Sunday, October 10, 2010
Mom's doc called me at home last evening, informing me that he thought she had died over a year ago due to the fact that she never kept any of her appointments, never answered her phone,,, I informed him of her true personality, he was stunned, since she was so wonderfully polite to him before,,I had to burst his bubble and tell him how manipulative she always has been and still is,, that as long as he had the Rx pad and MD license, he was her best friend, as long as he gave her what SHE wanted,, when he d/c'd a couple of her pain meds and a mood elevator, she dumped him, waited until someone else was on call and got her mdse that way,, until she just decided a year and a half ago to not take ANY meds..
He informed me that she was calling the nurses BITC-es, called him names he had never heard of before,,
told him she is a caffeine addict in the form of 5-10 regular Pepsi's a day,, he almost dropped the phone,,
I told him I would be in hours before their breakfast trays came,, I was at the nurses desk before the night shift left,spent a half hour telling the night nurse the same story,, about the abusive person she is,,
Informed her that I would be reaming mom a new one ,, to leave us alone in her room for a half hour after they got her up in the chair,,amidst much swearing,etc..
Informed mom if she did not stop her spoiled brat, Sister Mary Martyr behavior, stop abusing the staff and me, she would be all alone, that I would deal with her care via phone, never come to see her again, that she will never see her home again as long as she is abusive, non-compliant with all of us,, hospital cannot kep her, rehab will send her out if she refuses to help, nursing homes will not take her if she is non compliant due to liability laws..
Informed her that she caused all of her problems by make all her choices, bad ones, which caused her accidents, pain, injuries,,that she would have to try, to work with all, to get her better, she will hurt, she will get exhausted, she will get mad, but SHE WILL NOT BE A BITCH TO ANYBODY,,
she refused to answer me, but looked me in the eye, I have set my boundaries and have absolutely no qualms about keeping them there,,
I told her that the next time I got a bad report from staff I would no longer visit her, just take care of her business,, she would be all alone,, rot in her bed or grow up and do some work for the first time in her life..
She proceeded to eat for me, take her meds when the nurse came in,,
do not know if she will do it, but I WILL stick to my guns,,
If she outlives me, I will kill her!!LOL!
She is pure French, I am French, German, Irish,, I can be WAY more stubborn than her,, I am not a Kraut for nothing!!
I am going back to work in the morning, then on to the towing yard to legally sign off her totalled vehicle, empty it out of her junk,, (we returned 125 pepsi bottles this morning just from her kitchen!!) Kristy says there were lots more before her accident, in her back seat,, not sure if there IS a back seat anymore, since she went airborne and flipped her car three times! Hit two other cars and totalled one of them,, which was a dear friend of ours,, her son that Kristy grew up with,,
the mom of the guy she hit, just left,, have been a dear friend of hers since the 1970's!!
My no-show sister just called, she is going up to see mom in the hospital,, do not know what she is going to do after that.. not come here I hope,, cannot get in moms house,,
Anybody wanna trade families for a week? A day? Couple hours??
Friday, October 08, 2010
Up early this morning went to credit union to do some MOM business, on to car dealer to see about her car,, towing companydid not bring it there,, when I finally got mhome at 5:30 pm the message on my phone said they had a total loss on it,,
does not matter, she will never drive again,,
went on to CCu and she is confuesed, did not even know she was in an acident,, in lots of pain, but no othre internal injuries. How she even survived a double rollover crash with no airbag deployment is a miracle!! She did not even break one of her fingernails that are two inches long!!
SHe was held in her car by only seat belt and harness,,
I told staff she is con fused, she will probably be going to rehab adfter discharge,,, but not sure about going home in her mental and physical state,,
Kristy and I went to her home and started hauling junk out, only got four bags out, but also took lots of things for our garage sale next spring..
we can only take so much out with out her noticing, but her home is so packed with stuff she would not even notice.. we ar estarting in the basement,,
afte rhours of that, we vaccuumend the whole house, ahd ot bring our own 20year old vac:she buys her junk from big lots and ABC warehouse,,nothing works,,
we cleaned until we could not move anymore,,
I filled my trunk up with her pepsi pop bottles,, FILLED IT! I have a Buick LaCrosse and the trunk is huge,,
we took home another eleven Christmas gift bags,, handmade childrens banks, knick knacks, small appliances, already took home a lot a month ago,, I think they morph when we leave..
Tomorrow is kitchen priming and painting day,, so we will be at MOms cleaning while they paint: I decided to hire them to do it because of moms stuff going on,,
we hope to haul more things out tomorrow..
laundry, bed stripping, furniture polishing, clean the basement bathroom,
I feel good about getting these things done, but had to take time off work to do them...
Thursday, October 07, 2010
Moms car accident number five, she is in CCu,, spent night and this morning at hospital, back tehre now headed out,, packing a bag for the long wait,, dryeallers and dan and patsy came and left already,,
Monday, October 04, 2010
Guys with plaster everywhere, plastic up, only hav epower in half the house,, drywall guys back tomorrow,, then comes the sanding,, then painting,,
looks like bruglars broke in and never escaped..
Sunday, October 03, 2010
no stove, no power to basement stovetop, eating whatever is in fridge,,
got paint, primer, rollers,
today is setting new mousetraps in moms house, collecting her bills to pay, laundry, grocery shopping,,
trying to stay warm,, had to break down and actually turn the furnace on last night,, could not get warm,, finally had to bite the bullet and cover the A/C unit and turn it off for the year..
I can hardly wait to see the snow fall and shovel it and scrape it and pile it up and slip and slide on it all year,, it brings tears to my eyes just thinking about it.. (sarcasm)
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