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Happy Halloween my dear SparkFriends!

Monday, October 31, 2011

Trick or Treat!

Well, when I woke up this morning and looked out my bedroom window I was sure the weather gods played the ultimate trick on us this morning...we are having a bit of a snow storm! The college wasn't closed but all of the schools are so there are very few of us in the building this morning. I view it as a time to play catch up with things that have been piling up on my desk but what I am actually doing? Checking Spark!!! Ha-ha!

I had a rough weekend with the emotions. It is such a long and very silly story but apparently I was invited out to supper on Saturday night by my cousin because it was her birthday. Then she told her brother and his wife said she wouldn't be coming if I was there.. Talk about a shot below the belt! The story gets more twisted, about a month ago, during a family gathering John supposedly made a comment (that nobody else remembers) wishing that when their daughter called our house she would let the phone ring long enough before hanging up and calling first my cell and then his.. (The daughter is 19!) I don't get angry very often but i was poisioned with the whole lot of them yesterday. There I was dressed up and ready to go out with my family to celebrate only to be told I wasn't welcome and I wasn't given a reason.

So, what did I do? Did I overeat? NO! I left the house (dressed in reflective gear) and walked my anger off. I walked 5 km before heading back home. Then yesterday I was still feeling betrayed (everybody in my family thinks I am so easy going) but they don't know how fragile I am when it comes to disagreements. I tried to contact the my cousin's wife but that got nowhere. I went for another long walk last night and asked God to take away the anger I feel. So I went home and ate not one but two fruit and nut bars. Even then I wasn't over my calories for the day because I don't eat at all when I'm stressed. AAAARRRGGGHHHH

Well, today is another day and I am determined to make the best of it. My husband was supposed to start a temporary job today but that got postponed due to the weather but at least it is something for him to do and will be an extra few dollars coming in. I am back to meal planning and recording what I am eating because it works for me in many ways. It helps me stress less about meals, I know I am eating better and overall it saves both money and time being wasted .

I read an interesting article in Chatelaine's online e-mail about the importance of eating apples everyday so I'm going to "TRY" to attach the link. I LOVE apples so it was good news for me.
email.chatelaine.com/a/hBOrnUmAuPGQa
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I'm so sorry to gripe! I am just trying to be honest with all of you and to explain my absence over the weekend. Better days ahead I hope!

  
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SVELTEWARRIOR 11/3/2011 11:36PM

    I am so proud of you for taking a walk instead of eating!!! I am sorry that you are being treated so shabbily.

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BOVEY63 11/1/2011 1:39PM

    I am so sorry you are being treated in that way - I would want you at my celebrations!
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Great job on working out your frustrations and making wise food choices - you've come a long way baby!
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JLITT62 11/1/2011 5:07AM

    I think it was a MAJOR NSV that you went for a walk rather than eat. So there's actually something to celebrate there - without food, of course.

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DRGOMTI 10/31/2011 7:33PM

    WOW! SUSAN! you have gone forward so far!! sounds like you're having an upward spiral as far as exercise n cals! and thus, it helps you to make the right decisions even when you're stressed or hurt! once again you're an inspiration for me!!

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APIRLRAIN888 10/31/2011 2:23PM

    Great attitude in drama

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KANSASROSE67 10/31/2011 1:12PM

    Family drama is so silly, isn't it? I know how hard it is to deal with and not take it to heart. Sounds like you are doing the right things...exercising, praying, and venting to Sparkfriends. Hang in there!

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CHUBRUB3 10/31/2011 12:06PM

    Hugs Susan.
That was awful of your family to do that, especially your cousin to back out of her invite. She should of told her SIL to suck it up, it was her birthday party. And over such a D*mb reason. Some people...
You did great sticking to your regime. you are awesome and wish we lived closer, we could of gone out on the town and had fun.
Hugs,
Angela
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TEMPEST272002 10/31/2011 11:28AM

    Go ahead & gripe. Well done using the power walk to get rid of some of that anger. I had something similar happen a couple of weeks ago. Heard back some family opinions about me that were completely unjustified. Shocked, hurt, pissed. I'm still pissed on some levels, but in other ways, I think that this is just the way of the world. Every family, every group has it's sh*t-disturbers & it was just my turn to be the topic of the week. Sorry that this past weekend was your turn. Their loss - I bet you're hilarious at parties. You can come to one of mine anyday!

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CALGARYNEWF 10/31/2011 11:25AM

    So sorry that you had that type of weekend Susan! Families can be so difficult sometimes. It seems like every family has that one or two people that thrive on drama! It drives me crazy!!!

On a positive note, look at your reaction! Walking away your troubles....Good on you!

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LALASLAND 10/31/2011 10:43AM

    Family crap sure can get irritating! Whoops, I mean drama, don't I? My husband's family is the drama family of the century, and it sure can get old in a hurry! Now, my daughter has found that HER husband's family is all about drama, too, and I feel so bad for her! I guess I am grateful, that event though MY family can be a bit strange at times, we all usually get along and don't talk behind each others back in cruel ways!

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KHAMELEON1 10/31/2011 10:16AM

    I definitely remember wearing a Halloween costume or two over my snowsuit when I was little. ooh the memories

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CODEMAULER 10/31/2011 9:48AM

    Family stuff is not my bag (which is why I enjoy the 700 miles between us). I don't have time or energy for all the negativity mine seems to thrive on.

Glad you got some walking in to battle the hurt feelings!

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Q8PRINCESS 10/31/2011 8:22AM

    emoticon How rude! I understand how you feel.

We have a family member who has told other family members that they are not invited to family events they have. Once after inviting DH and I and we confirmed told us just days before that we wouldn't want to come. It was a real slap on the face.

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Happy Halloween my dear SparkFriends!

Monday, October 31, 2011

Trick or Treat!

Well, when I woke up this morning and looked out my bedroom window I was sure the weather gods played the ultimate trick on us this morning...we are having a bit of a snow storm! The college wasn't closed but all of the schools are so there are very few of us in the building this morning. I view it as a time to play catch up with things that have been piling up on my desk but what I am actually doing? Checking Spark!!! Ha-ha!

I had a rough weekend with the emotions. It is such a long and very silly story but apparently I was invited out to supper on Saturday night by my cousin because it was her birthday. Then she told her brother and his wife said she wouldn't be coming if I was there.. Talk about a shot below the belt! The story gets more twisted, about a month ago, during a family gathering John supposedly made a comment (that nobody else remembers) wishing that when their daughter called our house she would let the phone ring long enough before hanging up and calling first my cell and then his.. (The daughter is 19!) I don't get angry very often but i was poisioned with the whole lot of them yesterday. There I was dressed up and ready to go out with my family to celebrate only to be told I wasn't welcome and I wasn't given a reason.

