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The result of my doctor's appointment yesterday

Saturday, October 08, 2011

Hi,

I have to first stop and thank each and every one of you who took the time to not only read my blog from yesterday but for offering such words of wisdom and support. If you haven't read yesterday's blog this one isn't going to make a whole lot of sense - consider yourself warned!

I ended up putting pen to paper and writing down exactly how I felt about the situation and I read this out to both my husband and my doctor during the appointment. Yes, I cried like a baby but it felt good to get it off my chest. For all of those who wondered, yes, John does have situational depression and so I mentioned that in my letter as well. Like most men he likes to be self-reliant and really resists any help at all and I think sometimes thinks that he should be able to get over this by himself.

Interestingly enough, my doctor thinks John might have adult-attention deficit disorder along with mild depression. She reassured him that it doesn't mean anything negative and we all agreed that a diagnosis is the next step. Apparently she has it too and has terrible difficulties concentrating and getting this accomplished without a plan.

True, John has never been one to come up with a plan and often gives up out of pure frustration of not getting anything done. How many times have I heard him say at night that he was anxious because another day passed without accomplishing anything.

So step one is for me to research the ADD, then we will read it together, call the psychologist he used to see (who apparently mentioned this to him several years ago but he didn't want to hear it), see if we can get some testing done and move from there. She also recommended that he should bump up the anti-depressant he is on which we will talk about when we both see our family doctor next week.

Also, we have to make a plan to get his resume in order. I think he focused too much on the overall picture but she said it is important to break it down into small steps. This is what I found interesting because it is how I have learned to cope with my anxiety and depression. I always try to be as prepared in advance as possible. Whether it is for getting my clothes ready the night before, making meal plans, etc. It really helps me and I think by now is just second nature.

There is no question of us separating - we love each other and have been there for each other through thick and thin. We enjoy each others company and we spend a fair amount of time each day just laughing. Besides we often joke that it would be too hard to start over and re-train somebody else.... emoticon

Oh, and another positive thing I lost 3 pounds this week! I was reading an article the other day and they actually said it takes about six weeks of strength training to start seeing a difference in the scale so it is important to just keep pushing yourself. When I first started I gained 4 pounds but now I'm down below where I started and I'm actually really enjoying the gym!

Happy Thanksgiving to all of fellow Canadians!

  
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HICKOK-HALEY 10/9/2011 2:44AM

    I have ADHD..It is hard to concentrate for a long time, so I know how John feels. I hope he gets everything squared away. Hugs for you, and congrats on the 3 pds. We are all here for you!! emoticon

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SCOOTERGIRLOZ 10/9/2011 1:45AM

    Glad to hear you got to voice your frustration in a safe manner. I think it is equally important for your husband to feel safe as well. Hope you two work it out quickly so that you can enjoy the laughter together much more frequently.

Scootergirl in Oz

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LESLIES537 10/9/2011 12:37AM

    Had to do a little catching up before I commented. Sounds like you got some great feedback at your appt and have a good plan of action set. I think you are one smart, strong, and brave woman. Good for you on writing your feelings down and pouring them out. That had to of been so hard! I'm extremely proud of you, Susan! Big hugs! And a big high five on your 3 lb loss!! Awesome!! Happy Thanksgiving!

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KAYDE53 10/8/2011 9:09PM

    So glad that you got some answers, I read your blog & thought it might be depression, but didn't know. More & more adults are being diagnosed with ADD; I have an adult son with it. You'll get through this together & be stronger for it!! emoticon

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HEALTHYBARB1 10/8/2011 7:54PM

    So glad you told me to read yesterdays blog before reading this one!! Love it when we are struggling in our relationships and then communication happens and a plan is revealed. Wish you the best as you and your DH learn and grow together in this new season of your life!! Wish you the best Canadian Thanksgiving and a wonderful fall!
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CHUBRUB3 10/8/2011 7:47PM

    Great job Susan! Losing is winning!
You and hubby will get it all sorted out. I often wonder if I or my DH has that.
Hugs,
Angela

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YIWEN39 10/8/2011 7:13PM

    Glad to hear the good news :-) Now you know which steps to take, things should get better soon :-)
Congrats on keeping up a positive attitude through all this :-) And congrats on the weight loss and strength training too :-)
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    emoticon emoticon on your three pounds loss. emoticon
That is so wonderful that both of you are there for each other!!!
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LASARRE 10/8/2011 6:22PM

    Glad to hear you have a plan and are working on it. Congrats on the weight loss.

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KAMAPERRY 10/8/2011 6:00PM

    So happy for you!! Congrats on the 3 pounds!

