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Ignorance is not bliss - whether it be with Spark or other areas or our lives

Monday, September 17, 2012


Beautiful sunny day here again today with a temperature at 7:30 a.m. of about 10 degrees celsius. It should warm up to the low to mid-twenties by lunch hour which is quite nice for this time of the year. In other words, it is a great day to get out with the dogs! emoticon

I've had a very productive weekend in my continuing attempts to clear up the clutter. Another bag of clothes gone to goodwill AND I'm starting to see some light at the end of the tunnel. I never knew how liberating this could all be. I have always had too much of everything (what a good complaint to have) - whether it be food in our pantry, food in our freezer, clothes, cleaning supplies, etc. I'm slowly whittling it down to manageable amounts by putting a spending freeze on and only buying when stuff runs out. When I looked under my bathroom vanity this weekend and I actually had space I felt a ridiculous amount of pleasure. Now, my basement is still a complete mess but I am going to get there when I get finished with the upstairs. Everything in its time!

Tomorrow we officially sign the mortgage papers and my credit cards are going into the freezer. We are going to live on cash (we don't use our debit cards) as I think it will give us a good idea where the money goes each month. I cannot believe how liberating this feels. I now know how much money I make (okay, I have nobody to blame that on but myself and my tendency to put my head in the sand), I know how much John makes and I know how much money we spend on routine bills.

For some, unknown reason, I thought ignorance is bliss. But heck, no! Knowledge is empowering and it is providing me with a sense of fulfillment and relief that I have never quite mastered before.

So, how does this apply to Spark? Well, when I was more aware of my physical activity and my food consumption I succeeded with my weight loss. As soon as I put my head back in the sand, however, I started to slip up. I confess to taking the past few weeks completely off from Spark but it was just that I had so many other things to do and I didn't want to go off the deep end. What I have realized, however, is that there is a balance. When I get settled away and have just the day-to-day clutter to deal with I know Spark will be paramount in my life again. I am giving myself until the end of September for this. Then I will be back for real!!! Look out!


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OFFICIALOLDY 10/2/2012 9:53AM

    GREAT BLOG!!! This is just what I need. My house is a MESS of clutter, stuff, dust and dirt. When I was away last week I had lots of time to think and plan. I'm making my house the goal for this month. I'm off to a weak start, but your blog inspired me! Ass you pointed out, I'm going to have to spend less time on my beloved SparkPeople site because it's taking time away from things I need to do. How did your September plans work out? More later - I'm going to clean the kitchen (yesterday's task).

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GARDENQE2 9/27/2012 3:02PM

    Great plan! emoticon
I did that project when I was about 45. Sell instead of buy. Give away instead of keep. Save instead of spend. Knowledge is power! Use the knowledge!
Twenty years later, I have a comfortable retirement because I started then!

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EJOY-EVELYN 9/20/2012 11:10PM

    Sounds wonderfully empowering. Make the best of this time and continue to feel the great value this gives your entire household. WooHoo!

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POPSY190 9/17/2012 5:24PM

    I love the sense of control and freedom from burdens that de-cluttering gives. For me, it's like exercise - it's starting that's the problem, but once I get going, watc h out! You sound so energised, it's lovely to hear. See you early October!

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KARENCRANER 9/17/2012 5:16PM

    I love the way you're setting goals and focusing on balance. First the upstairs, then the basement. Focus on de-cluttering until the end of September, then back to spark more. I'm so proud of you!

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ANGRITTER 9/17/2012 5:07PM

    Cleaning out those "corners" are what got me finding mice! I hope you find none in your home and basement. Now I am looking for them everywhere and am surprised I haven't had a bad dream about them. I have dreamt about my last ex lately, but he's a rat, not a mouse!

It does seem like it would be a good thing to ignore all the bills you have, but honestly it IS empowering to see where you are. I can't believe you didn't even know how much money you made!! Well, I guess I stress about that since I have no income! I have tons of debt that will never get paid, but bankruptcy comes after the disability hearing.

Congratulations on getting these things done. Spring cleaning is not in my vocabulary so I have to do this stuff in the fall. It's not as hot then and I can slip more things off to the garbage collectors than my father sees - he's a bit of a hoarder.

Enjoy your time away from Spark, we will still be here. And what you are doing is waaaay more important right now! Have fun and kiss the pooches for me.

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BOVEY63 9/17/2012 2:59PM

    Great job on the decluttering - something I need to work on too!
I can understand how getting your finances in order is Spark-related. When I am stressed, diet and exercise go out the window. So wonderful that you were able to work with the bank to get back on a good financial track!

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ILOVEMALI 9/17/2012 12:47PM

  What a great way to start your week! You can do this!

