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"Life Becomes Easier When You Learn To Accpt An Apology You Never Got"

Sunday, November 25, 2012

I saw this a few weeks ago on Facebook or somewhere else, maybe Pinterest, who knows, my head is swimming...



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Just felt like sharing this (so I can find it later when I need??). I alluded to it earlier this week in Bruce's Happiness Blog:
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Breathe in....
Breathe out...

  
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SAINTBETH 12/2/2012 10:56AM

    So true. Some people will never apologize but if you have to deal with them, it's easier on yourself if you just forgive them.

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DIBANANA 11/28/2012 8:17PM

  Interesting thought

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DIANER2014 11/26/2012 1:31PM

    So true! Thanks for sharing! emoticon

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JANNEPERRY 11/26/2012 1:20PM

    oh so true! emoticon

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GAYLLYNNE 11/26/2012 6:56AM

    Ah, if only we could do that!!

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JACKIE542 11/25/2012 10:26PM

    Is very true. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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3016DEBRA 11/25/2012 9:12PM

  So True emoticon

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DOLLYHOLLY 11/25/2012 9:26AM

    Excellent advice! Irrespective of apologies, we all can learn a lot not only from forgiving others, but also ourselves as well.

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1CRAZYDOG 11/25/2012 9:01AM

    Oh my dear, you have NOOOOOOOOooooOOOOOO idea how I needed this one today!!!!! Ok, breathing in, breathing out, letting go. THANK YOU!!!

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JESSIKA_56 11/25/2012 8:57AM

    So true, thanks for sharing!

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SCHECK5 11/25/2012 7:39AM

    Very true...I need to remember this also! Thanks for sharing!

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TROUBLE2ME2 11/25/2012 6:06AM

    This is such a powerful statement. It helped me so much yesterday when I felt hurt over something from the previous day.
Already this morning my mind has taken to thinking on some other situations that I have been holding on to for awhile, perhaps it is time to apply this to them also.
Thanks again for sharing this!

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123ELAINE456 11/25/2012 5:33AM

  Awsome. God Bless You and Have a Wonderful Week. Enjoy Today. Take care.

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RORYLYONS 11/25/2012 2:52AM

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EVWINGS 11/25/2012 1:59AM

    It certainly is true. For myself, I found I can do this if I write a letter stating all my feelings, leave it about an hour, go back and read what I wrote,. then destroy it after I am able to say I can forgive without getting the apology. Thank you for the quote and the link.

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JANTWO 11/25/2012 1:03AM

    Thank you for sharing that. It would cut down on hanging onto bitter feelings.

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Introducing our new baby girl...(with pictures!)

Friday, November 23, 2012

..puppy dog. Chihuahua (is that how it's spelled??)

Went to the YMCA this morning to do some apres-Turkey repentence - put in a mile around the track (was too gusty and cold to walk this morning and for some reason I was being a wimp about walking.). Then we spent some time up on the "30 Minute Circuit" doing some of the weight machines

Then, we went to Kansas Humane Society to see about a new black dog. Being Black Friday, they were giving away BLACK DOGS. FREE. (or Black Cats, which we already have one.). Evidently, one of their Girl Scout Volunteers had started a "Black Dogs Club" because she was horrified to discover that black dogs were least likely to be adopted and most likely to be euthanized.

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When I read about her in the paper, I was surprised too, because I grew up with black dogs and cats at various times in my childhood, and so had DH. Plus, we have had a black cat since December 2000 and our black dog had just passed away in September.

So... we get there, more than a hundred people ahead of us, and only 25 dogs available to adopt. Not all of these were black (the free ones) - and the others were 25% discount off the usual adoption fee.

(I"m waiting for my son to upload a photo for me, so I can save it to my disk and upload it here....)

We arrived shortly after 11 am (event was to begin at 11 am), so we were assigned numbers. So, DH had time to go over to Grandma's and pick up DS who had spent the night last night .

Now, the KHS staff named her "Janet" but we're not certain we'll keep that name... but here she is:

What she looked like on the website at Kansas Humane Society:





Puppy on the son's computer table:



Puppy all nestled in on my chest, inside my hoodie, no more shivering, just nice and warm....