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GOANNA2 10/8/2011 5:57PM

    Great to find out what is going on with your husband.
Congratulations on the weight loss. One day at a time
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IMIN2GENES 10/8/2011 5:39PM

    What a relief to hear! It sounds like you're moving in the right direction with DH. Hopefully this will help.

Congrats on the 3 pounds! That's awesome!
Chris
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TEMPEST272002 10/8/2011 5:05PM

    I'm glad your doctor was helpful in sorting through all of this stuff. Interesting about the adult ADD. One of my long-time friends was diagnosised only 2 years ago. I've seen a real difference in how she is able to manage her life now that she's learned new coping skills & is taking medication. Hopefully it will be the same for John. Glad to hear the two of you are still rock solid. It's scary to experience these kinds of emotions, but working through them together only makes you stronger as a couple... or at least has for hubby & I.

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BOVEY63 10/8/2011 2:12PM

    I guess I should have read this blog before responding to the last one. So glad you found the problem and are working on a resolution. All the best to both of you.
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Congrats on the weight loss.
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JOANNANOW 10/8/2011 12:22PM

    Happy Thanksgiving Susan. I hope your weekend weather is better than ours. The prediction for wet snow today is sort of depressing. However I am happy because my grandson came last night home from college and reporting a good first month there. I will cook ... even pie ... but will be careful about how much.
You and John sound like survivors to me. You are so fortunate to have the professional support you have there.
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_LINDA 10/8/2011 12:15PM

    So sorry you are both suffering from disorders that are interfering with your well being and happiness :(( I am so glad you got it all out into the open and are now committed to getting the help you both really need. Looking forward to hearing progress reports!
Way to stick with your program and rock it!! You are awesome!!

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Q8PRINCESS 10/8/2011 12:10PM

    Good to hear and it great that you are there for each other. Also
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Interesting to hear about the 6 weeks delay with weight training and seeing results.

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CRAZYDOGLADYBO 10/8/2011 10:56AM

    Sounds like a great plan!

Big huge YEAH on losing 3 pounds! emoticon

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GLORYANDME 10/8/2011 10:53AM

    All good and positive! I am glad you were able to express your feelings and you and your husbabnd, with the help of your doctors, will be on the right track! . . . and the icing on the cake is the 3 pounds. Well done!

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GRAMLORI 10/8/2011 9:56AM

    That's wonderful!! It is so good that you "got it off your chest" like that....I tend to hold things inside for way too long a time. You are doing so well, Susan, and I'm sure your hubby is very proud of you. Mine commented one day that he can feel a difference in my body so I know something is happening, and it is probably the same with you. You and your John will get over this little hump, and things will get better. It's so worth it to just hang in there. (If you are on FaceBook, look me up!) My Jon and I will be cheering for you both!
God bless,
Lori

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NEWMAC2011 10/8/2011 9:48AM

    Sounds like everything is moving in the right direction! I'm sure you & your DH will get stronger as a couple from working on your issues together. Way to go on losing 3 lbs! WooHoo Teddy Bear. Hope you have a great week.

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JLITT62 10/8/2011 9:00AM

    Congrats on the weight loss! Great job sticking with it.

Always good to have a dx & plan.

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APIRLRAIN888 10/8/2011 8:50AM

    wow sounds like good news and good plan. glad you communicated now he can get the help he needs

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CODEMAULER 10/8/2011 8:32AM

    It sounds like things are working out and moving in a positive direction. Stick to the plan and keep on track.

Congratulations on your weight loss and have a wonderful holiday!

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AAARRRGGGHHH - don't read if you don't want to!

Friday, October 07, 2011

Hi,

I've got a slight problem that has been bothering me for some time and it concerns my dear husband. Now, don't get me wrong, he is my best friend and I love him to bits but he is driving me crazy.

Three years ago, the paper mill closed where John was employed for 22 years. It was a blow to the whole community but we were lucky that we always lived within our means. The workers received a nice severance package and I agreed with him when he opted to take six months off to have a little break. Key word being little!

Six months lasted to over a year and then last September he applied for and received funding to return to school to take a trade. Although he already had an english degree and an accounting diploma he had worked with neither in the papermill but was always intrigued by something called Instrumentation . I encouraged him and he loved the program and in fact came out top of his class academically.

He graduated in June and all funding stopped so he is not receiving any money. I finished my seasonal part time job in April and received unemployment insurance until when I I went back to work in September. Due to my depression my doctor has stipulated that I work part-time only.

Okay the problem with all of this is that darling hubby has not as much revised his resume let alone applied for any work. We've been living on our savings which I'm thankful we had but I am starting to get resentful, which isn't like me at all.

