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Therapeutic Day

Friday, December 23, 2011

I didn't have the motivation to do much of anything yesterday. So I spent a quiet day visiting with my ex-mother-in-law, talking to my girls and my mom, starting my Avon order and going through some paperwork.

I got a hanging jewelry organizer from my baby for Christmas. She had it shipped directly from the store and the company wouldn't wrap it. So, I got out my container that I kept my jewelry in, went through my jewelry, and put the jewelry I wanted to keep in the organizer. It is going to be so much easier to find what I have! It was very therapeutic for me to do this.

This little organization project verified to me that I need to really get off my duff and organize the rest of the condo. It will give me purpose for a week or however long it takes me. I will feel like my life is less cluttered, more organized, and hopefully a little more peaceful as I won't be hunting for stuff that I don't remember where I put it.

Getting rid of things that I really don't need to be hanging onto will do a few things for me. I won't have a bunch of junk laying around. It will be easier to find things. I think it will make me feel like I'm getting a fresh start for the new year. I think this will help my overall spirits - at least I'm hoping it will help a little. Here's to organizing!

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KKP4673 12/24/2011 1:37AM

    Good job on getting rid of things you don't need!!! Make room for more that way!!


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SLIMLILA 12/23/2011 11:58PM

    Will you come up to Alberta and help me clear out my storage locker and stop wasting that money every month? Glad you got your present in time for Christmas and were able to use it for calming yourself and feeling better about things..

I'm in a weird mood myself. it's so hard to cook meals here with everyone being so fussy. I was going to make Chinese for supper and g.d told me before I even started that she doesn't like that and won't eat it. I know dd doesn't like onions and mushrooms and no one would help me peel carrots and my thumb was hurting so I felt sorry for myself.. I gave up and came down and laid down for a little pity cry. And made the decision that I was going to cook what I liked cuz I have spent too much time trying to make everyone happy and it's just not working... So, I made the pork with onions and mushrooms and I made the stir fry with bean sprouts so I enjoyed my supper and the kids had pizza. But, my gym friend called me and I got to chat with her after supper and was invited over for a glass of wine tomorrow, sounds like just what the dr. ordered...

Feel better and talk soon... emoticon emoticon

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NPA4LOSS 12/23/2011 8:05PM

    I am so glad that you are finding some things that are helping relive the stress. Enjoy your Christmas and make time for some ME time.

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FITMARY 12/23/2011 10:12AM

    We just recycled 4 boxes of old magazines and books. Wow, what a nice difference! Gonna keep going on this purging exercise. It is helping us and I bet it will help you too. So nice to be lighter!!!

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Down Spirits

Thursday, December 22, 2011

I hate to admit it, but I've been in a depressed mood lately. People have noticed and commented on it. When I think about why I am this way, I come up with a few reasons. One is my job situation. I've been applying to jobs for at least an hour every day. I've gotten a few interviews, but no job offers. I'm basically a laid back person and don't come across as high-energy. This could very well be hurting me. The lack of money coming in steadily also weighs heavily on me.

Another thing that really bothers me right now is the fact that this will be the first Christmas spent without my girls with me. I miss them so much anyway, and the holiday just seems to make it worse.

So, since I don't like the situation, I have to take hold of it and change it. I'm going to start by reminding myself that companies realistically don't hire during the holidays. I'm going to spend time practicing my job skills and job interviewing techniques. I will still continue to apply for jobs.

I will skype with my daughters more. I will write them good, old fashioned letters. I will make plans to do new things and tell my girls about them. These plans will include getting back in touch with old friends and spending time with family.

I will clean out and organize my house. I will see how creatively I can re-decorate using what I have and maybe finding a few thrift store bargains. Often times, just doing this gets me energized again.

I will call my therapist and get an earlier appointment. I will tell her what's going on and get some concrete suggestions from her on how to help myself.

I will journal every day, reporting to myself on what I've done to improve myself and writing down my feelings. I will set some goals for myself by the end of next week and keep track on my progress in achieving them.

I really hope that my plans help me snap out of this.

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NPA4LOSS 12/23/2011 4:38AM

    Sounds like some great ideas. Take time to enjoy the next few days and the Holiday season. the New Year will soon be here. emoticon

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SLIMLILA 12/23/2011 1:49AM

    I sure hope all these great plans help. I keep meaing to call my dd in Wpg., but forget till it's to late at nite. I did the thrift store shop tonite and they were calling specials every hour, so I hit 3 different specials.. I found a cool ball with button/picture to push and Mya isn't crawling yet, but she moves around by her hands on the bare floor, so she can push it and then have to try to chase it to catch it.. I also got her some sleeps, she is so tall, she's already in the 18 mth size. I know I'm short, (5'2") but she's at least a head taller than my knees..

Enjoy talking with your dd's by Skype. My sis used to call me from Doha using it. SHe invited us all up for Chrismas dinner, but it would be very expensive in dd's truck to fit us all, and of course, it's like a 3-4 hr. drive, so it would certainly be a long, long day. DD suggested me and dh just drive up for a couple days, so will think on that. At least she's in the province, so I won't be leaving my home area, so it won't affect my unemployment.

"This too shall pass".... emoticon emoticon

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BEAUTIFULANIME 12/22/2011 5:34PM

    I really like your attitude towards your situation. I know you can make your goals. Remember to smile each day because you deserve happiness.

