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Monday, January 14, 2013

Short workday makes for time at home to get things accomplished! Still filling boxes of this and that, I hung onto for years even after having about five garage sales!! What was I thinking?

I read another Sparker on her page about how she decluttered and it made a difference in uncluttering her life too. I think I was hanging on to things during my divorce that were comfort things, ONLY THINGS!! During that time, I lost six of my dearest relatives in one week. two in one day, I had major surgery, was in school full time, working four part time jobs, raising my daughter alone, maintaining my home and saw THINGS as what I could come home to, not change my life(haha).. Now I see that they never were valuable as material things, just needed as crutches to keep me alive and sane.

Laziness is another factor.. like some who have admitted it here: toss it in the closet and close the door.. How easy is that? for now..
I already made DD do a blood vow to not let anybody but herself into my bedroom when I die.. there are things I can never part with religious articles that I use all of the time.. they are antiques, passed to me form dear relatives.. I cannot bear the thought of somebody trashing them and have them in my TRUST to be donated..

I can bare bones it only so far, I draw the line at my personal religious and family items. DD's little things she made for me..etc.. what kind of mom would I be to toss all of them? I have one envelope of her drawings,,

I think Americans are the worst for this,, I never hear people elsewhere having such clutter!! Either that or they bury the stuff in their back yard or rotate it from one relative to another...

With so many deaths in the past twenty years and me being the person to help clear out homes, I can honestly say that I do not have one quarter of the things in my home that any one of those people had!! I laughed at the first few, chuckled at the ones in the middle and understood why, at the last few.. so that is what motivates me..

But seriously, 200 + decks of cards in one drawer??????????????? I guess I can dispose of all those old tee shirts I collected!Kidding!!!!

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KASEYCOFF 1/15/2013 4:03AM

    Well... that's a lot of cards, no doubt about it, lol...

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FLEMIDG 1/15/2013 12:56AM

    Loved your blog. Decluttering is hard. I had a hard time getting rid of things when I moved into a smaller apartment. My son helped me get rid of a lot of things I didn't really need. Have a great week.

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NORASPAT 1/14/2013 8:34PM

    Good blog LINDA, growing up without a home or a room of my own my possessions were few but I clung to most of them. When DH and I married my MAM gave away my few dolls and the piles of doll clothes she and I had made together. I was so angry with her, I never told her I just let it happen. I feel sure that I am not getting rid of our kids things because I do not want to think about the kids feeling the way I do about my things being given away. I want them to do that when they are ready. Things that happen to us in our formative years stay with us for a life time I think. HUGS Pat in Maine. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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PATRICIAAK 1/14/2013 6:56PM

    I'm glad I tackled this when I last moved.

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TEALHAWK 1/14/2013 4:15PM

  I need to do this too, I don't want my house to look like the Hoarders homes on tv.
My DM will save every scrap of plastic, cloth, ect that comes along including the trays from a cinnamon roll package because she is going to "use" this some time and when we had to move her, she got so mad at me for tossing out such valueables.

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SMOKYBLUE1 1/14/2013 3:27PM


Good post! I too at times have to de-clutter, but it seems the older I get the more I can let go. Happy cleaning!!

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_MOBII_ 1/14/2013 3:01PM

    I will say that there are things that I hold on to...but mostly for my beau's sake.
I learned long ago that things are just things, I left two marriages and left every single thing behind both times....except for my clothes, my writings, and pictures of my kids and family.
My beau is more attached to having things than I am, he was a military kid and always moving, I think that has something to do with it, along with the fact that in his last relationship, he lost everything, he lived in a hotel and found himself unable to pay for his storage locker...he didn't leave everything voluntarily like I did.

I will admit that while we have a few 'frivolous' things (computer, laptop, xbox, and a nice size tv), almost everything in our home is utilitarian...nice, but useful. Except my kitchen gadgets...all those useful/useless things that I MUST have!

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DEBBIEANNE1124 1/14/2013 2:50PM

    On my small Christmas tree were momentos Ashley made all her growing up years. I don't ahve many gifts from her but pictures, yes. I throw things out or free cycle them. Maybe a garage sale. Robert is the apck Rat.

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RACEWELLWON 1/14/2013 2:36PM

    Linda , a lot of my friends have been experiencing the same issues including myself. After I lost a few relatives in a short period of time I hung onto and still have Things I have a difficult time parting with - one friend of mine moved recently from her home that was purchased by her and her husband he has since passed. She had a very difficult time letting go of these articles but she told me that she had the memories in her heart and know one could take that from her - Hugs K emoticon

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GERIKRAGH 1/14/2013 2:10PM

    I think we can all find things to get rid of. A good motto is, "If you haven't used it in a year, you probably won't use it again!"