Today I meet with my psychiatrist and John usually goes with me for at least part of the meeting. I am going to bring up how his lack of ambition right now is eating at me and heaven forbid if I get so depressed that I can't work because then we would have no money coming in.

The thing is my husband is not lazy. He is smart and I'm sure would do well with his trade of choice. I dislike change of any kind but he HATES change and often has to nudged or even pushed to make a change. I've talked about it with him, I've cried about it but all I get are empty promises that he will get around to it.

Any advice short of leaving him which I'm not about to do! Also I don't want to injure him but I would like to "kick him in the rearend" so he could see how serious this is


Susan

P.S. On a more positive note John has been so encouraging on my Spark Journey and does do a lot of stuff around the house.

  
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LASARRE 10/8/2011 6:19PM

    Don't really have any advice just emoticon

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BOVEY63 10/8/2011 2:10PM

    Is it possible that John is having some depression too? I know that I did when I had to close my business and some now that I have been put to a part-time status at my current job. The feeling of not being needed has been difficult for me as is wondering if anyone will find me worthwhile enough to hire. Sometimes it's easier to not try than try and fail.

Hope all goes well for both you and John.
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CRAZYDOGLADYBO 10/8/2011 10:49AM

    No advise either, but you have my support.

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APIRLRAIN888 10/8/2011 8:48AM

    i like the sit down and help him through it too. i hate change too. but will follow hubby's changes like move and stuff and set up new home. but then i set root very fast.

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_LINDA 10/8/2011 2:38AM

    Lots of good advice here Susan, not having experience with a significant other, I can't offer much, but the most important I have heard for a couple is to always keep communicating and never keep anything bottled up -that is bad mentally. Would he agree to co counseling? They make good mediators and help ease what you want to say so it doesn't offend or hurt.. Perhaps it could draw out what he is feeling. Men are so bad keeping things to themselves, my sister-in-law never gets much from my brother on how he is feeling, what he is thinking etc. and my Mom has that with Angus as well,,
Wishing you all the best in resolving this,,
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DANLIN60 10/7/2011 9:13PM

    Of course we are here for you and always will be. communication is always the key, don't give up on him just be there and try to keep the lines of communication open Good luck and lots of hugs emoticon emoticon

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TERESA159 10/7/2011 7:53PM

    I too was thinking this man is depressed. I hope you both return to being productive people and soon as that will alleviate both your financial worries and the depression. (Been there, done that. I found that the opposite is true with depression, get out there and work full time, you will feel so much better about everything when you are productive, at least that worked for me.) Best of luck.

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GOANNA2 10/7/2011 6:47PM

    It must be so frustrating for you. Depression is not a nice
thing to go through and please try and not get yourself more anxious.
When men lose a job, something happens and I don't know what,
I went through it with my husband, so I know how you are feeling.
Just be there for one another.
He may also be depressed and not telling you. Lots of hugs to you both.
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SVELTEWARRIOR 10/7/2011 6:25PM

    You recieved some really good advice here. I think talking to your psychiatrist is a great idea. The advice about helping him update his resume is a great idea. It sounds like the two of you really love each other...so communicate with each other. emoticon

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TEMPEST272002 10/7/2011 5:21PM

    How frustrating for you. I love my hubby too - doesn't mean that they can't make us really & truly angry. Feeling resentful is totally understandable in this circumstance. Knowing how much you love & support one another, I'm sure you'll find the way through it together.

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JLITT62 10/7/2011 4:51PM

    No advice really, just my support & good vibes.

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CALGARYNEWF 10/7/2011 4:43PM

    I agree with a few of the others, set aside a time that is conveniwnt for you both to sit down and review/update his resume and look online (jobbank.gc.ca, monster.ca, etc) for potential jobs. Does it look like he will have to leave NL to get a job? That can certainly present a whole new set of challenges!!! emoticon emoticon

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JOANNANOW 10/7/2011 2:12PM

    Of coarse I would read this... that's what friends are for. Wow, CODEMAULER said it all! I think you two will sort it out. Where there is love there is hope. You are so lucky to have a psychiatrist where you live. There is a huge shortage of them here in BC and no access to any professional help where I live, out in the country. Depression runs in my family and many family members are and have been suffering from it (in the past) myself included.
Maybe your husband could visit and employment office where they help people update the old resume and get started on a job search. I love it that you found sweet things to say about John at the end. You are still the queen of positive thinking!
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Q8PRINCESS 10/7/2011 1:02PM

