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RIP, our little Angel

Friday, September 21, 2012

Today I've been doing laundry and taking care of other stuff.

Our son came home after school and in a little bit, he went outside to mow the yard, and discovered our little Angel, legs outstretched, laying on her side in the grass near the house, a peaceful expression on her furry little black face. We've been working on her grave hole by the trees that she frequently liked to sleep under. DS is taking it fairly well, all things considered. He doesn't remember when our cat Diesel died when he was only 11 months old, so that's been years now.

We've had Angel since around 2006. The older woman we got her from was going into an assisted living home in Texas. She was a friend of my mother-in-law (who had already moved to Kansas closer to us in 2005.). She had gotten Angel from the pound there in Oklahoma some 2 or 3 years earlier, after her previous dog Queenie had passed on. The pound had her because she had belonged to an elderly couple who had to give her up when they themselves were going into a care home. So it's anyone's guess how old she actually was, but the vet said she was starting to get cataracts. She'd had grey/white hairs in her muzzle a few years now. Still liked to go for walks but couldn't handle running any more. I'd just taken her to the vet last week to get her rabies shot, and just renewed her license at the local City Hall for another year...

Somewhere around, I think we have a photo of her... Will have to find and update this later. We think she might have had some Australian Blue Heeler or some Shelty in her? Long wirey coat, impossible to keep brushed down, and she always preferred to be outdoors, even in the winter.... so peaceful, never tangled with our cat. Never barked much. About the only thing that got her going was chasing the rabbits that dared to bound through the yard, and she'd set off a mad dash in hot pursuit, stopping only at the fence.

She liked to dig... and when she'd go to my mom's house to hang out with her "cousin" (Larry the Cable Dog, who is mostly lab and maybe husky? he's a BIG dog compared to little ole 18-19 pound Angel!), she'd dig. Well... we were out of town and then my mom had to go out of town, so my step-brother was watching her. And well... she dug a hole and she and Larry got out of the fence and went roaming the neighborhood. Their tags got them some attention and phone calls, and they were returned. She got them out again later on. From then on, my mom called her "Jezebel" for "Leading Larry astray...." and when she went to visit my mom and Larry, we had to clip her to a very long chain so she had the entire yard to roam around on, but just not quite to the fence where she could dig!!

So anyway... I guess this is just a place to recollect thoughts.

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SAINTBETH 10/16/2012 9:48AM

    So sorry for your loss. My cat died last month and I also got her from a lady who went into a nursing home. These little furry guys bring a lot of happiness into our lives.

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JULIA_211 9/28/2012 4:55AM

    I'm so sorry. emoticon emoticon

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AWESOMECAROL55 9/23/2012 12:25PM

    Julia..I am so sorry for your loss...I know how difficult it is!! We love our little fur babies and treasure the joy they bring to us!! They love us unconditionally as we love them!! My condolences!!


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SONYALATRECE 9/22/2012 10:08PM

    My condolences! I know it's a matter of time for my Andy (toy poodle).
He's old. He's 10 in human years, but still lively.
Bless you!
All God's creatures are special and the companionship means so much. I understand.

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DIANER2014 9/22/2012 6:09PM

    So sorry for your loss! emoticon

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JILLYBEAN25 9/22/2012 5:04PM

    My condolences on the loss of your beloved Angel. Losing a furry member of the family is just as difficult as losing anyone.

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MISSG180 9/22/2012 3:24PM

    It's always painful to lose a beloved family friend like this. I am sorry for your loss.

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JANNEPERRY 9/22/2012 1:17PM

    Sorry for your loss. Pets are family members for many folks. I know Angel will be missed.

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JESSIKA_56 9/22/2012 11:58AM

    Sorry to hear about Angel's passing. emoticon

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M77355 9/22/2012 11:17AM

    Ohhhh I sad for you but glad she got to finish out her years with a loving family, big yard with rabbits to chase and still up for adventures. Life was good with you.

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PHEBESS 9/22/2012 11:13AM

    My deepest condolences - I know how hard it is to lose a pet, and send you lots of hugs.