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JOANNANOW 9/17/2012 12:00PM

    You sound wonderful... I can sense the focus and determination in those words. Well done Susan. It's sunny here too ... global warming finally made it to northern BC! The prediction is for more of the same! Have a great week and keep up the good work!

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GAYLE-G-63 9/17/2012 9:35AM

    HI Susan,

I know exactly how you feel. I cleaned out our basement last summer. Boy, did I feel better afterwards! All the clutter and the mess was such a bummer every time I went down there. Now, if I could only make myself clean the attic! LOL

You're doing great!


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CODEMAULER 9/17/2012 9:19AM

    Congratulations on de-cluttering! I love the feeling that comes with "re-claimed space!"


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Dog parks : My dogs vs. "normal" behaviour (pictures)

Wednesday, September 12, 2012


Well, we survived tropical storm Leslie. Everything was closed yesterday morning so I had the whole day off of work which worked out quite nicely with my lower back pain. It is feeling much better this morning (knock on wood) so I am thinking a walk around the dog park last night really helped out.

Speaking of dog parks - our town has opened one and it is quite popular. Our three still prefer our long walks in the woods but there are certain times that taking them to the dog park makes more sense to us.

The first picture is one I "borrowed" from google and it shows what the goings on at dog park. Notice the freedom the dogs have and the fun they all seem to be having? I leave every trip to our dog park with a smile on my face because most dogs at our park do get along and enjoy a "pack" run together.

The next picture was taken at our dog park last week. The only dog I put on the bench was Maddy (pom) but it basically sums up my dogs' attitudes at the park. I was throwing a ball and a frisbee, Maddy was busy being sniffing around and when I turned to see what Ginger and Louisa were doing I found them sitting on the bench. Ha!

Oh dear! I guess we can take the to the dog park but we can't make them socialize or have fun like "normal" dogs!

Talk to you all later! Thanks for the encouraging comments on my last blog!

xo Susan

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TEMPEST272002 9/15/2012 5:07PM

    That pic is just too cute! DeeOhGee loooooves her dog-park-Wednesdays. One of our local vets donates his horse field one evening a week for dog lovers to get together. Because it's just 1x per wk there's always a great turnout. She'll play, play, play for about 30 minutes and then she starts hanging out beside me, letting me know she's ready to go.

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TDWANDD2MYK9 9/15/2012 2:08AM

    Gr8 blog! emoticon

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SILVER1369 9/13/2012 11:28AM

    Love your fur babies! They are so cute and smart to boot.

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JLITT62 9/13/2012 5:04AM

    I took the dogs to a dog park occasionally in Austin, but never sought out one here. Lola LOVES to play; Chester LOVES to lay on me.

Lola gets to play her little heart out when we go on trips - the woman we board them with have 4 yorkies & takes in other small dogs.

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BIRKIE528 9/12/2012 11:20PM

    Too cute :)

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MAMADWARF 9/12/2012 11:19PM

    I love this...they have their own pack! That's all they need! Lol, and they are adorable to boot!!

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CELLISTA1 9/12/2012 10:38PM

    I love the photo of your dogs and their attitude. My dog never enjoys the dog park. She doesn't interact with other dogs and doesn't want to chase a ball. She just kind of looks at me and says, Okay, I sniffed everything, I'm done.

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DOODIE59 9/12/2012 10:26PM

    I had to weigh in when I saw "dog park" in your heading:)

I wonder whether it is because you have three, and three is enough for them socially to think they've got enough on their hands "within their own family" and thus they have no need for those other strangers tearing around the park. They probably keep each other busy enough, and don't feel they need new friends:)

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SPARKLISE 9/12/2012 3:44PM

    I bring my dog to the dog park.
He watches the dogs but does not interact.
I'm sure he didn't think of sitting on the bench,because he probably would.
What a wouss.

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BOVEY63 9/12/2012 1:29PM

    So happy to hear that you survived the storm.
Love your pups!

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KAYDE53 9/12/2012 1:18PM

    That is sooo sweet!!! emoticon

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0309COOKIE 9/12/2012 12:39PM

    That is too cute. Your dogs are adorable. I'm afraid my dog would be on the bench too, lol. He prefers my attention over other animals.

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OFFICIALOLDY 9/12/2012 11:49AM

    There are "watchers" and there are "joiners" - I guess we know what you have! My dog is not much of a joiner either. It's all good if they get out and have fun. Do they like to go for walks?

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THETURTLEBEAR 9/12/2012 11:48AM

    That is hysterical!

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ILOVEMALI 9/12/2012 11:46AM

  I laughed out loud!!! Thanks for the great start to my morning!

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KANSASROSE67 9/12/2012 11:44AM

    I love the pic of your 3 dogs! They know how to live the good life!