    I like the idea of kicking! Husbands can be very irritating at times! Talking to your psychiatrist is such a great idea. Change can be hard but also very liberating. emoticon

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CHUBRUB3 10/7/2011 12:08PM

    I agree, sit down and help him to do it. May be the nudge he needs.
Hugs,
Angela


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ZIPCONTROL 10/7/2011 12:01PM

  Sit with him and help him update his resume and look for a job. I wish you all the best. emoticon

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GLORYANDME 10/7/2011 11:52AM

    I will certainly keep your situation in my prayers. Not easy.
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IMIN2GENES 10/7/2011 10:29AM

    Maybe your hubby should sit down and talk to your phychiatrist. He may have something going on too. You've got quite a dilemma. Just keep being honest and keep the communication going. Best of luck!
Chris
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BECCAJ98 10/7/2011 10:11AM

    I can't really give any advice, so I will just give support! emoticon Hope you find an answer that will help you both! Good luck!

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ALYSSA40 10/7/2011 10:03AM

    I have been in your position before, but we didn't have a savings to live off of- it was my credit, which plummeted for the longest time because of it. That marriage later ended in a divorce but not because of the job loss or even the money. You just have to stay strong and keep encouraging him as he does you with your Spark Journey. It'll be alright and the two of you will be strong. Just be thankful that you have the savings to survive on- many have less. Prayers!

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GRAMLORI 10/7/2011 9:44AM

    Hopefully this doc appt will be the kick in the rear that he needs. It is a difficult line we walk as wives between "keeping them informed" and "naggng"!! I will keep you in my prayers....and I hope to see a blog titled HE DID IT!!
God bless ya, Susan....
Lori

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LIBBYG7 10/7/2011 9:33AM

    I've been there, done that. Not easy. At least I was earning a decent living while my ex=husband was sitting around for months and months after he was laid off from his teaching job. (many, many years ago...........)

Ask him straight out.....'what will happen to us when our savings run out?....and demand an answer!'.
He sounds like a smart man.....but even smart men can be so stupid.

Good luck, dear. I hope your psychiatrist 'prods' him a little and lets him know how much stress he's causing you.

all the best, Libby

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CODEMAULER 10/7/2011 9:21AM

    Sadly, this is something that only he can be motivated to do. His lack of initiative is something that sits between you (two), but only he can fix it. In my experience, telling him may not have the intended or even a positive outcome, so be sure this is what you want to do.

My best hope for you is:
Serenity - to accept the things YOU cannot change
Courage - to change the things YOU can
Wisdom - to know the difference

For what it's worth, my husband hasn't worked since 2006; professional student. I've learned to let him take things at his own pace and not worry. There's no use in getting sick over something like this.

Good luck!

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NEWMAC2011 10/7/2011 9:00AM

    Sounds like quite a problem. The key seems to be that your husband hates change so maybe your psychiatrist can have some helpful ways for him to move forward. Good luck!

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ANDREWMOM 10/7/2011 8:58AM

    I do not have any advise for you that would be helpful but I do wish you the best and hope all gets better for you and your hubby soon!! Just keep keeping those lines of communication open and the honesty... helps to at least voice those concerns and maybe he will finally get his rearend in gear.

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ACYCLINGMIND 10/7/2011 8:48AM

    Have you sat with him and made a financial plan? Often seeing things on paper can be a mode of motivation. How much do you have in your savings and how much are you bringing in? Compare this to how much you are spending each month and how much you hope to retire with. Good luck.

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How a little kitten found her forever home - pictures too!

Wednesday, October 05, 2011



This little bundle of fur and love was carelessly tossed into a dump at the age of 4 weeks to fend for herself. Several siblings were also with her but she was the only one picked up that day and brought to a local SPCA. The next day another idiot thought it would be fun to catch the dump on fire and the others were eventually rescued but had some burns. They are all doing well and are waiting for their forever homes.

But the story is better for "Guinevere" who was fostered by our humane society and has, as of today, found her forever home with a dear friend of mine. This friend recently had to put her 11 year old cat to sleep quite suddenly and she wasn't sure she was ready for another pet until she saw her! Then it was love at first sight!

For the past four weeks Guinevere stayed with her foster family to get used to other cats and to make sure she wasn't feline leukemia positive. When we picked her up she was all of 7 ounces and today she is over 2 pounds! I think she is simply adorable and I'm not really a cat person as I've never been allowed to have one due to John's allergies.

Anyway, both John and I were there today for my friend as she brought home her baby. It was a happy day all around and I even managed to eat sensibly and get to the Y!

