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Friday, September 16, 2011

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BY Dr. Doreen Virtue - "Emotional Eating"

Listed below are the 16 feelings that Emotional Eaters most often confuse with physical hunger.

Be as honest as you can with yourself when reading this list, because self-awareness is a key ingredient to recovering from emotional eating and the Yo-Yo Diet Syndrome. These listings merely describe the fattening feelings and explain why they lead to overeating.

1. Anger.
Anger is cited in more cases of emotional eating than any other emotion. Anger, especially when it's repressed, feels very uncomfortable, and this discomfort is often confused with hunger. But what feels like hunger is actually a desire to use food to cover up or mask the painful emotion -- anger. Women, in particular, have difficulty admitting that they are angry, due to societal pressures ranging from parental admonitions ("Young ladies shouldn't get angry!") to corporate gameplaying rules ("You'll get ahead in this company if you just smile and agree with management instead of arguing about their policies"). With all this pressure, people sometimes wish they never felt angry - a futile wish, of course, since everyone gets angry at times. People run into trouble with their anger when they ignore their angry feelings or pretend they don't exist, hoping the emotions will subside if they're ignored long enough. Emotion Eaters turn to food in order to stuff their anger.

2. Fatigue.
If anger is the number one psychological reason why people overeat, fatigue is definitely number two. That's why I call it "fat-igue." Some late-night overeaters use food in a vain attempt to energize themselves when they're tired. Shift workers, those who stay up late at night, and "workaholics" are especially prone to overeating when fatigued. Other people use food to calm the nervous tension associated with fatigue. Perhaps you've had a nerve-wracking day at the office, combined with over consumption of caffeine or chocolate. At night, you try to sleep but find you're too wired. That's when cravings for carbohydrate snacks occur, because these foods trigger calming brain chemicals that help you sleep. When we're tired, our resolve to eat lighter and healthier foods often goes out the window. Feeling fatigued, we say, "To heck with calorie counting!" and down a quart of ice cream or a massive plate of spaghetti. It's important to recognize fatigue in yourself when it occurs.

Learn to recognize how it feels when you're emotionally drained or intellectually overstimulated. Once you can label these feelings as fatigue, you won't be as likely to confuse them with hunger. Second, remember that when you're tired, rest will make you feel better. Overeating will not. Food may give you a temporary surge in blood sugar that is reminiscent of feeling rested, but the key word is that the respite is temporary. What's more, an eating binge can lead to sluggish, tired feelings the next day as your body tries to break down the high levels of sugar, fat, and carbohydrates from the binge foods. Rest, regular exercise, and the mind/body methods described in later chapters (The Yo-Yo Diet Syndrome) are the best ways to combat feelings of fatigue. Food only makes things worse!

3. Depression.
When life looks gray and gloomy, most Emotion Eaters start to think of ways to feel better, and their solution to depression usually involves food. People who eat when they're depressed often turn to dairy products such as ice cream (particularly chocolate) and cheese. As precisely as a well-trained pharmacist, but intuitively, the overeater picks food that alleviates depression. After all, the chemical makeup of dairy products has a neurological effect similar to antidepressant medications. Depression occurs for a number of reasons. It can be traced to: Holding in anger A loss, such as losing a job, getting a divorce, selling a house, becoming ill, or losing loved ones (including pets). Physical exhaustion or poor nutrition. This type of depression readily responds to rest and a healthful diet. "Kicking yourself" and focusing on real or imagined negative characteristics in yourself. Try to keep your attention focused on your positive qualities, and remember that everyone makes mistakes. Forgive yourself! Feeling like a helpless victim and seeing the future as hopeless. You're not a victim, and the future will be as pleasant or as painful as you set out to make it! You really do create your own life.

4. Loneliness.
Those who eat out of loneliness usually must push themselves to meet new people, even when the prospect seems frightening. Some of the easiest ways to get out and become active with others involve engaging in some sort of organized group activity, such as joining a volleyball team or a mastermind group, enrolling in any sort of class, or becoming a member of a charitable organization.