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MRSCLAUS46 9/22/2012 9:27AM

    So sorry to read about your loss Julia. The loss of any pet can be devastating, but one so loved is very difficult. Your memories of her will be a comfort I am sure.
Take care friend.
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GAYLLYNNE 9/22/2012 9:19AM

    Sorry to hear about your loss. It's so hard to say good by to our furry kids. You are a wonderful family to have taken her in. I too had a dog that belonged to an elderly woman that went into a nursing home. We adopted him at 9 and had him till 13. I still miss him!! Remember, he is "over the rainbow bridge".

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GINNJEN1974 9/22/2012 5:59AM

    Aww so sorry to hear about you little Angel. She sounds like a sweetie

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BERRY4 9/22/2012 3:36AM

    Sorry to hear that your pet is gone. emoticon

I know we have discussed how we will manage when our older dog is gone. She is such a valuable asset to our rural life. She is the most perfect guard dog--better than any alarm system!
Animals have a way of weaving themselves into your daily lives and really do leave a hole when they go.

Glad you were able to share good memories and funnies that were unique to your Angel.

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KATHYSCOLLIES 9/21/2012 11:45PM

    Saying goodbye to those we love is never an easy thing, but take heart in the fact that your sweet Angel is now herself with the angels, with all those who have crossed The Rainbow Bridge before her. She is free from the aches and pains of old age, and able to romp and play once again like a youngster.

She will wait patiently for those whom she has loved to one day cross over The Bridge, when the time is right, so that she can be reunited with her human family again.


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CANINE_MAMA 9/21/2012 11:12PM

    I'm sorry for your loss. I have wondered how much longer Cody will be with me. He will be 14 in December. I certainly don't look forward to losing him.

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CONFUSEDBIRD 9/21/2012 10:20PM

    I am so sorry for your loss =(

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68ANNE 9/21/2012 9:27PM

    I am sorry for your loss. Enjoy the wonderful memories!

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MELROSE13 9/21/2012 8:26PM

    Sorry for your dogs have always been family and it is hard when they go but to know they were loved and cared for should be a comfort!

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OJ_2_OK 9/21/2012 8:06PM

    RIP angel. It sounds like you guys gave her a great life.

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Be An Inve$tor - Perfect Fuels CHOCOLATE - new flavors!!

Tuesday, September 18, 2012

So, many of us here on SparkPeople are all about chocolate, right? or coffee? or maybe energy foods like Chia Seeds? Some even run Marathons and 5K's and other races in between?

Anyone like to try out new products? or want to say they helped put up investment capital? Here's a link to IndieGoGo - which is kind of like a KickStarter type place, where people promote their idea, and they tell you what the fundraiser categories are and what "perks" you obtain.

I just signed up to contribute, but I'll show up as "anonymous" on their site. That's okay with me, it's their show and I don't need the glory. Just the little warm fuzzy I'll get when I'm slowly sucking down one of their Perfect Fuels, trying to keep the chocolate from drizzling down my face!!

Anyway I need to leave in a bit, but check out the link below, read all about it, ask them questions if you want, no pressure - got until October 1st to think about it. They want to raise something like $15,000 to help introduce three new flavors. Some of you may already be familiar with their products, so you might like to know about this and put your vote in!! (really a tough call as I think all three flavors have their merit, but I voted for Chia. I figure I can wash it down with a cuppa coffee and get my sea salt in some other way...).

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JANNEPERRY 9/19/2012 5:44AM

    Thanks for the link. I've heard about the site/concept but have yet to take action. Maybe the fuel is my "sweet spot". emoticon

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GERIKRAGH 9/18/2012 3:59PM

    Thanks for the info.

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SCOTMAMA 9/18/2012 1:53PM

    My husband adds chocolate to his coffee routinely -- so far I've avoided that little temptation!

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MRSCLAUS46 9/18/2012 10:48AM

    Thanks Julia ~ but I'll really need to check out the my old age my body has decided to betray me yet one more time and develped a serious allergy to sea salt, shellfish and seaweed! But I will check out the site--sounds interesting! emoticon emoticon

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LDRICHEL 9/18/2012 10:38AM

    Interesting. Thanks!

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Get More Almonds for Fewer Calories...

Tuesday, September 11, 2012


Well, maybe not in Hawaii but one can dream?! It's a pleasant day, warmish and windy-ish in Kansas... we'll take them as they come.