  
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SHARONBAILEY913 10/8/2011 12:42AM

    Wonderful story! There are so many, many homeless cats and kittens...it's always heartwarming to hear that one has found a forever home.

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COMPASS_ROSE 10/7/2011 5:54PM

    Aw, that is a beautiful kitty. I do not understand how people can be so evil to animals or children--it is just beside me. I'm glad this beauty found a forever home!
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RETURNOFSARAH 10/7/2011 2:07PM

    She is adorable!

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Q8PRINCESS 10/7/2011 1:03PM

    soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo
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PHEBESS 10/7/2011 10:34AM

    OMG, that kitten should pose for a calendar, she is so adorable!!!!!!! Thank you for a happy ending!

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KIMDONN 10/7/2011 9:51AM

    She is soooo CUTE!!! I am so happy she found a home!!!

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MILLISMA 10/7/2011 9:33AM

    What a great ending to what could have been very sad. Hope all the others recover and find forever homes. She is a little beauty.

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NINJA-NED 10/7/2011 8:24AM

    omg the cuteness! we just rescued a baby kitty too, so i just love this story.

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BOVEY63 10/6/2011 10:13PM

    She is adorable! So happy she has a good home; and hope the others get one soon. I will never understand how anyone can be so cruel to our furry friends. So awesome that there are people like you to rescue them.
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CALGARYNEWF 10/6/2011 7:42PM

    Adorable!

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KAMAPERRY 10/6/2011 3:02PM

    Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww
wwwwwwwww!!!

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KKINNEA 10/6/2011 10:39AM

    Sweet kitty

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JLITT62 10/6/2011 5:00AM

    How could you not love that little bundle of fur?

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WALKZWDOGZ 10/6/2011 12:33AM

    Sounds like they needed each other! What an absolute sweetie! SO glad for the happy ending. Thanks for sharing! emoticon emoticon

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TWEETYKC00 10/6/2011 12:01AM

    Aw, what a wonderful and blessed bundle of love. It is so wonderful to know that this little fur baby could be rescued and end up in a loving home.

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HICKOK-HALEY 10/5/2011 10:35PM

    Awww, what a love. So glad she has a home, and you get to visit the little fur ball. Hope the other kittens will heal ok.

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MAGGIENCALI 10/5/2011 10:18PM

    Awww. She's adorable. I am kittymama to two and both are rescue kitties. I'm so glad there is a happy ending for this cutie. emoticon

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THETURTLEBEAR 10/5/2011 10:03PM

    She is so cute I thought it was a poster, and not a photo!

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SANDY-RENO 10/5/2011 9:25PM

    I am such a cat person and this one warms my heart! So precious and I am so thankful for people like your friend who will adopt these sweethearts. Our amazing cat came from a humane society and I can't imagine life without him.
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IMIN2GENES 10/5/2011 9:24PM

    What a cutie! Thanks for sharing such a happy story. Congrats on helping to find her her forever home and congrats on your successful day!

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CHUBRUB3 10/5/2011 9:22PM

    So Sweet and a touching story. Glad for the happy ending.
Hugs,
Angela


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JOANNANOW 10/5/2011 9:20PM

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GETTING_FIT44 10/5/2011 8:41PM

    So glad to hear!!! We recently rescued a 14 yr old cat!!! Good luck to everyone! :D

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DRAMABEAR 10/5/2011 7:40PM

    Congrats on such a wonderful day and kudos to your friend for choosing to rescue such a bundle of joy!

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EJOY-EVELYN 10/5/2011 7:23PM

    This dog lover is so attracted to this cutie! You have a terrific photographer on board as this kitten meets super model qualifications (in my book)! Love a story that end happily ever after.

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_LINDA 10/5/2011 6:58PM

    Wow! I am not fond of cats, but that one is a classic cutie they normally put on ads lol. So glad all of the kittens were rescued and that your friend is helping out with this little sweetie..I wish there were more heart warming stories like this..
Good for you keeping on the exercise and eating!! You go girl!!

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LESLIES537 10/5/2011 6:52PM

    What a sweetie!! She is adorable! emoticon

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YIWEN39 10/5/2011 6:34PM

    She is so cute :-) Thanks for blogging about her story :-)
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SCOOTERGIRLOZ 10/5/2011 6:15PM

    Such a heartwarming story. Lucky for Guinevere that you and your friend are terrific people. Thanks for sharing. Like how you added a note on your Spark goals, although I find personal stories far more endearing.

Scootergirl in Oz
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CODEMAULER 10/5/2011 6:02PM

    What a sweet face (and I love kitten blue eyes)!! Please thank your friend for opening her heart and home to such an adorable new friend!!

