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In deep thought - making little accomplishments a BIG deal!

Saturday, May 07, 2011

Hi!

After the past couple of blogs you will all know I have been working up the nerve to make a change things up a bit. I was up half the night wondering how to revamp my goals and aspirations as well as to how to maintain my motivation.

Well, I don't have any definite answers yet but I'm working on it. I walked 3 km just before supper tonight (good), I washed all of the dog's bedding and line dried it (good), I ate 3 Kashi cereal bars (not so good), I skipped lunch (not so good), I went grocery shopping and didn't buy any junk food (good), I bought flowers and some fruit for my mom and delivered it (despite the home being under quarantine - good), I made a yummy salad for supper (good), and I drank about 6 glasses of water today (good).

So, I'm going to be deep in thought about how to tailor this program to my own needs and quirks. I'm vowing to go back to re-read The Spark and to make any little accomplishments a big deal and to place less focus on my slipups.

Anyway, here is a picture of my all time favourite salad:

  
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BOVEY63 5/8/2011 11:39AM

    That salad looks awesome!
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Your making some good steps forward - one step at a time wins the race!
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JLITT62 5/8/2011 5:38AM

    Yum-mo! I like to make a salad similar to that sometimes.

I'd say you had a really good day. I didn't really eat the best yesterday - hey, it happens to the best of it! I think the most important thing is just to keep trying.

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CRAZYDOGLADYBO 5/7/2011 11:10PM

    Awesome salad!

I am also celebrating small things, it keeps me positive.

I went grocery shopping today and I did not buy any chips, which are my downfall.

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KAMAPERRY 5/7/2011 10:51PM

    What is all in that salad? Looks awesome!!! I think you did great! You had more goods than not!

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ERIKO1908 5/7/2011 8:14PM

    Sounds like a pretty good day! :) and I agree...that salad looks scrumptious!! What is the list of ingrdients? I can see the spinach, strawberries & almonds...after that I need help! Enjoy the rest of your weekend!!

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BECCAJ98 5/7/2011 7:58PM

    You're making me hungry!! (And sounds like a good day...)

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ILOVELIFE2012 5/7/2011 5:58PM

    salad looks great!!!!! Good luck with achieving your goals!

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LITTLEFARMMOMMA 5/7/2011 5:54PM

    Oh, my GOSH! I wanted to come through the computer and EAT that thing! emoticonYUM! emoticon

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Why I do the things I do

Friday, May 06, 2011

Hello!

Well, it is Friday again and I feel like my grandfather when he used to say that. As a child, I never understood what he meant as the time seemed to stand still at times. Now it just flies by and I wonder where it went or what I accomplished.

I know one thing I've accomplished in the past week! I've eaten enough Cadbury Fruit and Nut bars that I'm slowly turning into one. I never thought I was a binge eater but I've realized that if I'm not careful I tend not to eat all day and then gorge at night. Well, they say the first step in recovery is acknowledging you have a problem. So, here I am admitting that I, Susan, do have an eating problem.

I know if I plan my meals ahead of time, avoid junk, eat all of my meals, limit snacking, and cook healthy, I can do this but why don't I? Am I too strict when I try that I quickly lose interest? Am I just sabotaging my own efforts by thinking this is "all or nothing". Do I use my episodes of depression to eat comfort foods rather than stick with my plan? Unfortunately, I can answer yes to all of these questions and still not be motivated to make any changes.

Okay, so lets be honest! Do I have what it takes right now to throw myself into Spark? No.
Do I think it is an all or nothing program? Yes
Why do I feel this way? I don't know
Did any of you experience this and what did you do to overcome this feeling?
Would a reward system and clear, short-term goals work best for me? Yes
Do I want to set up such a reward system? Hmmmm?

I know some of you are probably yelling at your computer monitors right now to tell me to grow up, not be so lazy and to take this seriously. To be honest, if this was someone else's blog, I'd be rolling my eyes and saying, "enough already"

Since I like projects, I think I will come up with a set of daily goals (duh, like Spark tells you to do but I figured I would bypass that part) and make up some rewards (another Spark favourite!)

