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Get back! No Ostriches (really a note to self)

Tuesday, May 15, 2012

Another Wednesday approaches and I'm not back yet.
Last week sounded like a commitment. It felt like one. But ... What?

Injuries - plaintiff knees, ankles, feet. Wah!
Food - helter skelter.... not enough water...

Get back. Get back to where you once belonged.

Friends, this blog is for me.
Water 8 glasses a day - 2 x 32oz bottles (basic basic basic)
Bkfst under 350 Lunch under 350 Dinner 400-500
Reduce Snacking! (this is where we're off the rails)
Snack on carrots/celery with ranch... 1 luna or ww smoothie... Black coffee - WATERS

I do hereby grant myself permission to primary focus on diet and exercise again... even though i haven't made any progress with work and other growth endeavors. Yet... No ostritch head in sand allowed!

Money confusion/issues/problems -- many.
I do hereby promise to write about this this week and set some goals.

Goal for Summer Weight - Get to bottom of the 60's
Goal for Summer Exercise - 4 days cardio & stretch incl 1x tim + 1tennis and 1x other class
Goal for Summer Work - Volunteer at first slice, look into on line studies, look into GRE again
Gratitude - practice daily
Ambition - what?

Visit Jill/Sophie in June
Laura here end June early July
July/August -- Chicago - tennis, exercise, WORK search
Fall Work????
Trip to CA or HI

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BIGMAMAT 5/15/2012 7:01PM

    I like the way you think chick! The sky is the limit baby!!! emoticon

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MAMADWARF 5/15/2012 11:18AM

    That's a sensible plan..you can do this!

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AZMOMXTWO 5/15/2012 7:46AM

  great blog I agree enjoy your visits and keep moving forward

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Goal 3

Sunday, May 13, 2012

Gotta get back to 160s. I'm up to 174. And... I'm saying it....
I want to lose more weight. I want to get to the 140's and see what that feels like.
I knew it would happen this way. Onderland, goal 1. 175 goal 2. 145 goal 3.

There are personal evolutions and changes that have to, do and will happen in order to make way for this. MACHETE in the jungle. Could happen. Could happen.

Shine Your Light.
Don't Dim Your Light.
Work. Place. Love.

Food remains a centerpiece of my enjoyment every day. That may not ever change. It is so for so many... right?

Relationships are f'g confusing. I will not... I hereby declare... I will not retreat to the cupboards and the fridge in lieu of feeling my feelings when they are so uncomfortable.

Work is elusive for so many these days. Including me.
I am afraid. . . . of BIG CHANGES.
And it may be that BIG CHANGES are in store.
If I hold c h a n g e at bay.... if i stave it off... treading water.... holding still.... (there is no such thing, right?).... then I doubt I'll be happy.

We've all seen the anorexic/bulemic tv shows where people occupy their every thought with controlling their diet and exercise. Dieting, even successfully, can, for me, obfuscate other things -- in fact, in order to be successful with diet/weight loss I have historically had to narrow my field of vision, certainly have had to block out stressors. Yet... I wonder... Do I need to learn acquire new stress/management techniques in order to move the scale down some more?

I think it may be.
Goal 3 - the weight wish is the easy part. Must fill in the other side.
There is more to declare. Why I have no idea how to answer it.... well... that may be the point today.

Anybody have experiences with how to get at other life plan goals?
I think I need help.

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GOGOMAMA 5/14/2012 3:34PM

    Brainstorm, free flow writing, get specific, set parameters, narrow down top goals, be realistic yet adventurous, plan on lots of rewards!!! You have everything you need!! Hugs and well wishes on your journey!!

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BIGMAMAT 5/13/2012 5:36PM

    Declare it. Map it out. and make it happen. Only you know what "it" is.

P.s. chop the hell out of the jungle with that Machete!!!! emoticon

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MAMADWARF 5/13/2012 12:44PM

    No advice but I have learned here that wishing it doesn't make it so but by stating a goal it changes everything!

