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Goal Setting

Monday, September 24, 2007

I tend to set goals for myself that are difficult to reach. And then I have to settle for not achieving my goal.

Example - we spent 3.5 days in Philadelphia, visiting family. I walk a lot, and my routes there include more hills than where we live. Plus I knew it would be cooler weather - so my goal was to lose 5 lbs in those 3.5 days. Ridiculous goal. But it sounded nice.

So did I meet my goal? No way. Did I walk every day? Yes. Did I eat sensibly? Kind of. Did I gain weight? No. Did I wear my new 3 sizes smaller skinny jeans and look fabulous? YES! Did everyone notice how great I looked? YES!

So why can't I just set those yeses as my goals? Why do I set unachievable goals for myself?

I don't even beat myself up for not meeting them. I shrug and think, boy, that was a dumb goal. And I forget about it and move on.

I don't make the goal "Walk every day" or "wear the skinny jeans" or "get 5 compliments" - I take those things for granted. They happen, I know they will happen, and I accept it.

I need to get more realistic with my goals. Challenge myself, but not make the challenge unattainable. Be realistic without being overly optimistic.

Reality therapy. That's what I need.

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PHEBESS 9/26/2007 12:57PM

    Yeah, SF, I don't like weight loss goals. I like goals like save $ and go to Costa Rica. Not eat less and lose weight by Oct. 1. Doesn't work with my mindset. Maybe that's why I set impossible goals.

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SECRETFUN 9/26/2007 6:26AM

  You know, I never liked goals. People think I am nuts, but I think they are limiting. You on the other hand make hard goals, in fact impossible ones, but if they keep you on track and you are not bummed out by not acheiving them, then as long as you are not too fatalistic about it I don't see a problem. Like NB said, just extend the deadline. You did what was needed in Philly to keep yourself moving forward, and that was what was needed.

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    That's a good plan (keep the goal, extend the deadline). I like it!
And you are doing fabulous!

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PHEBESS 9/24/2007 12:58PM

    LOL, Janine - I love it!!!!!!!!!! My new mantra:

Keep the goal, extend the deadline!!!!!!

Big hugs, sweetie - you made my day!

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NOTBLUSHING 9/24/2007 12:51PM

    You goals are BIG, and thinking big creates the excitement and momentum necessary to propel you over all those HILLS! It keeps the small goals from seeming tedious, and reminds you every day that you are walking toward a reward so great, that it is almost inconceivable. You are!
Keep the goal! Extend your deadline.

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"De woman got no bum!"

Thursday, September 06, 2007

I have lost my tush. I have lost 40 lbs, and my tush went with them. Yes, I have returned to the barely-there white woman tush that I used to have.

I lived in Liberia, West Africa, and would often hear "De woman got no bum!" I currently live in the West Indies (on the island of St. Thomas, Virgin Islands) and again, often hear "De woman got no bum!"

And then I blew out my knee in Hurricane Lenny, was in a brace for four months, had two surgeries in 2 years, and put on 40 lbs. Mostly in my hips and belly and tush.

It was a nice tush. Round and firm and shapely. Like a peach. DH loved that tush. I kind of liked it. It filled out pants and dresses, and looked nice. Unfortunately, the tush matched the belly and hips, so I looked like a pear from all angles. But the tush itself was nice.

Now it's gone. And with it, all its friends, those extra fertile hips and the perpetually pregnant looking tummy. Gone.

I don't miss the hips, I kind of like the athletic looking shape I see forming, with broad shoulders and slimmer hips. I remember that shape. I don't miss the tummy, I like having the front looking flatter and flatter.

But I don't like the flat tush. I miss my tush. I mourn the loss of my peach-shaped tush.

"De woman got no bum" is back.

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SECRETFUN 9/6/2007 10:19PM

  time for those bum lifting exercise!

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PHEBESS 9/6/2007 11:08AM

    LOL Jenn! I'm always offering extra body to various people!

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    You are so stinkin' cute! I love reading your blog entries! You can have part of my tush, if you like. I still have too much of one!

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PHEBESS 9/6/2007 10:44AM

    Oh yeah, Janine, I find it LOL too!