I will look at the positive choices I make each day and count those without focusing on the stuff I'm not doing or the stuff I'm eating that is wrong.

I think today's personal challenge will be to start re-reading The Spark book and not rushing ahead this time. I need to establish a few permanent habits as opposed to many temporary ones.

See, how easy it all sounds "on paper" as they say. Thanks again for reading through my scribbles and for not giving up on me.

So back to basics it is for me........................................
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GARDENQE2 5/8/2011 8:43PM

    Hi, Susan!
I am a serious chocolate addict, and I found this way to deal with it. Rather than keeping my favorite (Peanut M&Ms) out of the house, I keep a good supply of them in a big bowl where I can look at them. For some reason, just looking at them is satisfying, and days go by without my eating any. When I have serious cravings, I can eat a couple pieces, and walk away. Even if I come back twenty times, I have eaten only one serving, it has taken all day, and I have gotten lots of walking in! I haven't had a real chocolate binge in several years, since I adopted this practice. Whatever works is good!
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MEMARE 5/8/2011 12:15PM

    Hi Susan, it's me Mare...I'm a emoticon.
Taking things slow and steady is what has worked for me. In the beginning I modified the exercises to the 'easy' route until I felt comfortable/confident doing the more strenuous ones. In doing the C25K program... I think my jog sessions were more like a bouncy walk... I wasn't about speed. In my food choices, I worked on portion sizes before changing up my food selections. When I 'graduated' to the mindset of changing those dietary needs to more healthy ones I did it slowly...like changing from cow milk to almond milk. I still have my indulgences but I try to limit their frequency. It’s not easy by any means to do these changes. Just take it slow, try to plan ahead and if you screw up…so what? Step back acknowledge your shortcoming and step ahead into knowing you can overcome…one step at a time. One day at a time. One month at a time.
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CRAZYDOGLADYBO 5/6/2011 11:30PM

    Hi Susan, take it in small steps. Pick one non food thing to do, like exercise for 10 minutes. Then add in a food item to change or try.

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_LINDA 5/6/2011 9:56PM

    This lifestyle change has always been about baby steps, one at a time, and all things in moderation, not deprivation. There is nothing I don't allow myself to eat or have. The key is not to have it every single day ;) If you can get it right 80 % in a day, you are doing great! Picking one goal and reward at a time is necessary too, so you don't feel overwhelmed. Make it a realistic one too.
You can do this!
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TEMPEST272002 5/6/2011 9:38PM

    Not only wasn't I rolling my eyes... I was nodding my head as I remembered feeling the exact same way.

To change my life, I had to change my thinking. To help me, I created the persona of my Inner Cheerleader. Sounds a little silly, but it was effective. I would imagine her arguing back against my Inner Perfectionist. In the beginning, it felt awkward but - like everything else - it because easier & more comfortable with practice.

When I'm not sure if it's perfectionism or reason talking - I ask myself what I would think if the person is question was a dear friend. The better friend I am to myself, the healthier I become. Not coincidence, I'm sure.

I think you're on the right track to focus on the positives. Acknowledging those little successes helps us build momentum. So next blog - a list of the days non-scale victories perhaps? Every little healthy choice counts.

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RUNJEWELRUN 5/6/2011 6:25PM

    You are in welcome company! I think most people on Spark love food. We all just have different ways of dealing with it.
Moderation is best(and it is something we slowly learn over time).
I put my cheats in to my calorie count for the day(and if I feel like I am going to go over, I increase my exercise).
Also, drinking a lot of water really helps.
You can do this. Remember that you are not alone and we all support you.
Hugs!

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JLITT62 5/6/2011 6:02PM

    That all or nothing attitude has to go! Wish I could tell you how to do it. You have to just accept that slips will happen cause you're human - but you can't get complacent, either.