So, what did I do? Did I overeat? NO! I left the house (dressed in reflective gear) and walked my anger off. I walked 5 km before heading back home. Then yesterday I was still feeling betrayed (everybody in my family thinks I am so easy going) but they don't know how fragile I am when it comes to disagreements. I tried to contact the my cousin's wife but that got nowhere. I went for another long walk last night and asked God to take away the anger I feel. So I went home and ate not one but two fruit and nut bars. Even then I wasn't over my calories for the day because I don't eat at all when I'm stressed. AAAARRRGGGHHHH

Well, today is another day and I am determined to make the best of it. My husband was supposed to start a temporary job today but that got postponed due to the weather but at least it is something for him to do and will be an extra few dollars coming in. I am back to meal planning and recording what I am eating because it works for me in many ways. It helps me stress less about meals, I know I am eating better and overall it saves both money and time being wasted .

I read an interesting article in Chatelaine's online e-mail about the importance of eating apples everyday so I'm going to "TRY" to attach the link. I LOVE apples so it was good news for me.
email.chatelaine.com/a/hBOrnUmAuPGQa
B8c9-8C5Hy6y5l/dfix10


I'm so sorry to gripe! I am just trying to be honest with all of you and to explain my absence over the weekend. Better days ahead I hope!

  


Some interesting pictures to share and a lesson in Newfoundland vocabulary

Wednesday, October 26, 2011

Hi,

I've been laughing a lot today from the responses I received on yesterday's blog in which I apparently introduced a lot of you to the term "stunned arse". Most of you had never heard it before and liked it so much that you are planning on incorporating into your own daily lingo.

Well, as most of you know I am from Newfoundland, Canada. A lot of "mainlanders" - people from Canada but not from Newfoundland like to call us Newfies. I, personally, hate that expression because it has been used too many times over the years as a term of belittlement.

But one thing about a born and bred Newfoundlander is a guaranteed sense of humour and even more important, an inborn ability to laugh at oneself. I LOVE laughing at myself and entertain myself on a daily basis!

So here goes today's lesson in Newfoundland expressions: "stunned arse". This would generally be used to make fun of oneself as in "old stunned arse here forgot to turn on the oven and wondered why supper didn't cook". Or, if you saw somebody do something stupid you could say "look at that stunned arse trying to get into a car that isn't his".

My favourite use of the expression "stunned arse" is one my family uses quite often in moments of self-depreciation. We would say of ourselves "stunned as me arse and twice as ugly" which sums up all kinds situations quite nicely.

Okay, enough "vocabulary" lessons for today but before I go I have to share a few pictures: The first was taken of me while out walking tonight.......we were on a closed road which explains why I am not wearing my reflective gear. What the picture doesn't show is the fact that I'm wearing longjohns, windpants, fleecy, windproof jacket, wool hat, mittens and rubber boots!


And the following is just an interesting side by side comparison taken three years apart. I only weigh about ten pounds more in the older one but look how my body shape has changed!

  
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SVELTEWARRIOR 11/3/2011 9:34PM

    Wow what difference!!!! Really only 10 pound difference? You look amazing!!!

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KAMAPERRY 10/29/2011 4:19PM

    It's all that working out!! You look great!

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    Thanks for sharing! Have a great day! emoticon

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WELLNESSME09 10/28/2011 10:48AM

    You look awesome, and your pics is proof of that.
I love your blogs, especially when you speak of Newfoundland vocabulary.
It brings back memories of when I worked at A & W way back when. This lady from Newfoundland worked with me on every shift...I have to admit that there was not one day that went by not laughing, she would speak in ways that you just could not hold back. I looked forward each day for her
sense of humor...she was a blast!!!
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CERIUSLY 10/28/2011 9:51AM

    emoticon You must have lost an amazing amount of inches! You look awesome!

Enjoyed reading about stunned arse, and although I've never said that specifically, I have used different words, to mean basically the same thing. emoticon

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YIWEN39 10/27/2011 7:41PM

    Wow, these pics show SUCH a difference!!! That's awesome!
And congrats on walking in the snow like that, all wrapped up... like a Teddy Bear :-) Personnally I hate the cold, and get fairly miserable in winter time...
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KANSASROSE67 10/27/2011 3:32PM

    The pictures really show a wonderful change...good job!

I like to collect the sayings of my Arkansas MIL...one of my favorites is "I'm as jumpy as a maggot in hot ashes!"

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CODEMAULER 10/27/2011 1:36PM

    That lakeside photo of you is VERY telling. You have been working HARD!!

I hope that we all enjoy a few more autumn-like days before the snow moves in for the season.

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BOVEY63 10/27/2011 1:00PM

    Wow! That is quite a difference - I would have guessed lot more than 10 pounds!
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SUNSHINE_GAL 10/27/2011 12:18PM

    Enjoyed the blog and was truly amazed at the 10 pound pictures. This really does support what exercise can do for a person. This should be a great motivator for all.

Thanks for sharing.

Tanya

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CALGARYNEWF 10/27/2011 11:34AM

    Wow Susan! I would've guessed way more than 10 lbs between those two pictures. Your body shape really has changed! That's awesome. This was the perfect way to motivate the rest of us to not rely so much on the scale.

Loved the Vocabulary lesson, although, being from Newfoundland originally, I knew all about "stunned arse", just hadn't heard it in a while. Thanks for the giggle!

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THISISPRIVATE 10/27/2011 11:30AM

    Love the blog and the pictures. I sure can see what exercise can do for people. I start my exercise regime today! Thank you for the inspiration!

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IMIN2GENES 10/27/2011 10:34AM

    Woo hoo! Congrats to you. What a fabulous change... the scale never tells the whole story.
Chris
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EJOY-EVELYN 10/27/2011 10:31AM

    Snow is beautiful and I love winter (just have a little difficulty psychologically with six month of it, so I think my winter will be three months this year). I'm thinking about Sam's club and investing in some snowshoes this year as many of my favorite park trails close to cars during the winter months. I saw some about a month ago, and they were nearly half the price I expected them to be at . . . however, not being that much of a snow angel, I want to wait a bit, cause I'm thinking I'll enjoy the DVD's a little more. Besides, snowshoeing really should be done in pairs. Love the snow pix and found the vocab lesson enlightening.

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CROOKEDLETTER 10/27/2011 9:26AM

    It is lovely how a "small" amount like 10 pounds lost plus exercise can make a difference in how sleek we look.

I personally love, love, lover regional/national slang and expression differences.
I especially love gorgeous language like "stunned arse."

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JLITT62 10/27/2011 8:56AM

    Huge difference in those photos! That's what exercise can do for you.

Good lord, there's snow on the ground! Altho there's actually a prediction for snow here tonight. Probably only in the higher elevations. Don't they know it's still Oct?