5. Insecurity / Inadequacy.
When I started working in the counseling field, I felt inadequate a great deal of the time. I worked in a large inpatient alcoholism hospital, and we were terribly understaffed. There was always a crisis of some sort with a patient or staff member, and there wasn't much that any of us counselors could do to keep the atmosphere positive. There was a pervasive air of gloom and despair hanging over us. And always, at the end of the day, I was left with the feeling that I just hadn't done enough to help the alcoholics and drug addicts in our facility. I'd feel empty and at a loss, and I'd want to eat as a result. Long-term experience as a counselor and my spiritual background eventually helped me to change my perspective. As you may know, feeling "not good enough" is an empty sensation. The insecurity and inadequacy that come with self-doubt can feel like a big, black empty hole right in the middle of your gut. It feels uneasy. It doesn't feel good.

I think that these feelings are among the toughest to contend with because most of us don't even want to admit we're experiencing them. I know that, at times, I used to believe that I was the only person in the world who felt inadequate. And I used to be afraid that merely admitting these feelings -- even to myself -- might make it true that I was inadequate. So I hid the feelings from myself and others and tried to fill the empty hole with food. Inadequacy is a very normal feeling! Everyone, including Ph.D.'s, M.D.'s, rich folks, and other successful and famous people, wrestles with self-doubt and feels like a failure at times. Problems arise when Emotion Eaters try to ignore or cover up the sense of inadequacy with food, instead of taking steps (such as returning to college, asking for a raise, praying, etc.) to minimize the basis for the feeling.

6. Guilt.
Eating, of course, doesn't resolve a guilt-producing situation. Besides taking steps to solve the problem, the realization that you are not completely responsible for others and that you truly can't control anyone else's actions or feelings can also free you of unnecessary guilt. This doesn't mean that you have to be thoughtless, just that you can let go of the erroneous notion that you're responsible for the happiness of those around you. No one person is that powerful! Give others credit for the direction they choose to take in their lives.

7. Jealousy.
Many "jealousy eaters" I've treated tend to compare themselves unfavorably to others in a process I call "comparing your insides with other people's outsides." This happens whenever you look at other people who appear to be so together, happy, and confident, and compare this with how you feel on the inside. You may become jealous if you assume someone else's life is much better than your own because on the outside he or she appears happier than you do. Remember that outside appearances can be deceiving, and that to other people, you, too, probably appear to have it all together.

8. Happiness.
"Happy" overeaters seem to turn to food for two reasons. The first is that when things are going well, they feel very, very good and they want to binge on good feelings. Because the "happy overeater" enjoys food, she wants to eat as much as possible in order to fill up on these positive emotions. She sees happiness as a limited resource that will run out quickly and needs to be gobbled up before it disappears. It helps if she frequently affirms the unlimited abundance of happiness, since joy is our true and natural state of being: "Happiness gushes forth from the center of my being, bringing waves of joy throughout my mind, body, and soul, and bringing happiness to everyone who sees, talks with, or thinks of me."

Second, people with low self-esteem often feel that they don't deserve happiness or success. So, as soon as aspects of their lives -- such as weight loss -- start to turn out right, they unconsciously start to sabotage their own success. Happiness, if you've never had much of it, can seem scary because of its novelty. Even though it seems illogical to wish unhappiness on yourself, some people are uncomfortable with anything but morose, depressing days. They almost need a problem or crisis in their life to give them a sense of purpose. If you're a "happy" overeater, it's important to remember that it really is okay to be happy and experience success! Affirm often: "My happiness is God's will for me. Happiness is my birthright, and my joy heals many lives." In addition, the joy won't disappear or be yanked out of your hands, so relax and let go of any "lack mentality" that tells you that happiness is a finite resource. And most importantly, don't overeat because of your happiness.

