Dealing

Thursday, February 25, 2010

Well here we go again. So as usual I find out at the last minute that my daughter in law is going away till Sunday. SHe left this afternoon, till Sunday afternoon. she went to Charleston with girl friends for a week end of relaxation. I got stuck cleaning the house and getting ready for my sons regular Thursday night poker game. It just seems like I am just catering to them a lot. I am trying really hard to be positive about all of this. It is not easy. I just feel like they are disrespectful of me as to knowing I will do everything for them, Plus my taking care of myself kind of suffers.

I am just venting for sure, no one else on my side to tell me if I am wrong or right or whatever. i did do 4 miles on the treadmill.

  

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AMALIA8 2/26/2010 1:52PM

Congrats on the exercise. :) With the kids.....I don't know what to tell you. I honestly might just do what you would do if you were living by yourself and not pick up after them all the time. For instance if you do the cooking that night, then only wash your own dishes and not theirs. Or, if you do laundry, only do your own. If you see them doing some things to help out then maybe then do some of their chores but they are supposed to be adults and should be taking care of their own house. Yes, you're living there so you can help out but you're not their slave and they have to realize this. Stick up for yourself! You're worth it! Report Inappropriate Comment

IM_GETTIN_THIN 2/26/2010 11:16AM

Good for you getting in your exercise. Not sure what to tell you about the children, I am dealing with two teens and a toddler myself. Report Inappropriate Comment

JUGE300000 2/26/2010 7:53AM

My wife and I are grandparents. We love our son and our grandchildren. But sometimes you just have to say, "Enough." If you want a poker game, you clean and get ready. And maybe you need to take a weekend off with the girls. Report Inappropriate Comment

DARINGR8LY 2/26/2010 2:08AM

Venting and treadmill good. Report Inappropriate Comment

ROSEYQ 2/25/2010 10:02PM

Absolutely, we're here to be your cheering section and your venting section. It's easy to say this as an outsider, but you did your job. You raised your kid(s). Now it's time to nurture and care for yourself. IMHO-Let them know that you love them and want to help, BUT they need to respect you and your needs. They are grown and need to take responsibility for themselves and be mindful of how their actions affect you. If your son wants to have poker buddies over, then he needs to get off his tail and clean or atleast help clean and prepare for the evening. You go on doing what you need to do for yourself. They are not your responsibility anymore. Hang in there!! Comment edited on: 2/25/2010 10:05:04 PM Report Inappropriate Comment

REDRUNNERMOM713 2/25/2010 9:46PM

I am so sorry to hear about you being taken advantage of. Here is what I would do in this situation...and this is JUST me. I can be a little witchy sometimes. I would STOP catering to them! I don't know your situation, but just from what you have said in this blog, they just expect you to do everything for them. It may be hard to just stop because I'm sure you love them and want to do things for them, but you have to draw a line somewhere AND you also need to make sure that you are making time for YOU!!!! I hope I didn't offend or cross any lines by saying that....if I did I apologize. Hang in there hon...vent all you like! That's why we are here! Report Inappropriate Comment

Swimming

Wednesday, February 24, 2010

Well at the last minute I found out I could go swimming. I have to wait till there is nothing else going on here at home for me to use the car and go to the gym. So I did 120 min in the pool, it is so weird when you do a work out in the pool. You do not sweat, you do not feel it a lot in your muscles so it can be deceiving. I worry I am not working out right at times. I have this insecurity of not trusting what I am doing. Especially when they are getting easier to do.

Just a thought I was having about workouts of mine. I will just trust this site and keep on doing what I am doing.

Want to thank you all who keep coming back and giving me advice it is so much appreciated. The support here is so wonderful and really astonishing to me it is something I have never received anywhere before. So this site needs to know and be commended for what it is creating here at Spark, it is very unique and priceless in my opinion.

  

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KERSKI 2/26/2010 8:57PM

I go to water aerobics 4 days a week and I love it! One hour of class and another hour on my own. Just about any exercise you can do out of the water is so much easier in the water. I like doing jumping jacks, they really get the heart rate going. You really don't feel like you are exercising, especially if you enjoy being in the water, but I have lost several inches since I started in December. Enjoy what you are doing. As long as you are moving, you are exercising! Report Inappropriate Comment

AMALIA8 2/26/2010 1:50PM

The first time i went to a water aerobics class I wasn't sure if I was doing it right either because you're right - you don't sweat. However, when I got out, my legs felt like jelly LOL. :) Keep up the fantastic work! Report Inappropriate Comment