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NINJA-NED 10/27/2011 6:58AM

    that is an amazing change! and as someone who loves, loves, loves words, i really enjoyed the vocab lesson.

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_LINDA 10/27/2011 2:36AM

    Look at toned you!! Great before and after photo! Never would have guessed it was only 10 lbs..
Those heavy winter clothes will help you sweat it off even more -its harder to walk through snow then a paved road..
To me a Newfie is a dog not a human, but I have been in the dog world more than the human one..
There is not much they can do with Saskatchewan, so they just equate us with rednecks, at least in all the jokes I have seen going around.. Any Newfie jokes I have seen are about them outsmarting people or getting the last laugh, so not really negative..
I have never been to the east coast, but my Mom has and one of the trips she wants us to go on is there :) But we will only be traveling by bus tour as neither of us drives.
She is happy I am getting my hip done so soon, she is already telling me to pick out a tour lol.


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Q8PRINCESS 10/26/2011 11:30PM

    How weird is this. There you are wearing 3 layers starting with your longjohns while i ma reading about it wearing a sleeveless shift dress trying not to sweat.
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NEWMAC2011 10/26/2011 10:56PM

    Your photo shows how unimportant the number on the scale is. If you hadn't said that there was only a 10 lb difference, I bet everyone would guess 30 lbs or so! Or does that make me a stunned arse?

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MOSTMOM1 10/26/2011 10:36PM

    Wow, Susan! Those last two pics are fantastic! Look what you've accomplished. Good for you!

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LALASLAND 10/26/2011 10:18PM

    What a great blog! I had never heard of that expression, either, until your last blog! I really loved the one about twice as ugly! emoticon Was that SNOW in that outside photo? In October? Wow! We'll probably get our first freeze here tonight, and that is early for here.

I LOVE your before and after photo! Yes, your body composition is fantastic now, and the comparison is very obvious! Yay Susan! I am really proud of you! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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THETURTLEBEAR 10/26/2011 9:37PM

    That photo comparison is DRAMATIC!!! Yeah fitness!

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APIRLRAIN888 10/26/2011 8:30PM

    Lol and vocab! Snow already? And wow big diff

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TEMPEST272002 10/26/2011 7:45PM

    Geez, look at the difference in the old vs new picture. You look so much fitter and healthier. Well done you. Now go put that scale in a dark closet.

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CHUBRUB3 10/26/2011 7:26PM

    Fantatic Susan! I love the comparison photo. See what walking and working out does for you.
Hugs!
Angela
I like me stunned arse in me comparison photo too. (Don't know if I used that right, but what the heck!)


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Okay, I feel like such a dumb-bum*

Tuesday, October 25, 2011



Hi,

No honestly, I don't really feel that dumb but the responses from my last blog made me realize something about both me and my SparkFriends. We all basically feel the same way about Spark. Simply put we LOVE Spark but we HATE the amount of time we sometimes feel we "waste" on it.

The responses by the way were wonderful......thank you to everyone of you who took the time to write about their involvement with Spark. I read them all and believe it or not I even took a few notes so I could put some of your suggestions to work for me.

Spark is supposed to be a tool to use as we strive to lead a more active and healthy lifestyle. It is not meant to become a lifestyle in itself. For the first few months I was more concerned with my actual involvement than I was in implementing any of the ideas and I wondered why Spark wasn't working for me. I soon learned that weight does not come off by merely blogging and accumulating SparkPoints although come to think of it keeping my fingers busy at the keyboard did keep them out of my mouth!

So many of you actually took the time to remind me about the usefulness of the Friend Feed that I feel re-energized. It was like I always knew it was there but I never used it to the extent that I could have. So, I changed a few settings, saved them, clicked on Friend Feed and now I am in touch. It actually feels liberating because now I know how people knew that so and so lost 3 pounds and better still, I know how to either like or comment! emoticon

Here is my plan of re-vamped plan of attack for dealing with Spark.

1) I will log in each day in the morning
2) I will spin first thing
3) I will check my Friend Feed and make the appropriate comments/like
4) I will log in again AFTER I exercise to log my fitness minutes and then to scan through my FRIEND FEED again to see what is new and what new blogs have been written
5) Finally I will check my SparkPage once or twice a day and be very thankful that I have the wonderful SparkFriends that I have!!!!

Susan

P.S. Dumb bum is my own creation since I didn't want to use dumb ass in a blog title!!! So, I'm a dumb bum or as Newfoundlanders would like to say "I'm such a stunned-arse" emoticon

  
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SHELL- 10/28/2011 8:09PM

    I read your blog and I have only one hint. I usually know what I'm going eat for the day and how much so when I put in my breakfast I will also fill in lunch and Dinner. It saves me so much time and then I have a good idea how well I will meet my caloric and nutritional needs. Then at the end of day I add or subtract what needs to be fixed.
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APIRLRAIN888 10/26/2011 8:27PM

    Lol yes!!!!!

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JOANNANOW 10/26/2011 10:19AM

    Funny girl! Sounds like a good plan. Hope your week is going well. It looks like you have more snow than we do. I'm glad the first snow melted off here but the car is winterized and ready for the next one. I don't think I'm ready but nobody asks me what I want when it comes to weather!
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LESLIES537 10/26/2011 10:12AM

    I have done the same thing with my friend feed and it truly helps! Love your plan! Now...off I go to your last blog to try and get ideas for myself! Thank you :)

xoxo

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NINJA-NED 10/26/2011 9:25AM

    ooo0 - stunned-arse. love it.

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LALASLAND 10/26/2011 9:18AM

    Oh, how I love you, my wonderful sparkfriend! I have been so stressed lately because I am so far behind in keeping in touch with everyone, and you helped me to put it all into a much better perspective!

Another thing I do that I have found that helps...

You know about the blog subscriptions, right? Well, I don't delete the blog notice email when I'm behind. That way, when I start to get caught up, I just go to the first blog notice and work my way up. Sometimes, I am a blog or two behind, but if you do it this way, you don't lose the subscription and possibly lose touch with your SparkFriends. Does this make sense?

Have a great week, and keep smiling!

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_LINDA 10/26/2011 12:38AM

    So glad you have it all sorted out! I was to Sparks like some people are to Facebook -it was consuming all of my internet and free time. You do have to set limits.. P.S. Its not stupid not to know things. I had some aha moments with Sparks even after a year of using it when my buddies enlightened me to certain features!!
Spark on!

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Q8PRINCESS 10/26/2011 12:06AM

    Hey you Newfies have the sense of humour. Your' not the only one who has to watch how long they spark.
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SVELTEWARRIOR 10/25/2011 9:53PM

    I love the phrase stunned arse!!!!! It sounds like you have a good plan in place.