9. Anxiety / Nervousness.
Anxiety and nervousness lead to a particular type of overeating -- the "picking" variety. This style of eating disguises the amount of food one is eating because only a tiny amount is being consumed, bit by bit. But since the eating is continual, large amounts of food are eaten before the Yo-Yo Syndrome dieter even realizes what has happened. As if in a blackout or trance, the overeater seeks pacification from anxiety through food. Those who overeat due to anxiety and nervousness use food to relax, so they need to find alternative methods to unwind.

10. Disappointment / Hurt.
Similarly, people often overeat in the face of disappointment. Perhaps a friend lets you down or betrays you. Maybe you didn't get that raise or promotion at work. Or perhaps you feel let down every time you don't win the state lottery. Regardless of its source, disappointment can make you feel alone and hopeless about the future. It can make you lose interest in yourself, and make you not care what you weigh or what your body looks like. When you don't care, it's hard to stay away from food.

11. Emptiness/Hollowness.
I believe that we all have a drive or ambition to do certain things with our lives, and that we owe it to ourselves to try to fulfill those desires. We may not always succeed, but it's very important to at least try. Until we take steps toward our dreams and goals, an upsetting sense of uneasiness lives inside of us. The goal could be anything from getting a high school diploma to graduating from medical school, writing that novel or volunteering at that convalescent hospital. Whatever your personal dream, go seize it! Break the big goal into smaller, more accessible goals, and then take one small step today to bring yourself closer to the life you want to lead. You'll be glad you did.

12. Grief.
To discern whether unfinished grief could be at the heart of your Yo-Yo Diet Syndrome, ask yourself if thoughts about your losses bring about any of the following feelings: A heavy or pressured feeling in your chest Tears in your eyes The desire to think about something else right away Anger, resentment, or depression If any of these feelings relate to you, you probably have some unfinished grief work to complete. Though not a pleasant task, spending some time focusing your thoughts on the pain of your loss (with a therapist, through prayerful meditation, or by journal writing) could be the key to releasing you from your desire to overeat.

13. Procrastination.
Eating is, if nothing else, a very good timewaster. It makes a wonderful excuse for putting off performing an unpleasant task. Do you ever use food as an excuse to avoid doing some dreaded task? Do you use food to avoid making that phone call or writing that letter? To avoid doing a boring and mundane chore? To avoid completing a complicated or difficult task? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you've probably already recognized the futility of eating in order to procrastinate. No matter how much food you eat, the task will still remain on your "to do" list. By eating before you tackle the chore, you only make things worse. It makes you feel out of control, fat, sloppy, and angry at yourself for eating. And you still have to face the dreaded situation. Doesn't it make more sense, instead, to get the task over with (maybe even figuring out a way to enjoy it, too), delegate the task to someone else, or decide that you don't really need to do the chore after all?

14. Fear.
Fear often triggers nervous behavior, especially continual snacking. Fear is the root of guilt, insecurity, and other fattening feelings. Although fear can feel like a giant foe, it actually has more bark than bite.

15. Boredom.
Like people who eat out of procrastination, "boredom bingers" can fill up days, hours, months, and years a bite at a time. They're often anxious about having unstructured time and are constantly searching for something to do. They feel guilty if they're not engaged in some activity, and eating fits their definition of "activity." If this description reminds you of yourself, it's important to come to terms with your underlying issues. Why isn't it okay to just do nothing once in a while? Do you always have to be productive to feel good about yourself? Are you trying to please someone or get their approval by staying busy? What other activity would you rather be engaged in besides eating? Why aren't you doing that other activity now? What steps can you take right now that will fill your life with meaning, purpose, and fun?

16. Embarrassment.
Overeating due to embarrassment or self-consciousness occurs because of unrealistic expectations that you should never be noticed or be the topic of conversation. There is a tendency to take any remark as criticism, as well as a belief that other people's negative opinions about your behavior is true. Then, if you do make a mistake - a social blunder or a business error, for instance - you feel as if the world's going to fall apart.

guilty of all of this.