She's still a bit groggy and in pain, I think, because she's neutered already. Guess her parents were both purebred Chihuahua's but for whatever reasons, they didn't keep her and had surrendered her and her litter mates (or at least the rejects they didn't want?). Plus, they may have been moving (the story they gave KHS.).

Soooo we'll just have to play it by ear. She's not a walking dog, more of a cuddling dog. We're questioning my sanity but I knew I didn't really want a big dog. DS claims she is going to be "his dog" and he will be taking care of it, but we all know I get stuck with the pets while the kid is at school and the DH is at work.

Not sure if she is shivering from nervousness and excitement, or from cold (she's s short-haired Chi) or (hopefully not) some sort of residual crud from her recent surgery?? Although, when she's inside my hoodie, she does get warm and stops shivering. Or does get comforted by my "mommy sounds" which must seem something like her mommy's sounds, just different breed... heh.

She's also not offered to go to the loo when we've taken her outside the past few times since we've been home two hours ago. She just ate and drank water, and she's not house broken. Guess we're in for a crash course on how to housebreak a pup!!?

(Hissing and growling....)

OOOOOH that did NOT sound good! Wow! Piper is having some "Alpha Female" or "Alpha Pet" type issues dealing with this new pup half her own size. (Piper's the cat!!). This dog is hardly a threat but she doesn't know it yet!!

Ha! DH is recording her on his phone! who know?? I might have some cat growl uploaded here. If I do, I'll edit it in, later.

Hope it all works out well??! I'm not sure ... but I guess I'm about to enter a new path on my journey!!

  
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-BENI- 11/25/2012 9:48AM

    Too cute

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AWESOMECHELZ 11/25/2012 9:36AM

    Thanks for sharing. All my cats have been from the SPCA except one who was an outside cat that I adopted and he got used to being inside (actually loved it since I lived in Connecticut then and I found him in December). Of my five cats, I have been lucky to have had two black ones. Of all my cats, they were/are the most friendly, the black ones. I now have two cats and one is black and white. Love them and she is extremely friendly and playful.

Congrats on your new puppy and may you enjoy her with your family for years to come.

Chelsea

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GAYLLYNNE 11/25/2012 7:49AM

    So adorable!!! What a wonderful extension to your family!! Enjoy her!!

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MJ7DM33 11/24/2012 7:04PM

  She is a cute new baby! I hope that you have many years of great memories together!

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SLOPOKE_SAL 11/24/2012 3:49PM

    what a cutie pie!

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  So CUTE!!! I hope she brings you alot of happiness emoticon

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JANNEPERRY 11/24/2012 8:51AM

    Good to see you and DH at the Y yesterday. Glad you were able to get in some exercise before that all important shopping trip for the cute little doggie! Congratulations, looks like you got a sweet one! emoticon

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JESSIKA_56 11/24/2012 8:47AM

    Aww, she's sweet! Remember, take her outside after eating, drinking, playing, and sleeping!

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KPETSCHE 11/24/2012 4:09AM

    Thanks for sharing! She's a doll - have fun with her.

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JANTWO 11/24/2012 12:56AM

    Oh how precious!!!!

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IMSAFEINHISARMS 11/24/2012 12:08AM

    She's a cutie!

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LIBBYL1 11/23/2012 11:19PM

  a new puppy is just the most joyful thing!

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LALMEIDA 11/23/2012 11:05PM

  She is adorable! I am sure she will make a great companion!

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ELISADENK 11/23/2012 9:09PM

    Adorable!!

She'll be a handful for you.

"Janet" seems too tame. Need something more like, "littlebit" or "snookums" or ???? What fun!

You can make little sweaters and stuff for her. LNSYLVSDOGs, our co-leader, can give you a bunch of ideas, etc. :-)

Keep us posted....

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SURVIVOR61 11/23/2012 8:16PM

    Sooo cute, looks like my Chico. Lol ...When he was a baby. I just love Chihuahua's they fun, sweet and so personable. My are my kids, they have their own personalities and we even have to put up Christmas stockings for all 3. I hope you have fun and many years with your pup. God Bless and Good Luck Sparkin' emoticon

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Southern Peach Yambake today - with extra modifications....