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YIWEN39 10/25/2011 9:15PM

    Good plan! Way to go :-) emoticon

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NEWMAC2011 10/25/2011 8:37PM

    Good plan! Since your last blog, I edited my friend feed down even farther! We can only do our best and fitness takes precedence over sparking I think!

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GOOZLEBEAR 10/25/2011 7:47PM

    Love your blog and I certainly agree with checking your Friend's Feed and I also check through a lot of the blogs. I don't always comment on them as sometimes I'm not sure what to say!!! You are a funny gal and I'm so glad we are Spark friends!!!!

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CHUBRUB3 10/25/2011 6:54PM

    You are not! Your much prettier!
Hugs,
Angela


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ANNCHER 10/25/2011 5:30PM

    Good Blog! Have a great day! emoticon

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KAYDE53 10/25/2011 4:01PM

    emoticon emoticon but you're not a dumb bum or a "stunned-arse"?!? emoticon

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TEMPEST272002 10/25/2011 2:43PM

    Good plan. I hadn't heard stunned-arse, but now I'm going to have to use it. Add it to my favourite Francophone expression of annoyance - tabberwit.

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JETTANALA 10/25/2011 1:39PM

    yooo hoooo!

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BOVEY63 10/25/2011 1:23PM

    Me a "stunned-arse" too? You bet that I've been there; and I love the expression.
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Have a wonderful day!

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IRISHBEANERGAL 10/25/2011 12:55PM

    STUNNED ARSE??? I AM SOOO STEALING THAT...

Glad you are finding balance...

~irish

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RUNNER12COM 10/25/2011 12:52PM

    Sounds like you have a plan to balance your online community with your real world Sparking. Well done!

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IMIN2GENES 10/25/2011 12:31PM

    OMG!! I love the "stunned-arse" expression. Can I use it?

Nice plan! I think you've got this under control.
Chris

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THETURTLEBEAR 10/25/2011 12:26PM

    Oh - I like that expression! Stunned-arse! I can be that, for sure!!

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I have a question and I NEED an answer...please read and respond

Sunday, October 23, 2011

Hi,

Another short and sweet blog but I have a question to ask you all that has been weighing on my mind for some time now so I'm just going to ask it........................................
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How in the heck do you all find time to read feeds, blogs and respond? How much time do you spend on Spark each day? And how do you keep from getting distracted?

Okay, that was three questions but I'm really getting overwhelmed! It seems like you all have time to respond to my blogs but I feel like I'm failing miserably. I don't even thank people for the goodies they so graciously send me. And the friend feed has me bafffled. I'm not even sure how to find that and how to use it properly.

Any help would be appreciated! Since I've kicked up my exercise routine it seems it takes me a lot of time to record that, keep up with two main Spark teams, and that doesn't even include using the food tracker. Is there a time limit you put on yourself for spending on Spark? I thought one hour a day would be appropriate but it doesnt' seem to be enough! HELP

  
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BRIGHTPENNY 10/26/2011 10:13PM

    i agree with everyone who says do what works for you, it is your journey! I am pretty sporadic in getting back to people. I try, but my priorities are to track food and exercise. I don't have time for TV, and I try to limit my time to no more than one hour. My work doesn't allow me to log on there, so it's all on my own time. When my husband thinks he's not getting enough attention, or I don't have time for my "in the flesh" friends, I know it's time to cut back!! Don't stress! We all understand!
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PS: Great question by the way!

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LADYHAWKES 10/26/2011 11:21AM

    The main thing is to use your food tracker and fitness tracker...priority! I get one first thing in a.m. to track food and workout and check my friend blog, then I get off until late at night or late afternoon and check in with teams. On Saturdays I send out thank yous and goodies. I try to always see if someone is either had a great success or is really struggling when ever I'm on and respond best I can. Make it fun and inspiring for yourself not a task, as you inspire others your journey will grow!

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KATHIERAE 10/26/2011 10:36AM

    I am a total computer addict!!! emoticonI spend way more time on my computer than any human ought to. Period. But I also only work part time and rely on SP and Facebook for human interaction. My excuse... LOL

Do what works FOR YOU and the heck with all the rest. DO NOT feel guilty for "not doing enough" online!!! emoticon

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DEBBYFROMMT 10/26/2011 10:01AM

    Don't worry about keeping up with all the blogs and responding, especially if you have a life! I get on in the morning (mostly before the sun comes up) and try to record throughout the day, but the app on my phone is used more. Just glad your doing what you can!
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LNSYLVSDOGS 10/26/2011 7:14AM

    The time I find for responding (in all the ways you mentioned) is really hit or miss. The friend feed is something you see on the right on your screen (on the start page). You'll see about 3 items already posted there, and below that is a thing that mentions seeing more (can't remember the right wording right now....) Some days I only have time for looking at the friend feed. Other days, I just have time to scroll through a couple blog postings to comment on. I admit that I miss more opportunities than I catch. I pop by SP 2-3 times a day when I'm posting my food that I've eaten, and I'll take a few minutes to browse around....



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SUNSCREENISGOOD 10/25/2011 1:55PM

    I think the most important thing with spark is to make it work for you. There is no need to respond to every blog, goodie, and team discussion. (If you are a team leader or something, that is different.) I have a few spark friends that I seem to always keep in touch with, and one spark buddy I walk with. I wish I could be there for everyone. However.... some spark buddies get occasional goodies, messages, ect. This is similar to my friendship structure in "real life". I do always respond to spark mail- I think that is super important. Otherwise, when I get to other things, I need motivation, or have time, I am active on SP.

In the end, this site is for you! Use it the best way for it to work for you. There are plenty of site members who use the trackers and that is it. You don't have to be a member of teams or have spark friends. It's totally up to you!

I know that I am personally never insulted if I don't get a thank you or a response on here. (If something is really important, I send spark mail.)

Best wishes.

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CELEST 10/25/2011 12:04PM

    I also hardly ever watch TV. I have my pc open most of the afternoon and read something now and again that catches my eye, other than my actual teams I'm on. I definitelly dont manage to answer everyone, thank everyone. anyone expecting that possibly doesn't have a life....or a busy one at that.
Dont stress......stress makes you fat. LOL
It takes time to learn this whole thingy and when you do, like any learned skill, you require less time to do it. That's something to look forward to isn't it?!

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JACKI1033 10/25/2011 11:59AM

    I have the mobile app!
That's how I track most of my food and exercise.
As for blogs, I've kind of swapped Spark people for Facebook.
I still check my facebook but I'm not as active on there as I used to be.

I think probably once a week I check out new blogs of people on my spark teams and comment, but I don't do it all the time.

I also don't watch tv anymore so I think the 30-60 minutes a day I used to watch has been absorbed by the internet.