Here's a new article (okay - it's new to me.)

So I went to the bathroom this afternoon - its adjacent to the east wall of the house (which is also where the front door is. No sooner then I get settled in, roosting away, and the doorbell rings. Why do people run up to my doorbell and ring it just as soon as I'm in the bathroom! I don't even have a single window in that bathroom - there's no way they can see that I'm in the bathroom (they used to call me on the phone just as soon as I got to roosting, but I installed a phone in the bathroom and fixed their wagon!). So of course, I gotta hurry it up, do the paperwork, wash my hands, and they have the nerve to get all impatient, ringing the bell, banging on the door! What!?

Opened the door and Awwwwwwwwww!

Can you see the roses??

Never mind about the door. I am so blessed!!

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M77355 9/23/2011 9:15AM

    Awwwwwwww - that is a wonderful man! emoticon

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LIZ329 9/18/2011 8:58AM

    emoticon for the info. Some of those reasons for eating/binging really fit me. It's good to have it all laid out like that so you can catch yourself.


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BATYAFA 9/17/2011 11:41AM

    Great article! Do you know how I can save it as a Favorite on this site?

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ON2GOALS 9/17/2011 9:43AM

    Great info! Thank you for this.... It really helps to understand things if we want to change.

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MJ7DM33 9/16/2011 11:20PM

  Thanks for sharing with us!!! The roses are beautiful!!! You are truly blessed!!!

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HOTPINKCAMARO49 9/16/2011 4:47PM

  emoticon Thank you for sharing the info. emoticon

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Avatars.... Virtual Models...

Friday, September 16, 2011

Someone asked me about the Virtual Models (saw where I was asking someone else, I guess...

The first one I knew about was or originally it was (can do it either way but it redirects to now.).

I've found some others online - haven't tried them yet as some require you to download a plug-in.

One I'm playing with now is haven't exactly figured it out (and now I've got it lost on an option, so I'm afraid I'm going to have to kill the process and start over. Oh well.).

Another one is (I think this is the one that downloads a plug-in but I didn't want to take the time to run a scan on the .exe file to find out what other vile malware it might contain...). Their sister site (and name of file actually so maybe this is the original site) is .

Many are tied to the game playing websites, but evidently it is possible to create the avatar based on looks, not on weight, best I can tell, and save them etc, but don't have to play the games or interact with others.

One is (this is the English language one, as it is based in Berlin, Germany).

well, I thought I'd get this shipped out in time to count for thursday's blog but it was already midnight Friday when this got sent out. And I didn't realize I was in the middle of a sentence.

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    Hmm... I must be getting really OLD! emoticonIt's like you're talking in a foreign language! emoticon

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Good Choices, Bad choices, Map suggestions...

Thursday, September 15, 2011

This was another one of those days where I made a lot of stupid poor choices (eating ice cream out of the box) and then making better choices (going for a walk, sweeping the floor, etc.).

Plus, in platting the walk to my neighborhood map, I keep forgetting the name I gave the route. When I go to the place where I can click to access my saved maps, it has a left frame with all the names of my various routes - starting with A, B, C, D...going to at least V (because it turned out the walk we walked tonight was #V - what happens when I have more map routes than there are letters in the English alphabet??). Then there's a big gaping hole. I've always thought it would be great to see little thumbnail clips of the walk so I could visualize the walk that I just finished and match it up (because I end up giving them complex names, based on which surrounding streets I walked and in what order. That's complicated!! Maybe I can explain more another day, if anyone really wants to know, but since they are all labeled anonymous or private, hmmm oh well.)...

Anyway so I just suggested that to the SparkTeam and we'll see what happens next time the want to get ambitious and redesign some of the pages!!

My DH is wanting me to shut it down and go upstairs to sleep, perchance with him... ;-)


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    Yeah, right... sleep! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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Two Spark Teams for Wichita? !