Balance is tbs key!

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BLESSED2BEME 5/6/2011 5:44PM

    Hi Susan, my name is Trish and I'm a foodaholic. I too think I should be working my program, ALL or NOTHING. It has taken me FOREVER to figure out that is not possible. I had to finally knock it into my head that small baby steps, one at a time, getting a new healthy habit estabilished before taking on another change was the way to go. I still fall back into old habits. Being addicted to food is a bit different than something we can give up 100%. There is no cut and dry answer.

Now that you have conquered step 1, what is step 2?

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BECCAJ98 5/6/2011 5:32PM

    Hi Susan, I'm Becca......and I binge too! emoticon

We can do this!

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KAMAPERRY 5/6/2011 5:01PM

    My name is Kama. I am a food addict, nice to meet you. We can do this together, one day, one minute at a time emoticon

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-KATHERINE- 5/6/2011 4:55PM

    I just goofed around with this tracking things on my good days and nothing on my bad days...but then I asked myself if I really wanted to lose weight? The answer was yes, so am I just going to piddle around with it or do it...So I tracked everything even if I was way over my calories cuz I could see exactly what I was consuming and why I was the way I was and things started clicking in my head for me. This kind of turns into a game and who is going to win? you or the calorie intake? you or the fitness nothings? Keep persevering until it clicks in for you.

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LESLIES537 5/6/2011 4:53PM

    Hi Susan, I'm Leslie, and I too, have an eating problem. We can conquer this, together! emoticon

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LITTLEFARMMOMMA 5/6/2011 4:38PM

    I did my goals over, and WHY I did those goals, and it really helped, Susan! emoticon emoticon

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I know I'm not a parent.....but....

Wednesday, May 04, 2011

Hi!

Had a really good and productive day yesterday which was made that much easier because the sun was out in all of its glory. Wasn't real warm but enough to get laundry on the line and a few windows open to air out the house.

I only walked the dogs once all the same and that was around 8:00 a.m. so I feel kind of bad about that. They were out in the back garden with me but most of that was spent lying down or looking at me with "okay, what do you want us to do now" expressions.

I took 2 garbage bags of freshly washed/dried clothes to goodwill which made me feel good on many levels. Some of it still fit but was simply wrong from the start, some of it was too big (YEAH) and others I collected from other people. I cannot stand when people throw good things in the garbage that others might need and/or want!

The highlight of our day was after supper when our 12 year old friend called and said he finally got his dirtbike! We were thrilled and of course had to go along to see him take his first ride. Let me back track here for a minute. We met this little boy about 3 years ago as his mom taught dog obedience. We were instantly smitten with him (not so much with his parents but that is another story) and sort of took him under our wings. He wanted an iPod, so John suggested that his family start recycling (a foreign concept apparently) and we recruited a few neighbours. John spent hours in the woods looking for bottles and by last June, there was enough money raised. He asked John and I to take him shopping for it which we did.

So, his next goal was a dirtbike which we all laughed at (he did too) because we figured raising $1000 would take him straight into high school! But, they did it! They raised $800 from collecting bottles and cans and the other $200 he had from his birthday money. Of course as soon as he got it home he called us to thank us.

Okay, so last night we all (his parents who are divorcing) and John and I. His parents know a thing or two about bikes so they started telling him what to do. Unfortunately they swore on him several times for not catching on, called him a sissy for being nervous, etc, etc. I was almost in tears and John had to walk away on the pretence that he was looking for more bottles/cans for gas money!

Like I said, I'm not a parent but don't they see how humiliating their words are? Alex is a wonderful boy (I know he is not an angel but he is a nice, mannerly boy) and he was reduced to tears by his parents in front of us. He asked them several times to stop pressuring him before his father said, "get the *^%@$ off the bike and I'll show you....see if it gets into that pea-size brain of yours this time."

