have to do it alone. You CAN be loved the way you are.

Sumay

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Falling off the wagon and setting a new goal

Tuesday, April 02, 2013

Yes, I fell off the wagon over the weekend...... One day after the other... Birthdays and Easter. Now, this week I m like a chugging train back on track . My goal is to have good health. My house is emptied of food. It's just me and a cup of coffee. I am going to the market to pick up
Some fruit and salad.. I had fish last night so chicken is a good choice. I am chugging but I am still on the track. Those turns are tricky though:). So it was off the wagon, back on track or even getting back in the saddle. However it is worded .... A new goal of healthy food and a healthy life is good enough for me!
Just another bump in the road from Jack!

  
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JACK714 4/3/2013 9:32AM

    I wonder where they got the saying "fell off the wagon" Sounds painful. It's just another bump in the road. You can do it.

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2HAMSDIET 4/2/2013 10:19PM

    Failure is only a fact when you give up. Everyone gets knocked down, the question is: Will you get back up?

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PATRICIAAK 4/2/2013 9:02PM

    super goal

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CIRANDELLA 4/2/2013 7:46PM

    You sound like you've already dusted yourself off from the festivity's feasting and are ready for a fresh start. What's for certain is that you're in excellent company! Gaining expertise in reversing that little bit o' temporary damage we all inevitably do with our eating is a handy skill on which to build, and it's an ongoing task for all of us. Keep up the good work! emoticon

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MARIANNE9855 4/2/2013 12:56PM

    sounds good- I think the weekend was a challenge for many of us- I'd found that when I refuse treats in public, later I want to eat extra healthy food so it probably balances each other out. emoticon emoticon

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Knowing good health without the scale

Saturday, March 23, 2013

Am I being healthy? Is the scale the only measure of whether or not my lifestyle has become healthier? Without filling myself with toxic foods, I feel so alive and healthy. I have interest in people and doing things other than eating.... Like walking, playing games like golf, talking to people, making new friends..... I just plain feel alive. A lot of depression has lifted with this healthy lifestyle and all the walking I am doing is a good influence on that. More people are in my life as well. I am sleeping better. These are all indicators that the new, healthy lifestyle is working quite well. Hooray!

  
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    way to go you are doing it

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OKANOG66 3/24/2013 10:00PM

    I agree the scale is only a tool. I use the scale infrequently. I do not take the scale weight too seriously. Physical activity can shrink the pounds off, tone and strengthen our bodies. Which is more likely to add up to all the good things you do for you in mind body and spirit. Healthy choices and becoming aware of nutritional values, seems more likely the logical thing to do than following a strict diet.

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CIRANDELLA 3/24/2013 12:34PM

    I'm so glad to hear this! I've found the scale to be only *one* measure of good health and well-being, and I only "visit" it once a month. I've found my weight is more stable than ever as a result of my not weighing in, say, once a week or - at my worst - several times a day. That eating healthfully and exercising have made such great contributions to your sense of well-being and health is fantastic news! emoticon May that terrific sense of aliveness you've found only grow.

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GOLFGMA 3/24/2013 8:17AM

    I know how you feel. I personally think the journey here is more about getting healthy than about losing weight. They do seem to work together but some people are able to lose weight without exercising and I can't believe they feel as good as those who tone the body with exercise while losing the weight. Just my opinion! emoticon

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BOOCH6 3/24/2013 8:14AM

    SO true !! We do tend to get hung up on the scale and there are so many different signs that we are getting healthy. thanks for the reminder and keep up the good work !

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NORWOODGIRL 3/24/2013 12:11AM

    Excellent NSVs! Enjoy!

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Envisioning myself in the future

Wednesday, March 20, 2013

As I plan to clean up some old golf clubs to hit the golf course this spring , I know this dreary snowy winter will all be in the past soon. But I also think even further ahead than just a couple of months. Continuing my weight loss and healthy habits, I can see a slender and agile older woman happily enjoying the fun things life has to offer. I haven't golfed for many, many years but I will in a couple of months. Thinking to years ahead, I will Tay active and enjoy fun times. Being sure that my weight is an appropriate one will allow me to enjoy these fun physical activities for years to come. I will have friends as well .....friends which had diminished in number with the weight gain of years back. My clothes will be colorful and I will laugh and enjoy my female friends. There's nothing wrong with having male friends either:) Healthy lunches out with these friends will be focused on the company rather than the food. In years to come, I will enjoy a physically active life and the misery of being lonely, overweight and unhappy, will be a thing of the past!

  
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GRANDMABABA 3/21/2013 12:47PM

    Beautiful!

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MARIANNE9855 3/21/2013 12:15PM

    I am excited for you just reading about it- that's what I want as I get older to- not to be the fat old lady in the chair who can't move. emoticon emoticon

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NORWOODGIRL 3/20/2013 10:43PM

    Love this post! I hope it inspires everyone who reads it to envision their future. Works for me! emoticon

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PATRICIAAK 3/20/2013 9:04PM

    What you can envision, you can achieve. God doesn't allow us to dream without a possibility of fulfillment.

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CIRANDELLA 3/20/2013 7:35PM

    I've often heard it said that the more clearly and vividly we can envision an end goal or state, the more likely it is we'll be able to bring our behavior in line with achieving it. And you sound like you are crystal clear in your vision of yourself on that golf course, enjoying not only the challenging sport itself (my husband's a HUGE fan, and I can see why - what amazing skill it requires!!) but the lively company of your fellow golfers and even the distinctive, bright clothing! emoticon So here's to a warm and enjoyable future on the greens - fore!!!

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DIANN111 3/20/2013 12:53PM

    Great Vision! I haven't golfed in years and I know that is partly because of my weight. The desire to have fun and enjoy your life is strong motivation to get fit and trim! Thank you for the reminder! Good for you!
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2HAMSDIET 3/20/2013 12:29PM

    emoticon Know I don't know how old you are so please don't take this wrong but did you ever think of checking out senior center. A friend and I wanted to learn to line dance and she saw some thing about it in the paper. At the time I was in my forties
but they were so happy to have us come. They told me that no one checks ages but my name was important to be on the list. Plus I gave them a few extra dollars and they loved my energy. They have some classes that are perfect for those just getting back into moving around and those that still have alot of get up and go. Plus they have the time to be social. Keep your vision and focus. emoticon emoticon

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JANEMARIE77 3/20/2013 8:38AM

    woohoo you can do it what a wonderful affirmation


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MJRVIC2000 3/20/2013 8:38AM

    Good for YOU! Now consider your eternal future! God Bless YOU! Vic.

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EVIE4NOW 3/20/2013 8:17AM

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