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CHUBRUB3 9/12/2012 11:17AM

    LOL! Love this Susan!
Your dogs are priceless!

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ANGRITTER 9/12/2012 10:39AM

    I can't believe it. All 3 sitting there like they are so much better than everyone else!! "These dogs are running around in circles". "What are they doing that for?" They are peasants and don't even deserve the attention we are giving them right now!"

I can hear them!!

Max lures Jackson out to the very back of our property... he waits for him to sidle up beside him, then he turns on Jackson and starts chasing him, and Jackson does everything in his power to get back to the steps before Max rolls him across the ground! It's so much fun to watch!!

And Jackson finally gets tired and runs in the house and lays on the AC vent to cool down. Max hits the other one. That's why it is so hot in the LR - big windows letting in hot sun (we've got them blacked out with curtains right now), and fluffy dogs laying on the AC vents!

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_LINDA 9/12/2012 10:06AM

    Lol dogs! You got to love them!! I always enjoyed the antics of the dogs in the off leash areas. Our Bendix in his younger years was one playful boy and couldn't get enough chasing around with his dog buddies. We just got hours of amusement watching their antics and mock fighting! He was no benchwarmer!
Hopefully, they will warm up to the idea eventually, they don't know the fun they are missing!
So happy you made it through the storm with no damages and flooding, I assume. Its been impressive hearing of the winds and rainfall there..
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SUSANS706 9/12/2012 9:53AM

    Too cute. Our dog would rather be with people than other dogs, so we stick to walking!!

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CODEMAULER 9/12/2012 9:15AM

    I'll be it's a fun time for everyone at the dog park! It looks like a perfect spot for frisbees and balls!

(Even my cats prefer tennis balls!)

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How did "tropical" storm Leslie find her way this far north and other ramblings

Tuesday, September 11, 2012


Well, we our island is getting slammed today by "tropical storm" Leslie which is good as at least she isn't a full blown hurricane. Of course, she could be by now because the weather forecasters were divided on that topic. All I can tell you that here in my cozy house (a true blessing!) all I can hear is the wind outside and the rain beating against the windows. My three doggies are sleeping with very full bladders but they would rather that than attempt a "pee break".

As for where I am (aside from being in my living room!), I have a lot accomplished and I am starting to feel good about it. The mortgage has been applied for, we have an appointment to help me learn about budgets, and I am taking over the finances. This is a big step for someone who up until a few weeks ago didn't even know how much money she made! Honestly. The three years of unfiled taxes are filed and refund is being processed. Yes, a refund!!!

I have been letting my physical health slide lately which isn't a good thing at all but I know I have what it takes to get that under control as well. Unfortunately, I've somehow torn muscles in my lower back and yesterday could barely walk. I went to a walk in clinic and was told to take it easy but to continue to walk daily. Then he told me I have another ear and sinus infection which he thinks might be an allergy to my dogs. Thankfully he is a dog lover too and understood my horror! I have to wait a month to see if this clears up once an for all and then see my own doctor to see an ears, nose and throat specialist. I WILL NOT BE PARTING WITH MY DOGS!!!!

Maddy hasn't been well either lately which is bothersome. At first we figured it was jealousy so we've been spending time just with him. But now he won't eat and has been throwing up. Took him to see his doctor yesterday who did complete blood work ($300) and wants him to fast for 24 hours and then introduce him to a very bland diet. Little buggar. Louisa was stung on the face by hornets on Friday night so we have had an interesting weekend with our pups. Benadryl really helped out there thanks to a plea I put out on Facebook at 11:00 p.m. and had three offers of the stuff within minutes. Ginger is still having "accidents" although we kind of think she is marking her territory. I've been watching her like a hawk and at least now know her signals but that doesn't work if John leaves our bedroom door open! Ha! She likes to do her business in our closet!

My mom bought me some nice work clothes last week. I now have clothes that fit the body I have now and not the body I want to have in a year from now! I was actually getting by with hand me downs but Mom dragged me out and bought some tops that actually fit me. Oh, and she did sneak a skirt into the pile which should be interesting as I haven't worn one since my weight gain....ahem....10-12 years ago. This one is a black and white tweed which will be nice with tights and boots and perhaps a top unless of course I really want to shock people.

So project weight loss is really on the back burner right now BUT at least it is still on the stove! I can sense that I am feeling better with getting the other areas in my life straightened out. It is like a weight lifted from my shoulders!

