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EXCUSES??? oh my...

Sunday, November 20, 2011

So, I've been thinking about what holds me back from reaching the goals I have set for myself. Here is a list of my excuses!

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**I can't exercise at home anymore as my daughter moved back home and sleeps in my living room. (which by the way I can't be happier about!)

**The weather...too cold, to wet, to hot, too something!

**I quit my gym membership, as my schedule gets so hectic that it wasn't worth the money I was throwing out for it.

**I can't afford to eat healthy.

**I just simply don't track my calories.

**If I mess up once during the day, what is the point...just eat whatever and forget about exercising.

Lame excuses...and so many of them?! But, they are truly what brings me to the point of not losing...and ultimately not reaching my goals.

So, it's time to abolish those excuses! Time to find some answers! It's time for some change!

Here is my list of ways to bust those excuses:

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**Exercise doesn't have to be at home. The mall is open at 6:30 every morning for mall walkers. It's dry, it's warm, it's free.

**Okay, so the gym membership doesn't pay off due to my schedule and life in general. Time to purchase a punch card for Zumba...use it when I have the time...there is no monthly fee...no losing out on $, as I use a punch when I am there...and no loss when I'm not! (literally..financial, or weight loss)

**I can afford to eat healthy! I can't afford to lose my health! In the long run, which is cheaper...eating healthy, or Doctor bills?! And on top of that...I'm a vegetarian! My home is full of fresh fruits and veges, year round!? It's the candy, ice cream, and chips that are a hindrance...and they aren't cheap?!

**Tracking my calories..this may be my lamest excuse! I have a computer at work....I have a computer at home..I have a smart phone...what the heck??? Set aside a moment during the day, or in the evening and just track! Make it important! ...cuz it is!

**Messing up during the day does not give me a free pass to eat whatever and do whatever! Messing up during the day means I need to be all the more calorie conscious, and see how many extra calories I need to burn to undo my mess up!

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So...I am posting this most anywhere I can think of! On my Spark page...on my fridge...in a blog...on my desk at work...in my car...I need a constant reminder! I can do this! My excuses are just that...excuses! (And lame ones at that!) These excuses are all that stand between me, and achieving my health goals!

I will be making changes slowly. I am not perfect and nobody but me expects me to be! I read on Spark...I can't remember where, or who wrote it...but it was team member, and they were talking about challenges on their team. They said something to the effect of...You don't have to complete each challenge 100 percent...you just have to know that you gave 100 percent to each challenge!

That's my new motto...I am starting today...As I need a jump start on the new year resolution thing...so to end 2011 and to begin 2012, my focus is to over-ride my excuses...and give 100 percent...not complete each day thinking....dammmit...I could have done more...could've...should've ....Would've...no way...I WILL!

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CHATTIEGIRL 12/29/2011 8:46PM

    Hi Embi;

You can do it and we all slide especially this time of year so a New year is just what we need to get a fresh start. Stay strong in your quest for your healthy life style. Learn something new every day. God bless you always.

Smile Joyce

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DTSOBEL 11/26/2011 4:12AM

    Wow! I could have written this blog myself. Thank you. You are so right. And it is true that I need to just give 100% to the best of my ability. May this be the beginning (and for me, a restart) to what we need to do.

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DANNIELLEFIT 11/22/2011 7:40AM

    I love how you gave an answer to your excuses. You can do it!

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NUMI1987 11/21/2011 7:54PM

    I love that! Way to MOTIVATE yourself and the team!

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TWNOMWE 11/21/2011 3:18PM

    Now that you have identified the problem, you are in better position to address it.

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RYDERB 11/20/2011 5:31PM

    I LOVE your blog Embi! I love the solutions you've found for your excuses! Especially the Zumba punch card. It's easy to lose sight of the fact that time is passing whether we're "perfect" or not. Progress not perfection! emoticon emoticon

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TIABITS 11/20/2011 2:02PM

    Great blog Embi! You are so right about how we can come up with some good excuses for not doing what we should....but when you really analyze it , like you have, you realize they are really just excuses.
We all do it to some degree I think but its time we take back our strength & inner power & tell ourselves we are fully capable of doing what we set out to do.
We dont need to be perfect, heck we are only human & we cannot expect to be able to get it all right. Just doing our best as you say is enough.
Thanks for the insight, I know it has helped me look at things differently too. I am with you...no more "I should".....I am becoming a healthier me!!