Wednesday, September 14, 2011

For awhile now, I've noticed we have an Official Spark Wichita team (does SparkPeople set it up first? how does it get to be "Official"? And I also noticed we have a "Wichita Women" Spark Team.

The Wichita Women team is leaderless, and thus, not a lot of activity going on... I've no idea who started the team, or the history (or herstory, I guess?). Several that I've met are ladies who live just outside the Wichita metro, I think one lives south of town, and I'm north of town. I think I found it by searching for "Wichita", rather than "Official Spark Wichita" or whatever.

In any case... I wrote a note about it inside Spark Wichita and already I've received a few comments that they didn't even know there was a Wichita Women's team.

Do we even need two Spark Teams for Wichita? Do other cities have two or more teams just specifically for their city? Places like NYC I can see maybe they might - like one for Manhattan, one for Queens, one for Long Island, whatever (I don't know all the Burroughs, sorry, I've never lived in NYC.).

I'm guessing someone wanted a "Women Only" team so they could feel comfortable discussing "girly" things without embarrassing any of the guys? Who knows.

Not sure what all a team leader does for these online teams or whether or not I want to take that on...I'm mostly gathering information. So it would be interesting to find out what the history of that team is?

Gotta go figure out what the captioned movie is for this Sunday at the E. 13th Warren - check it later and hacker alert: this is an "announcement only " Yahoo group, so members can not see other members' email addresses for off! I have and will be happy to ban any who are spamming our members. YOU HAVE BEEN WARNED. (just in case there are any who do that sort of thing around here but I kinda doubt it, so please don't feel like I'm picking on you specifically! emoticon heh!!)

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BCARSON11 9/16/2011 8:35AM

    I don't think Spark sets up any team. The team picks the name. If it has the word "official" in the name, those who set it up probably put that word in the name. Wichita women sounds different than Wichita since it is for women only.

If you want to lead a team from Wichita, you should ask to be leader of the leaderless team. There are articles available to help beginning team leaders. I'm not sure of the exact title. If you can't find them, I will see if I can find them for you. There is also a team for team leaders.

I used to live close to Wichita in Arkansas City, Kansas. (I live in Richmond, VA now.) I just responded to this because I was reading your page and blogs because you had commented on something on my page. (I'm not a stalker or anything!)

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JANNEPERRY 9/14/2011 9:08AM

    If you are interested, you should go ahead and be the team leader. I think you'd be great. You are active on SP. There is a team for Team Leaders too. That will give you support and information regarding being a team leader. emoticon

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Sunday.... 9.11.2011

Monday, September 12, 2011

Didn't have any real plans today, so nothing much got done. About the only thing was our family getting haircuts from my girlfriend. Son had homework and wouldn't take it seriously that I wasn't going to let him go see the captioned movie today ("Cowboys and Aliens") so he got mad that I wouldn't cave in and take him when he just kept goofing and figuring out all the creative reasons why he just could NOT do his homework. SIGH.

I need some lessons on Tough Love. Back in the day, "Tough Love" was a beating with a belt, but that's not kosher these days.

Gotta get up early and go walk. And I want to start juicing again. My girlfriend is having good results juicing without fasting - she's still eating, but I guess the juicing just helps feed her body the nutrients she's not been getting for so long and she's seeing a lot of benefits. I on the other hand muddle through with a sense of foggy brain...muddled thoughts... tiredness. I just need to be more consistent in exercising!!

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    Oh, I hated those homework days! *sigh* I wish I had good advice, too, but I don't really. We usually had to pick our battles and as Liz said, if they didn't do their homework, it usually ended up making them ineligible for sports or something at school they wanted to do, so if we supported the school in this, they learned from their natural consequences, even though it was hard for us to watch! emoticon

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LIZ329 9/12/2011 2:38AM

    Yes, I remember those day with my kids and their homework. I don't know how old your son is but we sort just left them alone when they got older. They pulled through at the last moments and sometimes even got some great grades.

Think positive, put the juicer on the counter and get moving. I know emoticon
We are going to have a fantastic week!

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