Talk to you all later!

xo Susan

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SILVER1369 9/13/2012 11:30AM

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_LINDA 9/11/2012 11:33PM

    Good for you getting on top of your financial problems -and awesome about getting a refund on those back taxes, what a relief!!
So very sorry to hear of your poor puppy problems and yours as well. Keeping fingers crossed you CAN'T possibly be allergic to your furbabies :(
That is wonderful about the work clothes -new stuff is always a perk!
Like you said, you have to get your life in order and settled and then you can worry about the weight. Getting rid of all the stress is a number one priority as that interferes with losing weight anyway.
Happy to hear from you!
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KAYDE53 9/11/2012 8:59PM

    Sounds like you're getting a lot accomplished; good for you!!! Hope your dogs get better!! We got a some rain from Isaac, but not really bad storms. What a nice present, getting new clothes, I always feel better in clothes that fit right too. And hopefully, things will fall in place, and the weight will start coming off!!! emoticon

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CODEMAULER 9/11/2012 7:53PM

    Getting organized is as beneficial as getting in shape, AND your long-term health and happiness benefit!


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POPSY190 9/11/2012 4:31PM

    You have your priorities right. Dealing with the underlying problems and issues will help your health as much, or more, than food and exercise,. Hope the dogs' problems are not too serious. We're in the same boat as you as far as the weather goes. It's supposed to be spring and we have a storm with wind and hail. Good luck with the budget appointment.

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ANGRITTER 9/11/2012 3:50PM

    Remember to keep your hands in FRONT of you face when getting beat down this badly!! I am so sorry you are having a bad month, but hope some relief is on the horizon!

A refund on the taxes is great and unexpected, so that should help pay the vet bill you just incurred. And I cannot believe you would be allergic to your dogs!! There has to be something else.

I am amazed you are getting effects from Leslie. I stopped watching her last week, but I have no idea who told her to go all the way up there! Will have to talk to her brother on the next storm. She's not allowed that far north.

I am so glad to hear that you are coming out of the weeds and getting things in order. And it's wonderful that your mother took you out. I love it when my mom goes out with me, as well. I don't buy clothes, but we do get a "treat" of some kind. She stashes money from my dad so she always has it for emergencies... and I've had enough of them for the past few months.

Am now in a full, hard cast and can't take it off to shower anymore. I am trying my damnedest to get used to it, but I want to cut it off so badly. I am finally starting to heal; yesterday was 2 months it's been broken. My mother broke both her bones and was out of her cast in 6 weeks. Ands he's 62! So all my healing issues are all her fault!!

So happy to hear from you again. Much love and hugs and prayers for your health sent your way. I don't pray often, but sometimes I make the reach out there for special people.

Big hugs and puppydog kisses for you, Ang

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LYNNWILK2 9/11/2012 2:48PM

    WOW, you've literally dug yourself out of a hole. I hope your back heals quickly and that your sinus/ear thing is resolved and that it is not caused by your dogs. I also hope they get straightened out also. You have a lot going on in your life right now and you have just tackled a mountain (literally) of paperwork and are coming out on the good end of that stick.
But welcome back to Sparks Susan, you have been missed. Stay in touch.
Life is a great rollercoaster ride sometimes... just remember to let go and scream a few times!!!! it makes it a lot more fun.

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ILOVEMALI 9/11/2012 2:38PM

  Life continues to throw stressors at you, and you seem to be handling them with grace.

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HOPESINGH 9/11/2012 2:26PM

    I think you're doing a great progress. Every new thing you do is hard, at maybe scary - I know it is for me. So filing the taxes, mortgage application and doing the budget workshop actually sound like a huge accomplishment to me.
I've put my working out on hold too lately, I can't be bothered with all these hormones they've been giving me. I am even less energetic than usual!

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JLITT62 9/11/2012 12:00PM

    Oh, I am so sorry about the health & animal woes (been having some of tbe latter myself, but thankfully I'm healthy). Sounds like you're really doing a bang-up job in spite of it all.

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KYLIESCHELLE 9/11/2012 11:59AM

    Best wishes as you weather the storm. I live in Florida so I know what its like, lol! Hope your pups will be doing better soon. Be sure to take care of yourself too or you won't have much to give to others. Be safe.

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BOVEY63 9/11/2012 11:11AM

    Hope the weather clears up and both you and Maddy are feeling better real soon.
That was a sweet gift from your mom!

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JOANNANOW 9/11/2012 10:09AM

    Hi Susan,
Having that weight off your shoulders....will help you get healthy all over! Good work! I hope you and Maddy feel better soon. I didn't get much done in the weight department this summer either but I did get some goals concerning my grandson and his health solved. That was a weight off my shoulders and he is doing so much better now that I am ready to breath a sigh of relief and start to think about me again. I think clearing the mind in order to refocus qualifies as real accomplishment.
Oh boy,that sounds like quite a storm' hope you are are dry and safe!
New cloths that fit make a girl feel great regardless of size.... your mom is wonderful... you lucky duck.
Congrats on the tax refund! emoticon

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OFFICIALOLDY 9/11/2012 9:38AM

    Best of luck with the storm. My dog hates storms and can feel them miles away. We call her "barometer dog". She would also be keeping all four legs crossed, rather than go out into any kind of inclement weather. I hope that all goes well with your human and canine health troubles - it seems like it's always something! Congratulations on your new clothes; that skirt sounds really cute. Keep up the good work with your finances and exercise!

