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A little about me

Friday, August 23, 2013

I found this on another friends spark page so thought I would add it onto mine. With my answers of course!

"Copy and Paste into your own blog, change the answers to suit you
and help your SparkFriends get to know you.

Where is my cell phone?
Connected to the charger on the bookcase in the living room

Yes, still asleep.

Your hair?
brown & silver

Your mother?
Sadly she passed away 11/14/12.

Your father?
Alive and kicking and will outlive us all just for spite!

Your favorite thing?
My laptop. Always said I didn't want one until I got it and then loved it!

Your dream last night?
Was going to go get my mom a snack since she couldn't walk very far.

Favorite drink?
Unsweetened iced tea

What room are you in?
Living room (on the laptop that I said I never wanted)

Your hobbies?
Cross stitch, cooking, reading, computer games, (does relaxing count as a hobby?)

Your fear?
That I'll die before I ever get to see my granddads graduate, since I still don't have any. And that we won't be able to get our house paid off before my husband retires.

Where do you want to be in 6 years?
Happy and secure

Where were you last night?

Something that you aren't?

I've ate a few

Wish list item?
Purple Plymouth Prowler

Last thing you did?
Started my spark teams check in thread.

What are you wearing?
shorts and shirt

Your pets?
2 Dachshunds, 1 Terrier mix, 1 Jack Russell puppy, and a 15 year old part Maine Coon cat named Harry (and she's a girl).

None here in Georgia, but have a few that I talk to on facebook.

Your life?
It's been hard.

Your mood?
Annoyed at the dogs.

Missing someone?
My mom who passed away and my son & daughter in law because they live in Canada and I haven't seen them since June 2012

Coffee, black

Your car?
2004 Pontiac Gran Prix GTP with a turbo charged engine

Something you're not wearing?
Shoes (hate to wear them)

Your favorite store?
Target? Don't really have one.

Your favorite color?
Tie between Emerald Green/Pastel Pink

When is the last time you cried?
Cried about my mom 2 nights ago.

Favorite place to eat?
Home. I get tired of being gone.

Favorite place I'd like to be right now?
On a cruise ship! But have to wait until 12/2014 then going on an 11 day Southern Caribbean cruise.


I've finally updated....

Saturday, January 10, 2009 spark page, along with my weight ticker. Yuck!! Unfortunately due to way too much emotional eating the last few months, I gained back everything that I had lost last year and even added a couple of more onto it. But it's a new year and with more momentum than what I had before, I believe it's time to get back to what I know I can be. And that's thinner!

I had planned on getting back in the swing of things last week but the flu snuck up on me. A belated Christmas present from the hubby! Thanks dear!! So it's got me down and postponed my start. I'm still trying to eat decent but I hate those night time munchies that come on. And why is it I'm never craving carrots or something. It's always sweets!

I put the pedometer back on January 1st and so far haven't been able to get up to 6000 steps in a single day yet. But I know a lot of that is because of being sick. I just don't have the energy to do it at the moment. But I will, eventually! They say slow and steady wins the race and I'm definitely slow at the moment!! So maybe that means I'll win!!

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ONEMOMENT 3/16/2009 8:19AM

  It is never too late to begin again! You are here and trying and that is what matters. The great news is that you now have experience and you aren't starting alone. We alllllll know how you feel and what you are facing.

We are all wishing you much success!

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    I had gained part of the 25 pounds I lost last year too. I had a talk with myself and told myself, "The only thing stopping you, is you." I was right. Only we can do this for ourselves and this year is my year to shine. I know you can do it too. I have been overweight my whole life and I think I sometimes sabotage myself for fear that I don't know what thin is like LOL. Anyway, you can do this. Good luck on your journey. We not only lose weight, get healthy but really take a look at ourselves. Dance til the inside of your soul smiles. Pam

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DOWNPORT 1/10/2009 1:53PM

    Debbie - I am sure you will soon be back on track. I think your feelings are common to a lot of people - certainly me! You have made a positive start by updating your page and using your pedometer again. You are on the way! Good luck, Carole

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That's it, I'm done...