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LEANIE64 1/14/2013 2:07PM

    Wow !! I am inspired to do better after reading your blog. I am working at de-cluttering..but its is a slow process. I find if I look at the big picture..its too overwhelming to deal with..but if I take one area and just work on that one area daily..moving on to another when that is completed..I can do this. Thanks again..it does help knowing that others suffer with this issue. Sharlene

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Sunday, January 13, 2013

Fast day today: went to grocery store for milk, back home to pack car up to the roof with DD stuffed animals to take to dads house to wash and dry,, they are musty smelling from our basement when it got wet. We spent about seven hours there and filled three big stretchy trash bags, still have a huge big box to wash and dry next trip.. I made good use of the wait time and washed a few sinkfuls of parents knick knacks to sell, filled more boxes of things to sell, put them on patio, tossed old junk they had there. I found three more hammers today, in various places,, oy vey!!!

Just sitting in a chair, a person can go through a drawer and fill bags or boxes with their junk!!! For this sale, I am only gleaning out non valuable things that they collected over the years , like four pairs of boots that mom bought,, never wore three pair.. a ten inch deep drawer of PLAYING CARDS, bags of BAGS, plastic, paper,etc,, twenty boxes of latex gloves, three holsters, eleven umbrellas, five vacuum sweepers.

Styrofoam coolers, beer cases from old long neck beer bottles, five cases of the old Hefty brand bubble wrap"alligator" storage bags...etc..
As far as going through moms clothes, I estimate at least two hundred tops of various types, shoes, purses, coats, but try to find a flashlight that works,, I had to go buy one...
seven telephones in boxes,etc..on and on...

One advantage of all this stuff under one roof is that it makes me want to clear my stuff out so I do not have to go through this later, ,,

I dread the estate sale we will have when mom dies,, the house will still have twice the things I already have in my home!! After we take this much out!!!!!
I feel good that somebody will get good use out of this stuff.. It would take me another year to clear everything out if I quit my job to do it!! They were not even hoarder material yet!! This is just packed in places nobody could see,,until...
nest weekend I may stay overnight again to pack more things up,, continue washing the animals,,etc.

BTW, I hear that saying all the time, ,go ahead and use it,, nobody has a patent on cleaning..

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ALDEBARANIAN 1/14/2013 11:32AM

    Talk about moving a mountain!

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KASEYCOFF 1/14/2013 2:44AM

    You're making headway, Linda - I wish I had half your energy!!!

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FLEMIDG 1/14/2013 12:09AM

    Glad you were able to accomplish so much. It's hard getting rid of things that have some meaning.

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NORASPAT 1/13/2013 10:49PM

    DH and I left a house in England and we had to buy things when we got here. We expected to go back to UK but we never did.

Now this little house is still full of College note books. I hope to be rid of them some day. I just look in the closet and close the door.

It takes nerve to throw away the past the second time around. HUGS Well done Pat in Maine.
emoticon LINDA, emoticon emoticon emoticon

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_MOBII_ 1/13/2013 7:28PM

    Wow! It doesn't sound like a fast day! Lots of hard work well done!

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DEBBIEANNE1124 1/13/2013 6:32PM

    I'm glad i don't ahve to do that and nothing for my daughter to do.

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PATRICIAAK 1/13/2013 6:06PM

    I'm glad I cleared out my house 2 yrs ago when I downsized. My children won't have the burden you have.

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DMEYER4 1/13/2013 6:00PM

  good luck with your sale.

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ALIDOSHA 1/13/2013 5:57PM


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Still no sun, but a bright day so far!

Saturday, January 12, 2013

I am up and at 'em picking things up, sorting things to go to dad's house for sale, setting up meds for week, added Vit C for the next few months just as a precautionary measure. Do not trust foreign oranges, cannot afford American ones, so this will do for now.
Going to haul big boxes of stuffed animals to dad's house to wash and dry.. musty smelling,, for sale,, boxes, tables,,

just another winter cleaning day here, too cold, damp and dark out to be motivated to go out.. if you have time to lean, you have time to clean!!

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RACEWELLWON 1/13/2013 5:47PM

    What about vitamin D ? Almost Birthday Girl - Hmmm- nice roll today !

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_MOBII_ 1/13/2013 10:19AM

    Busy busy girl!

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KASEYCOFF 1/13/2013 4:52AM

    You are so right - making use of the time we have!

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NORASPAT 1/12/2013 11:09PM

    I too loved your phrase. If you have time to lean you have time to clean. I will make a poster for our NY grand daughter. I have to motivate her somehow. She gets away with way too much. I love her but someone has to be the heavy. She is 12 and getting out of hand. We only had 3 great sons but being one I know what daughters are like.
HUGS Pat in Maine. off to bed. emoticon emoticon

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PATRICIAAK 1/12/2013 6:49PM

    sounds like a good use of your day.