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Sticking a needle through your eye socket" - welcome to my thoughts on de-cluttering

Tuesday, September 04, 2012


Yes, I've been missing in action, yet again but to tell the truth I have been mentally exhausted. I'm realizing I married a hoarder (we've been married for 12 years so, yes, I am a very slow learner) and I realized that this is playing a major role in my depression.

John and I are sticking it out, so no worries there although to tell the truth I have been sorely tempted to stick him in the paper shredder more than a few times. Wouldn't do much good, though would it because think of the mess that would create! I mean, the stupid shredder overheats enough now as it is! Please say you are understanding my humour and are not calling 911 to report me.

At my last doctor's appointment I cautiously mentioned that although I deeply love my husband there are times I would cheerfully stick a needle in his eyeball or drill out his belly button. My doctor laughed and said "welcome to married life, my dear". So, I then mentioned this same thing to John and he burst out laughing too and said "at least we are honest about it". We talked about it and both agreed that these moments are very fleeting and have agreed that we will refer to them as "the five minute death curse" where we will tell each other "I have to walk away right now - five minute death curse is upon me".

Yes, I used that expression this weekend when John had the dogs out and let Ginger wander off and she was gone for 2 and 1/2 hours in the woods near our house. I was sick with a really bad headache and was sitting on a overturned bucket in the pouring rain calling "Ginger" every few minutes while he walked the trails. When he came back to check on me he took one look at my expression and said, "you could stick a sharp alder branch through my eye sockets right now, couldn't you?" which made us both laugh. Oh, and little miss Ginger trots out of the woods a few minutes later with an expression that said, "oh, were you calling me".

Well, the good news is, I have six large garbage bags of shredded paper out of my house, I have our taxes sent in for the past three years (oops!) and we have our final bank appointment tomorrow which means our debt will be consolidated. No more phone calls from credit card companies and it means that I am taking a more active role in our household spending and budgeting.

So, how does this apply to my life on Spark? Well, I am walking the dogs everyday for 20-30 minutes and I am drinking my water. Not doing very good with the eating (as usual) but later this week we are setting up a budget for our household and that will really lend itself to meal planning which is turn will lead to eating regularly and more healthy.

I think I will feel better mentally too when the pressure is off and I become more content in my own home. While doing all of this the past couple of weeks, I have realized that I need a schedule in my life to keep my sanity in check. Again, my doctor reassured me that this is normal and, in fact, quite a positive step.

On other notes, I handled my very first dog adoption this weekend with the little one our group had in foster care. I spent Saturday night with this dog and its foster care provider so I expected to be a little sad when the adoption went through but they turned out to be so positive and caring that I was really glad to be of assistance. They had a three hour drive to get here and they brought in their other dog to see how it would go and within minutes the two dogs were running together and playing. Shelley was one of those that touched my heart and if we hadn't just rescued Ginger I would have taken her in. I guess it made me a little more protective over her but I am very happy that the adoption went well and she is in the kind of home she needs.

Well, I must go and stop "talking your ears off". I hope all is well with each and every one of you!

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KARENCRANER 9/10/2012 10:57PM

    I'm so proud of the steps you've taken toward financial health!

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EDLEAR 9/7/2012 2:10AM

    Susan -
thank you for your honest sharing. It's comforting to read about someone else dealing with my own issues. Humorously, too. Thanks.

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ILOVEMALI 9/6/2012 11:20PM

  I'm going to shred now! xoxoxo

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SPARKLISE 9/6/2012 3:58PM

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JLITT62 9/5/2012 5:26AM

    I've been married just about 27 yrs . . . and believe me, I have those moments too!

Sounds like you're doing really well. Keep up the good work & the eating WILL fall into place, too.

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LYNNWILK2 9/4/2012 10:17PM

    WOW Susan, welcome back to the world outside the basement and away from the paper shredder. You have to feel so good about yourself.
CONGRATULATIONS and it's great to see and have you back!

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ANGRITTER 9/4/2012 6:58PM

    Wow! Look at all these positive comments. I commend you on your talk with DH. Not a lot of people are brave enough to stand up and say "Yes, 4 out of 5 times a day I was to kill you, but I do love you", and those that do sometimes just don't get it that this is normal life.