YOADDICTION101 2/25/2010 1:19PM

I have always love swimming and can't wait till I get to swim again...But plz rember to ALWAYS WEAR YOUR SUNBLOCK... When I was a kid I had a three day weekend of nothing but water fun in the sun...I didn't put my sunblcok on and my face and body swelled up triple its size and I had huge blisters all over... The doctor said I got a third degree burn from the sun...I wasn't allowed outside for about a month and a half...And now am alergic to the sun...more then most people...I have to wear spf 50 or I will get burnt...and usally have to reaplie about every hour to two hours...The more I sweat the faster the sunblock wears off and the more I can feel the sun burning me...It's not fun.. So plz keep on swimming and WEAR YOUR SUNBLOCK...make sure to find one that is water prof. Comment edited on: 2/25/2010 1:20:27 PM Report Inappropriate Comment

NJMATTICE 2/25/2010 10:39AM

When I worry that I'm not working out properly or at the right time I ask myself this question: "Is any exercise better than NO exercise?" That answer is easy. YES and I let those worries go. Keep up the good work. -nj Report Inappropriate Comment

JUGE300000 2/25/2010 7:58AM

Swimming is great exercise. Keep it up. Report Inappropriate Comment

IM_GETTIN_THIN 2/24/2010 10:50PM

Hi. I love swimming but mainly do it in the summertime. I swim laps in our big community pool and you are right when you swim it is so easy on the body and joints that it does not feel like you are exercising but believe me you are! yes, you don't sweat because you are surrounded by water but....................really you burn a great deal of energy when you swim laps and you cannot beat the feeling. I take my daughters with me and sometimes we swim all day with the occasional healthy snack and reading breaks and of course sunscreen breaks too. Enjoy the swimming it is aerobic and really good for you. It is always good to mix up your exercise routine to keep your body guessing. Report Inappropriate Comment

Blank Mind

Tuesday, February 23, 2010

Ever have a day where you just have no idea what to say. Well this is me today. Not sure why, could be just exhaustion. I just finished 4 miles and I did not have as much energy as yesterday, I think perhaps I am not eating enough of something, protein or whatever. I have been doing more water, I know this should help. But I do not like it when my mind wants to do something and I have to talk keep talking to myself to get it over with. Oh well one thing I am learning this new lifestyle is not predictable or easy to find out all the answers. we all have different body shapes, and circumstances that effect the way we get to the goal of losing all this weight. It is not easy figuring out all the glitches or habits you have been doing up to this point in your life and how it effects the outcome of your goal.

This experience is not easy but I know it will be worth it in the end. Plus I will know my body a whole lot better, and how to take care of it in the right manner.

  

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AMALIA8 2/24/2010 7:56AM

Well, I have my to do lists which makes it a little easier because I don't have to think much past if I did it or not LOL. However, sometimes adding extra things to it takes some effort. :) Keep up the great work and eventually you'll have lots and lots more to tell us! Report Inappropriate Comment

JUGE300000 2/24/2010 7:45AM

Whew. Join the club. Sometimes I sit in front of my blank computer screen and just stare. Report Inappropriate Comment

FOTOMAKR 2/23/2010 9:19PM

Well it sounds like you are headed in the right direction. Keep on moving forward! You can do this! They say you learn something new everyday. There is plenty to learn when it comes to your health. Report Inappropriate Comment

IM_GETTIN_THIN 2/23/2010 6:40PM

this is a learning process that is for sure. Report Inappropriate Comment

Boy Am I Pumped

Monday, February 22, 2010

Things are really happening lately. I just went to Walmart and at the check out two workers there were talking about trying to lose weight together, so there was my in. I told them I have lost 57 pounds with the help of a site on computer called Sparkpeople. I also told them that there is a great support team here in SC that had a rally yesterday in Columbia and told them we are a great support ream. So they both said they would check it out. I gave them my name here. We wil see what happens. On the way home i was still thinking about what had happened. I thought now I know why I need to carry those cards that was sent to me in my spark starter kit, if I had those cards with me then I could have put my name on them and put the team name on it and they would have the card for reference. If I was at home and had my car I would have made a special trip and went back and given those girls each a card. But I have my DIL's car and she had to go and get Beto at school. So I came home and put the cards in my wallet for the next time something happens like this. Pray they remember and check it out. It is so cool how I really want to share and help others with true concern over there lives and health. So time will tell.

I also have great news I lost a pound this week. Now that is something to be proud of with all I had to go through this week and I still made progress. I am really siked about this. So had to share it of coarse with my buddies.