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GOANNA2 10/5/2011 5:56PM

    The kitten is so cute. Glad your friend has a new babey now.
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APIRLRAIN888 10/5/2011 5:41PM

    awe great story and what crazy ppl out there

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LALASLAND 10/5/2011 5:29PM

    Oh, she is PRECIOUS!!! She is the kitten version of our "Baby"!!! Thank you so much for sharing this, Susan!

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CRAZYDOGLADYBO 10/5/2011 5:25PM

    What a lovely blog! Great that the kitten has found a new home!

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ANNCHER 10/5/2011 5:23PM

    What a nice ending to a sad story for this little kitten. The kitten is so cute.
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One month left before....

Monday, October 03, 2011

Hi!

Do any of you remember my slightly whiny blog I wrote in early August about the body fat analysis I had done when I joined the YMCA? I can remember being so discouraged by a machine telling me that I was 50% fat and that I had about 70 pounds to lose. I really wanted you all to tell me to quit but being the SparkFriends that you all are, you only let my pity party last that one blog and then you were back to the regular words of encouragement. How dare you? ha!

Can you believe that it has been two months since I started using the gym. Each time I go I feel more confident but as you know the pounds haven't come off. A lot of you said it was the strength training and that in time the weight would come off and my measurements would change. So far I have lost two pounds and that was only this past week but at least it is a step in the right direction! As for the next body analysis and measurements, well, they won't be done until the first three months are up which will be in early November.

So until then, I've been sneaking glances at myself in our full length mirror and I don't see one bit of change. Actually that is a lie, I do "feel" leaner and somehow taller (?!) but when I'm standing in the mirror all I see are the lumps and bumps (and no I'm not talking about my boobs!) that have always been there. But, here is the good news.....yes, I have good news! Other people are noticing and commenting! Last week it was my mom when we were shopping and she said she could really see the changes in my body shape. Earlier today it was a co-worker, then it was my husband and finally it was my hairdresser. The later hadn't seen me (or my roots!!!) in six weeks and she asked me if I was dieting because I somehow looked smaller.....!!! Part of me said I weigh less because she cut a few inches off of my hair but I decided to take the compliment and not try to brush it aside with my warped sense of humour.

Anyway, I'm a bit stoked that just maybe all of this exercise and nutritious eating is really helping me - who knew it could be that simple?! emoticon





  
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LESLIES537 10/6/2011 7:57PM

    Freakin AWESOME!! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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WALKZWDOGZ 10/6/2011 12:48AM

    Yay! emoticon emoticon

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JOANNANOW 10/4/2011 9:49PM

    oh boy ...if people are noticing a difference in you that means you are really getting somewhere good!
Glad to hear it! Keep up the healthy eating and the weight will come off too. emoticon

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CRAZYDOGLADYBO 10/4/2011 3:34PM

    I have a friend that has started to eat better an to exercise more, she isn't on spark, anyway her weight loss was very noticeable in her face and neck in the beginning.

I love that you are still going to the gym, I agree with Tempest, you have stayed on track.

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KAMAPERRY 10/4/2011 3:18PM

    See??? You get used to seeing yourself, and don't notice the changes, but they are there! emoticon

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BECCAJ98 10/4/2011 3:01PM

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KAYDE53 10/4/2011 2:41PM

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ZIPCONTROL 10/4/2011 1:59PM

  it usually takes a minimum of six weeks of ST for the results to be visible. By the time six weeks are over you have probably burned some fat and upped your muscle. So even if the scale don't shout ....your body shouts out loud. keep it going ..... emoticon

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IMIN2GENES 10/4/2011 1:35PM

    Awesome! See, your Spark friends would never mislead you. How wonderful does it feel to get those kind of compliments? Your hard work is paying off.
Chris
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BOVEY63 10/4/2011 1:26PM

    You are doing so great in this journey - so many positive steps forward. Just remember that we are our worst critics and usually can't see ourselves as others do. My bet is that your family and friends are right and you are toning up!
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KANSASROSE67 10/4/2011 11:32AM

    No matter what, the exercise is good for you...body & soul. Keep up the great work!

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TEMPEST272002 10/4/2011 11:22AM

    Regardless of the scale, going to the gym regularly has a huge impact on your overall health. I like to remind myself of this periodically by doing a real age calculation (try http://www.sonnyradio.com/realage.h
tm) Try out the clocks by doing a before/after - a year ago to today - and see what difference those changes make. I've also noticed you've been more even keel since starting at the gym. Have you noticed that? Hope you're having a great day! So proud of you for following through and doing this for yourself.