And my favorite expression is "You make my want to stick a carrot through my eye"... and then one day I was farting around and damn it if I didn't poke my eye with a freakin' baby carrot!! So now, the saying really sticks! Oh, and I threaten to stab people in the face... another way we are a lot alike.

You've inspired me to clean my closet - I burned all of the records I had from credit cards and everything from over 5 years ago. Took them outside, stuffed them on the burn pile and lit it up! Felt great to let it go. No, those bills have not been paid in years - not since I broke my neck in 2005 - but I am no longer holding on to it.

See you inspire people by doing the work. And lady, you have surely been doing the work!! If I were closer I would help, but I know you have to go through everything and make sure you aren't throwing anything good away. That's the scariest part!

Love and hugs to you. And please tell Ginger she shouldn't make you worry. She's not to be outside partying all night in the woods. Nothing good comes of the woods after dark for a pretty little doggie. Read her Little Red Riding Hood! That should scare the bejeesus out of her!

Peace and love, and have a glass of wine!

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KAYDE53 9/4/2012 4:09PM

    It's got to be frustrating going through all that stuff so you have my sympathy & yes, dhs can be trials sometimes!! Great blog!! emoticon

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SOFT_VAL67 9/4/2012 3:53PM

    I cant believe I just logged into SP and this was the first blog I seen, cause I have been looking, no, searching, no...desperately tearing my house and hair apart, looking for an ace bandage.
Now, an ace bandage...? Really, one might ask, whats the big deal. Well, I only just bought it around 2 weeks ago. And only used it a couple of times on my sore foot.
It was wrapped up neatly and last I seen it was laying on the end table next to the couch.
Now, its no where to be found.
So, this search led to cleaning out bedroom drawers, kitchen cabinets and even the refrigerator....dont even ask why I thought it might be in there.
I just cleaned my house yesterday. The living room is very neat, the kitchen is neatish, give or take a few too many bowls in the sink. The bathroom is as clean as its been in weeks.
I am not a hoarder, but have blogged in the past about my possbile tendencies and well as Honey's.
But that has bothered me til I was in near tears, trying to find that ace bandage. My foot began to bother me again today and so I thought I would put it on.
No such luck, now I have a pull on foot wrap.
But just where did that ace bandage get off to is still eating at my very last nerve.
And by the way, I think this subject has very much to do with our lives on SP.
Hoarders or those that love them, are no different than anyone else with an addiction or an enabler.
I know that a good many times when I have watched these hoarding shows on tv, I have noticed many of them to be overweight.
We hold onto stuff.
Be it clothes or books, pictures, whatever, weight....
Its all related.
I am glad your dog returned home safe and I am glad you took an active role in getting organized.
I sure hope you dont stick a needle in anyones eyes and I sure hope you can find the bandages if you do.

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POPSY190 9/4/2012 3:38PM

    Your blogs always provide food for thought. Your dr is right - murderous thoughts are quite normal in happy marriages! emoticon? Your other readers have said it all - gaining control, sense of humour, compassion and contribution to others - all great.

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HOPESINGH 9/4/2012 3:28PM

    Dear Susan - I just LOVED the illustration you put there. Perfect!
I think my dad has hoarding tendencies but my mom stops him, so there's just one room in their house that's just full of clutter, floor to ceiling.
Your relationship with John sounds so good, including the shredder non-episode. Making fun of each other and of the hard moments is the best!
I do hope that with the financial progress and the planning you'll feel more in charge, more in control. emoticon

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CHUBRUB3 9/4/2012 2:41PM

    Susan you are doing great!
I often want to box ears or kick in the groin area, which I do refrain from, but yes it is part of married life.
You are doing terrific tackling a huge problem that has taken years to accumulate. It will take time. Hang in there!

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HOPEFULANGE 9/4/2012 2:20PM

    I'm glad to hear you're taking steps to take control! Love your positive attitude!! Great going with the doggie adoption. You rock. emoticon

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SUSANS706 9/4/2012 1:24PM

    Oh my Hubby is a "keeper" too! He does not know half of the stuff that dissappears every now and then to charity!! If I did not do that who we would never get into our basement! Sounds like you have a great plan going! One piece at a time, it will all come together!!!

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BOVEY63 9/4/2012 1:10PM

    So glad things are turning around for you and that you are getting all in order.
Love the expressions you and your hubby use on each other!
I couldn't help but picture you putting him through the shredder!

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KANSASROSE67 9/4/2012 1:01PM

    LOL...you have the best sense of humor...guess I should say humour!

My DH and I need a similar code phrase I think.


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SPARKLES 9/4/2012 12:54PM

    I too appreciate your sense of humor - reminds me of myself. I'm not sure if one or more of us here are hoarders - might just be too many adults trying to put their whole houses into one house. Sigh. I just know the clutter and lack of cooperation is driving me insane. I won't get off on my tangent - this is your blog - sorry. ha.

