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Saturday, August 13, 2011

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48 hours - wherever you go there you are

Friday, August 12, 2011

Reflections of these past two days:

1) Drinking alcohol and going out to hear music (first time in eons) is fun.
2) Day-After drinking alcohol translates into leaden/heavy body (lower stamina and reduced lung capacity) as well as big 'hunger'.
3) I used to weigh 300 lbs. Well... 299. It was 35 years ago. Loose skin.
4) I successfully maintained a 100lb weight loss for about 30 years.
5) I managed to not look at (much) or think about the loose skin, the wings, the puckering and creping. (How did I do that?)
6) So here I am now.
7) Building muscles (round 5 or so) again at age 53. And as I get more fit...
8) I celebrate this strength
9) And the loose skin is on my mind. In my eyes. wondering....
10) "What will it look like if/when I lose another 40?"
11) Can I lose another 40?
12) Come On, Let's Lose another 40!
13) Wait and see.
14) I don't think I'd want scars and seam lines on my arms and thighs.
I'm pretty sure that I don't won't want that.
15) Doesn't matter TODAY.
16) Spark on.
17) Two days of funny food... doesn't unspark me.
18) Today's a New Day.
19) Spark On.
20) I miss some of my first Spark Friends who I don't see around sparktown much these days. Come out come out WHEREVER YOU ARE!!!!
21) Spark ON..
22) Love ON..
23) Peace ON...



woulda/shoulda/coulda --- a whine for no one but me

Tuesday, August 09, 2011

1) I've been treading water financially. Bravo on the one hand. O f*** on the other.
2) Living below my means in order to stave off anxiety has, over decades, caught up with me... and now there's less room to wiggle - and I can not forget about the bigger need to move ahead. (spark on with wt and body.. but also must must must reach forward and connect more to living and giving and earning -- and/or pick a vision for the next 20 years and make it happen as best I can). p.s. Even as i write this I clearly do not believe I will make it happen.
3) One has to believe that they can make it happen!
4) My honey is a great comfort and homemaker. He himself has never earned really and does not have a grasp on planning. So as much as I prod him to step up... I don't know if he is capable.
5) What should I do next? I don't know. (RHETORICAL QUESTION)
6) I am not willing to be an Office Manager again. Not unless hand to mouth depends on it. Only if I LOVED the people and the whattWEdo.
7) I am scared of school. And of cost of school. This is a 30 year song. This aversion.
8) I woulda shoulda coulda

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SONGBARDBIRD 8/9/2011 11:30PM

    Hope you are able to work through these issues and make some happy decisions! It seems like things have been pretty tough so I hope things start to look up...we're all here for you on spark! :)

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RAGAMUFFINKEL 8/9/2011 12:18PM

    I can relate to much of what you share.
The title of the blog caught my attention...typically when I hear woulda/coulda/shoulda it causes that anxiety in the pit of my stomach to want to explode.
Several years ago, I started verbalizing the saying, "Don't 'should' on me!" When said aloud it sometimes sounds like you are telling someone not to eliminate waste on you, but that is the point. Too often the woulda/coulda/shouldas are just totally unprofitable.
I also try really hard not to 'should' on myself. Good luck developing a plan of action to get where ya wanna be. If you can;t believe it will happen yourself...find a friend who can belive it for ya. Sometimes it is the faith of a few close friends that brings us through....

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what's in my way?

Monday, August 08, 2011

besides me. i mean. is it all me?

I'm embarrassed (ashamed of, apologetic for...) by my apartment. It goes underground most of the time. But at a few times a week or month (for years) especially when out of towners come to see me for the first time... like this week.... I get flushed with apology to self, apology for self, dread and shock that I have not achieved better or strived for more.

I'm not reaching for enough.
This past year, weight loss and fitness have been my accolades. These goals have let me off the hook for other unaddressed issues in need of growth and attention.

I do not have work.
I am passive and slothful.
I do not have meaningful engagement/work/volunteering.
I thrive when I am interacting with others and giving of my knowledge and personal experience.