I felt horrible so I pretended that I was interested in learning how to start the bike too so we could learn together. Everything his parents yelled at him, I carefully repeated and asked questions and Alex explained it back to me. Before we knew it, he had it started and was off across the field. John was at the other end taking pictures and jumping up and down like a cheerleader!

When we are all frozen to death and ready to leave, I gave Alex a big high-five to which his father snapped,"It was about &$%#@&*^ time you *&^%$#### scaredy cat" It was then that I turned and asked his father if he still teaches the learn to ride a motorcycle course, He puffed out his chest and said yes, to which I replied, "well, thanks for the warning because I'll make sure if I ever need to learn I won't be asking you". Then I got in the car and broke down in tears and we drove away. AAAARRRRRRGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHH

Sorry to vent!!!!

  
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BOVEY63 5/5/2011 11:05AM

    It so nice that you and John have taken Alex under your wings - he sure needs people like you in his life. You are angels for doing so.
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JLITT62 5/4/2011 6:42PM

    Boy, you're just having bad luck with the neighbors lately. Good for you for standing up to the dad -that took courage!

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BLESSED2BEME 5/4/2011 6:15PM

    You don't have to give birth to a child or raise a child to be a parent. You have all the qualities of a good parent from what I see here. How awful for Alex to be raised that way. The emotional scarring will follow him into adulthood and be repeated.

I'm so glad he has you and your husband in his life. You are making a difference!

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LITTLEFARMMOMMA 5/4/2011 3:52PM

    Oh. My. Gosh! And you say you've never been a PARENT!?!? You are an EXCELLENT PARENT! You know what? Growing up, I didn't have a parent like that (my Dad left when I was 7), but one of my brothers (now deceased) tormented me mercilessly, and well, it's a long story. I grew up at the neighbors, and I still adore them as the family I wished I'd had back then!

SOME parents should NOT have children... that young man's parents should be taken out and... well, I had to go back and delete the rest of this sentence! YOU, on the other hand, may have given this sweet young man the confidence and example he so badly needs! It's not SPERM that makes parents become parents! It's LOVE and NURTURING and YOU have BOTH of those!

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CHANGING_LIFE 5/4/2011 3:08PM

    This brought tears to my eyes.

Not only have you been such a wonderful parent figure or support to us here on Spark, but you are also helping out this boy. What a wonderful idea to give him about recycling! In the state that I live, only cans can be recycled for money but I have been to other states where bottles are recycled. This is such a great to not only teach him about the environment, but to also teach him about working for things he wants or needs. He will hopefully take this lesson to when he has his own family, and successfully support them and teach them the same lesson.

Unfortunately, many people in this world do not have the support at the home level. I have been blessed with many people in my life such as my Uncle Barry (who is not my uncle) that have been encouraging to me when my parents have not been. It is horrible that his parents treat him this way, but I am so, so grateful that he has you and your husband to depend on.

This is also what we sometimes do to ourselves. . .and I know at times you can really be down on yourself. Next time, try to think of how awful it was to see his parents talking to him this way and try not to talk to yourself that way! I know, it's not just you--we all do it!

Again thanks so much for writing this!

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CALGARYNEWF 5/4/2011 2:42PM

    Well done, it's a good thing this young boy has you and John in his life..Imagine how negative things must be otherwise!!!!So Sad!


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_LINDA 5/4/2011 2:27PM

    OMG that is one horrible father (I hope the poor kid is staying with the mother) :((
Good for you for standing in and creating a barrier between Alex and his loudmouth father. Especially love it that you told him off in a polite way about his ability to give lessons ;)) I think I would have used stronger words in this whole incident.
You are a bright light in this boy's life. I hope he has learned from you and will pay your kindness forward and not turn into a mean mouthed SOB like his father..
Well done in your handling of this whole affair! You can be very proud!!
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BECCAJ98 5/4/2011 1:16PM

    That is so awesome that you two have become great role models and influence on the child. Too bad his dad isn't!! Hope and pray that his parents don't have a permanent negative outcome for him! (And ps.....if I had been in your shoes, I would've slapped him!)