Thursday, November 22, 2012

I typed in the recipe for Southern Peach Yambake this morning - but I'm not entirely convinced I did all the math conversions right. The SparkRecipes converter doesn't always play nice with the ingredients measurements when the ingredients found in the "Enter Food" tracker are only entered as "one serving". As an example, the nutritional information for the Ziyad Marshmallows was like 2/3 cup or some such, I've forgotten already, and so many grams. Well, recipe calls for 1.5 cups. The way I had it saved as grams (since it was a nice neat 27 grams or some such), I had to then figure out how to make that work in cups. I ended up having to edit it and save it as 1 serving was equal to 0.666667 or in my case, I said 0.67, and then go from there to arrive at the total of 1.5 cups. Of course, you and I know we just eyeball it and add more or less, depending on how many marshmallows we actually have, and whether or not we have to leave one corner of the dish without marshmallows to suit the family member who can't stand marshmallows, etc.

And being math challenged, I wish SparkPeople had a converter to help me arrive at the fractions of a cup needed, when the recipe calls for anything deeper than 1/2 cup! That I can get: 1/2 = 0.5, right? 1/4 cup is 0.25 cup. But 3/5 of a cup and I go * TILT * !!
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So then today... I discovered I did NOT have two cans of Bruce's Yams, just one can. I had gobs of cans of pumpkin. I'm substituting pumpkin for the other yams. Thought I'd use up my Coconut Manna and use it instead of butter. My husband doesn't like nutmeg (neither did his mom, back when she was alive) and so I've always used cinnamon, but today I also added a smidge of clove (that's approx 1/8 tsp), and about 1/4 tsp cardamom. And I only put the pecans on one half of the dish. Will have to mark it with more pecans on top of the marshmallows when we get to my mom's and I broil it there (to keep it from getting yuckky before we get there.).

Should be interesting to see if those modifications are worth repeating another year.

And the official recipe said "six servings" but I've typically doubled it and had plenty for 24 people. Not everyone is willing to try a yam/sweet potato recipe they've never tried, especially those who have been burned out by yuckky experiences they had in their childhood. It will just be the four of us today so I didn't double it.

Soooo need to work on the rest of the goodies to take.

Happy Thanksgiving Day (USA but those of you in other countries, it can't hurt to have extra days where you have thankfulness in your life for whatever blessings you have!).

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EVWINGS 11/23/2012 9:49PM

    It sounds yummy. I have eaten yam cassaroles and never knew it was yams! Yumm-o!

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PROVERBS31JULIA 11/23/2012 8:13PM

    Yep! Seemed a bit dryer then when I've made it before with only the yams and peaches. But that could because I didn't use butter... just some coconut oil and some coconut manna. Still good though!!

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JANNEPERRY 11/23/2012 3:41PM

    How did it turn out? Was it yummy? emoticon

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Law of the Garbage Truck

Saturday, November 17, 2012

I received this in email today - seemed to hit home for me. Maybe it will be useful for others.


Law of the Garbage Truck

One day I hopped in a taxi and we took off for the airport. We were driving in the right lane when suddenly a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us.

My taxi driver slammed on his brakes, skidded, and missed the other car by just inches! The driver of the other car whipped his head around and started yelling at us.

My taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy. And I mean, he was really friendly.

So I asked, 'Why did you just do that? This guy almost ruined your car and sent us to the hospital!'

This is when my taxi driver taught me what I now call, 'The Law of the Garbage Truck.'

He explained that many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment. As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it and sometimes they'll dump it on you.

Don't take it personally. Just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on. Don't take their garbage and spread it to other people at work, at home, or on the streets.

The bottom line is that successful people do not let garbage trucks take over their day.
Life's too short to wake up in the morning with regrets.

So ....

Love the people who treat you right.

Pray for the ones who don't.

Life is ten percent what you make it and ninety percent how you take it!

Have a garbage-free day!

Have a wonderful day!

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PLEASEMASTER 11/19/2012 2:09AM

    Julia, love your blog! Thank you so much for the spices! I am overwhelmed by the support I have received less than 48 hours into my sign-up!!