I am a perfectionist?
I am stuck.
I am = in these areas - exactly where I was with my weight/eating/body before I started Sparking.

How can I get SPARK into these other areas of my life too??

On days like today, when I am so very aware of this.... Yes... I often act out with snacking and foods.... Or, better stated, on a day like today... the structure which so supports me in my daily living seems to be unavailable to me or I rebel against it.

Darn it.

with self

This is a big issue and a big trigger.

What are my expectations?
I don't know.

Yesterday, when my step-sister and her family came by to see my place... i KNEW that her husband would be shocked by the smallness and lack of finery. I imagine that he found it 'squalid'. I guess this means that I (me myself and i) feel that way...

I hide my negative feelings about my apartment like I've hid my negative feelings about my body. Over the years. Being 'fine' with it, as best I can. Not believing I can have more. Not knowing how to get more.

I need more income to live better in this city.
I've traded the 'location' and the tree-lined street and the privacy which I DO HAVE for square footage, amenities, stable electrical current, etc. which I DO NOT HAVE. I have done so for 15-2o years (astonishing). Ha! At least I'm not a hoarder! (small perk here).

Does this make any sense.

This is a rant.
This is a ramble.
No body should this.
If any one does read this... I hope they comment with some epiphany inducing insight... or confrontation.



FEAR is in my way

Wanting what I can't have... is in my way.

Grant me the serenity to change the things I can.
And to figure out which things those are.


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SLFRISBEY 8/8/2011 6:30PM

    I'm right there with you. Some times I feel like things are too overwhelming so I would rather not do anything instead of something. Is it the fear of failure that holds me back? Maybe. Deep down I think I am the laziest person on the planet. Not sure how to get at that though...

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Mid Term Goal 9#'s away!! -- eeny meeny miny moh - need to pick a reward.

Thursday, July 28, 2011

I just moved two stones into the goblet. 184.2. There are 9 stones in the little holding cup, which means I'm nine lbs from Goal #1. Wow. Goal #1 175. (Future goal 145 -- another 30 stones waiting in the big jar #2)

These stones have really helped me to REMEMBER and to see my progress.
I've loved this visualization. It resonates.

I'm a year in... down 50lbs and 15 of those lbs since January. That's awesome.
Gotta break up the vision and appreciate it in pieces. That's what mid-term goals are for. Woohoo! Right?

Without the stones, ME being ME... I have been feeling stuck in so many other areas of my life that I've managed to feel stuck in this one too...

How much Drama do I need and wait for and create in the Weight Loss and Food Arena??
How much of my life's center stage has been eaten up by this. For better and for worse?

I DO need to keep the focus on these goals.
I want this. I want to go all the way.
This isn't FITNESS... This is LIFE!!!

I need to FIND A real and tangible REWARD to mark Goal # 1.

What shall it be?

Not a night out. Not jewelry or spa or clothes.

Maybe a new workout outfit????

Any other ideas?

Hip Hip (less hips) and Hooray


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KT-NICHOLS-13 7/28/2011 6:58PM

    The visualization with the stones is a great idea.
I've never been a great one for personal rewards for my accomplishments. The only thing I do know is that my ultimate goal reward - when I reach my goal weight - is a photo shoot.

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PHEFEY 7/28/2011 11:35AM

    I love the stone idea! I might steal that!

Rewards are personal, but make sure it is something you really want. When you think about it, it should excite you!

Great work-keep it up!

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SLFRISBEY 7/28/2011 10:06AM

    When I get to my final goal weight, I am going to go back to Puerto Rico and do all the things I was too scared to do the last time I went. Laying out on the beach, going to the bio bay, wearing a bikini... yeah that's going to happen. Although it feels like it is a million miles away, it is going to happen! :)

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PANBOOKS 7/28/2011 9:54AM

    I love the visualization too! Great job!!! Since I am big on traveling... I cast my vote on travel as a reward!

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