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JS1971 10/4/2011 6:09AM

  Keep at it, your doing great.

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JLITT62 10/4/2011 5:36AM

    ST will really change your body shape. Just keep in mind that you can't exercise your way out if poor food choices!

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EJOY-EVELYN 10/3/2011 11:41PM

    Sure hope your personal scale victories are forthcoming so you can enjoy the non-scale victories that much more! Sounds like you're doing just fine!

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GOANNA2 10/3/2011 11:16PM

    emoticon emoticonJust keep doing
what you are doing and more people including
yourself, will notice the changes. emoticon

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SVELTEWARRIOR 10/3/2011 11:10PM

    That is great!!!! See you are beginning to understand what your sparkfriends always knew....You Can Do This!!!!

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SCOOTERGIRLOZ 10/3/2011 9:52PM

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That is so fantastic. You've worked really hard. Bonus is that winter snow helps you burn more calories when you get out walking. Hope you enjoy the snow as I hardly ever touch the stuff anymore.

Scootergirl in Oz
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CHUBRUB3 10/3/2011 9:34PM

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Knew you could do it!
Hugs,
Angela


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APIRLRAIN888 10/3/2011 9:33PM

    woohooo awesomeness

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LALASLAND 10/3/2011 9:12PM

    Oh, my friend! I am SO glad my mouth was empty when I got to the part about the boobs! I literally laughed out loud at the computer! emoticonI know you have to be improving in your fitness if that many people are noticing. That is a lot of people, don't you think? You keep your spirits up and keep the faith! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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THETURTLEBEAR 10/3/2011 7:57PM

    That's awesome!!

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NEWMAC2011 10/3/2011 7:30PM

    We see ourselves every day so it's difficult to really notice changes (unless your clothes are getting looser.) Keep doing what you're doing because it will pay off. I'm here for the long run; no matter how long it takes, because I'm way better off now than I was when I joined SP 9 months ago! You can do it!

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YIWEN39 10/3/2011 7:09PM

    Waouh, that's GREAT :-) Absolute emoticon that must feel sooooo good :-) Well done! emoticon

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Just touching base as it has been a few days!~

Sunday, October 02, 2011

Hi!

Happy Sunday to all of you (and happy Monday to those already into tomorrow!) I've been missing for a few days but I've kept up with my exercise which I'm proud of because it is becoming such a habit now that I actually miss it.

Yes, me! I miss exercise when I don't do it. At first I thought my missing it was somehow related to my "slight" emoticon tendency to obsessive compulsive behaviour as each time I exercised I had to beat my record from the previous day. But, now I'm not so sure. I've been reading that you need a rest day so when Thursday past came around and my body was dog tired I allowed myself to walk a mere 1.5 km and was really fine with that. Likewise when I got on the treadmill the next day and just couldn't summon the energy to jog I allowed myself to be happy that I was walking.

Fast forward to today when I woke up and found out it was a mere 8 degrees (celcius) and heavy drizzle. I dressed for the rain, walked about half a km, turned around walked home and told my husband I was taking the truck so I could walk in the woods. The way I figured it if I was going to be cold and miserable I really didn't want to be walking in traffic emoticon

This of course led him to deciding to go with me and we took Maddy and Lou who never seem to mind the weather unless it is bedtime and we are trying to get them out to do their business before bed. Then they sort of dig in their little heels and give us the evil eye as they slink out to the back garden as if they were on a forced death march! So almost 8 km later we all looked like drowned rats but at least we had some fresh air. Luckily I had a pot of chicken noodle soup waiting in the slow cooker for us when we returned as we were starving!

Do any of you use your slow-cookers? I have started calling Sundays our Slow Cooker Sunday because we like to get in the woods the only day of the week that moose hunting isn't allowed. I usually get it all ready on Saturday night and chill it until turning it on the next morning. It has sure saved us some unhealthy food choices because when you've been out in the fresh air all day you tend to get hungry fast.

Gotta go and get at the dishes...ugh!

Susan

  
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KATHY20104 10/4/2011 10:33AM

    great job on the exercise, where abouts do you live? you talked about walking in the woods. I love the out doors. I take my dog to the dog park & its like were 100's of miles out.
anyway I can shoot some sloooow cooker Ideas to you to.
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EJOY-EVELYN 10/4/2011 12:43AM

    I love my slow cookers. I must have a half dozen (or so). My favorite Nesco has been used so much I need a new insert for it. Am keeping a while longer just incase I happen by a garage sale or thrift shop replacement. It's the only one I have that's about nine quarts, so it's real handy for stews, roasts, and chilis.