THANK you for reaching out to welcome me!!

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NURSEPIRT 11/18/2012 4:37PM

    That was so true. Thank you for posting

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DIANER2014 11/18/2012 2:01PM

    What a great blog! Something to remember. Thanks for sharing! emoticon

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JANNEPERRY 11/18/2012 8:59AM

    Thanks for the post Julia! It's oh so true! emoticon

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DOLLYHOLLY 11/18/2012 7:02AM

    This is excellent advice! Wish I read this before I made my trip to NC the past week! emoticon

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PHEBESS 11/17/2012 11:59PM

    Yup, no garbage!

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ILOVEROSES 11/17/2012 11:27PM

    Great blog! emoticon Julia for sharing. emoticon

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1CRAZYDOG 11/17/2012 6:03PM

    ! love this! Thanks for sharing. HUGS!

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JILLYBEAN25 11/17/2012 5:15PM

    That was fabulous!
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GLORYB2014 11/17/2012 4:06PM

    I LOVED this Julia! Thanks for sharing, I've got to get my brain to remember this one!
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NESARIAN 11/17/2012 3:53PM

    I love this parable. Thank you for sharing. Have a garbage free day!

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MRSCLAUS46 11/17/2012 2:39PM

    emoticon and just what I needed..... emoticon Julia!


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GINNABOOTS 11/17/2012 2:36PM

    So true, thank you for posting.

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Hearing Aids or Heartache?

Thursday, November 15, 2012

Today I went to a presentation by the ReSound representatives to hear about the latest greatest hearing aid technology...

I'm cautiously optimistic... or maybe always hoping and optimistic, but still raw and cautious from some of the less than professional conduct of previous hearing aid dealers and other snake oil salesmen.

This blog won't make a lot of sense to the average hearing person and so it's okay, as this is really just my place to sort out my thoughts. And I got to get it in before midnight before the points expire.

There's a lot of backstory but I really don't have time to go into it. The main thing is that my sensorineural hearing loss is what's known as "ski slope" you know, like skiing down almost a straight vertical cliff downward into "loooooooook ouuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuut!" and then...... splat!

Those hearing losses do NOT work well with the historical variety of "analog" hearing aids. (Insert very long and dry and technical dissertations upon discussion upon ancedotal stories about why this is true...). Analog hearing aids would be the type everyone has seen on anyone else the past, oh, 45 years or more. I myself am of the old-school generation who wore the HIDEOUSLY UGLY Zenith body aid strapped across my private-school "kiddegarten" classes (back in the day before USA Federally mandated half day kindergartens were established, long before full-day kindergartens...) and first grader dresses, where kids would poke me, thump on it, magnifying the sounds and hurting my ears.

Okay, so today's show wasn't about your grandmother's hearing aids...

Noooo these have built-in blue tooth. They come with mini-microphones. They connect seamlessly to your bluetooth enabled hearing aids. They send signals back and forth to each other (the left ear aid and the right ear aid) to amplify the sounds you hear behind you, outside the usual range of the directional microphones. They have FM enabled transmitters (which they called "streamers", how cute!!) which would put the signal from a TV monitor or Stereo or other sound device right into my ear.

Guess they will surpress wind sounds (important in Kansas and a major disadvantage of the hearing aids I've had.... and other feedback inducing sounds.

Guess they process music stupendously wonderful (and yea, I know, it's weird, but the deaf gal goes to the Wichita Symphony with her hearing husband. I use an Infrared (IR) receiver which only partially processes the music - anything above a certain volume, and it "clips" out the sound and I hear nothing for awhile until the circuitary comes back online. Yea, kinda like a veg-0-matic approach to music. Better than just watching the guest violinist stand on stage and play the "air violin" literally, this way I do get some sense of the range of a violin. But a piccolo player? I might hear 3 or 4 separate notes if they played it literally in my ear, the one end shoved into my good ear while the player attempts to blow into it a mere 2 or 3 inches away. Anyone looking at us would think it was some weird "whispering sweet nothings" process.

Oh and "whisper sweet nothings"? what's that???