(((HUGS!!))) Liz

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JCARDINAL 11/20/2011 11:32AM

    This list looks like I could have written it. I'm with you NO MORE EXCUSES!! emoticon

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DIANITAH 11/20/2011 11:08AM

    Yep, I use a lot of these same excuses...especially regarding exercise. I love your list. I may even print it out if you don't mind!

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EMMALEIGHB 11/20/2011 11:01AM

    That is a great idea to list your excuses and why they heck they are inexcusable :)
I have to admit I have some of the same ones as well. Stick to it and you can do it!

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Cloud 9...standing strong...

Thursday, October 06, 2011

So...such a long story here....but I am going to try to shorten it down as much as possible!

My oldest daughter ran away last February...Tough times...heartbreak...anger...sadness...fea
r...all emotions I dealt with on a moment by moment basis! My oldest is only 17...

Through the last 8 months, I have done what I thought was best for us...her and me. I backed down, didn't fight with her...basically, I knew where she was, but she was still considered a run away. I know that sounds so irresponsible, and believe me, I have been told that more times then I can count...my parents barely speak to me, my husband's parents don't speak to me, and my church family...well I have been 86'd from their group, and nixed off their prayer chain.?! My husband doesn't even agree with my parenting decisions...but, she is my daughter, and I raised her thus far, single handed...(I just got re-married 6 years ago, and Jazzy, was not going to let anybody else help parent her...believe me..she is strong willed!) So with a couple of amazing friends, and and amazingly honest (and supportive) husband, I made it through the last 8 months...

Jazzy, has been staying about 30 minutes away from me...I work about 15 minutes away from where she is staying..in a gated community so nobody can get to her that she doesn't want to...anyway, not the best situation, as she is living with her boyfriend and his parents, and brothers, and one brother's girlfriend, and their baby...irresponsible family...3 addicts (heroin), and the entire family has no money, no food half the time, no gas, etc...but she chose to go there...

And yes...everyday I was scared for her. Every day I prayed fervently for her...Everyday I cried.

So, she dropped out of high school...dropped all her friends from her "old life", and secluded herself out at her boyfriends...Sometimes she would respond to my texts...never answering a phone call...Before all this, she worked as a "temp" at my place of employment...during this time, I made sure that she worked at least once a week...most of the time more...This way I was able to one, know she had some money..and two, I could see her...see that she was okay...know if she was not, as she was living in a scary situation from my perspective...

Two days ago she asked me at work if I would sign her back up at her old high school, and if she could "stay" with us during the week while she went to school?! Are you kidding me???!!!! I was floored...So, starting next Tuesday, she will be back going to school and as she says "staying" with us during the week...

Can you see me walking on the clouds?! I am so happy! AND, maybe my parenting skills aren't what others think they should be, maybe I handled this all wrong...but the outcome seems to be what it should be?! The way I see it, I could have folded, and drug her home every night, only to have her run away, and not know where she was, how she was doing, etc...and have her not be able to come back when she was ready, as she is strong willed, and her anger would have caused her to never come back! BUT, I was strong...for her, for me...and...she is coming home...one step at a time..but at least she is headed back in the right direction...

I got one smart kid!

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CHATTIEGIRL 10/18/2011 9:34PM

    Hi Embi;

Raising children is the hardess job in the world and by God's grace we do the best we can. They all come with problems of one kind or the other and the best thing you can do sometimes is back off. The world out there is a scary place and a lot of bad things but she did make the right choice and I hope when she comes home the others in the other home will allow her to consentrate on school and get her work done.My prays are with you dear and her. Be at peace and keep close to the Lord.


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COMPUCATHY 10/8/2011 9:46AM

    I am SO happy for you! When you have a strong-willed child (my oldest fits the bill), you have to work with them. Strong arming them will only break your arms! You did what you thought was right...and it worked. And you are both all the better for it. I'm sure it has been a really rough 8 months. But the light is ahead. Awesome! I'm on cloud 9, too! I am just so happy for you! Keep up the good work! Thanks for the encouragement! Spark on! emoticon

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TIABITS 10/7/2011 12:22AM

    Hi Embi! Woo hoo!! That is so awesome ...I am so happy for you that Jazzy has asked to come back home & go to school.

