What do you do?

Wednesday, September 02, 2009

I am currently in a dilemma... It has nothing to do with SparkPeople or the reason I'm TRULY here, but it does have a great deal to do with my emotional health. I don't usually think of myself as an "emotional female" although I'm sure I'll be depicted that way. I can say that after YEARS on the job, I cried at work for the first time today. To make a long story short, I work with a $hit stirrer for a supervisor. He likes to create division within the department. He told someone that I said something that I didn't say. I was confronted with the other person present and the supervisor admitted that it was a miscommunication. I stated that it was a LIE. There was no miscommunication. He preferred to call it a miscommunication still. Either way.... Essentially, I'm in a situation where any remaining respect I had for my supervisor has been shot to hell. I personally find the situation intolerable, but I do like the people I work with in general and I enjoy what I do. So I say to all of my WONDERFUL, AMAZING, SENSITIVE, SparkFriends... What do you do? For your emotional well-being, which is very important to health in my opinion... How do you handle the situation?

Hugs and appreciation for any who take the time to read this and offer their thoughts...

  

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MOMMA_BEAR_69 9/6/2009 12:31AM

I am too close to this situation to actually comment as I know the people involved and the %&@* going on and being said. I would really like to just crack some heads together...3 stooges style. I am so proud of you for standing up for yourself and not letting them brow beat you. When you tell the truth, it is the truth and not some story to make you or anyone else look better or worse. It just is!!! I would say to document every time something out of line happens, who the instigator is and what the situation is including who is involved. Write down the date, time, who commented, what they said, and who else was present or within ear shot at the time. You know what goes on in those fact finding hearings. I talked with a friend and she said many times cases were won because someone kept contemporaneous notes. Any hearing officer will give weight to notes taken as the case has progressed and will trust those a lot more than memories some months down the road. Keep meticulous notes on this. A paper trail can only serve to protect you, should it come to that. May God bless you and give you favor. Blessings and hugs, all the while knowing I love you and am trying to be unbiased. Mom Report Inappropriate Comment

STITCHES63 9/3/2009 6:02AM

I've been in this situation where a co-worker AND supervisor were downright harassing me. My suggestion, if you are willing to stick it out, keep a log of everything that is said by your supervisor- what he actually says, what rumors are going on, any more 'miscommunications'... that way, if an argument or something comes to a head, you have something to defend yourself with. Good luck, situations like these are always horrible. Stick with it if you believe it to be worth the effort and in the end, you can only hope the gods are on your side. Report Inappropriate Comment

KOFFEENUT 9/3/2009 12:29AM

This is a tough one - it's difficult to work for someone you don't respect because you can't trust them. If your co-workers are astute they already know the same thing about him. That means in interactions with your co-workers you'll likely have more credibility (it will be more difficult for him to stir things up at your expense; they simply won't believe him). If you're able to build on your relationships with other people and insulate or protect yourself in interactions with your boss you may be able to have the "emotional safety" to continue where you are. Sometimes the only thing you can do is find another area to work in the organization or leave it entirely. It just depends on how supportive the environment is around you, how determined your boss is to make people crazy, and how much you're willing to put up with. I've seen situations where going above the boss to highlight a problem has worked, but it can be dicey. You need to have documentation that clearly shows your boss is a problem and that you tried to work things out directly. It really depends on your organization and how supportive it is - it can backfire on you. My heart goes out to you. It's so hard to have a job you love and people you enjoy, only to discover one person can cancel all that out. Keep us posted. Report Inappropriate Comment

Gearing up for King's Dominion...

Tuesday, September 01, 2009

DH and I are going to be enjoying an extended weekend together... We're almost all packed and ready to go. I'm excited to watch him enjoy the park for the first time, and I'm hopeful that the weather is nice enough to enjoy the water park for one day. More to come...