So I don't know. Do I trust or do I stay away.

And where do I pony up $5,000.00+ (USA dollars.)

Obama care has reduced the maximum Flexible Spending Account from $5,000 to $2500.00. Oh joy! And this helps me how?

Our insurance has no coverage provisions for hearing aids. I realize some lucky saps do. I talked to a friend of mine who was deafened in the 1980's at the age of 8 or 9 years of age due to a case of spinal meningitus. Her husband's insurance pays 90% of hearing aids cost every two years. Wowza!


So anyway... time is slipping away. I can edit more later....


I have a lot of ambivalence... need another pros and cons list?

  
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HEALTHYLADY12 11/23/2012 11:44PM

    Honestly I love the fact that im reading the behind the scenes people with disabilities issues. I love how so many responded to this as well. Whats funny is I remember two assingments I had. One was in middle school we had to wear a blind fold to see how the blind experienced the world. In college, i wheeled in a wheelchair to see the barriers of a person in a wheelchair. This blows and it is said you cant get it all covered I like the others advice, youll find something that will assist with it,

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BELTONWALKER67 11/16/2012 9:36AM

    I just got two Resound hearing aids and so far so good. Check with your audiologist to see if there is a program you might qualify for to help with the cost. My audiologist got me in touch with a state funded program which I qualified for due to my income & still working full time. She also mentioned if I didn't qualify there she would find other programs that might help me. She has me on the lowest setting for now & I go back next week to adjust to a higher setting as she didn't want to overwhelm me with sound all at once. I can hear sounds better now but still have a little clarity issue. As mentioned above....I don't think any aid will give normal hearing. Oh, forgot to mention that with these aids I have no feedback. With my old aid, whenever anyone hugged me the aid would whistle loudly! Good Luck!

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JANNEPERRY 11/16/2012 5:50AM

    I'm excited that you have good up to date technology to consider-but you're right-that's a lot of money, and you hope all they said was true! Good luck with your decision making process!

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CHICCHANTAL 11/15/2012 12:56PM

    When I read things like this it makes me glad I'm in the UK. You can buy hearing aids privately if you want to here, but most people get theirs for free on the NHS and the NHS started providing digital ones more than 10 years ago. That said, anyone who tells you their hearing aid will give you back perfect hearing is . . . selling snakeoil.

I don't know what the market is like in the States but the advice here has always been that you should be able to take an aid home and try it out for a few days and get your money back if it doesn't work for you. Also that independent audiologists tend to be better vfm than big companies with pushy salesmen.

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1CRAZYDOG 11/15/2012 10:33AM

    Oh, my. I have had 2 stapendectomies and have sensorineural hearing loss too, which I've also had since kinder age. I have had many-a-person recommend hearing aides for me, but the price is a barrier for one and secondly, don't think that hearing aides would do much for my hearing loss. suppose it should be a consideration but then I think, what if it doesn't work out????

It's a tough situation. I learned sign language and read lips. Crowds are a hugs problem for me, but one-on-one, I can do pretty well.

Wishing you luck in making your decision. You're so right, it is hard to understand the difficulty in making such a decision if you're not hearing impaired.

HUGS and good luck.

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GLORYB2014 11/15/2012 9:58AM

    Julia, I can't help you here because I don't wear an aid, I have a cochlear implant and I'll tell you this, the implant is one of the greatest thing there is! The hearing device goes behind my ear and is like a mini computer, I have 4 programs of hearing on it, one is for partially blocking background noises, one is for music, etc. It's a Blessing to me! But like hearing aids, it's also expensive.

Music tends to be so-so, sometimes I can understand it, sometimes I can't, I think it just depends on the music. If I'm told what the song is, I can catch it and sing along, ho ho ho!

Your choice must be a difficult one. I wouldn't know which way to go. As for financial help, sometimes I think governments think the deaf are also invisible!
Let me know what you end up doing?
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SPARKLINGHOPE 11/15/2012 8:46AM

    Best wishes!

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GARDENCHRIS 11/15/2012 7:28AM

    a guy i work with had a hearing implant , and he clips this tiny box right to his head behind the ear.... cool!

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