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Lives Go On & End & Go OnFriday, February 18, 2011
My mom is in hospital again, having been admitted last Wednesday. She will not be returning to her apartment. Home will be a new place, rehab to begin with, then likely and adult foster home or convalescent center. It seems that she will be with us for a few more months. She certainly believes this; not having named an estimate aloud, simply saying this "won't be for long". ![]()
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SHELLPRO
2/28/2011 7:18AM
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Wow, life has certainly handed you a full-plate of late. You have to remember to take care of yourself! I'm guilty of letting the Dr's slide, but life happens and your Mom I know is of high priority. But you have to help yourself in order to be there for her. Rest, hydration, and pace yourself please? Report Inappropriate Comment |


ZELLAZM
2/24/2011 9:51AM
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My prayers are with you---just reading this as I catch up on blog posts from the time I've been away visiting ddad in Florida. I hope you've been taking good care of you since this message?
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DDOORN
2/20/2011 6:10AM
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Such challenges...! But seems the one at the top of the list is a huge heap of TLC for YOURSELF is in order! Not sure what that might be, but hoping you can give yourself some time to take a deep breath, get centered and do some things to replenish your well... Don Report Inappropriate Comment |


DS9KIE
2/20/2011 3:02AM
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I hope you get to feeling better and I hope everything turns out ok for your mom
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FRAN0426
2/19/2011 4:57PM
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Sorry to hear of the medical crisis of both you and your mother. Stress really does a number on the body. Good that you immediately went for medial attention with tha asthma---I certainly understand how that affects, as asmatic myself. Take careof yourself, feel wel soon, and ope you mother is comforted during her illness.
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GEEMAWEST
2/18/2011 9:09PM
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You need to make sure you take care of yourself. You won't be any good to anyone if you're down sick. Don't feel guilty about taking some time for yourself so you can get better. Prayers are with you. Cheryl Report Inappropriate Comment |


ASMPP1
2/18/2011 7:55PM
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CAROLIAN
2/18/2011 4:08PM
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sorry for your troubles i hope you are soon well again Report Inappropriate Comment |


NANCY-GIRL
2/18/2011 10:05AM
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Oh wow, I'm so sorry to hear you're having a rough time. You know I'm praying for you. And you know God is in control. And you know you can cast all you cares on Him (cast - throw as hard & far as you can). Peace beyond all understanding. Report Inappropriate Comment |


WYOBZM
2/18/2011 7:58AM
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I am so sorry about your health situation as you deal with your Mom. You are still sounding strong for someone who must be exhausted and fighting two illness battles. Hopefully you can get some rest and when your BP goes down you will feel better. Keep us posed on you and your Mom. Sounds like Mom is prepared and ready to go. That was how my Dad was. It was still emotionally hard to experience those last few weeks. I am praying you keep your health and srength during this tough time. Take Care. Report Inappropriate Comment |


BEYOURBEST1
2/18/2011 5:51AM
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Sorry that you and your Mom are having such hard times. I hope your Mom feels better, and I wish you all the necessary strength. Take care of yourself. God bless you. Report Inappropriate Comment |


NONIE_C
2/18/2011 2:53AM
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I wish I had a good recipe for dealing with such times, but all I can say is do what you need to do to take care of you. You can be there for your mom AND be there for yourself. Stress does not have to mean self-destruction. Know that your spark friends are all here for you and that if you need to vent or rant or scream (electronically, of course), we are all here to listen and support you. I'm so sorry you are feeling this stress. I'm so sorry that your mom is not well. I still have great faith, however, that through all of it, you can be good to yourself!!! Report Inappropriate Comment |


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HHI0901
2/18/2011 2:03AM
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So sorry for what you are going through right now. Both of my grandmas were admitted to the hospital yesterday and neither is doing well. I don't think one will ever return home, either. I can't completely understand what you're going through but I see it with my parents so I hope you can cope with this situation. Report Inappropriate Comment |