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C11ELF16 12/22/2011 4:40PM

    Great plan ! You are doing great just by taking the time to STOP and recongnize that you need to TAKE action to change things for yourself. Keep up the good work ! Take care of yourself ! emoticon

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TOPAZROSE 12/22/2011 10:04AM

    Your plans sound great. Put them into action and see how you are after a few weeks. I'm sure it will energise you and you will feel and act differently.

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MRE1956 12/22/2011 9:56AM

    BTDT more times than I care to think about (job-wise, anyhow.....all my family are close by), and believe you me, this can really s**k the life out of a soul.....

The fact that you have plans at all is truly a good thing - so many who are struggling at this time of year do so partially due to the fact that there is no "plan of attack", as it were (IMHO)......

Skype can be your friend! I just tried it out a few weeks ago (the audio portion, not the video - even though I do have a built-in webcam, it wasn't really needed for the contact I made at that time)......I'm sure you'll find it useful.

Hang in there!


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I Need to Re-Spark My Motivation

Wednesday, December 21, 2011

I read an article this morning and a light bulb came on. My motivation has waned a little bit lately. I need to re-spark it. Being motivated will keep me going and eventually I will reach the goals I am working towards. It made sense: something in motion will tend to stay in motion. I will keep gaining experience. The more I do, the more I will learn and understand. This definitely fits right into the fact that I want to re-do my goals. The puzzle pieces are starting to fit together. I'm hoping that soon a picture will start emerging. Then I will know that I'm getting somewhere. So, today is the first day of my re-motivation. I will concentrate on focusing myself and my energies and getting myself organized. I will get my goals set and my plan of attack in time for the new year. I can do this!

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KKP4673 12/22/2011 12:54AM

    You not only CAN do this, but you ARE doing this!!! You're doing it!!!!


m going to cheer you on!! You're going to do it!!

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NANCYBOAT 12/21/2011 8:41AM

    I'm the same boat. I just re-"enrolled" this week trying to get back on track. Good luck to you!!!!

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ALASKANMOMOF2 12/21/2011 8:40AM

    You can do it. emoticon

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Goal Setting Problems

Tuesday, December 20, 2011

I feel like I'm still stuck in a setting short-term goal mode. Usually every night, I make a list of things that need to be done the next day. So, I'm good at setting the short-term goals. But I don't always get to everything on the list. Those items not done get put onto the next day's list. I have gotten into the habit of trying to limit the amount of time I spend on each day's projects. I use a timer on occasion and say out loud (often to the cat) how long I will spend on something, usually when running errands. I have gotten better, but I'm still not at an acceptable point in accomplishing things each day.

I read another article today about setting medium term and long term goals. I then realized that I sorta have vague long term goals, but really can't think of any medium term goals that I have right now. The bells and buzzers are ringing in my head. This time of year is the perfect time to re-do all of my goals. Sounds like the perfect New Year's resolution for me. I'm going to take a little time each day for the next week and a half to sit down and do this.

It's time to get off my duff and do this for myself. Everyone needs to have short, medium and long term goals. It's my turn right now.

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SLIMLILA 12/20/2011 11:37PM

    I know there is a saying that says, If you never set a goal, how will you know if you reach it.... I haven't been good at this, just trying to freewheel, even though I know I accomplish so much more when I have an agenda... In Sept. I listed for about a month all the things I did every day cuz it felt like I wasn't accomplishing anything. Then I realized I was only listing things to fill up a page, so that wasn't worthwhile either.. I'd forgotten how much more organized my life was when I was working everyday... Maybe seeing your goals will motivate me to seriously set some of my own... there's stlll hope for me... emoticon emoticon

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KKP4673 12/20/2011 10:11PM

    Great idea!! The short terms need to line up with the medium and long range ones, for sure!

I sometimes need to just focus on "left foot, right foot" right now. But I still read my long-range goals I developed through reading "The Spark" daily....

I look forward to reading your goals in upcoming blogs!!

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Closer to a Decision

Monday, December 19, 2011

Today is another day of spending a lot of time with my Avon business. I'm going to be delivering orders and finding new places to pass my books out. I will be looking down different roads and staying confident in my ability to do this. I will have my trusted notebook with me to write down all the new places that I can leave books. Tomorrow, I will spend at least a couple hours doing the same thing.

I believe that by doing this and actually seeing how far I can get, that I can use this information in making my decision as to how far I want to take this business. I also want to spend time on the computer once it gets dark to update my website, take some training, and see what other ideas I can come up with as far as trying to build this business.

It will be a new year in less than two weeks. I have made up my mind that I don't want the next year to be a repeat of this year: I'm tired of spinning my wheels trying to get a job that will more than likely go to someone younger. It's sad to say, but I really think my age plays against me many times. So, I have to concentrate on looking for ways to make money where age does not matter.

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SLIMLILA 12/19/2011 8:14PM

    I know, it's the PYT's who do get the jobs, brains and experience don't seem to count for much. I agree that looking for work is so hard. It's the rejections that I don't want to go through...and just how much time it all takes and then the waiting and waiting.... emoticon

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KKP4673 12/19/2011 3:17PM

    You're doing a great job just by persevering and moving forward!! The open house idea will go a long way, I'm sure!!


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