Monday, September 29, 2008

....gaining weight that is! For the past 2 months I have let things in life get in the way of my dieting and exercise and it's coming to an end. Today!!!! I've gained 9 pounds over the past 2 months when I should have lost 9 pounds, and I've had enough. I'm not going to take it anymore!! So that scale is going to start heading south as of today.

I'm terrible about letting the little things bother me and being the emotional eater that I am, it really plays havoc on my diet. I know to some that may be an excuse, but if you've never had to deal with emotional eating, then it's hard to explain the feelings that come over you and how it's almost impossible to control it at times. I know that if I wasn't taking med's for stress and anxiety, that I would be a lot heavier than I am now. But between the med's and Spark I've kept it under control better. So thank you to my friends here at spark for letting me come to you when I need someone to talk to and it's also nice to know that I'm not the only one who deals with it.

I just feel overwhelmed at the moment. So much is going on in my life at the moment. And only one of them is something to look forward to, and that's being able to live with my husband again next summer. Because we have been living apart for over 2 years now and I've had enough. It would be different if we were in our 20's or 30's with lots of years ahead of us. But I'm 47 and he's going to be 53 this year. And both of his parents passed away before they were 70. In fact his father was only in his 50's. So the health in his family isn't good.

Not to mention I'm tired of living apart. I'm tired of being alone. I truly feel more like a single mom now than when I really was one. So I got fed up with the town we are in and the drama that my daughter is going through at the moment here and I told Bob that he's getting a wife and stepdaughter next summer whether he wants one or not. I told him that I don't care if we live in Memphis, Atlanta or Timbuktu! I know he didn't want to move us to Memphis only to have to move again to Atlanta because of his job. I understand that. We didn't want to keep moving the kids around. But we also didn't know it was going to take 3 years to finally get to Georgia either. So I don't know where we will be living come next summer, but it's going to be together.

So now I need to start getting the house ready to sell. And that's one of the things that's stressing me. It's not like Bob can come home on weekends or anything. He hasn't been out here since last Christmas. So it's up to me to get everything ready. I need to have the carpet replaced, I need to have a new front and back door put on, I need to paint the entire inside of the house. I need to buy screens for the windows that don't have them, I need to paint the cabinets and doors. I need to make sure the yard is looking good and the dogs sure haven't helped on that one!

So I feel overwhelmed. Then there's my son Austin who will turn 19 this week and he's moving to Canada the end of November. And as his mom I worry. I don't know if he realizes just what's involved in picking up and immigrating to another country. And is the end of November really a good time of year to drive to Alberta, Canada?? But his friends birthday is the beginning of December and he wants to be there by then. I prefer he waits until spring, at least. But I prefer next summer to be totally honest. But heaven forbid I say anything to him about it because then I'm being the nagging mother. And since I'm an adult and he's 18, then what do I know!! But it would have been nice to have one more Christmas with him.

And I cry every time I think about him moving. I wouldn't care if he moved all the way across the United States. That wouldn't bother me. What bothers me is moving to a totally different country. I don't even have a passport. So if something was to happen to him, I couldn't even come up there. I don't have a copy of my birth certificate to even apply for one. So I've got to try and get a copy from Missouri, where I was born at, and get one. I don't even know how to go about getting my birth certificate. Where do I even start at? And even though my son is an adult. Though I don't really consider18 to be much of an adult, it's my job as a mom to be concerned about him. Especially since he just graduated high school and has never been out on his own before. I believe he's thinking more with his hormones than his mind at the moment.

Well it's Monday, a new week and almost a new month. So it's time to get a plan and do it. I should be a lot lighter than what I am and it's really bothering me that I can't get it under control at the moment. So Lord, give me the strength and motivation and encouragement that I need to do this. And you can throw in some humor too!