Glad things are getting better for you.

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ILOVEMALI 9/4/2012 11:00AM

  Time for me to start tossing stuff again!! Lol!

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_LINDA 9/4/2012 10:12AM

    LOVE your sense of humour, and so glad your hubby is in with it too! That is great you have those lines of communication open, but oh my, a hoarder is such bad news :((, I feel for you dealing with it.
Your Ginger sounds much like our Bendix. he would disappear and after hours (and sometimes even overnight) of calling him, he would suddenly appear behind us on a trail looking totally innocent. I am sure he caused Mom and Angus more than a few grey hairs when he ran off mindlessly chasing critters through the bushes in the off leash areas. The one ran along the river bank and it was unlimited how far he could go unfortunately, but he usually didn't stray that far as what ever he chased would get away and he would lose interest and come back to us.
That is a great relief to get your finances in order and all that income tax done (yikes) Spark actually has a place you can set up a budget and track your expenses and spendings (Spark Savings), I have actually started using it and its an eye opener, as much as the food tracker was for me, where your money gets sucked into. You put your expenses and spendings into categories and give yourself a certain amount on each thing how much you want to spend and its really interesting to see how it all adds up. I went over on clothing as I bought too much workout wear :P
That is so wonderful Shelley is going to a good home, that is good to see, and awesome of you to help with adoptions!!
All the best with your coming efforts!
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EJOY-EVELYN 9/4/2012 9:28AM

    Lots of exciting new beginnings. My family has two hoarders and my strategy to do it gradually, hasn't worked well. Inviting company to dinner or an overnighter seems to be some of the best motivation, but after such major events, I go into the, "I can't seem to find anything" mode. Yike! I guess there are volumes of books on the subject just for that reason.

Great fostering! Each animal you take in will likely have their own unique entry and exit in your life and how they tug on those precious heartstrings. Great accomplishment! Keep trying something new! One of these days, you'll unlock the secret to success!

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CODEMAULER 9/4/2012 9:01AM

    This sounds like a terrific weekend! Congrats for Shelley's new forever home and way to go on all of that paperwork!!


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Paper shredders and dog poo! Welcome to Susan's Anger Management Class

Wednesday, August 22, 2012


Sorry if I had some of you worried when I posted in my feed that I was angry and it wasn't a pretty sight. Well, both parts were true but it isn't even worth blogging about. Just extended family stuff that is still lingering since Nan died and how they announced to me through Facebook when her ashes will be buried. All because I spoke my mind which in my family is a big no-no as everybody keeps things bottled up and grudges go on forever. This is my father's family I am talking about and thankfully he wasn't like that! Perhaps it is years of therapy that have taught me to speak my mind, albeit tactfully, when needed.

So, if you are scanning this quickly to see what my title refers to here it is. I am gutting my house of paperwork. Our finances are in a complete wreck, we haven't filed a tax return in three years (how did I become this person?) so we have a lot of digging to do. Problem is, dear Johnno, who is a hoarder in training. He claims he is one bag of marbles away from being on that Amercian television series so at least he still has his humour. Every grocery receipt for the past five years, every pay stub since the mid-80's, every bank statement, every gas receipt, hmm...you get the picture.

If he fights me one more time over the need to keep things HE is going through the paper shredder! We even had the receipt and care information for the dusty rose carpet that Mom had installed in the living room 20+ years ago and which was torn up seven years ago for the hardwood floor!

He knows he has a problem with paperwork and is actually being a lot more accomodating than I thought he would. Mind you, it took me a few tears to explain that I couldn't continue to live like this but he has been good about it all once he fully realized the toll is is having on both of us. I still have a basement full of stuff to go through in the attempts to find the stuff needed for our taxes but it will get done!

Oh, and the dog poo? Well, suffice it to say we have to deal with quite a bit of that with three dogs but yesterday John had a hearty chuckle at me when I came home after walking Louisa and told him that the poo bags had malfunctioned (my fingers went through!!!) . I realize only pet owners would find this the least bit amusing but to get him back for his laughter at my expense, I have put plastic dog poo in our bedroom closet where little Ginger did her business the first few days as she was adjusting. He hates that plastic dog poo and doesn't quite find it as funny as I do but just you wait...........

Signed the sicko!