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IMIN2GENES 10/3/2011 12:39PM

    Love the slow cooker! It's fall now, so I'll be using it a lot more. Nothing beats a great roast, soup or pot of chili after a cold, long day.

Way to go and work with the rain! I've got to stop being such a chicken and walk in the rain anyway... I usually hit the treadmill. LOL!
Chris
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BOVEY63 10/3/2011 12:08PM

    Great job on walking despite some crappy weather - and awesome that hubby and pups went too!
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I use my slow cooker at least once a week - food just seems to taste better when slow cooked.
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JLITT62 10/3/2011 5:01AM

    In fact used my slow cooker just yesterday so I'd have a healthy lasagna waiting for us when we got back from my parents!

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KAMAPERRY 10/2/2011 11:30PM

    Thanks for the reminder to use my slow cooker more!! Way top go on the walk even in the rain!

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TEMPEST272002 10/2/2011 11:05PM

    You're a trooper getting out in the rain. Poor DeeOhGee tried to convince me to walk regardless, but the pouring rain had me inside & turning on the furnace. Nice that hubby went with you.

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KAYDE53 10/2/2011 10:48PM

    Way to go!! Walking even though it's rainy & cool takes dedication!! I like to use my crockpot too, especially when it starts getting cooler!! Have a great week!! emoticon

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THETURTLEBEAR 10/2/2011 9:46PM

    Good for you! And coming home to the soup - ahhhhh!

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APIRLRAIN888 10/2/2011 7:48PM

    awesome and have fun slow cooking

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_LINDA 10/2/2011 7:25PM

    That is a huge step to enjoy your exercise!! Go you!! That is doubly excellent to take the whole family for fun too! Good on you for having food ready for the hungry exercisers to return home to!
Its awesome to hear you are doing so well!!
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CHUBRUB3 10/2/2011 7:12PM

    Good for you and your walks! Awesome!
I also enjoy my slow cooker, more so in the winter months.
Hugs,
Angela
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LALASLAND 10/2/2011 6:24PM

    ABSOLUTELY, I use the slow cooker! Got it fired up right now with swiss steak in it, with fresh onions and green peppers and garlic from our garden! YUMMY that we can do that with slow cookers, huh? I guess long ago, they just had to keep the coals burning!

YAY for you going out in the weather to do your fitness! Your sweet hubby sounds like mine! He went with me on a 12 mile bike ride today and I know he would have much rather relaxed on the couch! Hey! Maybe we're saving THEIR lives along with our own!

Love you, my friend! Thank you for always being there for me, through thick and thin! Love, Lori

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NEWMAC2011 10/2/2011 5:14PM

    It's great that exercise is now something you miss when you don't do it! That's a big positive step forward. It is important to listen to your body so if you're not up to jogging, then just walk which is what you did! No need to beat yourself up about it as you're still doing something.

I have a slow cooker but don't use it that often. I do batch cook and have a spaghetti squash in the oven now to which I'm going to add other veggies & marinara. My DD & I just love it; it's filling & low in calories. Yum.

Enjoy the rest of your weekend.

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CRAZYDOGLADYBO 10/2/2011 5:05PM

    Hi Susan,

Sounds like you stayed on track! I take a rest day and I also listen to my body and take it easy if I am feeling extremely tired or not up to par. I use my crock pot every once in a while. I use my porcelain dutch oven more though.

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GOANNA2 10/2/2011 5:01PM

    Hi Susan, you are doing so well. Wow, an 8km walk.
You are such a wise lady to have the slow cooker and
have the healthy food waiting. Yum, chicken soup after
a long walk. Good on you for going out in the rain.
Have a great week and a great October. emoticon

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LESLIES537 10/2/2011 4:55PM

    Good to hear from you! I like your crockpot idea--I need to start using mine more. Hope you have a nice Sunday and a wondeful week!

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JOANNANOW 10/2/2011 4:28PM

    Hi Susan
I'm so impressed with how far you walk... for me 3 km is a long walk. Thanks for your comment on my blog. The food tracker is the hardest part for me too but the more I use it the easier it gets. I have to be careful that I am not eating the same thing all the time just because I can't be bothered putting new foods in it! LOL! I use the slow cooker often. I got a good cuisinart one with my points at the grocery store and the timer on it makes it a wonderful tool as it can shut itself off and it has high and low settings. When it shuts off it is on warm which is nice too. I make apple sauce in it and then I don't have to stir it and stand over it. My latest passion is apple sauce with non fat yogurt. It seems to satisfy me completely so that I can just stop eating. Now that for me is a real breakthrough!
I enjoy your blog. Happy Sunday to you. emoticon

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