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LOTUSBURGER 1/12/2013 2:37PM

    "if you have time to lean, you have time to clean!! "
I love that, can I use it emoticon

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TEALHAWK 1/12/2013 10:58AM

  Sounds like a busy day already! My day began last night
Taking care of my twin grandsons ages 20 months old. They got to spend the night
And I had to get up a few times with one who was
Having a restless night for a while, then they were
Both up by 8:30am and wanting to play. So breakfast
And play with babies has been my morning. They have
An 7 month baby sister too, but she went home
With mom and dad! Hope you have a good weekend

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LJOYCE55 1/12/2013 10:41AM

  Sounds like you already have a lot done and are writing this blog as you take a quick rest. Have fun the rest of the weekend and I hope your weather improves.

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NEWRUNNER2 1/12/2013 10:14AM

    Sounds like you have a really good start on your day! Have a good one!

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Rainy January Friday

Friday, January 11, 2013

DD feeling somewhat better today,, still in pain with skin, but headache gone.

After work today I schlepped my fifty ton humidifier up my basement stairs to the landing to put in car to get repaired. Not sure what the heck is going on with it,, only five years old..

We are being very careful in public, no extra time in public places to be exposed to nasty germs.. We both got the flu shot, but she is highly susceptible to everything, I cannot afford to miss any work time, so being the paranoid that I am, we stick close to home. I would make somebody a perfect hermit. Lock me in a closet with a potty, light and books, I am good to go for months. Upbringing kept us locked in our bedrooms most of the time, so I am used to it..
bad side:being abused by mother, good side: no fear of anything in life but building fires and spiders. No fear of water, dark, close places, heights, any animal (I actually swam through a jellyfish nursery in the Pacific Ocean, at the beach in Grenada, then swam back to the sand,, never got stung once!!) or ethnic group, public places, mean people, authority,etc.

My main fear is for my daughter, that there will be nothing to help her when I am gone... no $$.. that lazy people are no using $ that will be needed for those who need it later...

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NORASPAT 1/12/2013 11:04PM

    DH and I had the flu shot and I am still coughing, it just will not go away.
I feel ok just kind of exhausted when it goes on for a long time. Takes tome to catch the breath i have an inhaler that is helping .
The skin and scalp pain is really annoying just combing the hair hurts. I am glad she is improving and I hope she is fully recovered very soon. emoticon emoticon

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ALDEBARANIAN 1/12/2013 6:14PM

    Flu is reaching epidemic proportions in Maine.

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KASEYCOFF 1/12/2013 6:05AM

    I'm with you on the solitude: I can be very content with my own company.

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FLEMIDG 1/12/2013 12:33AM

    This strain of the flu seems to be a bad one. Hope you and your daughter are able to avoid it.

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TEALHAWK 1/12/2013 12:15AM

  yes hope you stay well. Glad DD is feeling better.

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HICKOK-HALEY 1/11/2013 10:01PM

    I'm glad DD is feeling somewhat better. That flu is a dozy. It hasn't hit Calif. big time yet, but I suppose it will. Scary. Stay well!!
p.s. I am a bit of a loaner as well.

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PATRICIAAK 1/11/2013 5:34PM

    good to be careful - esp with all that is going around.

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DEBBIEANNE1124 1/11/2013 4:44PM

    At least there's 1 thing you and I ahve in common... Jellyfish. OMG they hurt! I got stung by several.

Your daughter knows where I am if she needs anything. You need to talk your Dr. into signing good papers for disability. Yes I'd consider her disabled.

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Thursday, January 10, 2013

DD is under the weather today, not feeling well at all, did not even greet me at the door when I came home from work! She is sick!
Trying to pay some mom bills again, finding more things in the basement for the garage sale.. I never come upstairs empty-handed.. filling a box to take there tomorrow.. Hoping DD feels better tomorrow..
We usually run errands together after I get out of work,, we will see.. she has been sleeping for hours,,, wish I could take her pain away..

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NORASPAT 1/12/2013 10:58PM

    So sorry DD is under the weather, I think sleeping is good when you are sick. DH slept for hours i sure wish I could do it but it needs a sledge hammer some nights to get to sleep.
I am doing much better with the melatonin though.
I digress sorry I hope she is better very soon. Pat in Maine. emoticon emoticon

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PATRICIAAK 1/10/2013 6:05PM

    praying your DD gets well soon.

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HICKOK-HALEY 1/10/2013 5:58PM

    Hope DD feels better soon. Does she have a headache? I have been thinking of going through our garage and sorting out odds and ends for a yard sale. This time of year is windy though, so I might hold off for a couple of months.

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DEBBIEANNE1124 1/10/2013 4:43PM

    What's the matter with her? I hope she doesn't have this flu bug that's going around.

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  I hope your dd feels better soon.

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TEALHAWK 1/10/2013 2:49PM

  hope your DD gets better soon, and you don't get sick. There is an awful lot of sickness going around right now.

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