  

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MOMMA_BEAR_69 9/2/2009 12:21AM

Can't wait to see some more blogs about this trip!!! Sounds like a fantastic time. ENJOY it...you both deserve it. Kick back and live each day to the fullest. Super safe travel mercies. You will be in my thoughts and prayers daily. Blessings, love and hugs, Mom Report Inappropriate Comment

Wondering about walking...

Monday, August 31, 2009

I am wondering if I'm the only one on here who wants to WALK AWAY THE POUNDS??? Everyone else that is "walking away the pounds" is a Sansone fanatic. I'm not sure that that's what I mean. I have just been thinking... After a month of staying in my calorie range (for the most part) and RUNNING (!!!) and doing some walking recently, I have NOT LOST AN OUNCE!!! I'm ending this month at exactly the same weight I began it.

It got me thinking back to the last time I had a NOTICEABLE weight loss... We were in Vegas and eating a pretty fair amount. HOWEVER, I was walking everywhere... Miles upon miles a day. I think maybe that works better for me...

Just wondering if anyone else has had this experience or what others thought about it...

  

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MOMMA_BEAR_69 9/2/2009 9:30AM

Walking is one of the best exercises you can do. It is much easier on your body than running. Walk with whatever combination of music makes you smile with a good beat to it. Your music and not someone elses. Take your time at King's Dominion for a fresh start...enjoy the walking and have a great time, use the Omron while you are there just to see how many steps you are taking. Be sure to record them at the end of each day just to compare how far you have walked. When you get home, tie on those walking shoes, grab Phoenix and get walking or leave Phoenix at home and get moving. See if you can add a few steps every day. Never underestimate your power to change and improve! You are a good person, with wonderful qualities, and you can reach your goals! I am rooting for you 250%. You are human and can only do what you can do. Remember: Take perfection and throw it out the window. There's always something you can make better or do differently — strive to IMPROVE, not attain the impossible. This journey isn't to kill yourself, just to make yourself healthier. May God bless you as you continue your journey to the healthiest you can be. Wake up each morning knowing that you have been given a new chance, put a smile on your face, give yourself a little pep talk because you know you can do this and get your day started with a happy thought, and thank God you have this new day. Before you go to sleep each night, thank God for the day you have just had and give yourself a pat on your back for a job well done...that you did the best you could for that day. Putting God first, know that you are in control! You are working toward making yourself a healthier you. You can do this!!! Blessings, tons of love and millions of hugs, Mom and you will see this and (kicking butt)!! Comment edited on: 9/2/2009 9:33:33 AM Report Inappropriate Comment

GINNY1647 9/1/2009 1:21AM

I walk about a mile every day on a route that we, me and the DH charted out for ourselves. The first 2 months I started this walk, I didn't drop a pound, but I did go down 6 inches around my waist the first month walking. The second month, I only dropped one pound, then after that, the weight came off very quickly. Hang in there, don't look at the scale so much and you will see lots of improvement in your body just by walking. Report Inappropriate Comment

BLACKCANARYBABE 9/1/2009 12:57AM

I don't walk and i am not loosing weight, but when I do get out and walk it sure helps. BC Report Inappropriate Comment

ALICIA214 8/31/2009 11:30PM

I walk a lot , for a couple of reasons, one, I have a dog, and she insists on a walk,on a daily basis. And secondly It is ann exersize that I enjoy the most. Hang in there friend and the weight will fall off. Good Luck. Report Inappropriate Comment

ALICIA214 8/31/2009 11:30PM

I walk a lot , for a couple of reasons, one, I have a dog, and she insists on a walk,on a daily basis. And secondly It is ann exersize that I enjoy the most. Hang in there friend and the weight will fall off. Good Luck. Report Inappropriate Comment

Feeling crappy...

Sunday, August 30, 2009

Ever had a string of days where you just feel like the dog crap on the bottom of a shoe? I try hard not to be a complainer, but for the last month solid I've been dealing with what seemed to start as a sinus infection. I took the Z Pack and the infection seemed to go away. It seemed to be followed by some type of severe head cold that causes an abnormal amount of sinus pain and pressure in my forehead. I have been taking tylenol and could probably become the new poster child for the brand, but to no avail. It still isn't going away.