It is a lot, but I agree with everyone else. This is YOUR journey and you should do what you think is important. Don't worry about what everyone else is doing!

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TRULYVISIBLE 10/25/2011 11:41AM

  I think one has to have priorities on Spark as you can't do everything on here. The priorities should be what you think would help you on your journey the most as this is ultimately for you. Reading blogs and getting insight from others or just relating and knowing other people have the same struggles help me the most. I check my friend feed each morning while I am having my morning coffee. I respond to most of the blogs from mutual friends. I then look at Spark Daily and see if there is an article that catches my eye. Later in the day I will go to one or two of my teams and see if any blog titles catch my eye and read those.

Make it work for you. I have even seen people have on their status, Taking A Spark Break and then return a few weeks later. Good Luck

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EMPRESS8800 10/25/2011 11:19AM

    I feel your pain, not to mention I am part of a "research group" for the Fitbit so I have to track everything there too. Plus Facebook, god forbid I don't get on Facebook. But I keep Spark and Fitbit open on my PC while I'm working (i'm lucky enough to work from home), and I update as things happen. (I eat, exercise, or read blogs).
It is work but I have learned it has helped me quiet a bit with motivation. Do what you can!

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ANNCHER 10/25/2011 9:29AM

    I feel like there is so much to read that I don't have time for all. I wish I did. I really enjoy reading what other spark friends are writing & doing. Have a great day! emoticon

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MOSTMOM1 10/25/2011 9:12AM

    I do most of my SP stuff on my iPad or iPhone, so it's pretty portable. That helps, so I'm not chained to a desk. Still, I can't keep up with the friend feed nor reply to all the goodies and comments. I want to, I really do, but I have kids, laundry, dishes, work, etc. I figure everybody else is in the same boat, so surely they understand. I just do what I can, when I can, keeping my focus mainly on one or two teams.
I comment and reply mentally, does that count??
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CALGARYNEWF 10/25/2011 1:47AM

    I find I either spark first thing in the morning when I get to work or last thing at night when i should be sleeping (like right now). I totally understand Susan, it is very time consuming. There are lots of things that I would love to have more time to explore on here but most days, i don't have the opportunity. There are a few things that I try to get through every day (your blog is one of these!!!)but i know what you mean. There are times when i see a goodie that someone's given me that's now days old and I haven't thanked them. I'm not sure what the "correct" answer is but I think you do what you need to do for yourself and be on the lookout for sparkfriends that might need a little more encouragement. I suspect there are many of us in the same position, struggling for time to fit everything in their daily lives. emoticon

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PURPLESPARK89 10/25/2011 12:43AM

    Ive wondered this myself- it is difficult finding a balance! I want to be there for my spark friends because I know how much encouragement and reassurance can help people on this journey. But we can only do our best and nothing more, life is busy for many of us. Some days I spend WAY too much time on SP trying to do any and everything but its just not possible or realistic every day. I try to spend enough time on here daily/weekly that balance allows. :)

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LADYVOLSFAN1954 10/24/2011 7:28PM

    There's only so much you can do in a day. I don't read everyone's blogs - I try to find one or two and read them. There are some I subscribe to and I read those. I try to limit my time to check in on my food and fitness during the day and later on in the evening read what's going on, and maybe do a blog post or two. The most important thing to remember is to do what you need to do first (food/fitness) and then depending on your real life activities fill in what you can. Good luck.

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ENNAID2 10/24/2011 7:00PM

  Hi, I am having a bit of a hard time limiting my time on SP. It is so much fun and you get to met extraordinary people. I made a deal with myself that goes like this. I do one task from my to-do list, play Majoong on the computer, Go to SP do I thing re read one message and then the cycle starts again. This way I feel that I have done some chores, spent time on me and did the activities suggested by S.P. In fact, since starting SP I watch practically no TV. I am sure after a while I will probably connect a little less often but for now it is my passion.


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SPARKLE1908 10/24/2011 12:29PM

    To be honest, I spark at work....I shouldn't for sure but that allows me time to do what I need to...visit teams, post comments, etc....it's all about balance and the more you become familiar with the site, the more you will figure out how long it takes you to get around and still reap the benefits....

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DRB13_1 10/24/2011 12:19PM

    Never forget real life takes priority!
It is a good idea to limit your time - how you spend your time is precious.
The friend feed or subscribing to blogs is a quick way to get in a couple of good ones a day without feeling you have to read more. And you can cheer on your friends in the friend feed quickly with a "like this".
In the end, do what works for you. SP is a tool, and don't feel obligated to do more online than fits into your life.
All the best...

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IMIN2GENES 10/24/2011 7:57AM

    You aren't alone in asking those questions. I think we've all struggled with that. I know I try hard to find balance. The trick is to keep yourself, your journey and your plan right up front. If setting a time limit works for you, then set a time limit. Make a plan and stick to it. We're all here to share this journey and support each other. It just isn't possible to read and respond to every blog that you want to. Just do your best and do what's right for you. I've found that after taking on a leader position, I have less time to be as active as I had been on one of my other teams. That made me sad; but those friends realize that and still support me. That's what friends do right? We're there for each other when we need to be.

Good luck finding your balance.
Chris

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NINJA-NED 10/24/2011 7:40AM

    I spark at work when I shouldn't emoticon. I spend very little time on Spark on the weekends. We are all here to improve our health, so that should really be the focus. It's never fun to do things out of obligation, so just do what you need to do for you.

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FLOWERDALEJEWEL 10/24/2011 6:19AM

   

Susan I have to be honest and say I do not get to read all the blogs I used to. When I first became a leader of a team I thought that I could do the whole thing, post new threads, reply to everything, visit all my friends pages and comment on the blogs. It was just impossible especially when I don't even start on the computer until after 4.00pm.

I always try however to read and comment on my friends feed and again try to visit their pages as often as I can. But I don't get my nose out of joint when my friends don't always visit me so hopefully my friends will feel the same way.

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ZIPCONTROL 10/24/2011 3:20AM

  I can't focus on too many teams so am right now paying attention to only this one. I spend less than an hour a day. I do this for me because I need this challenge. I keep up as best i can but don't obsess too much. Theres lots of great advise up there. I just like to simplify..simplify..simplify. Thats actually my mantra in all things.