Certain Things for Which I am Grateful - or - Some Things that Are Working
1. I have healthy snack bars in my truck again. Healthy serving sizes, healthy balance of nutrients - they are Cliff's kids bars. I love chocolate, but that honey graham flavor looked irresistible. They are delicious!
2. I have delicious sprouted grain bread. Just before Christmas, I splurged and got Dave's Killer Bread at the warehouse store. Now I am back to the sprouted grain variety.
3. I am living jalapeno-cheese-bagel free. I have bought bread snacks, rolls and ciabatta, a few times. But I am staying away from those other things. I think about all my Spark friends when I shop, especially when I visit the store that has those. Even when I buy some other too-white grain snack, there is value in avoiding that too-sure trigger food.
4. $85 of my last pay check went to savings. Actually, I got to that amount in two transfers. The first transfer I made right off. After I tweaked my budget, I electronically transferred some more greenbacks.
5. I paid a month ahead on my electric. Now I am two months ahead, compared to my average bill. I really like having a buffer if the temperature drops and I crank the heat up for a while. That gives me warm, cozy feeling in my belly.
6. My phone bill is a few dollars ahead. I can round up on my bill, no matter how I make the payment. So, I started paying the next dollar figure up from my usual bill. This month I paid five dollars over that. I am considering paying next month's phone bill before this month ends.
7. I am over half way through Ben Franklin's autobiography. I downloaded the free electronic reader application for my phone and his biography is among the free books that are available. I keep thinking, this is one of the men who founded this country. His efforts are why I am here today, enjoying incredible freedoms. My mind is sobered and my belly is warmed again by that thought.
8. I have Monday's holiday, to remember Martin Luther King, Jr, off from work. It is just two weeks into this year and I have another paid holiday. Life is sweeter for all of us because he lived, and because he counted his message more important than his own life.
What is Not Working
1. I am not sleeping enough. I have really felt it this week. I start to think I feel blue. Well, it is mid-January, so a little blue is understandable. But mostly, my energy simply crashed.
2. Right now, it is about 0030. I could easily have been asleep before 2200, if I were at home alone. I do not think I would have been able to stay awake for much of Coast to Coast, as appealing as that sounds. But I will not go there. I just wanted to go to bed early and do some reading before I fell asleep.
3. This year, two doctors have told me the amount and nature of the care-giving I am doing is not good for me. Related to this, one of them said I was on the verge of really being in trouble health-wise.
4. I finally got myself over to the department of aging to see if my mum would qualify for any care assistance while she continues to live in her senior independent living apartment. Basically, if she paid $1000 to $2000 in legal fees, she would qualify to have a caregiver at a lower cost than if she hires a caregiver privately. That much money might cover 500 to 1000 hours of care. So I do not think that is a go.
Thank You to All My Spark Friends!


DDOORN
1/27/2011 4:18PM
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Wow! You're making lots of great things happen in your life aren't you?! Caregiving...such a tricky balance, isn't it? Being sure to take care of oneself while caring for others (whether professionally or personally) too...! Don Report Inappropriate Comment |


TESS5389
1/20/2011 8:49AM
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I love the way you've listed these things in your life. It helps to see what's working and what's not. Take care of yourself! Report Inappropriate Comment |


ASMPP1
1/15/2011 7:50PM
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MYMARMEE
1/15/2011 1:18PM
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I always think of how the stewardess on a plane instructs you to put your own oxygen mask first...said another way, you can't help your mom unless you are feeling good and strong yourself. It is wonderful how well you know what's working and have gratitude for it and at the same thinking about ways to help what isn't. Take care.
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BEYOURBEST1
1/15/2011 4:51AM
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It is great that you know what works and what doen't so that you can continue doing good things for yoursel. Report Inappropriate Comment |


ETAGGEL
1/15/2011 4:13AM
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You are doing well! A very positive attitude! Keep up the good work, and remember there is a solution to every problem, you just have to find it! easier said than done sometimes:)
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