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KARENCRANER 8/23/2012 11:20AM

    Oh, Sparksister, you are SO BRAVE to take the (financial) bull by the horns! I'm SO PROUD of you! :)

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_LINDA 8/23/2012 12:30AM

    So sorry to hear about your family issues :( That is not healthy being like that, so glad you have moved beyond it! I love that you speak your mind! I rather have honesty then sneaky things said behind my back. My sister-in-law loves that I am frank, honest and open and tell it like it is. She is tired of everyone pussyfooting around her.
Wow! How on earth did you get away without filing income tax for three years?? Lucky we are not in the US as that IRS would likely be arresting you all and taking all your belongings if the horror stories you hear about people dealing with them are true.. I sure don't envy you wading through all that paper -your shredder is going to wear out!!! I was a bit of a paper hoarder too -had a huge three drawer office size filing cabinet full (three feet high by six feet long!!!) -finally learned to let go thanks to a move to a smaller apartment -no way it was going to fit in there, so I downsized it to a small two drawer one.
Love the fake dog poo -way to get back!!
You rock!!
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JAMER123 8/22/2012 11:39PM

    I actually chuckled my way through your blog even though it is issues of concern!! I would be upset as well. Your DH sounds like someone that is trying to work through his issues as well. You are quite the writer. Ever thought about submitting some of your works? :):) emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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SUSANS706 8/22/2012 8:48PM

    I don't feel so alone! We have lots of paper, between home, and business! Old files from our office. All in boxes, somewhat organized, but I would love to shred some!! Good luck with the tax part! The plastic poo is funny!!!!!

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CODEMAULER 8/22/2012 7:30PM

    There has to be a solution to your paper challenge. I hope that you and your family can find it!


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BOVEY63 8/22/2012 7:22PM

    I don't envy you all the old paperwork and getting it together. Wish I could offer some good advice, but not one to give it in regards to too much paper laying around.

Love the poo story!

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POPSY190 8/22/2012 5:31PM

    Hello Declutter Queen! On one of my teams we had to set a challenge for ourselves and mine was to clear out/organise a pile of papers to do with a hobby. I'm half-way there. Then there's all the stuff piled in the garage so that the repairs could be done . . .. My sister-in-law wants a photo of my husband to make a portrait for an 80th birthday cake - where, oh where has the album gone, oh, where, oh where can it be emoticon. And my husband's way of dealing with his clutter is to pile it in a box which he then deposits on top of the other stuff in the garage - so far this year he has added three boxes to the heap! GGrrr.
So I empathise, sympathise, and any other -ise that is appropriate. Good shredding!

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HOPESINGH 8/22/2012 2:06PM

    Plastic dog poo! You are mean! emoticon emoticon
And actually I think you're coping really well with what sounds like an overwhelming mountain of paper. It will get done! Just don't shred your hubby before the warranty is over! emoticon

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CHUBRUB3 8/22/2012 12:59PM

    You are a wonderful, strong and determined woman. You will succeed.
Every blessing.

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KANSASROSE67 8/22/2012 12:08PM

    "If he fights me one more time over the need to keep things HE is going through the paper shredder!" I am LOL at your blog! I know it's serious but the way you tell it is just too funny.

I have a fake poo story. When we were young, we went on a family vacation and visited my dad's aunt and uncle in Wisconsin. This uncle was a big practical joker, and he somehow placed some fake poo under my little sister, who was probably 4 years old and had fallen asleep on the floor. When they went to pick up my sister to put her to bed, my poor parents saw the poo, and naturally assumed she was the culprit. I will never forget the huge laugh that resulted; though even at 8 I felt sorry for my sister.

Hang in there dear; you are more than a match for a mountain of paper!

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ILOVEMALI 8/22/2012 11:44AM

  I also have a problem with paperwork (I'm a lawyer, and I keep everything. It's my training). I have gotten a bit better since I visited a friend of mine who has asked me to assist her son when she passes. Her house is wall-to-wall paper.

This experience sent me directly to the shredder. I broke my shredder with all of the stuff I shredded...

I've been pitching and purging and shredding and Goodwilling (or, rather, preparing for the Goodwill).

If you saw my office, you'd scream! LOL

Good luck with your husband!

As soon as I wrote this, I got up and shredded some stuff from my office!

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ANGRITTER 8/22/2012 10:56AM

    I love the plastic poo! It can be put anywhere. And someone bought me Great Dane poo for a gag gift at Christmas one year. They knew I had been giving my Dane, Dozer, garlic to fight the fleas, and his poop would turn the grass brown because of the garlic! So, I have GIANT plastic poo!

Send Jon to FL and I wil put him on the show. Or maybe I should call the show so they can do a Canadian version and come help you out! That sounds like the better deal.

My mother and I throw my dad's thing away when he is gone to get parts or something. She comes to me and says, where can you hide this until your father leaves and then you can throw it away. So, my closet floor is again covered because she pulled this trick yesterday after the floor was finally cleaned up. So tomorrow is garbage day and I have a bunch of old crap to throw away.

I ownder will it ever end?

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