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PARKERB2 5/13/2012 9:01AM

    You and I am sure you already know, have to apply some of the same techniques to other situations in life as you do for losing weight. A good thing to do is to involve a good friend in your goal and they can keep you accountable just like a WW member or a work out buddy. Hope this helps.

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EVERY DAY -- Gauntlet Time And Do the Next Right Thing.

Sunday, May 06, 2012

Gauntlet Time P. May Day. You were sick. And now with Rx's you're 'back-to-normal'. We've heard that story. So what gives? For a few months I've been waffling on every f'g subject, including my diet and exercise... and especially the way i spend my time. I felt lost without having weight loss be my "primary purpose"... and... uh... I gained some weight after mostly maintaining. Now I can ramp it up again and will. YET... Bookmark Here.... my "primary purpose" is still to be found. I'm only 53... and employment doing what I did previously seems not only elusive and unattractive but unlikely. So...? Jeepers.... Something must be done! But what? I need help here. And I don't know how to get it.

Still... Yes... I will be happy to say SUMMER 2012 --- SPARK is #1
I'm feeling so fit in my frame (albeit heavy today with bloat from a couple days of cocktails and splurging). I'm feeling different. I'm enjoying getting used to being this size. ... and yet I have already felt strongly that I want to be smaller.n

It's not that "normal people" never gain weight. Joe says he goes up and down 4 lbs all the time. For me, my recollection as a yoyo dieter is that IF/when I gain weight...that in the past meant...Oh No! It's happening (IT... an involuntary force?). Nope. THIS is Normal, P. You put on a few lbs by over indulging... and NOW we're going to CLEAN UP THE ACT and FEEL BETTER. -- Cuz... THIS IS KEY..... I feel bloated and not my best. And THIS is I CELEBRATE!!!

My instinct has evolved! I want to FEEL GOOD!

My heart and mind are not properly connected when I'm not honest with the way i feed myself. This is a gift and a curse. So.... Do the next right thing, P, EVERY DAY. EVERY DAY. EVERY DAY.

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GOGOMAMA 5/6/2012 5:01PM

    We are not the same people we used to be!! We can look at a splurge with a healthier outlook, we can get working and continue onward!! Go girl!!

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BIGMAMAT 5/6/2012 11:50AM

    Today is a new day! One day at a time. Sending strong positive vibes your way.

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Mirror mirror, candlewax and needing a new story

Wednesday, April 25, 2012

italian restaurant wine bottles with months or years candle wax layered in drips of time -- that's what i see when i gaze at my inner thighs - - -
In the mirror at the store fitting room,
in the fluorescent lights, with shorts on,
in the mirror so much bigger than any in my house
In the mirror
gazing from

Being In my Skin

Candle wax drips and Shar pei wrinkles

I will take a photo for my sparkfriends one day with more courage.

YEARS of inflating and deflating my skin. Combined now with the AGING that is JUST BEGINNING.

If I was getting fit motivated by 'body beautiful' I would not have gotten this far. (Cuz that's not a club i will ever be in, no matter what OR cuz that wouldn't motivate me anyway). So- Why did that experience with my thighs in the mirror Monday make such an impression -- cut into the tapes in so many ways?

Well.. Maybe many reasons. 1- Cuz I rarely look objectively outside-in... and in that trying-things-on mode... well... I'm hoping to LIKE what I see in a different way... i am not looking at my inner self.

Looking at the inner self in the mirror and in others may be one of the gifts of lifelong obesity and other social experiences?

So-- What of my INSIDES?
Well... I'm not feeling so good on my insides these days. That's the truth. And I'm not talking about my guts or colon now. I'm talking about WHAT MAKES ME TIC and am I? ... ticking?

Called a coach this week. Maybe I can get help setting goals for the inner work!!! (?)
Maybe my Spark success of the past two years can be translated to other aspirations, too?
My narrative with my weight has had center stage a long long time, even when I was avoiding it.
We'll see.
I'd like to make changes.
I don't know if its okay or not, not to. (Same as I felt about my weight two years ago).