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HEALTHYBARB1 10/23/2011 9:34PM

    I think that a lot of sparkers feel that way. I am trying to just check in with one feed on each team per day, post my exercise and food, do stuff on the start page and sparkpoints page and then when I am on each team checking the message I try to read the blog posts on the right side and go visit 2 per day that look interesting. I try to check my friend feed each day but sometimes that is every 2 days and check (it is under community at the top right of page) I usually try to like my friends comments and if I note a friend in need or with a blog that looks interesting I go visit it from there as well. I think I spend 1 to 1 1/2 hours on spark per day...about an hour in the morning and then 2 more times I just check in and post my food. I have set a timer on my time some days to limit it because sometimes the computer can just suck me in and I have a lot of other things to do!!! The 5% challenge and Teddy Bear teams have taken a lot more time this fall and I am having to do some adjusting to all the new stuff. Your blog made me think about how I am spending my time and I am going to watch more carefully how much time I spend doing stuff this week. I think the most important part of sparkpeople is getting healthy lifestyle to be our priority and that is all about balance. All this to say you are not alone...I am continually trying to simplify!!! Hugs Barb emoticon

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HDHAWK 10/23/2011 8:45PM

    A lot of people feel the way you do. I've cut my teams way down to only the ones I use regularly. I "talk" to a few friends on a fairly regular basis, but there are a lot that I touch base with only once a month or less. Do what you can and don't worry about the rest. I certainly don't respond to every comment on my page or thank people for every goodie. It's more important to prep healthy food and exercise!

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THECRAZYMANGO 10/23/2011 8:36PM

    I, by far, do not read everyone's blogs. For my close friends that I do not want to miss, I do subscribe to their blog. Everyone is busy these days and your true friends understand this! emoticon

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LILLI56 10/23/2011 8:26PM

    I feel the same as you, I don't see everyones page unless I see something that interests me. Sorry about not reading everyones blogs. I really only do in 1 team, I haven't figured out how to get out of a team you are no longer interested in. I mostly blog 2-3 TIMES A WEEK

I do not work or have children that live at home. I do have a husband and son, but they are both adults. lol

I quit doing anything on Facebook. I have family and friends on facebook, but I find friends here know where I am coming from.

Sp is for us to use anyway we feel like it, I think.

I am also sorry for not sending goodies and such. I get lost when sometimes and forget.



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EJOY-EVELYN 10/23/2011 8:25PM

    Thank you, Susan, for bringing up this topic, as it is something I've been thinking about more and more as I better learn to maintain my weight loss. You have made some very astute observations. For me, my excuse so far has been, “I'm retired, so I have more time to spend online.” Throughout the weight loss and learning process, I felt it was imperative that I place both Weight Watchers and SparkPeople as a near top priority while I brought my BMI and health back to the level it needed to be at. I believe I owed this to my Lord and Creator who entrusted me with the care of this human body.

I've been all-too-aware of -- for several months now -- that I am addicted to the 1) challenges (I would only be doing 30 minutes a day max on my own), 2) SparkPoints (just waiting for the day or week I fall away to possibly break or give pause to this addiction) and 3) multiple SparkStreaks (again, just waiting for the fall-off-the-wagon for some of my 365+ day streaks.

My priorities in life are not quite in sync with where my core values would have me spending the majority of my time (faith, family, friends.) I have been thinking about ways to incorporate some Spark restraints in my life. I have one friend who has a computer fast one day a week who also recently took a ten-day SparkFast, announcing this to her friends in advance. I think these kinds of fasts (when we haven’t already made a commitment to a team like our 5% challenge) might very well be necessary. Actually, a fast is doable within the 5% challenge as long as we don't make the day of our landing one of those days. I do take my responsibility to the team very seriously. I've also thought about restricting my Sparking to say 60 minutes (not including my food log entries).

I truly have made some very precious friends here within the SparkTeam community that I would enjoy keeping in touch with. And there are some I continue to want to meet in person. I think the virtual trip HealthyBarb1 is making is quite exciting! I've already experienced my first friend who has “fallen away” and I have to tell you, I have allowed it to cause me great hurt. There is an actual sense of mourning that I went through . . . then the person returned briefly only to disappear again, return with yet another new name, then finally fall off the wagon one more time for who-knows-how-long. This tells me I am likely too invested in this.

I can't imagine what all our 5% challenge leaders experience. As much as I would like to help them more directly, I must leave my participation to the commitment I'm already invested in. I compete with myself quite well and play the game above and beyond the call of duty. I can be an A+ overachiever when it comes to incorporating water, fiber, or freggies (fruits and veggies) in my weekly numbers (just ask TheTurtleBear – hee, hee). This is the first maintenance 5% that Maartjebol has not been involved with. I actually miss her, but see she’s still online occasionally and I’ve been in dialog through some of her statuses. Might this have been a way for her to get her priorities in order? I don't know.

I look forward to reading the responses you get. Just know that you’re not alone in this! As long as weight loss is a priority in your life, follow your priorities. Suze Orman would say, “People First, Then Money, Then Things. This might be a good time to write your mission statement, if you haven't already. This will help make sure you’re on track.


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ANEWBETHSTL 10/23/2011 8:24PM

    I log on for about a half hour a day. You could definitely spend alot of time on here. I try to keep up with friends and read recently posted blogs/vlogs from others. I track on SP but only once a day...I have to remember what I eat LOL..but it's definitely what works for everyone and thier life situations.

It's definitely OK if you don't have time to do it...we are here when you do get here LOL

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SEAJESS 10/23/2011 8:15PM

    Yes, there is never enough time in the day for everything! And I have noticed that I have been spending more and more time on SparkPeople. Maybe too much. So thanks for bringing this issue up for discussion.

Long-term unemployment has challenges of its own.

It's helping me to focus on my one top priority for the day. Right now it's exercise, strength training in particular. I don't want to be one of those old ladies with brittle bones. I can't do much about the old lady part but the bones, maybe.

So my experience is that making a short list and working down from Number One and letting the rest go is the most efficient way to live. (The short list is important to avoid the feelings of overwhelm, guilt, failure, whatever... all those emotions that are not helpful to me or anyone who falls within my energy field.)

It's a form of decluttering, really, I guess.

Good luck and thanks again for bringing this up.

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CHUBRUB3 10/23/2011 7:58PM

    Hi Susan,
There is Never enough time in the day, period. Even for sparking. I have to pull myself away, because I have things to do in 'real' life too. Every little thing you do does count towards making you stronger and encouraging other. Jsut do what you cna.
Hugs,
Angela

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NEWMAC2011 10/23/2011 7:56PM

    I've been away so I'm really behind and I feel bad as I'm the ML!! Anyway, you can find the friend feed under the community tab. I've also cut down on the info to blogs and weight loss because I don't want to see every time someone give someone a goodie or things like that. I don't get that many goodies so I can thank the person but on my b-day it took a while to respond to everyone but if you can't just put a thank you in your status if you want to.

I think we each need to do what works for us. If spending more time on SP reading blogs means that you spend less time on yourself & exercise, DON'T DO IT! I tend to go online 1st thing when I get up in the morning & at night before bed. This could get to be a full time thing LOL! Don't get down on yourself, just spend whatever you think reasonable. This is a personal journey for each of us, not something to make us feel bad!