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NOTBLUSHING 9/6/2007 8:56AM

    Hahahahahaahha! Sorry Phebe that is LOL funny.

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    Wear your butt with pride. Butts come in and out of fashion. Used to be everyone wanted the smallest one they could get!

You never know what the new trend will be. :)

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I made it to full points of the "Very Healthy" lifestyle scale

Tuesday, September 04, 2007

I had fruit with my bkfst, lunch, snack, supper.

I had 2 vegs for lunch, and 3 vegs for supper.

I had whole grains at bkfstt and snack.

I slept 8 hours.

I exercised - 2 hrs of cardio, plus 20 minutes of ST.

And I drank 11 cups of water.


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NOTBLUSHING 9/4/2007 10:33PM

    You're already there on NB's scale! (((((HUGS)))))

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Closet cleaning

Monday, August 27, 2007

I cleaned out my closet before going to Italy - I had a huge pile of clothes for another teacher at school, some things will fit, some will be too small but then we'll pass them along to a third and even fourth teacher.

Yesterday, I went through the closet again (since I'm down another size) and ended up with a big suitcase of clothes to pass along to the same group of teachers.

It is SO empowering to know that I have done this - lost 40 lbs, and 3 clothing sizes. Maybe 4. I got rid of 2X tops. 3X tops. Even 1X pants. All clothes that used to look so cute on me, and now look like clown clothes. Even a series of XL pants that used to fit nicely, and now hang.

EVEN the 18W pants that I was so excited to fit into in March or so - they're so big, I don't need to unbutton or unzip them to get in/out of them. The hips bag out on their own, they are so oversized.

YAY for losing weight, toning muscle, and getting littler!!!!!!!!!!!!

My new goal is to need an entirely new wardrobe by June. I'm now a 16 to 16W. I plan to be in a 10 or 12 by the end of the school year.

You heard it here first.

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SHORTY20 8/29/2007 9:32AM

    You can do it Phebe!!!

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SMURFETTE0725 8/28/2007 11:55PM

    You will SO hit that goal Phebe! No doubt about it! ROCK ON!

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SECRETFUN 8/27/2007 10:22PM

  On to a littler you my dear!

Reminds me, I need to try on my suit for next week's meeting and make sure it fits. For better or worse I have suits 4-16 so one of them is bound to fit!

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AUTUMNJOY11 8/27/2007 10:15PM

    You're doing so great!!! You are such an inspiration to me in so many ways!!

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PHEBESS 8/27/2007 3:50PM

    Oh yeah, the "they must be stretched out" syndrome. I brought pants to Italy, and by the end of the ttrip, they were hanging. Looked horrible. I was embarrassed to be wearing them. They are the pants that prompted the closet cleaning.

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    That's awesome Phebe! Do you find that you are surprised at each milestone? I still think "wait a minute. . . these pants are LOOSE? really?!" I keep trying to convince myself that they must have grown! There is no way I'm truly shrinking!

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Six jars of truffle paste

Thursday, August 16, 2007

That's what I bought in Italy. Six jars of truffle paste, or sauce, to put on pasta or bruschetta. White truffles. White truffles with artichoke hearts. Blacck truffles. Black truffles with porcini mushrooms. Variation on the above.

Truffles and mushrooms and olive oil - how many calories can they have in one tablespoon or so?

And the really sad part is, once they are gone, they are gone. Until my next trip to Italy.

I don't want to share them with my husband.

I think I have a serious addiction to truffles.

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EMSCHICK9 8/17/2007 12:55PM

    It's okay until you start locking yourself in the closet with your truffle jars just to spend time with them. Then we are going to get concerned!

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PHEBESS 8/16/2007 5:10PM

    We had tartufo bruschetta 3 times at the art program - most of the other students wouldn't eat it! I would have 3 or 4 slices, plus salad and fruit - that was my whole lunch those days.

Who passes up tartufo???????

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SECRETFUN 8/16/2007 4:45PM

  I do and I am envious enough I might come during huricane season!


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    Mmm. . . that sounds GOOD!

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