Tuesday, September 18, 2012
So, many of us here on SparkPeople are all about chocolate, right? or coffee? or maybe energy foods like Chia Seeds? Some even run Marathons and 5K's and other races in between?
Anyone like to try out new products? or want to say they helped put up investment capital? Here's a link to IndieGoGo - which is kind of like a KickStarter type place, where people promote their idea, and they tell you what the fundraiser categories are and what "perks" you obtain.
I just signed up to contribute, but I'll show up as "anonymous" on their site. That's okay with me, it's their show and I don't need the glory. Just the little warm fuzzy I'll get when I'm slowly sucking down one of their Perfect Fuels, trying to keep the chocolate from drizzling down my face!!
Anyway I need to leave in a bit, but check out the link below, read all about it, ask them questions if you want, no pressure - got until October 1st to think about it. They want to raise something like $15,000 to help introduce three new flavors. Some of you may already be familiar with their products, so you might like to know about this and put your vote in!! (really a tough call as I think all three flavors have their merit, but I voted for Chia. I figure I can wash it down with a cuppa coffee and get my sea salt in some other way...).
Tuesday, September 11, 2012
Well, maybe not in Hawaii but one can dream?! It's a pleasant day, warmish and windy-ish in Kansas... we'll take them as they come.
Was reading this article and thought I'd share. It's one of those "scientific studies" paid for by the Almond Growers, so there is a bias there.
Just for sake of argument, I tried to find some other articles or results, to see if any had their own bias one way or another. Admittedly I haven't spent the entire afternoon perusing many articles. Actually, just one...
This article kinda goes off on a different but similar tangent, and mentions that a calorie isn't always a calorie - and that some foods just really don't take much effort to chew up or to digest (calories burned) and so the body gets more of the calories from that food. Evidently this is the case with smoother or slicker foods... and then the article mentions various nuts, including Almonds, as burning a lot of calories in the efforts of chewing and digesting the nuts. And it says that the US Department of Agriculture confirms that finding. (but I didn't go off hunting for the official US Department of Agriculture article on same. That can be your science project of the day, if that's of interest to you. I need to go jump on my rebounder right now because my legs are aching, and it will be much more fun then taking the dog to the vet for her rabies shot.).
I have noticed that just a small amount of almonds really does give me saity (sp?) in my breakfast cereal....
So it appears to me that a small portion of almonds will be sufficient to boost the protein levels and really not increase the calories that much, as long as you are doing most of the work chewing it up. Probably Almond butter will be a straight transfusion of calories though...
(this might look like peanut butter or Nutella, but today, I will suspend disbelief and call it Almond butter, since I couldn't find any emoticons for almonds in SparkPeople. The very idea!!!).
Friday, September 07, 2012
(Just to clarify - I didn't write this out. I've been sent this story many times in email, and have seen it elsewhere on the Internet. Many different blogs and websites have this story posted. Some add extra thoughts to the end. It's just inspirational and encouraging and thought-provoking. I've been having my own issues so it's something for me to remember and ponder as well!! Wish I had written it, but I haven't.)
"The Story Of The Wooden Bowl"
A frail old man went to live with his son, daughter-in-law, and four-year-old grandson.
The old man’s hands trembled, his eyesight was blurred, and his step faltered.
The family ate together at the table. But the elderly grandfather’s shaky hands and failing sight made eating difficult. Peas rolled off his spoon onto the floor. When he grasped the glass, milk spilled on the tablecloth.
The son and daughter-in-law became irritated with the mess.
“We must do something about father” said the son.
“I’ve had enough of his spilled milk, noisy eating, and food on the floor”.
So the husband and wife set a small table in the corner.
There, Grandfather ate alone while the rest of the family enjoyed dinner without him.
Since Grandfather had broken a dish or two, his food was now served in a wooden bowl.
When the family glanced in Grandfather’s direction, sometimes he had a tear in his eye as he sat alone.
Still, the only words the couple had for him were sharp admonitions when he dropped a fork or spilled food.
The four-year-old grandson watched it all in silence.
One evening before supper, the father noticed his son playing with scrap pieces of wood on the floor.
He asked the child sweetly, “What are you making?” Just as sweetly, the boy responded, “Oh, I am making a little bowl for you and Mama to eat your food in when I grow up.” The four-year-old then smiled and went back to work.
The words so struck the parents that they were speechless. Then tears started to stream down their cheeks. Though no word was spoken, both knew what must be done.
That evening the husband took Grandfather’s hand and gently led him back to the family table.
For the remainder of his days he ate every meal with the family. And for some reason, neither the husband or the wife seemed to care any longer when a fork was dropped, milk spilled, or the tablecloth soiled.
On a positive note, I’ve learned from this story that, no matter what happens, how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow.