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SNOWANGELDIVA 10/23/2011 7:47PM

    I found your blog through a friend feed and your title caught my attention.
My answer to all 3:
I'm on the computer erratically 12 hours most days.( I work from home.)
I can't keep up with everybody on my friend list. (If it's important Spals email)
My 'Teams' are more like Scout badges on my Page so people know what things we have in common. (So, I don't have those obligations.)
I live on here. I love this community. It works for me though because of my stuck-at-home lifestyle. (This is my "Sane Zone")
You have a lot on your plate. You know what you can dedicate to your SparkLife. Make it work for you. Your true friends will support you.

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YIWEN39 10/23/2011 7:30PM

    Forgot to say, when you track food, entering your food under "my favourites" really saves time!
Still struggling with the fitness tracker (cardio is easy, tracking ST isn't...), will let you know if I find a way!
Good luck :-)

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DOUGZ69 10/23/2011 7:08PM

    You have made a great observation in the form of 3 questions :). I have spent entirely too much time on it. This goofy point thing gets me obsessed. However, I figure it's better than watching the tube sometimes. I have started to make myself quit after 25-50 points just so I have a way of tracking myself and the time. It's a great tool and it can be very helpful but just as with out fitness and life in general, it's about balance.

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YIWEN39 10/23/2011 6:45PM

    Hi Susan,
you are right, it can really get too much! I spend far too much time on SP, anywhere between 1h30mns to 3 hours a day!!! I actually time myself, otherwise I'd just be sparking non-stop, because it's addictive too!
I track food and exercise, that's priority. I check in only with my favourite teams and have a few friends that I also check on regularly. I subscribe to blogs I like so I get notified. I don't always get back to people who read my blogs, because it's usually a two way process anyway, chances are I read theirs too. And if I take the time to read a blog, then I usually also take the time to leave a comment, however short.
Decide what your priorities are, turn off some notifications, and spend time on what matters the most = yourself and your healthy lifestyle :-)
Have a great day Teddy :-)
Eve

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KAYDE53 10/23/2011 6:44PM

    I cut a lot of the excess out on my friend feed so I just see when someone loses weight or posts a blog; stuff like that! I kinda of rotate too, try to comment on some friends blogs some days & others on the next days. But I also keep my friends list to a smaller degree. Oh, I never refuse to add someone, but I like to keep it manageable so I can really interact with them, not just add friends for numbers' sake and I go through periodically & remove the ones who have left SP or not been active etc. emoticon

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THETURTLEBEAR 10/23/2011 6:24PM

    When I am feeling overwhelmed by Spark, I just turn off everything in my feed except my friend's blogs and weight loss. Sometimes I'll do it for a week. It takes a lot of pressure off and since it wasn't there to read, I don't feel bad like I would if it was there and I didn't read it.

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JANET552 10/23/2011 3:37PM

    You can only do what you can do. Somedays I do more and somedays I do less. It is most important that what you do feels good. Please don't feel guilty. There are no shoulds. Just do what you enjoy doing and is good for you.

(((Hugs)))

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SVELTEWARRIOR 10/23/2011 3:20PM

    First of all it is not necessary or possible to respond to everything. I fall behind alot. Sometimes it takes me a week to respond to a blog. I usually read blogs and friend feed for a little bit when I log into sparkpeople. I also read a little bit more when I log in my food and exercise. I read a little more before I go to bed. I spend way to much time on Sparkpeople...lol

You can only do what you can do dear. Do not feel guilty if you don't get to everyone.....we know you have a life outside of Spark.

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TEMPEST272002 10/23/2011 3:02PM

    First off, I spend way too much time on spark. Good thing I don't have a job or children at home! Like others, I focus on the parts of SP that work best for me. I track nutrition & food once per day (in the morning to plan the day, changes made in evening if necessary). I limited myself to only reading friends blogs from 1 loaded page of the friend feed. I try to blog several times a week. I only participate regularly on one team & really mostly just do the challenges & read team member's blogs. On days I have more time I'll read articles, check out 1st time blogs and give goodies to my buddies. I don't respond to every person who comments on my blog & I don't send thank yous for every goodie. Hope that answers your question.

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1BEACHWALKER 10/23/2011 2:49PM

    You got a lot of good answers here! I have been here 14 months and to me what motivates ME the most is the blogs-especially if someone is exercising, has photo blogs of walks and just overall motivating blogs. I subscribe (you can subscribe by hitting the email or other button on the side of their blogs and you will be notified) to those and if they are regular coming to my page or blogs-out of courtesy I visit theirs too. That is really how you get to know your friends here and it inspires me when I get feedback from them. The friend feed is the second thing I like-On your start page at the top left is account/email preferences-go into that-then to community-then friend feed-there is the friend feed privacy settings (if you don't already know this)-I check that I want to see and others to see from me--I check just for weight loss, sparkpoints, fitness minutes, posting a blog, putting up a photo and changing the status (the rest is too time consuming). I love the friend feed-and it is a good way to catch up or say hi or tell all what you are doing! Another way of getting to know your friends and letting them know you care. I don't have a secular job, so I can spend more time on here than some and I absolutely love it! It inspires, motivates me and the more I can be on it the better. Sometimes I think I am addicted, but my husband tells me, as long as it doesn't take away from offline dutes, etc.-have fun! So, it is a hobby for me and I do spend maybe 2-4 hours a day and sometimes more. I also scale my SPF's back from time to time, taking off the inactive or non responsive ones and only add those that interest me and are active, whether they need help or inspire me with how well they are doing. As far as tracking the food, I have the phone application for my smart phone and that helps when I am away or maybe watching TV- I can also get on the internet and do the friend feed (multi-tasking)! emoticon
But all in all,the one thing that is really time consuming is the email notifications-you don't have to get those. On your page-hit the edit button and the white section at the top that comes up has options too-like when to be notified, etc. You can always see the what others are saying on your friend feed from your page-so no need for email notifications on that. Or if they send you a sparkmail or comment on your page. You will see that when you go to your page.
The teams- I scaled mine down to my 3 top faves and all I do is do some games, challenges, and answer some thread questions and give some support off and on. I have 125 friends and I have to keep notes on all of it, so I know much I have done with each, so they won't be forgotten. It may be once a week or two that I get to their page, but I do! But, I do believe keeping the friends numbers around 100 or less is the best if you do want to get to know them and help them out. Otherwise they are just faces on your page and that is not what I am here for-it is not facebook or twitter. Hope this helps you! But, do what is best for you first and of course, what you think is the best for your friends secondly. Sometimes I see ones just put up a friendly message everyday on the FF or write a blog of suuport and thanks once in awhile if they don't have much time. Just have fun with it and enjoy! Don't be stressed out-if it gets that way for you, then it isn't fun anymore. Some lose focus on what it is all about-getting to know the people and them you-because that is when you feel good and get the help and inspiration to keep going!! It can't be one sided in my opinion. Have a nice day! emoticon

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GOOZLEBEAR 10/23/2011 2:33PM

    Susan, I too, feel overwhelmed at times. My friend's list is way too long and there is no way I can keep up with all of them. I have also deleted some that are no longer on Spark or rarely log on. I do try and go through the Friend's Feed and subscribe to some blogs but when I do the Team Huddle (which I don't do on all of my teams) I check out the blogs to see which ones I want to respond too. I know I spend too much time on the computer and have been trying to cut back. Overall I probably spend about 3 hrs. a day but still try to get my exercise too. I'm retired so it is a little easier for me. You just have to do what you can and don't feel guilty about what you can't do.