Was reading this article and thought I'd share. It's one of those "scientific studies" paid for by the Almond Growers, so there is a bias there.

Just for sake of argument, I tried to find some other articles or results, to see if any had their own bias one way or another. Admittedly I haven't spent the entire afternoon perusing many articles. Actually, just one...

This article kinda goes off on a different but similar tangent, and mentions that a calorie isn't always a calorie - and that some foods just really don't take much effort to chew up or to digest (calories burned) and so the body gets more of the calories from that food. Evidently this is the case with smoother or slicker foods... and then the article mentions various nuts, including Almonds, as burning a lot of calories in the efforts of chewing and digesting the nuts. And it says that the US Department of Agriculture confirms that finding. (but I didn't go off hunting for the official US Department of Agriculture article on same. That can be your science project of the day, if that's of interest to you. I need to go jump on my rebounder right now because my legs are aching, and it will be much more fun then taking the dog to the vet for her rabies shot.).

I have noticed that just a small amount of almonds really does give me saity (sp?) in my breakfast cereal....

So it appears to me that a small portion of almonds will be sufficient to boost the protein levels and really not increase the calories that much, as long as you are doing most of the work chewing it up. Probably Almond butter will be a straight transfusion of calories though...

emoticon (this might look like peanut butter or Nutella, but today, I will suspend disbelief and call it Almond butter, since I couldn't find any emoticons for almonds in SparkPeople. The very idea!!!).

Have fun!

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BERRY4 9/18/2012 2:41PM

    Blue Diamond Natural has Oven Roasted Almonds, dark chocolate flavor. It is not a coating but a dusting of cocoa powder. I must say that are AMAZING after my workout!

As an aside...I just read on a "natural" site that we do not really have access to "raw" almonds since they are forced to be pasteurized to prevent salmonella contamination.
R>Anyway, good luck in your journey of health & fitness!

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CONFUSEDBIRD 9/14/2012 8:30AM

    I have always been so frustrated by how few almonds u get for a serving. I know they are flling but still sad to look at. Oh goodness me and almond butter, we got a sick relationship lol

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MRSCLAUS46 9/13/2012 3:24PM

    Ahhhhh......ponderable points.....does brain strain burn calories?(tongue in cheek) emoticon

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1CRAZYDOG 9/11/2012 5:37PM

    Well, I personally enjoy both almonds and pistachios. Add 'em to my morning oatmeal! And I too find that it add to my satiety.

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JANIEWWJD 9/11/2012 5:36PM

    I love almonds!!!! emoticon

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JANNEPERRY 9/11/2012 4:54PM

    I only read the second article. Interesting.

I'm pretty sure we all do know that eating 1 2000 calorie ice cream sundae daily for our nutrition will not have the same impact on our bottom line as 2000 calories of foods from all three macro nutrient groups: carbohydrates, protein, and fats.

I do think more research needs to be done regarding the appropriate carbohydrates, protein, and fats % for a healthy lifestyle.


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The Story Of The Wooden Bowl (Author Unknown)

Friday, September 07, 2012

(Just to clarify - I didn't write this out. I've been sent this story many times in email, and have seen it elsewhere on the Internet. Many different blogs and websites have this story posted. Some add extra thoughts to the end. It's just inspirational and encouraging and thought-provoking. I've been having my own issues so it's something for me to remember and ponder as well!! Wish I had written it, but I haven't.)

"The Story Of The Wooden Bowl"
Author Unknown

A frail old man went to live with his son, daughter-in-law, and four-year-old grandson.
The old man’s hands trembled, his eyesight was blurred, and his step faltered.

The family ate together at the table. But the elderly grandfather’s shaky hands and failing sight made eating difficult. Peas rolled off his spoon onto the floor. When he grasped the glass, milk spilled on the tablecloth.

The son and daughter-in-law became irritated with the mess.
“We must do something about father” said the son.
“I’ve had enough of his spilled milk, noisy eating, and food on the floor”.

So the husband and wife set a small table in the corner.
There, Grandfather ate alone while the rest of the family enjoyed dinner without him.
Since Grandfather had broken a dish or two, his food was now served in a wooden bowl.