  

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AMALIA8 2/24/2010 7:54AM

Congrats for the weight loss and for spreading the Spark! :) Keep up the amazing work! Report Inappropriate Comment

ONCEMOREAGAIN 2/23/2010 1:34PM

Good for you! I am proud that you have lost a pound this week, and also, that you are sharing Spark People with others. I tell people all the time about SP too, and it does make you feel good. Even if they don't join on my reference, if they at least JOIN!! Keep up the good work!! Report Inappropriate Comment

IM_GETTIN_THIN 2/23/2010 12:21AM

on another pound gone! that is and that you were also able to spread the doesn't it feel good to encourage others Report Inappropriate Comment

TWINKIE14 2/22/2010 6:28PM

Spread The Spark I also do this at every opportunity I get Report Inappropriate Comment

MRSSASS2010 2/22/2010 3:36PM

Good job spreading the spark and losing a lb this week!!! Report Inappropriate Comment

SWISSERS 2/22/2010 2:21PM

You go girl! Great job at nabbing the opportunity to talk about SP! I've told some folks that I work with about it and I know of a few that are now SP members--YEA! to hear about the progress you've made! Keep up the great work! Report Inappropriate Comment

Back On Track

Sunday, February 21, 2010

Well I am glad that week is over. I am trying to get back on track. So many things happening that I have no control over. I did do my treadmill today, I took someones suggestion and raised the level of the treadmill to try and get a little more heart rate up. I read a few blogs and the rally went great here in SC. I had the party so I could not go. i went to my grandsons soccer game it was so funny. There was 4 and 5 years old running all around not knowing what they were doing. I laughed so hard. Beto has this stride where he swings his arms when he runs and it is so cute. He stands out because of this. There were girls on the team too and one little girl just kept cartwheeling in the field when the game was going on. Seeing children play a sport when they are so young has a whole different prospective. They have no real idea what they are doing and it is lucky if they even kick the ball. I laughed a lot when the game was going on. It only took 45 min. for the game. We had a beautiful day for the first game is was sunny and in the high 60's, just perfect. It feels like spring here in SC.

So I did make sure to get a workout in, even with all the other stuff going on today. I feel so much better if I apply myself to taking care of myself. I get to sleep in a bed again tonight too.

Just one more thing to vent and share, had a fight with my son on the wawy home from the game, he made a wise crack about me not giving him food stamp money for groceries. It all started when they were going to stop at Walmart after the game and I did not bring a purse. I needed two things, mentioned it to my son, and he somehow turned it around to the food stamps I had not given him. He invited me here for 6 months, I watch his dog and son, do a lot of the cleaning, and he want me to give him money for food from my food stamps why I am here! I just get upset thinking I am not worth much to him that he is not willing to feed me that I need to pull more than my share. I had been using my money why I am here, I buy what is needed, I told him this and he wanted to know exactly what I had gotten. Like I have to give him the list. Sorry my memory is not that good. Besides he should trust what I say that I have been buying food. I ended up just telling him I was not going to speak to him about this cause I knew I was not going to end up looking good, in the fight. I live at home on a limited amount. They both work and make lots of money yet I have to pay him while I am her. Just does not seem right, and he can not see my way of thinking. I know no one can do nothing about this, it is the way he is. I do not know what I did with him bringing him up but he has a very selfish streak that bugs me at times. So I just needed to vent it and get it off my shoulders. Thanks for all who listen and do not judge me. Just listen. I know i am not perfect, and I may be in the wrong, but I just am not willing to give and not get in return at times. Have a great night.

  

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AMALIA8 2/22/2010 10:09AM

I'm glad you had fun watching the game though I'm sorry your son was so selfish after the game. I know that parents shape their kids but it cannot all be placed on their shoulders since peers and teachers shape children too. :) I would just keep a list of everything you buy from now on and maybe if he keeps insisting that you pay him with food stamps then maybe you should consider not staying any longer. I don't know, but if my dad needed a place to stay, I would do everything I could to help him and I wouldn't expect anything of him other than to help with some cleaning around the place. Anyway, keep up the great work and have an awesome day! Report Inappropriate Comment

MRSSASS2010 2/21/2010 11:35PM

Your post reminded me of the first time I saw 5 year olds "play" a game of tball! Half the kids weren't even facing the game. One little girl busied herself picking flowers in the outfield. There were as many parents on the field as players! Hilariously cute! Sorry about your son. ((HUGS)) Report Inappropriate Comment

CAROLYN0107 2/21/2010 10:31PM

WooHoo that you're back on track and also that you feel free to vent here in your blog. HUGS Report Inappropriate Comment

LINDA! 2/21/2010 8:09PM

Well, I got your message on F/B that you posted your blog!! Glad you let us know. I am glad that you are back on track. I am so sorry about the argument on the way home from the game. Life can be so tough at times. I am sending positive thoughts your way. Report Inappropriate Comment