Love your blogs and love reading my friend's too but I just don't blog much. I never feel like I have much to say!!!!!

Blessings to you,
Sandi

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TERESA159 10/23/2011 1:25PM

    Keep your number of Spark friends to a minimum (I aim for less than 40) and don't try to be friends with everyone on every team you are on. That's just crazy and impossible to keep up on. (I clean up my friends list now and then to remove non active Sparkers and add new friends I've met and like.) (Also, just because you aren't official Spark friends with a team mate doesn't mean you can't read their blogs now and then, it just relieves the burden of feeling like you have to respond to EVERYONE.)

I log onto Spark, check email to see which Teddy is in spotlight and go comment or leave a goodie. Then I go back to Start, spin the wheel and then on that start page is where you can go to your friend feed (which is "See Full Friend Feed" under where recent friend statuses are shown in the far right column on the start page). I find the Friend feed is the best way to keep with my Spark Friends because it shows their statuses that I can "Like" or comment on right there and I can see if they posted a new blog and click right through to it from there. I can also see if any friend left any comments on my main page or on any of my blogs. I also like how it shows me how my friends are interacting with my other friends, we get to see all that mutual support going on which is what makes Spark so cool.

I also log onto Spark to track each meal and each work out but don't tend to linger or I end up wasting time on here! Because we all know Spark is addicting!

P.S. I like your blogs, keep blogging! I write blogs when I feel like I have something to share but I don't write them just for the sake of doing it.

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LESLIESENIOR 10/23/2011 1:19PM

    I had the same question when I started at the beginning of the summer. I'm a teacher so I had vacation time to explore the site, learn the ropes (pretty much), and figure out the most important aspects for ME!
As has been expressed, it is very personal. Everyone is different. I believe the point of Spark is to GET US OUT AND MOVING AND LIVING! It can't be done on the computer. I use Spark to motivate, connect, and relax in the evening and on weekends when I have a bit more time. I always log in and track exercise, goals, and sometimes food. And I've really enjoyed connecting with inspiring, positive, energetic, motivated, honest Sparkfriends.
Good luck on your health journey. Try not to add the words "guilt" and "failure" to your self dialog. You are obviously a very sensitive and caring person.
Be nice to yourself.
This is something we women must work on constantly.
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KANSASROSE67 10/23/2011 11:54AM

    I track my food, exercise and goals religiously. That's the most important thing for my healthy journey. I write some blogs and try to respond to friends' blogs but don't always comment, even though I read them, unless I feel I have something worthwhile to contribute. I have done a few challenges, but I find them too time consuming. I always have a bit of guilt that I can't do more for my Spark Friends, but I feel that being active has to take priority over computer time. I work full-time and have a family, so those commitments have to come first. Good luck finding the right balance for YOU!

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SUNSHINE_GAL 10/23/2011 11:47AM

    Hi Susan,
Trying to keep up with everything is very overwhelming and needless to say, can't be done unless you stay glued to the computer all day long. The important focus point should be on utilizing the tools and information to help you on your journey, such as Food Tracker, Exercise Tracker and any interesting article that will help you. Then, if time permits based on your personal schedule, you can respond to your friend feed or blogs. If you're feeling overwhelmed with it all, try downsizing your teams and participate in only a few and select your challenges based on your needs. However, limit the number of challenges you join. If you belong to too many and lose site of what you're trying to accomplish, none of the challenges will have a rewarding outcome. (I had to downsize my involvement not to long ago because I was spending way to much time on the computer resulting in too much sitting...not good...we need to get active) Here's something you can try: Plan a schedule for Spark time and control your time while on. 1. Track you food, 2. Track your exercise, 3. Read an article or two, 4. Spend time with your friends. Rotate your visits among your friends, don't try to get in touch with everyone or read everyone's blog. Select those of interest, and you need not feel obligated to respond, a mere emoticon can show your support or your visit. I hope this helps.

Tanya emoticon

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JOANNANOW 10/23/2011 11:40AM

    I respond to your blog because you write so well but I don't interact with the teams anymore. I have enough to do with the nutrition tracker which is time consuming. I don't really know how much time I spend sparking though. I enter exercise in the other goals place so I don't really track it like you do. I get up early and sit at the computer for an hour or so drinking coffee and sometimes in the evening for a little while. I don't write as many blogs as you do. The start page has friends feed on it and I just glance through it to see what's happening that doesn't take very long. I like reading blogs it fascinates me to see how creative writing is alive and well at sparkpeople.com emoticon

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KAMAPERRY 10/23/2011 11:31AM

    I subscribe to my friends blogs and then I do the best I can. I had to cut back on my sparking, but I still stay in touch and not feel guilty about what I can't do!

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_LINDA 10/23/2011 11:31AM

    I had the same problem and still do. I created a new name and went private trying to cut back. I was going to limit the number of friends to help keep it down, but unfortunately, people can still add you with a private page :( The number of people who actually comment on my feed (even just to say they 'like' it is still very small compared to the current size of my friend's list. I quite often find myself up late trying to catch up with everyone's activities and feel guilty if I miss something important going on in their life as it seems always happens when I have a busy day and can't Spark. Its very time consuming and as I type slow, not even my fast connection is doing much to help, but it is better. You do have to put a limit on it or it does get out of control. The easist was is to go through the friend feed list and click on like or comment on their activity feeds, so they at least know you are thinking of them. Its reading the blogs and commenting on them (as I try to do with them all) that consumes so much time. I guess I am too sensitive, thinking they will be insulted if I don't read and comment on all their blogs. You have to set your own limits and if you can do that without feeling guilty more power to you..Its a tough problem :((

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JLITT62 10/23/2011 11:22AM

    It's all about what works for you. I'm afraid I'm not much of a team player, so I don't spend a lot if time on teams. Sometimes I check my friend feed & sometimes I don't - just depends on what I have going on.

I rarely thank people for spark goodies, either.

What I really enjoy is blogs, so that's where I spend most of my time. I don't always comment, tho.

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