I’ve learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles four things: A rainy day, the elderly, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights.
I’ve learned that making a “living” is not the same thing as making a “life.”
I’ve learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance.
I’ve learned that you shouldn’t go through life with a catcher’s mitt on both hands. You need to be able to throw something back sometimes.
I’ve learned that if you pursue happiness, it will elude you. But, if you focus on your family, your friends, the needs of others, your work and doing the very best you can, happiness will find you.
I’ve learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision.
I’ve learned that even when I have pains, I don’t have to be one.
I’ve learned that every day, you should reach out and touch someone.
People love that human touch – holding hands, a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back.
I’ve also learned that I still have a lot to learn.
Wednesday, September 05, 2012
Chuck's comments on Kayla Harrison, Olympic Gold Medalist in Olympic Judo:
=== Beginning of quoted segment ===
Kayla's journey to Olympic gold, as well as her triumph over tragedy, models a path that victims of any form of abuse or past entrapments can take to attain recovery, freedom and their dreams.
Here are a few of the lessons that her life and actions teach us:
1) Don't let being a victim define or paralyze you any more than it already has; rather, use it as a catalyst to grow, overcome and fuel victory.
The U.K.'s Guardian retold how Kayla said everything in her life — the good, the bad and the ugly — was used to help her overcome and reach her goals: "Kind of just reflecting back on my life. Everything it's taken to get here, and everything that I've gone through."
Kayla reminded me of a critical fact in personal growth: Your past can be the fire for victory in your present; it doesn't have to paralyze and enslave you. Triumph over trauma can be our greatest achievement because it helps us in myriad ways. In her own words, Kayla said her journey "is proof that you're only a victim if you allow yourself to be. Nothing can stop you."
Read, learn and grow. As PAVE Inc.'s website notes, "education and awareness are essential to both prevention and healing."
2) Surround yourself with people who will push — and sometimes even pull — you toward health, wholeness and your goals.
=== end of quote ====
I'm not allowed to quote all of it...
So anyway this is an issue I'm still struggling with.
I'm still kind of paralyzed in parts of my life... still have a tendency to just go numb and not really feel....anything.
I remember when I was 18 or 19 and finally out of the house, I felt powerful. But I guess there were some things I didn't fully understand about family dynamics, about dysfunctional relationships, about personal boundaries, about what exactly is "respect" and what exactly is "honor"... things like that? When do I "honor" the abuser just because of their seniority or because of the relationship dynamics, who they are relative to my place in the family. I read where I'm to honor a person but not respect what they do. And when I reached out to try to stop and was not believed, and later on, the others in the family overreacted and now the family is spread to the four winds, so I don't even feel respected by the siblings who were not affected. Not sure how to put Humpty Dumpty back together again...because she, well, me is just not altogether there. Now I have problems hugging my own child, for fear that I will turn into the same monster (statistics claim that the abused grow up to be abusers. I know statistics can lie.... I also know statistically the abused are more likely to become obese...).
Why do I feel so down when I'm trying to look up to a better example? Where does the forgiveness come into play, and still care for elderly family members who didn't stop the pain when they could have?
I'm the only child that still lives in the same area, still mains any contact with my elderly relatives.... The other siblings essentially have nothing to do with me, with each other, with their elderly relatives... (I've no idea if anyone on SP knows me and my family personally... a few have met "at" me but I wouldn't say they know my family, other than my DH and DS.).
Monday, September 03, 2012
I was looking over Proverbs 31 earlier today, feeling lost and floundering. I've really disliked the MSDRPEPPER name, because much as I liked drinking DrPepper as a young adult, I always * knew * it was not a good choice of beverage. I grew up drinking water or fresh squeezed orange juice (we had a local supply of fresh oranges and other citrus fruits, when I was a child in 1960's vintage Florida.).
Some have noticed my sig line about taking nominations for a new name (which reminds me, I need to change, that too!). I'd kick over various ideas incorporating "water", and that felt limiting. So I just never thought anything felt particularly "right". Not saying this new name is right, since those who know me personally and the pigstye I live in, the cluttered mess, the Can't Have Anyone Over State of CHAOS (the FlyLady Sparkers know what's up with that!), and on and on, they will tell you I'm certainly FAR from being a Perfect Proverbs 31 woman. But sometimes we just need those bigger goals, something to work towards, and for some, maybe it's climbing Mt. Everest. And who knows?? maybe some day that will be something I want to do after I feel like I have a handle on other aspects of my life.
Also I was struggling with making other goals for myself and various things I'd think of just seemed so... Selfish... Shallow... and I didn't want that. Like, just losing weight so my fanny would look good for someone who had the misfortune of having to follow behind my behind? (hopefully not while lined up at the nearest All-You-Can-Eat-Trough-Style" restaurant.).