To top it all off, my back is acting up with lots of spasms. It has been a while since the spasms have been this bad... I have cut down on almost all of my running. I am sometimes still running in short spurts, but for the most part I've been walking and race-walking. I've been trying to do 3 miles at least 4 times a week since I stopped running. I find that I work up a VERY good sweat and am able to stick to the program more consistently. I actually look forward to the challenge of the walks and don't dread the spasms being worse like they are from running.

Oh well... I'll keep pushing forward and hoping that things turn around!!! Thanks for listening...

  

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JEWITCH 8/30/2009 11:40PM

Sorry to hear that you are feeling so low. I hope you start feeling better and more positive. Sometimes you just need to step back and reassess what is going on and why. Brightest blessings and warm hugs. Report Inappropriate Comment

MOMMA_BEAR_69 8/30/2009 9:58PM

A very graphic blog my dear adult child and master of the English language. I am a firm believer if you try something and it doesn't work, try, try, again. However you have done that even and including running a 5K. It isn't working for you and causing you pain is not the purpose of exercising whether it is aerobic or strengthening. So give up the try, try again part. You could actually jog in your pool and get more out of it...with no pain then with your straight running and training...no extra pressure on your legs or back. You probably walk faster than most people run...walking a mile in ten or eleven minutes or less is moving right along and if that doesn't hurt you, then just do it. Do what you have to do for you. Hit that pool and swim rather than running or especially after walking if you don't want to do it in the pool. You could use that pool for some fine relaxation. If our hours jived better I would come over and walk or water aerobics with you in the evening since you are working in the daytime. But of course it has to be after McK....probably too late for you especially with the evenings getting cooler. Keep on moving and doing the best you can. Maybe TKW would be open to doing the speed walking with you. Check that avenue out. Be careful and do what you have to do for YOU!!! This is your life...make the most of it! Keeping you in prayer and remember you are loved!!! Love and hugs, Mom Report Inappropriate Comment

Skipping today's workout...

Thursday, July 30, 2009

Well, today was supposed to be Week 8, Day 3 of the Couch 2 5K program. The only problem is that it is H-O-T! We did the program (Day 2) on Tuesday at 5:30 and the temp was 87. My friend ending up barfing... The humidity is near 100% as it is either sprinkling or threatening to sprinkle at every second of the day. I wish it would just downpour and clear up already. At any rate... We ended up skipping today's scheduled workout. It's the first scheduled workout we've missed since starting the Couch 2 5K program. We will be back at it no matter what on Saturday morning... Stay tuned until then!

  

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L3DESIGNS 7/31/2009 2:29AM

Yuck on the hot and humid weather. We are above 30C here but only 50% humidity... I skipped yesterday but did get out tonight at sunset. Hope the weather cools down so you can run tomorrow. Report Inappropriate Comment

MOMMA_BEAR_69 7/31/2009 12:37AM

You were wise to skip today and just take the break. No reason to make yourselves sick or worse with the temperatures and humidity so high. It was hard walking and breathing today...even sitting outside on the swing was hard. Remember tomorrow is another day. God made it special for each of us. Best of luck as you continue you training Saturday morning...Rain tomorrow and Sunday. Love and hugs, Mom Report Inappropriate Comment

VALERIE_ 7/30/2009 10:44PM

I've heard that sometimes it can be dangerous to run in that kind of humidity because your sweat doesn't evaporate and you could overheat and pass out. It's okay to skip a day or two. I'd definitely go out in the rain though if it started raining (without lightening) Report Inappropriate Comment

AFIFE0878 7/30/2009 10:22PM

Everbody needs a break, there is always tomorrow. Report Inappropriate Comment

LINZIENOEL 7/30/2009 10:18PM

Don't feel bad about taking a break...tomorrow is another day. Report Inappropriate Comment