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DESIRE713 10/3/2008 1:20PM

Wow, living with your husband is something to look forward to! Sometimes I wish I could have your life & have a husband that's gone all of the time but I think that would get old fast. Isn't it funny how we don't do all of the things to our houses that need to be done until we need to sell them? I look at our house & think there is no way we would get what it's worth just because of little things like trimming & caulking that needs to be done. It just doesn't look good!

Another way to get your birth certificate is to call the city hall in the city you were born, they should be able to help you. It will be very important for all of your family to have passports with one of your family members living in another country. The sooner the better. Because like you said, just in case something happens, you want to have one. Plus I'm sure you will want to go visit your son at his new home.

Since I just recommitted myself to SP & losing weight again, I guess we can (re)start this journey together! Hold each other accountable!

Good luck Debbie, I truly want the best for you!

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MAGIEDEN1988 10/2/2008 5:05PM

    emoticon emoticon Just wanted to start with that. YOU REALLY need some! emoticon

You have a full plate my dear to say the least. Maybe writing it all down from the most important to the least would help. I know, I know it ALL is important and overwhelming at the moment.

Husbands and wives are not meant to be apart for as long as you two have been, unless you are separated for marital reasons. It would drive me insane as well(not that you're insane). The move to be a one unit family is the right move and with some organization and planning I know you can pull it off. Maybe you will have to utilize family or friends you have around you to help get the house ready to sell. Maybe you will have to hire some outside help with this also. Just take a deep breath and let it out and sit down and organize your thoughts. Type them out on the computer if you have to.

The case of the son who wants so desperately to be adventurous, been there done that. Eighteen year old in the Army, in Alaska, nay I say more? It is hard when they go but have some faith in your parenting and maybe that can bring you some comfort. It hasn't been easy for me and I pray for him daily. Believe you me they ALL think they have grown up at that age. My heart goes out to you about the situation.

I know you will be able to do ALL the things you feel so overwhelmed about and more. Sit down, gather your thoughts on paper or computer and start working at one of them at a time.

So glad you are able to express your feelings on SP.

Take care!



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MOMRITZ 9/29/2008 9:19PM

    OVerwhelmed...I know the feeling. Try not to beat yourself up. We can always pick ourselves up and start again. Tomorrow is a new day.

Wow, moving to Canada. That is big. oldest is 10 so I am of NO assistance there. Can't imagine her moving that far away though, my heart goes out to you.

Take care of you. Everything will work out as it should be.

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DRAGONWOLF 9/29/2008 11:32AM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon
Debbie, Austin is coming to Canada, not Russia lol. But I agree the first move you hope is close to home in case. Right now I would not might my kids moving far away (yeah I would). Driving here the end of November depending on which way he is travelling could be rough - does he know how to drive in ice and snow? Make sure he has a winter survival kit in the car.
First thing to get your birth certificate, I am assuming your mom doesn't have it. Google Missouri government and then birth certificates - should give you a starting point.
Then when you go to visit Austin, you can come and see me emoticon

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Vacations over....

Wednesday, July 30, 2008

.... and time to get back to work on spark again. I missed it really while gone. I can sure tell a difference in how I feel when I'm not following it. So since Friday is the first day of a new month, it's going to be the first day of starting over for me. I could start over tomorrow but I have to ease my way back into it!!

Vacation was good. Bob and I spent 4 nights in Tucson and then 5 nights in Vegas. I really loved Tucson and almost wished we had bypassed Vegas and just stayed in Tucson. I loved Vegas the last time we went (6 years ago), but this time was different. You couldn't walk out of your hotel without being approached by time share people with people promising you dinners or shows for just a few hours of your time! It was really getting annoying. But they were outside of every hotel!!! It really just turned me off big time. And it didn't help that I got really sick Wednesday night and spent most of Thursday and Friday in bed. It's going to be awhile before I can eat a hamburger with guacamole and a side order of onion rings again. Not a pretty site!! But I'm about back to normal thank goodness!!