And what about this?

Find the cute in it? Respect the time in it?
Exercise and Moisturize and
Keep On
Keep ON Keeping ON

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BIGMAMAT 5/2/2012 7:16AM

    I love this!!!! Youre right!! The externals are NOT the story. I love you wrinkes and all. emoticon

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MAMADWARF 4/25/2012 11:06AM

    Just like when I was bigger, I always focus on the positives. Instead of my huge floppy gut, I look at my calves. Instead of my melting was thighs I look at my neck, instead of my bat win arms I look at my butt. Things will tighten up! I have seen so many examples of that! We just need to keep trying.....

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SLFRISBEY 4/25/2012 10:31AM

    I am in a similar place. Who am I? What makes me, ME? I don't like the inside or outside and it's hard. Hubs is also very depressed. I think it's that we are just too harried. Vacation and a shrink are on my horizon I think... Hope contacting a coach is just what you need. (((hugs))) You are doing great!

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14-16 ? Target Fit #s 1-6?

Tuesday, April 24, 2012

Tons of time yesterday in the Target Fitting Rooms. No clue. Had I. What size. What to try on. Summer is coming. And I don't want to spend $45 on shorts. THANKS to the fabulous finds at the Swap Meet organized by JENNKINCAID last month I have a few things to wear that feel extra special because they used to be hers. But I needed more... and so off I went.

Fitting Rooms. Those tags for how many garments you have with you. HA! I was a machine. And so respectful in the way I put things back on the hangers before trotting myself back out (oh so methodically) to switch colors or sizes.

How many things did I try on? Gosh. I have no idea.
I do know tht I kept going back and forth between the 14s too small and the 16s not right either. WHICH FIT # am I ? Jeesh!! THey have 6 of them.

Having been a PEAR forever, and still now though maybe less so... I always try on the curvy style... but for some reason the straight hip rise with full legs were feeling more comfortable.

Who knows? The extra flab and skin bunches in new places these days.
I'm clueless what I think when I look in the mirror.
I'm clueless what other people see when they may look at me.

I DO know that I should not wear short shorts.

Style? Colors? Colors beyond Black Gray Tan Olive? Patterns?

Small enough to have more choices.
New Shopping Challenges. Different Mirror distortions.

High class problems. No doubt.
Grateful to have money to buy new clothes. Grateful to have more choices.

I attended the Tavis Smiley Cornel West "The Rich and the Rest of Us" book tour book signing discussion last week. They are calling for a White House Conference/Review of Poverty in the US (its astronomical rise in the last 5 years) and how to change the tides.... calling it a problem of "national security". I was stirred by their passion. I was stirred by their intelligence. I was stirred by the rhetorical speech that is the fruit of those two things.

More than new shorts... I need passionate engagement. I need to become INVOLVED in something outside my self. My hills and gulches of mood are causing problems in my house... relationship agitations... energy clogs... and OF COURSE IT SHOWS UP IN MY FOOD.

Slipping and sliding these many weeks.
Behaviors . . . . with Food . . . . .
It's not just about the weight. Nope. Nope.

Between Sizes.
Where's my FIT?
Close enough is better than nothing?

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MELLYBEANS0919 4/24/2012 11:27AM

    I am also between sizes which means I can't find any pair of shorts that fit properly. One squeezes and wont do up, and the other is baggy and falls off. You sounded very determined though :-)

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MAMADWARF 4/24/2012 10:58AM

    I think its more than just you feeling kind nor disjointed. I know I am too. Universal perhaps? Good for you for trying all those clothes on! Patience!

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SLFRISBEY 4/24/2012 10:51AM

    I love shopping... Target is so different in the sizes. One weekend we should get together and SHOP! IT's more fun with friends to lament fits :)

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KNEWMETODAY 4/24/2012 10:39AM

    I hope to be ready for such an excursion before long--not there yet!

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