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My Husband is Joining My Journey

Thursday, January 05, 2012

For the first time since I started my weight loss journey, I am feeling like I could be 100% successful! My husband, who has always been my cheerleader, has finally decided to get off the sideline and join the team! He quit drinking alcohol as of Jan. 1st. He's "trying" to make better food choices, even when traveling for work and he wants us to buy two bikes so we can start exercising together! I know that success comes from within, but any of you that live with someone who tells you they support you while bringing home high fat take out w/dessert knows it's not that easy. My husband is 80-100 lbs overweight. He has been diagnosed with diabetes and his triglycerides are over 500. I've tried to get him to work out with me, eat better and lay off the alcohol but he wasn't ready. The doctor has told him it's a matter of life or death, now he's ready. I wish it didn't take so long, but I am grateful he's seen the light. I feel more positive about reaching my own goals now because he will no longer be such a huge obstacle to overcome. Please put us both in your prayers as we embark on this journey together. Thank you in advance and blessings to you as your journey continues!

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LIFE-OF-LEISURE 1/5/2012 7:43PM

    It's so good when a couple does this journey together!

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Can A Person Be Scared Thin?

Sunday, February 20, 2011

On Valentine's Day '11, I accompanied my husband to the doctor for follow-up on blood work he had done. The news was grim. So much so at one point I left the room crying. My 48 year old husband is hypertensive, cholesterol is over 350, triglycerides are over 400, liver enzymes are elevated, sleep apnea (sleep study conducted in conjunction with blood work) and he is diabetic. We knew about the hypertension. He's been on medication for several years, but all the other results are new to us. My husband is over weight. He's gained almost 100 lbs in the 24 years we've been together. He is a drinker and has been all his adult life. He travels for his job which has altered his eating habits tremendously. He loves eating out...rich, fatty restaurant food. Because hubby's weight gain was gradual, I think he ignored some of the signs and symptoms indicating a decline in his health and of course, if I brought it up he would just tune me out. After all, I am the one who gained 180 lbs after we got married. I am the one who started having health problems sooner as a result of the weight gain. I am the one who had weight loss surgery in an attempt to avoid more serious health issues and I am the one who still hasn't lost all the excess weight despite having had Lap-Band surgery...so what could I possibly know about weight gain and obesity related issues?! Ironically, the doctor started laying it out for us one by one:
1) Hypertension: A new medication added to the two he already takes! Reduce sodium intake! Start exercising! Lose weight!
2) Cholesterol/Triglycerides: A new medication! A low-fat, low cholesterol dietary change! Start exercising! Lose weight!
3) Elevated Liver Enzymes: Low fat, low cholesterol diet! Quit drinking! Lose weight!
4) Sleep Apnea: Ordered C-Pap machine! Start exercising! Diet! Lose weight!
5) Diabetes: Low fat, low sugar, low calorie dietary changes with a dramatic increase in veggies, certain fruits, lean proteins and whole grains! Quit drinking! Start exercising! Lose weight!
The doctor broke it down even further by having hubby set a couple of short term goals as he, (the doc), is well aware all of this is very overwhelming and a complete 360 from what hubby is doing currently!
These are all things (short of the prescriptions and c-pap) that I have tried to get my husband to do with me since 2007 (the year I got serious about my own health). It's been very difficult for me to stay on track while living with someone whose lifestyle is the polar opposite of what I need. My hope is that having a doctor tell him he needs to make these changes will be enough to spark him in to embarking on this healthy journey with me so we both can get healthy and reach our goals. My fear is that his addiction and bad habits are so embedded in to who he is and what he thinks he wants that he won't be Scared Thin!

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JMAGEE8871 2/22/2011 9:19AM

    His doc is right, small steps are the best way for the changes to stick long term. I wish you and your hubby all the best in the quest to reach your goals, together you can do it!

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RONOSOF 2/22/2011 6:34AM

    I hope it will add motivation to move towards healthy. Baby steps? Small celebrations? Thinking of you, Mary emoticon emoticon emoticon A little fairy dust may help;)

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RASMUSSEN5 2/21/2011 3:57AM

    I also have trouble sticking to my diet/exercise with mu hubby not onboard. I hope everything works out and that he is inspired to lose the weight. I am trying to get my mother to do this with me...she has high blood pressure, diabetes, sleep apnea, asthma and many other complications from being overweight. i wish you both the very best! emoticon

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    I hope everything works out!

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I Feel the Need....