Reading through the Spark this morning in Chapter 2, I think something just clicked with me... about weight loss not being the ultimate goal, but really more as a mini-goal or almost like a tool to help you reach other goals in life (even though I know a goal of losing 120 pounds is big... or a goal of 200 or 300 pounds...we know who we are and what we want to achieve.) But I know I was guilty of thinking or maybe just putting that goal in a higher status than it needed to be - because the life goals are so much more than that (and I need to flesh that out more for myself in the immediate future.
The Spark Vision/Collage Team... I just saw that it existed yesterday or today, I forget, and there again, people making the comments about goals for what they wanted to be, to do, to become, in the process alongside or in addition or beyond weight loss. The weight loss becomes a tool to help achieve goals, perhaps? Not sure where I am on that thought. Will edit as needed...
The sermon this past Sabbath touched on choosing the right goals...
getting ready for bed (new goal to get to sleep before 11 pm.), so I have a lot of thoughts I won't be able to go into tonight. Will have to come back tomorrow to work in it some more...
The Spark FlyLady team - again with the goals... (more specifically about cleaning my clutter and I do also want to finish reading my book "Does This Clutter Make My Butt Look Fat?" by Peter Walsh (? I think his name is?)
this is totally a cluttered blog from a cluttered mind, and I'm so sorry I'm such a bad example of clarity of thought. Back to Proverbs 31 - some of the things this Respected Lady was praised for seemed right in line with many of Spark's suggested goals...
Will need to list some of them...
(NKJV just for clarity and I know there are other great translations of the Bible. I know there are other Spiritual Writings,, but if you want bible studies, maybe ask your Rabbi, Priest, Shaman, Iman, Minister, Goddess or whoever you look to for your spiritual advise. I mean no offense or disrespect - there area many people on SparkPeople with many different Holy Books they use and are free to use. Here, I'm just quoting Spiritual words that I am more familiar with, because they looked like good goals for me, and because i believe they will help clarify some of thr thoughts I had in answering the concerns and questions several have asked about why I changed my screen name...)
The Virtuous Wife
10 Who can find a virtuous wife?
For her worth is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband safely trusts her;
So he will have no lack of gain.
12 She does him good and not evil
All the days of her life.
13 She seeks wool and flax,
And willingly works with her hands.
You know? Like shopping for clothes? She might have liked going to Kohl's, right? Trying to find good merchandise at a fair price.
Works with her hands? To me that could mean arts & crafts? Or just cleaning and cooking and all that needs to happen. So those seemed like reasonable goals.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
She brings her food from afar.
Shopping for food? And we do love our imported foods - pineapple doesn't grow in Kansas, Toto. Neither does St. Dalfour black cherry preserved, imported from France. Or Kansas wheat, exported all over the world. So I could relate to this. We want to feed our bodies and our families good quality foods and some of OT
15 She also rises while it is yet night,
And provides food for her household,
And a portion for her maidservants.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
From her profits she plants a vineyard.
17 She girds herself with strength,
And strengthens her arms.
See here? Sista pumps iron! Strength Training! I know I should be doing it but I just have not gotten my Strength Train Streak going! I need to!!
18 She perceives that her merchandise is good,
And her lamp does not go out by night.
19 She stretches out her hands to the distaff,
And her hand holds the spindle.
20 She extends her hand to the poor,
Yes, she reaches out her hands to the needy.
Yes, I need to show more charity and kindness to those less fortunate. I should not be holding back out because I am so tired, ashamed, lacking energy to be a positive light...
21 She is not afraid of snow for her household,
For all her household is clothed with scarlet.
22 She makes tapestry for herself;
Her clothing is fine linen and purple.
This hits home but will need to ponder this more and I am running out of time for my curfew.
23 Her husband is known in the gates,
When he sits among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
And supplies sashes for the merchants.
25 Strength and honor are her clothing;
She shall rejoice in time to come.
26 She opens her mouth with wisdom,
And on her tongue is the law of kindness.
Her blogs are likely shorter and more succinct?
27 She watches over the ways of her household,
And does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children rise up and call her blessed;
Her husband also, and he praises her:
How can my kid respect me if I don't respect me?
29 “Many daughters have done well,
But you excel them all.”
30 Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing,
But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands,
And let her own works praise her in the gates.
Some of this is a bit over my head, but things with were special points for me, things I felt like I could relate to, could improve upon. The rest I'm sure applies but I'm just not there yet. Maybe don't completely understand how they apply to me, or how to incorporate those. Maybe they are more distantly future goals that I'll be able to see clearer as I progress farther along in my journey from where I am here and now.
I'm fairly sure I forgot things and will edit more later.
Thanks for putting up with my cluttered writing!!
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