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How To Sharpen Your Brain With Your Heart......

Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Like many baby boomers, I've been noticing my memory isn't as sharp as it once was. Scientists call this "cognitive decline." I don't really like that expression, because other aspects of my cognitive functions are sharper than ever. For example, more often I can't remember where I put my car keys or I enter a room forgetting why I went there and have to retrace my steps back to where I started to remember. However, my problem-solving abilities and intuitive discernment are getting more keen and refined.

A recent CNN news report said cognitive decline begins around age forty. I've read other reports that say we are sharpest up to age 25-35. One thing these reports hardly ever discuss is how our emotions affect our cognitive functions and that we can improve our minds, not just by playing puzzles or going back to school, but by reducing our stress and increasing how much time we spend in positive emotional states.

Stressful emotions that we all experience at times, like anxiety or worry, anger and fear, invariably lead to stress and tend to cause a desynchronization in the activity in the brain and nervous system, which directly impairs cognitive functions. In fact, it's well established that ongoing stress is a major contributor to the decline of our cognitive functions. On the other hand, when we have a more positive outlook, when we're feeling hopeful, appreciative, caring and loving, it improves the way our brain and nervous system process information.

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INFLATED 2/18/2012 10:21PM

    Stress and lack of sleep affect the memory in negative ways.

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PATTISTAMPS 2/15/2012 12:39PM

    And I learned something today! thank you!

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NEW-CAZ 2/15/2012 2:28AM

    I'm having WAY too many senior moments of late emoticon

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MS.ELENI 2/14/2012 10:11PM

    Very true.

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MORRISAS 2/14/2012 8:42PM

  My memory has been horrible lately. I definitely attribute the decline to stress.

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The Seven Dos and Don'ts Of Arguing

Monday, February 13, 2012

DO have it out face to face. This means truly face to face, not text to text or seething email to seething email.

DON'T avoid the fight. If something's been bugging you.....eventually, it'll come out. Choosing to let it out in a calm, constructive way will lead to a better outcome than waiting until you unleash on him in an inappropriate place.

DON'T state opinion as fact. Instead of saying matter-of-factly that your partner is disrespectful---a sure way to get them immediately defensive---pick an example and ease into it with an "I" statement.

DON'T pick a fight in public. You won't get anywhere when there's an audience around you, so save the drama for the stage, not your sister's engagement party or your significant other's office party. Wait until you get home---- or until you get to the car-----to bring up whatever's bothering you.

DO stay on topic. First you're fighting about your mother-in-law, and next thing you know, every fight from the past 15 years is on the table. Take a deep breath and bring it back to the source of the argument---and work together on solving just that one this time around. Save some fun for next week!

DON'T fight to win. Fight with the intention of meeting in the middle, not with the intention to crush the competition. "Winning" the argument may feel good in the moment, but it's compromise that will actually lead to fewer arguments about the same thing in the future.

DO end on the same page. Make the fight worth it by getting some real problem-solving done---and confirm with each other that you're going back to your corners with that same solution in mind.

Fight fair-------instead of fighting to the death!!! emoticon

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INFLATED 2/18/2012 10:18PM

    I am learning to let my husband know when something is bothering me. For years, I would let things come to a boil, then explode. Great advice in your blog.

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LOVESLIFE48 2/14/2012 7:41AM

    Thank you!!

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NEW-CAZ 2/14/2012 3:16AM

    Great advice Patti emoticon

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MS.ELENI 2/13/2012 10:58PM

    People don't believe me when I say Bill and I have never had a fight. I get snippy when I don't feel good but we do not fight.

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FLAME42 2/13/2012 8:07PM

    Good advice!

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1CRAZYDOG 2/13/2012 7:52PM

    Hard to do in the heat of the moment, but all true.

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CELIAMINER 2/13/2012 6:44PM

    Excellent advice!

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BALDWINJ_03 2/13/2012 5:58PM

    Great points!

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SHERYLDS 2/13/2012 5:56PM

    no comment...
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Go Ahead And Have That Chocolate For Valentine's Day...Just Make Sure It's DARK Chocolate.

Sunday, February 12, 2012

Forget what you've heard about death by chocolate. A new Harvard study shows that chocolate may be good for your heart. It's a great day for chocolate lovers everywhere.

Murray Mittleman and his colleagues at Harvard Medical School studied data on 31,823 middle-aged and elderly Swedish women to assess the relationship between chocolate and heart failure. The women who consumed an average of one to two servings (that's a fairly small amount) of high-quality, cocoa-rich chocolate per week had a 32% lower risk of experiencing heart failure. Those women who ate 1 to 3 servings a month had a 26% lower risk of heart failure.

The scientists noted that the high concentration of phytonutrients called flavonoids in dark chocolate are potent antioxidants that are likely responsible for the results.. The flavonoids are believed to lower blood pressure and reducing inflammation linked with heart failure.

Keep in mind that not just any chocolate will do. Forget the vast majority of candy bars on the market. The study results were achieved with high-quality, cocoa-rich chocolate. Read DARK chocolate. The darker the better. And, be sure the one you choose is low in sugar, has no trans or hydrogenated fats, and no artificial colors, flavors, or other synthetic ingredients.

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INFLATED 2/13/2012 11:58AM

    I buy Hershey's extra dark chocolate, 4 pieces is a serving, and have it with a mug of coffee. It is a great dessert.

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NEW-CAZ 2/13/2012 2:54AM

    i love Thorton's Dark Chocolate! emoticon

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ARTJAC 2/13/2012 1:14AM

    will do emoticon

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THOMS1 2/12/2012 9:28PM

    I can't eat just a little either so,I guess it's no chocolate dark or otherwise for me. emoticon

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LOVESLIFE48 2/12/2012 8:26PM

    I'm trying to get used to the taste of dark chocolate. I like Dove so far!!

