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Happy Early Valentine's Day

Friday, February 13, 2009

"Love is . . . being patient, even when you're tired - especially when you're tired." -- Danae Jacobsen, age 16

With Valentine's Day tomorrow, I think it is appropriate to ask "what does Love mean to me." My partner said something I had not thought about before the other day. She said she wanted to "Love me the way I need and want to be loved, not the way she wants to love me."

Often, I do things, because I think that is what the other person needs or wants. I have "loved" the way I thought the person needed to be loved, and not truly listened to hear what they are telling me either verbally or through their body language. It is difficult to break out of the old paradigms and be "present" to truly see what your wife, husband, child, friend, parent, may be wanting at any given moment. But, wow, what an unselfish way to love someone!

Today's Affirmation:
I will freely show and share my love for others. . . not the way I want to show it, but the way they need it.

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Making Caring Memories

Wednesday, February 11, 2009

"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." --Maya Angleou

I heard a wonderful comment on the Oprah Winfrey radio show the other day. I can't remember who said it, but the statement stuck with me. Every person you meet, you should think to yourself, this is an angel sent to love me. And, I am an angel sent to love them. What a wonderful, wonderful sentiment.

It so easy to get in our own minds, our own routines, without ever noticing the people around us. My partner was commenting the other day, whether she has made a difference in anyone's life. It made me stop and think. Then, I answered her, maybe you don't know that you made a difference in someone's life. But, what if you smiled at someone that you passed in the market, and that made their day. What if you paid a compliment to someone, and it truly touched that person. I don't think we know how many peoples we touch, but I bet it is many more than we realize.

I am going to try to notice the people who pass through my life, and make an effort to make their experience with me a good memory.

Today's Affirmation:
I live with love and caring and leave loving and caring memories.

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KEEPITMOVING 2/12/2009 10:38AM

    this is beautiful, well written, and very appropriate. it's part of my daily balancing act: what i do, think, and how i act are projected towards others in so many ways, ways i may not realize or be conscious of. the subtle (and not so subtle) ways we touch other lives can have profound affects. i salute you, your observations, your kindred spirit, kind heart, and warm soul.



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Tuesday, February 10, 2009

"Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are." --Bernice Johnson Reagon

Sometimes no matter how hard I try to move forward, it seems I move backward instead. I face the challenges of my life with great energy, and then it seems I slam into a wall. This weekend was one of those walls.

All week, I try to eat right, to exercise . . . then on Saturday, friends wanted to go do wine tasting. I agreed to go, and of course I tasted wine at each winery - all 5 of them. That was topped off with dinner at a pizza parlor - where of course I had the worst pizza I could have picked. Oh well, I thought - tomorrow I will do better.

The next day, I once again started off strong - carefully selecting my food, exercising. Then on Monday it was my father's 74th birthday. Again, I threw caution to the wind, and had a glass of wine with dinner, a piece of birthday cake. By the end of the birthday party, I felt defeated, and bloated.

Then, this morning, I got up bright and early, and went to the gym for my workout. I take a group lifting class, and did my workout. Afterwards, I was sitting outside of the exercise studio, when the instructor walked up to me and said, "I just have to tell you, I noticed you in class today. Your shoulders and arms look phenomenal. They are very toned and sculpted." Ahhhh, music to my ears.....just those few words of encouragement, and I have found the energy and excitement to continue down this path.

Today's Affirmation:
I grow in positive ways from each challenge I face in life.


Small Changes

Friday, February 06, 2009

"Try making two small changes every day. Take a different street, try a new restaurant, change your toothpaste, smile at someone you don't know, eat dessert first. there's a lot of landscape to explore off the beaten path." --Joan Borysenko, PhD

Why do I always eat a slice of pizza from the pointy tip back instead of the other say around? Why do I always reach for pants in my closet and never a dress or a skirt? I have become caught up in the routines and habits of my many small things do I miss, because I simply go through the routine.

Today I will have the curiosity of a child, and try doing things differently. My goal is that today and for at least one week, I will try making two small changes everyday!!!

Today's Affirmation:
Every day I make a joyous new discovery about myself and my world.


The Journey

Wednesday, February 04, 2009

"No one would have crossed the ocean if he could have gotten off the ship in the middle of a storm." -- Charles F. Kettering

when I think of my life in the terms of an ocean, I would say, that at this moment the waters are relatively calm with a few swells popping up here and there. I am hoping that the swells don't become larger and turn into a full fledged storm.

I feel a bit stagnant with my weight loss, I have to focus on my eating . . . I am such an emotional eater, and it seems that every emotion is a reason to eat. I am stressed - eat, I am happy - eat, I am depressed - eat, I am angry - eat. The gym helps tremendously - I can just imagine what my weight would be if I weren't going to the gym. Not only does it help with keeping the weight under control, but it also helps with the "emotional" aspect of my personality and life.

It seems that I have a very nasty "quirk" about my personality also. When I think about my life, I realize that I am happy, for the most part at peace, but then I begin to worry . . . maybe I am too happy, so something bad is going to happen know. If you believe in the "energy" or in the "secret", this would basically mean, that I find a good place to be in my life, and then I create some negativity to sabotage my own happiness. Hmmm, not a happy thought. So, I am making a concerted effort, to not only be happy, but then to ENJOY that moment of happiness/peace, without obsessing that it won't last and that something bad is getting ready to happen.

Today's Affirmation:
I enjoy the journey

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KEEPITMOVING 2/5/2009 7:53AM

    enjoy the journey is right! i'm not shirley macclaine, i don't know if i'm coming back again, so THIS IS IT FOR ME! emotional eating is also my achilles heel and remaining mindful with my short-sighted pleasures usually taking a backseat to my long-term goals is how i manage not to balloon up into something horrific. and, you're right, staying active is the key to maintaining balance and a healthy perspective. i, too, struggle with this; however, knowing that SP is here and ladies like you understand the rocky road, pitfalls, detours, reststops, diversions, loop-de-loops, and everything else, well, it makes it a lot easier for me. thank you for sharing your thoughts so honestly. i appreciate it more than i can express. ENJOY THE MOMENT because it'll never come back again. my best to you always, nancy
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