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NINJA_SMOO 5/4/2011 12:51PM

  Wow, that's horrible! Poor kid :(

But it's so cool that he's found a way to raise money for things he wants. Thumbs up for all the recycling and getting his bike :)

Question: does he have ALL the proper gear? I got one of those kid-sized dirt bikes when I was 14 and figured I was good because I was wearing a helmet - But I have a large scar (and 40+ stitches!) that beg to differ.

He'll have so much fun with the bike! :)

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TEMPEST272002 5/4/2011 12:26PM

    You guys have such warm hearts. It's people like you that helped me through my own difficult childhood. You did right & you have had a HUGE impact on this little boy's life. With your interest & kindness you show him that there is another way to be - and since he's doing so well with his goals, it looks like he's paying more attention to what you & John are teaching him.



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KAMAPERRY 5/4/2011 12:12PM

    I agree, parents REALLY need to not be so careless with what they say.

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MESEATURTLE 5/4/2011 12:01PM

    U did right!
I think it's great what u & your husband did with this kid! I think he is super glad that he has met u!!!!!
God bless you'll !!!

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LESLIES537 5/4/2011 11:55AM

    THATTA GIRL! I'm sure you had a million things you wanted to say to those poor souls. What you said was PERFECT though! Good for you, and good for you and hubby to provide such a positive role model in his life. God knows he needs it! Bless your hearts!

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KANSASROSE67 5/4/2011 11:51AM

    Oh...I so understand how you feel. I often wonder what these kind of parents are like in private if they're willing to act like that in front of other people. Why can't they see how easy it is to crush the spirit of this young person they've been lucky enough to have to raise?

You and your husband did so great to help and encourage Alex. He so needs postive adult role models, and you two sound like you've been wonderful. Keep up the good work! You might make all the difference in his life.

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I'm scared and I don't scare easily

Monday, May 02, 2011

Hi,

You will all be happy (well, I think you will be happy) that I've had a good couple of days since my last blog. I walked the dogs twice today across the river for a total of 5km and tonight I set out to stroll around the neighbourhood with them on their leashes. We live in this subdivision that only has three streets and I like to walk the three of them which is about 2 km. For some reason tonight, I opted out of the the middle street and was on the upper end of my own street when I saw a young fellow standing on the sidewalk. It was then I heard the screaming and yelling coming from the driveway. There were two young men and and a woman in her 40-50's and she was trying to keep the two apart. One was armed with a stick or something similiar and was threatening to kill the other one. One wasn't wearing a shirt and was doing all the threatening and swearing. He saw me and uttered some things I'm not going to write here and I asked the woman if she was okay. It was then that the shirtless one told me to move on or he would kill me. One of our neighbours was driving down the road so I stopped him (I was more afraid for my dogs than I was for my own safety) and the shirtless wonder said he would kill my neighbour too. Anwyay, I was furious so I walked on and when I rounded the corner I decided to call the police. It was then that I saw two of the young fellows take off on foot and the woman was screaming to the (you guessed it) the shirtless one) that he was in no condition to drive but he screamed that he was going to kill the other two. I was dialing the phone when he saw me as he screeched out of the driveway in a car and threatened to kill me again.

By this point my husband had walked up the street (I had called him because I had actually forgotten the number to the RCMP) and he knew I was upset. When we got home the police called me to say they were there on the scene and would let me know what was going on. Well, at that point I was shaking (I mean these are neighbourhood kids) and my husband was madder than I've ever seen him. He loaded me up in the truck and John went looking for the young fellows father....who we had just spoken to at the election booth (oh yeah, our federal election is being held today). John had worked with the father and told him he might want to go home as there was a disturbance and the police had been called to his house. The father was shocked but glad John had told him.