It must have been so tough for you to let things be & wait for her to make her own decision to come back home.

I think you are a very strong woman & a great Mother! Tough love is the hardest thing to do...but like you said, doing anything else may have just made her more angry & defiant.

Good for you for making sure you still had a way of checking up on her & she still had you there when she needed you...very smart of you. I think you handled it well & am so happy for you that it has turned out this way. Sometimes no matter what you do, things dont turn out how you would have liked them to but I think you know your daughter well & you knew what would work best in your given situation.

I hope things improve even more & you are able to connect with Jazzy again so that she leaves her current place of residence altogether...does not sound like a good situation where she is now. I can only imagine how upset you must have been about that whole situation.
I am sure you are breathing a bit easier now. I will pray for you & your family. Hope all goes well. Take care Embi.

Sending you a big emoticon Liz

PS) We had a good time on our cruise but I got a bit sea-sick since the waters got pretty rough on day 2...but only for half a day or so. The worst thing was the flight home from L.A. since the pressure in my ears was terrible & it caused my nerve pain to flare up...I was getting a bit better & now I am right back to a higher level of pain.
I am waiting to see my doctor who is away to see why he thinks the air pressure would have effected the pain....I still am not convinced its not the ear, even though 2 specialists have looked at my ear, nose & throat. Hey doctors make mistakes too...so I will see what my family physician thinks & hope that he can thin of some test or even refer me to someone else for another opinion.
Meanwhile I am trying to just take care of myself & manage day to day....that is all I can do ...one moment at a time.

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LILBITWANNABE 10/6/2011 5:07PM

    That sounds like wonderful news! You know, we all have different parenting styles-and that's OK. I'm sure it wasn't an easy decision, and it's all working out in the end so pat yourself on the back:)

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TRICIALICI 10/6/2011 4:26PM

    I am so happy for you! I can imagine how worried you must have been the past months. I hope your relationship grows to be what you hope it will be. I have learned a few things about parenting over the years. Some of those things are: the power of loving your child no matter what can't be overstated, that I would never win in a power struggle with a child - power struggles just lead to bad feelings, and that I had to do what I thought was best for my child and try not to worry what others thought. Your experience reinforces my beliefs - thanks for sharing!

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JCARDINAL 10/6/2011 4:07PM

    I'm so happy for you!! I know that this is going to work out for you. You gave her the space she needed but never gave up on her. You should be so proud of yourself and your daughter! emoticon

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IOWAGRAMMA 10/6/2011 1:34PM

    Tough love is usually the hardest of all! The only person whose behavior you can control is your own, and by allowing her to find out for herself what a bad situation she is in, you've hopefully kept the door open for a continued relationship. Always being there for someone does NOT mean condoning or enabling their behaviors, but it does mean providing the support when they are ready to address their issues. I am curious, though...where does she plan to stay on the weekends? I might have missed that, but wishing you good luck and hope for your daughter's future! Hugs, Jeannie

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ANATASHIKI 10/6/2011 12:49PM

    these are great good news , I'm glad for you! and I know how hard it was for you to do what you did . I hope everything will be fine and she comes back for good . emoticon emoticon

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one challenge tracker

Friday, July 01, 2011

ONE point Challenge runs Friday July 1st through Monday July 4th

It’s the last Weekend Challenge so let’s go out with a BANG with the ONE Point Challenge. There is something for everyone so you CAN get ONE Point even on a jam packed weekend. So print off this list and simply use tick marks to keep track. Do ONE or do them ALL or anything in between. Remember that change is only ONE step away and it's your choice!

ONE Point Challenge

ONE point for each 8oz of water you drink!

ONE point for each 20 min of intentional cardio!

ONE point for each strength training set completed (10-12 reps)!

ONE point for each freggie you eat (1 average or ½ cup sliced/diced/cubed)!

ONE point for each day alcohol free!

ONE point for each day you record every bite!

ONE point for each day in calorie range!

ONE point for each day you post on your team thread!

ONE point for each day you blog!

ONE point for each day you spin the SPARK wheel!