When the family glanced in Grandfather’s direction, sometimes he had a tear in his eye as he sat alone.
Still, the only words the couple had for him were sharp admonitions when he dropped a fork or spilled food.

The four-year-old grandson watched it all in silence.

One evening before supper, the father noticed his son playing with scrap pieces of wood on the floor.
He asked the child sweetly, “What are you making?” Just as sweetly, the boy responded, “Oh, I am making a little bowl for you and Mama to eat your food in when I grow up.” The four-year-old then smiled and went back to work.

The words so struck the parents that they were speechless. Then tears started to stream down their cheeks. Though no word was spoken, both knew what must be done.

That evening the husband took Grandfather’s hand and gently led him back to the family table.

For the remainder of his days he ate every meal with the family. And for some reason, neither the husband or the wife seemed to care any longer when a fork was dropped, milk spilled, or the tablecloth soiled.

On a positive note, I’ve learned from this story that, no matter what happens, how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow.

I’ve learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles four things: A rainy day, the elderly, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights.

I’ve learned that making a “living” is not the same thing as making a “life.”

I’ve learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance.

I’ve learned that you shouldn’t go through life with a catcher’s mitt on both hands. You need to be able to throw something back sometimes.

I’ve learned that if you pursue happiness, it will elude you. But, if you focus on your family, your friends, the needs of others, your work and doing the very best you can, happiness will find you.

I’ve learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision.

I’ve learned that even when I have pains, I don’t have to be one.

I’ve learned that every day, you should reach out and touch someone.

People love that human touch – holding hands, a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back.

I’ve also learned that I still have a lot to learn.

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NASFKAB 9/11/2012 10:12AM

  beautiful story thanks

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1CRAZYDOG 9/9/2012 8:58AM

    What a beautiful piece. I've seen it before too. Gives you pause to learn to put on your "patience pants", doesn't it!

Thanks. I needed this today as well.


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JANIEWWJD 9/9/2012 1:49AM

    I love this story. Thank you so much for the reminder. God bless you!!!!
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IDLETYME 9/8/2012 5:52PM

    That's a wonderful story. The point of which - we should always remember!!!
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ADRIENALINE 9/8/2012 3:39PM

    Thank goodness, this is one sin I haven't committed yet. We are celebrating my dad's 98th birthday tonite, surrounded by his children, grandchildren and great grand children.

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3016DEBRA 9/8/2012 1:15PM

  WOW...I haven't ever heard this made me well up! emoticon
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PHEBESS 9/8/2012 10:31AM

    We all need to listen to the children - they instinctively know what is right.

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HOPEFULHIPPO 9/8/2012 10:26AM

    Oh I like this one :o)

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MRSCLAUS46 9/8/2012 9:01AM

    I really needed to read this today..........Thank you!
I remember an elderly church member counciling me years ago when I was despondent over family issues. She told me that my young children were watching me and learning from me and the way they saw me responding to my own parents was the way they would someday respond to me........very thought provoking as was Wooden Bowl.
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PAMNANGEL 9/8/2012 1:14AM

    Good story

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PROVERBS31JULIA 9/8/2012 12:43AM

    Keeping in mind... these aren't my words... it's from an email I read... the story shows up all over the web "Author Unknown..." Thanks for stopping by!!

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JUDYAMK 9/8/2012 12:11AM

    Thank you for posting the story of the Wooden Bowl. That is very powerful & the lessons you have learned & are now sharing is also powerful thank you for allowing us to see this all through your eyes.

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ALICIA214 9/8/2012 12:10AM


What a lovely blog. And filled with truth. Thank you!!!

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Chuck Norris comments and I feel like Shattered Glass (better to skip this)

Wednesday, September 05, 2012

Chuck's comments on Kayla Harrison, Olympic Gold Medalist in Olympic Judo:

=== Beginning of quoted segment ===

Kayla's journey to Olympic gold, as well as her triumph over tragedy, models a path that victims of any form of abuse or past entrapments can take to attain recovery, freedom and their dreams.

Here are a few of the lessons that her life and actions teach us:

1) Don't let being a victim define or paralyze you any more than it already has; rather, use it as a catalyst to grow, overcome and fuel victory.