I haven't weighed myself since before vacation. I'm sure I gained a little but hopefully not a lot. We did a lot of walking. And when I say "a lot", I mean I was getting up to 20,000 steps in on some days. And averaging about 15,000 on most of the other days. And we'd only eat breakfast and dinner each day. And I made sure that I consumed a ton of water since it was over 100 degrees outside everyday. I think next year I would rather go somewhere cooler and quieter. Maybe a cabin in the woods at a lake. No crowds, no noise, no heatwave!

My daughter came home today. She had flown to Georgia to stay with her grandparents while Bob and I went on vacation. I cried when I saw her get off the plane today. I was so happy to have her home. But after a trip to the mall for school shoes and some clothes, she was home and gone again! Making up for lost time with her friends. So here I am alone again. But only for a few hours.

Guess it's time to wrap this up and check out spark and see what new things I can discover about it.

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TUESDAYS 7/31/2008 4:52PM

    I'm glad you had a good trip --- despite getting sick! UGH! Few things worse than being sick while away from home. Your daughter's reaction sounds "normal." They get to be like little birds who land at home... then fly away again.
Welcome back to SP!

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35 hours and.......

Monday, July 14, 2008

.....counting down until I get to see my husband Bob again!! I'm so happy and excited and even starting to get a few butterflies! We are leaving Wednesday for 4 nights in Tucson and then 5 nights in Las Vegas. We are going to meet each other at DFW airport tomorrow night. I'm driving down from Oklahoma and he's flying in from Memphis, TN. I booked us a hotel room at the fancy hotel at the airport and we are going to spend the night there and then fly out the next afternoon for vacation. We will get to spend 11 nights together. That's the longest period of time that we have spent together in the past 2 years that he's been living and working in Memphis. We only see each other once every 3 or 4 months. But hopefully by this time next year we will be living under the same roof again!

My daughter Jeannine flew out to Georgia to stay 2.5 weeks with my parents and my son will be staying here working and looking after the house while I'm gone. My mom was hoping to take Jeannine and go rent a condo at the beach in Georgia for a couple of nights while she's there, but my dad is still in the hospital. It's been 3 weeks as of this Wednesday. And now they have him moved to a rehab center and said he may be there for another 2 weeks. He has no upper body strength and can't push himself up with his arms because of it. He tries to walk with a walker, but can't hold himself up on it. I feel terrible for my dad. This is a man that was always on the go and doing yard work and cutting firewood and now he's having to wear depends and use a walker at the moment. And he's only 69. It kills me not to be there to see him. My mom is beginning to think that he may have suffered a small heart attack during his hospital stay after surgery. Hopefully he wil be back home soon. There is this part of me that feels so guilty for going on a vacation and not going to see my father. But there is nothing I can do for him and we had no idea that his hospital stay would go from a predicted 2 night stay, to an unpredicted 4-5 week stay. And the reservations were already made and paid for.

Of course I will be taking a spark break while on vacation. Which means more than likely a weight gain. However I'm willing to make that sacrifice to spend this time with Bob. I'm not going to gorge myself and eat until I'm totally stuffed. But at the same time I'm not going to say no to desserts and treats. I'm going to enjoy myself and I know what the consequences are. But I'm hoping with all of the walking that we will be doing, that my weight gain will stay at a minimum.

I will maybe have computer access while in Tucson, and will try and check in with my spark teams, which by the way I took over as co-leader on another team yesterday, but while in Vegas I won't have computer access. Bob is bringing his work laptop but it's strictly for work matters and so I won't be able to use it. I'll miss all of my spark friends while on vacation. They've become like family to me!

See you in a couple of weeks!!

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DRAGONWOLF 7/14/2008 10:12AM

    Deb, I hope that your dad will have a full recovery. Hopefully Jeannie will give your mom some extra support and comfort. You enjoy your time with hubby, I know full well what it is like to have hubby away from home for extended periods of time. You rekindle the relationship and the love that you two have for each other. We will miss you, but kinda jealous too :) emoticon

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DOWNPORT 7/14/2008 9:49AM

    Debbie - Have a great holiday! Relax and enjoy yourself. Carole

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