Anyway, it was about that time that the police called me again to say it was two brothers who were involved and that the mother was okay (I was worried about her safety). I don't know why I'm so shaken but I am. This is a quiet neighbourhood and I've never been threatened before. Maybe it was the shock of it all but I'm quite anxious and I don't like feeling this way. Hopefully the feelings will pass and the two young men will get some anger management courses. I feel so bad for their parents but I don't regret calling the police. Do you think I did the right thing?

Talk to you all later!

  
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CHANGING_LIFE 5/3/2011 10:54PM

    The right thing is not always to do, but of course you did do the right thing in this situation! There was a problem and your safety was threatened. You NEEDED to call the police, and I am so grateful that you did!

I am sorry that this happened in your neighborhood. I'll be praying that everything turns out alright.

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KANSASROSE67 5/3/2011 4:53PM

    You totally did the right thing. They need help, and hopefully they will get it. Glad you're ok!

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LESLIES537 5/3/2011 3:25PM

    You absolutely did the right thing! I'm sorry that happened to you! Let me at 'em'!! I'll teach them not to talk to my Susan that way!! emoticon

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KAMAPERRY 5/3/2011 12:58PM

    You totally did the right thing! Thank God you are ok!

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PAMNANGEL 5/3/2011 12:23PM

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JEPPINER1 5/3/2011 12:13PM

    you are absolutely right. Your life was threatened and others as well. I hope you are doing better.

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IFDEEVARUNS2 5/3/2011 12:12PM

    Absolutely. You were being a good neighbour.

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NEWFIEGIRLHERE 5/3/2011 12:11PM

    you totally did do the right thing. Lord knows what would've happened if you had not placed that call. To many people turn a blind eye to domestic violence because they don't want to get involved because they think it is a personal issue but kudos to you for stopping up and making a stand for that lady.

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JLITT62 5/3/2011 12:08PM

    Absolutely you did the right thing; are you kidding? So glad you're ok. Anyone would be scared!

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BOVEY63 5/3/2011 12:06PM

    What a terrible ordeal to have been involved in. So glad that you are okay.
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CALGARYNEWF 5/3/2011 11:50AM

    Thank goodness you actually witnessed it and called the police. Who knows what could have happened!So many people would've looked the other way! emoticon

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TEMPEST272002 5/2/2011 11:09PM

    Absolutely you did the right thing. I'm glad that no one was hurt, but I can totally understand why you would be shaken. I'm glad you're ok.

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S3XYDIVASMOM 5/2/2011 9:49PM

    I would think matters had been building up for a while before the blowup. The situation was not being controlled by the persons involved; it was time for some outside intervention. You absolutely did the right thing.

You appeared to be writing this pretty immediately after the incident. The adrenalin had to be pumping. I'm guessing that even now you have found a calmer place in your spirit.

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CHAR1970 5/2/2011 8:54PM

    You definitely did the right thing. Someone had to intervene or the threats would become reality. I'm glad you had the courage to do something and not just walk away, and that no one got hurt.

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SUSANMOMOF6 5/2/2011 8:06PM

    So glad you are safe. Too many people close their doors and do nothing- you definitely made the right "call"!

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CRAZYDOGLADYBO 5/2/2011 7:35PM

    Yes you did!

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LITTLEFARMMOMMA 5/2/2011 6:37PM

    Of course you did the right thing! That mother did not need to be subjected to that, and neither did anyone else! You have to err on the side of safety, and your main interest was to keep people (including yourself) safe!

You'll calm down, I think. The adrenalin may still be coursing through your veins, and it's actually a very helpful thing when you need to think and act fast. I'm so glad that you are safe and sound!

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BECCAJ98 5/2/2011 6:34PM

    You absolutely did the right thing! Glad you, the dogs, and everyone else is ok!

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Welcome to my rollercoaster....called this is Susan's Life

Saturday, April 30, 2011

Hi,

Well, this is day two of feeling a wee bit back to normal but as I've expressed before, I'm not sure how long this feeling good will last.