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FLAME42 2/12/2012 8:06PM

    Dark chocolate is fabulous, I do enjoy it in small amounts. Have always preferred the dark chocolate to milk chocolate, even before we were told which was best for us.
Happy Valentines week, try a LITTLE dark chocolate.

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MOMMA_BEAR_69 2/12/2012 7:08PM

    I could definitely fall into the chocoholic category. I limit myself to just a small bite whenever I have any. Not on my list of foods I am to eat due to high potassium. ENJOY!!!

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MS.ELENI 2/12/2012 6:46PM

    I can't eat just a little so I try to stay away as much as possible. It is just way too good

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A Tribute To Grandparents (Part II)

Saturday, February 11, 2012

Grandchildren are God's way of compensating us for growing old. Mary H. Waldrip

You do not really understand something unless you can explain it to your grandmother. Proverb

An hour with your grandchildren can make you feel young again. Anything longer that that, and you start to age quickly. Gene Perret

The best baby-sitters, of course, are the baby's grandparents. You feel completely comfortable entrusting your baby to them for long periods, which is why most grandparents flee to Florida. Dave Barry

I wish I had the energy that my grandchildren have---if only for self-defense. Gene Perret

Grandmother/Grandchild relationships are simple. Grandmas are short on criticism and long on love. Author Unknown

Nobody can do for little children what grandparents do.....Grandparents sort of sprinkle stardust over the lives of little children. Alex Haley (Love it)

Grandmother---a wonderful mother with lots of practice. Author Unknown

A grandparent is old on the outside but young on the inside. Author Unknown

One of the most powerful handclasps is that of a new grandbaby around the finger of a grandfather. Joy Hargrove (When our grand-daughter was born, my husband was holding her and she wrapped her fingers around one of his. He looked down and tears rolled down his face.........and he NEVER cries.)

It's amazing how grandparents seem so young once you become one. Author Unknown

If your baby is "beautiful and perfect, never cries or fusses, sleeps on schedule and burps on demand, an angel all the time," you're the grandma. Teresa Bloomingdale

Grandparents are similar to a piece of string---handy to have around and easily wrapped around the fingers of their grandchildren. Author Unknown

What is it about grandparents that is so lovely? I'd like to say that grandparents are God's gifts to children. And if they can but see, hear and feel what these people have to give, they can mature at a fast rate. Bill Cosby

Grandchildren don't make a man feel old.....It's the knowledge that he's married to a grandmother. G. Norman Collie

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    I never understood why children bored at home, could be content at Grandma's house. There is definitely a special bond between grandparents and grandchildren.

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MOMMA_BEAR_69 2/12/2012 1:03AM

    SUPER!!! Thank you so much for sharing.

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FLAME42 2/11/2012 9:48PM

    Read all of these a second time before I came to comment. Couldn't pick out just one as a favorite, they all have such meaning to a grandmother. Now I know why the older grandchildren come & talk for hours, they are just beginning to understand their lives. Since I had 4 yr. old Alex starting at 4 a.m. I was intriqued by the energy one.

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A Tribute To Grandparents

Friday, February 10, 2012

Grandmas are moms with lots of frosting. Author Unknown

What a bargain grandchildren are! I give them my loose change, and they give me a million dollars' worth of pleasure. Gene Perret

Grandmothers are just "antique" little girls. Author Unknown

Perfect love sometimes does not come until the first grandchild. Welsh Proverb

A grandmother is a babysitter who watches the kids instead of the television. Author Unknown

Never have children, only grandchildren. Gore Vidal

Becoming a grandmother is wonderful. One moment you're just a mother. The next you are all-wise and prehistoric. Pam Brown

Grandchildren don't stay young forever, which is good because Grandfathers have only so many horsy rides in them. Gene Perret

When grandparents enter the door, discipline flies out the window. Ogden Nash

Grandma always made you feel she had been waiting to see just you all day and now the day was complete. Marcy DeMaree (one of my favorites.)

Grandmas never run out of hugs or cookies. Author Unknown

Grandmas hold our tiny hands for just a little while, but our hearts forever. Author Unknown (Another favorite)

If I had known how wonderful it would be to have grandchildren, I'd have had them first. Lois Wyse

My grandkids believe I'm the oldest thing in the world. And after two or three hours with them, I believe it too. Gene Perret

If becoming a grandmother was only a matter of choice, I should advise every one of you straight away to become one. There is no fun for old people like it! Hannah Whithall Smith (Love this one too)

It's such a grand thing to be a mother of a mother---that's why the world calls her grandmother. Author Unknown

More Later..........

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SHARON10002 2/11/2012 10:32PM

    Love it! Just found out that I am going to be a grandma for the first time!

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PATTISTAMPS 2/11/2012 3:04PM

    That is so sweet! I really love it. I never had kids, and I am so envious of my sister who is a grandma! I am going to sent this to her, for sure!!!

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NEW-CAZ 2/11/2012 3:09AM

    cute Patti, loved them

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INFLATED 2/11/2012 12:25AM

    Loved these.

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FLAME42 2/10/2012 8:17PM

    Loved everyone of these! Guess I won't have time to watch TV tomorrow according to these rules. Alex will be here at 4 a.m.

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PENNYAN45 2/10/2012 7:19PM

    I couldn't agree more with all these sayings.
Being a grandmother - the mother of a father - has brought great joy to my life.


I posted one of these as my status on my page -- referring them back to your blog.

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    Grandchildren are our chance to spoil as we never felt we could with our children. And, ha ha ~ at the end of the day, we can send the dear little ones home!

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MS.ELENI 2/10/2012 5:46PM

    so true
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