Monday, January 17, 2011

I feel the need to spill my guts, so here it goes. As you can see, I haven't posted a blog since OCT. I also quit tracking nutrition, fitness and all other things health related. It all started back in March when I started having pain in my upper back. It took till June to figure it out it was my lap-band. They took out all the fluid, the pain stopped but the eating began. Since June of '10, I have gained 49 lbs back of the 110 lbs I had lost. It's ok to cry now, God knows I have!!! My stomach slipped back in to place. I have 2.8 cc's of fluid in my 4 cc band, but continued to gain weight. Why, you ask? Because I didn't start exercising regularly and I wasn't tracking my food intake. When I had fluid in my band before, I couldn't eat any starchy food at all, so it was easier to keep the calorie count down. That is not the case this time. I am eating smaller portions, but I can eat anything....pizza, pasta, bread, donuts etc. So it all goes back to choosing a healthy lifestyle and sticking to it, as if I hadn't had the surgery at all! In Dec. '09 we lost my mother in law to cancer, 9 months later we lost my father in law to Alzheimer's. It was the saddest, most emotional year I've had since embarking on my weight loss journey. I did not handle it well. I began emotional eating and have not been able to control it since. To add insult to injury, I lost my job, moved to a new state and have not found another job (or even been granted an interview) since November. I am a 50 year old, obese woman looking for a job in a recession market. Talk about depressing! It feels like mission impossible, but it has sparked me into action....
I am back on Sparkpeople. I am tracking my nutrition and fitness goals again. I am trying to be a good sparkfriend to those people awesome enough to friend me. I am posting, reading and now blogging again. I received a 6 week gym membership (for free) from my Dad. I've been twice in the last 3 days and feel much better about myself in general (other than a brief emotional setback yesterday...thank you hormones) and I am heading back to the gym today. I had weight loss surgery in June of '07. My weight then was 310 lbs. My goal was to get to 140 lbs...the lowest I've weighed since surgery was 200. I am back up to 249 and have come to the realization that the lap-band has done all it can do for me. I was 170 lbs over weight. The average sustained weight loss for a surgical patient is 40 to 60% of the excess weight. 40% of my excess weight is 68 lbs., the remaining 102 lbs is going to be up to me. It's a very scary thought for me because I am an emotional eater and menopausal which has brought on a whole range of emotional ups and downs. I know exercise and eating healthier will help me through the change, but sometimes the mood gets the better of me. So for now, I am back and doing what I know works and trying like hell to avoid doing the things I know wont help me be the person I want to be!
Thanks to those who took the time to read my whole blog. Your time is a great gift and I really do appreciate it!

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    Good luck with everything!!! emoticon

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ALGALL7 1/20/2011 8:47PM

    read your blog. so glad you are back to spark people. i am fairly new, 3 wks. i find talking to other members is a great source of motivation and encouragement. i'm so glad i joined. i haven't really seen a weight loss yet, but the exercising has done wonders for the way i feel. i retired 3 yrs ago and got lazy and just sat sat around. i put on 20 lbs. now i'm trying to lose it. it is so hard, but i'm sticking with it i KNOW i can do it and you can, too. i'm rooting for u!!!!!! emoticon emoticon

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ASTEINMETZ10 1/18/2011 8:16AM

    You have been through so much sweetie. you will succeed this time. And if you find yourself slipping again, ask yourself why you are going to make yourself suffer more then you already have. the answer is: you can't. You and your health are worth it. Just push yourself through that workout. You will feel better afterward. Bypass those chips and yummy cake. Or if you have to have some, share with someone. If you have no one to share with at the moment, then tell yourself you will do it later. ETC.
The point is, don't give up. You are doing the right thing on getting back on here. Congrats on the gym membership. 6 weeks is a great start.
Have some faith in yourself. Its you versus you!

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Something About Me in Fours...

Sunday, October 24, 2010

I got this list from my team mate, GaryP....thanks Gary!

Four jobs I have had in my life:

1. Blackjack and Poker dealer
2. 911 Dispatcher
3. Radio disc jockey
4. Vegas cocktail waitress

Four movies I have watched more than once:

1. Pretty Woman
2. The Little Mermaid
3. Lethal Weapon (all of them)
4. Die Hard (all of them)

Four Places I have been:

1. St. Marteen
2. Acapulco, Mazatlan, Puerta Vallarta, Cancun and Juarez Mexico
3. Timmins, Goderich, Toronto, Niagara Falls, Vancouver and ste. St. Marie Canada
4. 49 of the 50 United States (Hawaii is not on the list)

Four of my favorite foods:

1. Dad's Green Chili
2. Cheese
3. All foods Italian when made by family!
4. Ice Cream

Four Current TV shows I watch:

1. Grey's Anatomy
2. Amazing Race
3. Castle
4. Bones

Four places I would rather be right now:

1. With my husband
2. Colorado
3. NYC
4. Hawaii (so I can conclude my "all 50 states" list)!

Four things I'd like to Do Before the End of the Year

1. Lose the 32 lbs I regained!
2. Find a job in Colorado!
3. Build my Stampin' Up business!
4. Make a safe, positive and inspired move home to Colorado!


Who says you can't go home?

Friday, October 22, 2010

This has been a very difficult year for my family and me. We lost my mother in law to cancer in December and my father in law to alzheimer's in September. I've had health issues involving my lap-band surgery, plantar faciatis in my left foot and my employer (in an attempt to keep me employed) cut me back to 16 hours a week. The upside is my husband is working almost non-stop...the downside is he travels for his job so he's almost never home so I've had to deal with all of this without him here to help me. After several tear filled phone calls, we've decided it's time to move back home (my home state of CO). I have a large, supportive family all living in CO. Moving home means having a great deal of support around me even when my husband has to be away on business. I know it's not going to be easy. Finding a job in this economy is going to be very difficult. We live in NV so there is no way we can sell our house at this time, so we've opted to hold on to it. We will live with family until I find a job and we can determine what kind of housing we can afford while still paying for the NV house. Am I scared? Yes! Am I excited? Yes! Am I dreading the move and the change in routine? Hell YES! It's already taking a toll. I've gained 32 lbs. in the last 5 months. I haven't been tracking my food or exercise (because I haven't worked out consistently since June). I am in a free fall, but am optimistic that this move will be good for me both emotionally and physically.
That's what's new in my life. Wish me luck. Pray for us if you are so inclined. God Bless!

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SUNHOME 10/23/2010 10:30AM

    Heeding your gut feelings will never steer you wrong. I'm sending positive thoughts your way. I know you have the resiliency to get through this challenging stage.

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BAMBAM87 10/22/2010 7:47PM

    you can do this! dont use it as an exuse to not look after yourself

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PLUSTODOWNSIZE 10/22/2010 7:12PM

    I hope the move goes well!!

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