Sunday, November 20, 2011
So, I've been thinking about what holds me back from reaching the goals I have set for myself. Here is a list of my excuses!
**I can't exercise at home anymore as my daughter moved back home and sleeps in my living room. (which by the way I can't be happier about!)
**The weather...too cold, to wet, to hot, too something!
**I quit my gym membership, as my schedule gets so hectic that it wasn't worth the money I was throwing out for it.
**I can't afford to eat healthy.
**I just simply don't track my calories.
**If I mess up once during the day, what is the point...just eat whatever and forget about exercising.
Lame excuses...and so many of them?! But, they are truly what brings me to the point of not losing...and ultimately not reaching my goals.
So, it's time to abolish those excuses! Time to find some answers! It's time for some change!
Here is my list of ways to bust those excuses:
**Exercise doesn't have to be at home. The mall is open at 6:30 every morning for mall walkers. It's dry, it's warm, it's free.
**Okay, so the gym membership doesn't pay off due to my schedule and life in general. Time to purchase a punch card for Zumba...use it when I have the time...there is no monthly fee...no losing out on $, as I use a punch when I am there...and no loss when I'm not! (literally..financial, or weight loss)
**I can afford to eat healthy! I can't afford to lose my health! In the long run, which is cheaper...eating healthy, or Doctor bills?! And on top of that...I'm a vegetarian! My home is full of fresh fruits and veges, year round!? It's the candy, ice cream, and chips that are a hindrance...and they aren't cheap?!
**Tracking my calories..this may be my lamest excuse! I have a computer at work....I have a computer at home..I have a smart phone...what the heck??? Set aside a moment during the day, or in the evening and just track! Make it important! ...cuz it is!
**Messing up during the day does not give me a free pass to eat whatever and do whatever! Messing up during the day means I need to be all the more calorie conscious, and see how many extra calories I need to burn to undo my mess up!
So...I am posting this most anywhere I can think of! On my Spark page...on my fridge...in a blog...on my desk at work...in my car...I need a constant reminder! I can do this! My excuses are just that...excuses! (And lame ones at that!) These excuses are all that stand between me, and achieving my health goals!
I will be making changes slowly. I am not perfect and nobody but me expects me to be! I read on Spark...I can't remember where, or who wrote it...but it was team member, and they were talking about challenges on their team. They said something to the effect of...You don't have to complete each challenge 100 percent...you just have to know that you gave 100 percent to each challenge!
That's my new motto...I am starting today...As I need a jump start on the new year resolution thing...so to end 2011 and to begin 2012, my focus is to over-ride my excuses...and give 100 percent...not complete each day thinking....dammmit...I could have done more...could've...should've ....Would've...no way...I WILL!
Thursday, October 06, 2011
So...such a long story here....but I am going to try to shorten it down as much as possible!
My oldest daughter ran away last February...Tough times...heartbreak...anger...sadness...fea
r...all emotions I dealt with on a moment by moment basis! My oldest is only 17...
Through the last 8 months, I have done what I thought was best for us...her and me. I backed down, didn't fight with her...basically, I knew where she was, but she was still considered a run away. I know that sounds so irresponsible, and believe me, I have been told that more times then I can count...my parents barely speak to me, my husband's parents don't speak to me, and my church family...well I have been 86'd from their group, and nixed off their prayer chain.?! My husband doesn't even agree with my parenting decisions...but, she is my daughter, and I raised her thus far, single handed...(I just got re-married 6 years ago, and Jazzy, was not going to let anybody else help parent her...believe me..she is strong willed!) So with a couple of amazing friends, and and amazingly honest (and supportive) husband, I made it through the last 8 months...
Jazzy, has been staying about 30 minutes away from me...I work about 15 minutes away from where she is staying..in a gated community so nobody can get to her that she doesn't want to...anyway, not the best situation, as she is living with her boyfriend and his parents, and brothers, and one brother's girlfriend, and their baby...irresponsible family...3 addicts (heroin), and the entire family has no money, no food half the time, no gas, etc...but she chose to go there...
And yes...everyday I was scared for her. Every day I prayed fervently for her...Everyday I cried.
So, she dropped out of high school...dropped all her friends from her "old life", and secluded herself out at her boyfriends...Sometimes she would respond to my texts...never answering a phone call...Before all this, she worked as a "temp" at my place of employment...during this time, I made sure that she worked at least once a week...most of the time more...This way I was able to one, know she had some money..and two, I could see her...see that she was okay...know if she was not, as she was living in a scary situation from my perspective...
Two days ago she asked me at work if I would sign her back up at her old high school, and if she could "stay" with us during the week while she went to school?! Are you kidding me???!!!! I was floored...So, starting next Tuesday, she will be back going to school and as she says "staying" with us during the week...
Can you see me walking on the clouds?! I am so happy! AND, maybe my parenting skills aren't what others think they should be, maybe I handled this all wrong...but the outcome seems to be what it should be?! The way I see it, I could have folded, and drug her home every night, only to have her run away, and not know where she was, how she was doing, etc...and have her not be able to come back when she was ready, as she is strong willed, and her anger would have caused her to never come back! BUT, I was strong...for her, for me...and...she is coming home...one step at a time..but at least she is headed back in the right direction...
I got one smart kid!
Wednesday, June 22, 2011
In honor of the 1st OFFICIAL day of SUMMER, the Bombshells are issuing a SUMMER challenge to anyone who wants to join!!! This challenge will run Friday-Monday (6/24-6/27)
S-Sum it up--write a blog/private journal, or better yet share on your BLC team how you're doing. Ideas: focus on the GOOD things you did today and what you want to build on for tomorrow, reflect on the BLC16 and what you want to accomplish after it, both in the time off and the next round then pick one small (daily) goal that will help you towards that big goal and go for it. 5 pts/day
U-Utilize the trackers, track all food and exercise, 5 pts per tracker/day (10)
M-Move--exercise, anything counts, just move your body...dance, mow the lawn, do a dvd, run in place...you get the idea...if you get your heartrate up, it counts. 5 pts per 5 minutes (max 30 pts/day)
M-Me time--take 15 minutes each day to relax and do something you enjoy 5 pts/day
E-Establish a bedtime routine and follow it. (if you already have one, you are a step ahead of the rest of us. Just keep it up.) 5 pts/day
R-Recipes--try a healthy recipe that you've been wanting to try, invent a new healthy recipe or make-over an unhealthy one, then tell us about it!! 10 pts/day
Friday: S, U, M, M, E, R, =
Saturday: S, U, M, M, E, R, =
Sunday: S, U, M, M, E, R, =
Monday: S, U, M, M, E, R, =
Monday, June 20, 2011
"Unless we can hear each other singing and crying, unless we can comfort each others failures and cheer each others victories, we are missing out on the best that life has to offer. The only real action takes place on the bridge between people." ~Anonymous
What an incredible quote....I would love to dedicate this quote to my Spark Friend, Liz...I have never met her...but the support she has offered me with my health, my weight, and my personal life, has kept me going!
to you Liz...and the biggest for all your support!
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