After my last blog I had such an outpouring of raw, honest support that I couldn't help but feel good! You guys are the best and not one of you suggested I could "snap out of it". Believe me, I've had that said to me before. I felt a lot of pressure ease of me once I wrote that blog and had the deep conversation with my husband.

I know I am going to have bad days but I'm going to embrace those as they make me appreciate the good days all the more.

Well, actually that whole sentence is a huge pile of crap( how is that for being blatantly honest!) that I just wrote because one thing about my depression is that once it hits I can't remember what it is like to feel good. Hence the blogs as they provide physical proof for me that this does come and go.

For years I always said that the worse thing about depression is that is always comes back but if I twist that around, I should realize that it always leaves too. That is another instance of wishful thinking. Yes, it really is true but good luck getting me to see that reasoning when I'm caught in the death grip. Yet another reason I love writing my blogs, reading the comments and re-reading them again and again!

Got outside twice yesterday for my normal walk with Maddy and Louisa and twice more today. About 8 km in total. Didn't do the best nutritionally but this journey for me is going to have to be all about baby steps. I cannot do the all or nothing approach the way my mental health has been lately.

Well, I 'm going to read some more of my book now, The King's Speech, which I started and re-started several times. It is good but I fall asleep whenever I start to read these days. zzzzzzzzzzz

Talk to you all later! I am honoured that I received such support from both old and new SparkFriends alike. Take a look at yourself in the mirror and say "I just helped a stranger out today"

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LOVE_IS_LOUDER 5/3/2011 11:38AM

    It is hard to remember what good feels like on the bad days, but on the good days, all you can think about is how terrible the bad days feel. It's backwards, and I know just what you mean. Remember that we're here for you, doll.
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S3XYDIVASMOM 5/2/2011 9:54PM

    I fall asleep whenever I sit down to read, too. It's a pattern that really annoys me. I thought it was part of getting old, but you can't use that as an excuse. Ah! For the days when I could read a book straight through.

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BOVEY63 4/30/2011 10:48PM

    Happy to hear that you're feeling a bit better. Praying that you get better and better every day.
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MILLISMA 4/30/2011 9:51PM

    When you're feeling down, just blog and we'll be here for you. Sending prayers and lots of hugs your way.

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TEMPEST272002 4/30/2011 9:43PM

    I'm glad you're continuing to improve. I know precisely what you mean when you talk about not remembering what it feels like to feel good when you're in the grips of depression. I feel relieved that you're having happy moments again - it's a good sign that you're getting better. As I walking in the sunshine today with Dog & 2 other canine friends, I thought of you and wondered if you were out enjoying find weather with your doggies too.

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_LINDA 4/30/2011 4:34PM

    I will always be here for you, for the highs and lows, we all have them, no one is immune. Here is hoping you will see some light at the end of the tunnel sooner than later..
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KAMAPERRY 4/30/2011 4:00PM

    You are my dear friend always!

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GAYLE-G-63 4/30/2011 2:36PM

    Susan,

I have to agree with many; you are not a stranger. Although we've never met in person, you are still someone I genuinely care about.

Be well. I'll keep you in my thoughts.

Huggz,
~Gayle~

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LESLIES537 4/30/2011 2:20PM

    Awe, you are so sweet. I just knew that blog would get a lot of attention b/c of the title and because of how awesome the spark people are, here. This community is the most caring and supportive of any that I've ever known. They saw that title and bless their hearts, came a running on over to support you. I could just feel the love! You really are blessed!

Good job on getting out walking your babies...twice!!! What has gotten into you?! lol I love it! emoticon

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LITTLEFARMMOMMA 4/30/2011 2:15PM

    That is right, Susan! You're not a stranger! You're my FRIEND! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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CHANGING_LIFE 4/30/2011 2:04PM

    Miss Susan,
You aren't a stranger! You are a friend and a great one at that!
May God bless you in your journey! Take care of yourself!


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