TOTAL Points

***Points are unlimited unless it states “each day” which limits it to 4 points.

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CHATTIEGIRL 7/18/2011 11:39PM

    Hi Embi;

I do all that almost every day and I have fun with it. I challenge myself to see how consitant I can be. I was up to 387 until my lap top died and then I went in the hospital and my daughter forgot the plug. Oh well start over. Stay with your healthy life style, exercise and good eating. Start over this time and mean it. God bless you always. Learn from Spark people each day.


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JCARDINAL 7/1/2011 5:34PM

    Sounds like fun! You can count me in.

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VLEON7108 7/1/2011 3:42PM

    This sounds like fun I'm in. I need all the challenges I can get lol. I just need to keep going. Thanks for sharing. Where do I post my points on the 4th? On my page or come back here and post?


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TIABITS 7/1/2011 2:11PM

    Go Embi Go....You can do it! emoticon Go for it!

Enjoy your weekend Embi & have a great 4th of July Holiday! We celebrate our Canada Day holiday today.....lots of fun celebrations this weekend.....& the forecast looks good...let it shine! emoticon

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I'm accepting the Bombshells SUMMER challenge!

Wednesday, June 22, 2011

In honor of the 1st OFFICIAL day of SUMMER, the Bombshells are issuing a SUMMER challenge to anyone who wants to join!!! This challenge will run Friday-Monday (6/24-6/27)

S-Sum it up--write a blog/private journal, or better yet share on your BLC team how you're doing. Ideas: focus on the GOOD things you did today and what you want to build on for tomorrow, reflect on the BLC16 and what you want to accomplish after it, both in the time off and the next round then pick one small (daily) goal that will help you towards that big goal and go for it. 5 pts/day

U-Utilize the trackers, track all food and exercise, 5 pts per tracker/day (10)

M-Move--exercise, anything counts, just move your body...dance, mow the lawn, do a dvd, run in place...you get the idea...if you get your heartrate up, it counts. 5 pts per 5 minutes (max 30 pts/day)

M-Me time--take 15 minutes each day to relax and do something you enjoy 5 pts/day

E-Establish a bedtime routine and follow it. (if you already have one, you are a step ahead of the rest of us. Just keep it up.) 5 pts/day

R-Recipes--try a healthy recipe that you've been wanting to try, invent a new healthy recipe or make-over an unhealthy one, then tell us about it!! 10 pts/day

Max 65/day


Friday: S, U, M, M, E, R, =
Saturday: S, U, M, M, E, R, =
Sunday: S, U, M, M, E, R, =
Monday: S, U, M, M, E, R, =

Total Points:

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JCARDINAL 6/23/2011 1:32PM

    Sounds like a great challenge, have fun!

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BRAINREFILL 6/22/2011 7:08PM

    emoticon and which bombshell would this be? What team? what group? where are those frisky bombers?

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to my friend....

Monday, June 20, 2011

"Unless we can hear each other singing and crying, unless we can comfort each others failures and cheer each others victories, we are missing out on the best that life has to offer. The only real action takes place on the bridge between people." ~Anonymous

What an incredible quote....I would love to dedicate this quote to my Spark Friend, Liz...I have never met her...but the support she has offered me with my health, my weight, and my personal life, has kept me going!

emoticon to you Liz...and the biggest emoticon for all your support!

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JCARDINAL 6/21/2011 2:58PM

    Great quote!

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TIABITS 6/21/2011 12:53PM

    Awww Embi that is so sweet of you! Thank you for dedicating this beautiful quote to me.

Like I mentioned to you yesterday, you have also been a rock for me. You have been there thru all my struggles pretty much from my start up with SP. and all your support & encouragement has meant so much to me aswell. It's friends like you that cheer us up & cheer us on that make this whole website what it is...but more than that its what we all really need...caring, encouragement, knowing that you are not alone & others are also dealing with daily struggles & are there for you when you need it.

So thank you also Embi for all your comfort & cheering up that you have sent my way ...it has meant the world to me! Although we have never met you are a dear friend to me ....& you have made my day, thank you for writing this blog...you are the best Embi!

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VLEON7108 6/21/2011 10:17AM

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KESHIAG 6/21/2011 8:07AM

    love it!

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