The U.K.'s Guardian retold how Kayla said everything in her life — the good, the bad and the ugly — was used to help her overcome and reach her goals: "Kind of just reflecting back on my life. Everything it's taken to get here, and everything that I've gone through."

Kayla reminded me of a critical fact in personal growth: Your past can be the fire for victory in your present; it doesn't have to paralyze and enslave you. Triumph over trauma can be our greatest achievement because it helps us in myriad ways. In her own words, Kayla said her journey "is proof that you're only a victim if you allow yourself to be. Nothing can stop you."

Read, learn and grow. As PAVE Inc.'s website notes, "education and awareness are essential to both prevention and healing."

2) Surround yourself with people who will push — and sometimes even pull — you toward health, wholeness and your goals.

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I'm not allowed to quote all of it...

So anyway this is an issue I'm still struggling with.

I'm still kind of paralyzed in parts of my life... still have a tendency to just go numb and not really feel....anything.

I remember when I was 18 or 19 and finally out of the house, I felt powerful. But I guess there were some things I didn't fully understand about family dynamics, about dysfunctional relationships, about personal boundaries, about what exactly is "respect" and what exactly is "honor"... things like that? When do I "honor" the abuser just because of their seniority or because of the relationship dynamics, who they are relative to my place in the family. I read where I'm to honor a person but not respect what they do. And when I reached out to try to stop and was not believed, and later on, the others in the family overreacted and now the family is spread to the four winds, so I don't even feel respected by the siblings who were not affected. Not sure how to put Humpty Dumpty back together again...because she, well, me is just not altogether there. Now I have problems hugging my own child, for fear that I will turn into the same monster (statistics claim that the abused grow up to be abusers. I know statistics can lie.... I also know statistically the abused are more likely to become obese...).

Why do I feel so down when I'm trying to look up to a better example? Where does the forgiveness come into play, and still care for elderly family members who didn't stop the pain when they could have?

I'm the only child that still lives in the same area, still mains any contact with my elderly relatives.... The other siblings essentially have nothing to do with me, with each other, with their elderly relatives... (I've no idea if anyone on SP knows me and my family personally... a few have met "at" me but I wouldn't say they know my family, other than my DH and DS.).

So sorry.

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BERRY4 9/18/2012 2:52PM

    As always, I would believe there is more to your story.... just maybe not the platform to present all the "good, bad & ugly".
-- At different times along my own journey, I have felt the need to talk to a neutral party (ie. counselor) or someone that isn't entangled in the strings that have knotted around me (ie. NOT family). I have felt that it is difficult for me to "see the forest because of the trees" and that is where someone "outside" can provide guidance for me to find a path to walk that is healthy. (because we don't always know what that looks like; often it feels awkward)

There is a need for personal respect and boundaries, and often in abuse those lines have been blurred so badly, that we can't, by ourselves, figure out what is healthy and what is not. I would encourage you to find someone safe to talk with to be a sounding board and provide feedback as to how to walk, and how to deal w/ family, and what to do about care situations, etc.

...just a few thoughts from someone who has been there. I KNOW there are people who have suffered far more than I. Nevertheless, some of it shapes you and it is a challenge to figure out how to change it--for the better.

Best to you in your journey... emoticon

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BEAUTY_WITHIN 9/6/2012 11:49PM

    emoticon Glad I didn't skip this. Focus on yourself and your immediate family - your child, your significant other. Do what you can for yourself and them first. Then worry about everything else. Take care of yourself.

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MRSCLAUS46 9/6/2012 7:50PM

    emoticon from another in that same boat..........I'm very glad I did not skip this.

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HEALTHYLISA 9/6/2012 12:46PM

    emoticon Love yourself !!! Let yourself be happy ! Take care of yourself ! emoticon

Make your family your focus ! Your children will be loved, protected and listened to.

Don't blame yourself for any of it -- you were a child. Forgiving someone is hard to do especially if they don't admit to any wrong-doing. However, if you can forgive it will help you to heal.

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3G1RLS4ME 9/6/2012 10:35AM

    We are in a likely boat I wrote a blog about it this morning I don't know either

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NEPTUNE1939 9/5/2012 11:50PM

    Remember young lady "you are unique". Each day is special as it is the start of a new beginning, May God bless your journey and Spark on, Earl

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