Monday, February 13, 2012
DO have it out face to face. This means truly face to face, not text to text or seething email to seething email.
DON'T avoid the fight. If something's been bugging you.....eventually, it'll come out. Choosing to let it out in a calm, constructive way will lead to a better outcome than waiting until you unleash on him in an inappropriate place.
DON'T state opinion as fact. Instead of saying matter-of-factly that your partner is disrespectful---a sure way to get them immediately defensive---pick an example and ease into it with an "I" statement.
DON'T pick a fight in public. You won't get anywhere when there's an audience around you, so save the drama for the stage, not your sister's engagement party or your significant other's office party. Wait until you get home---- or until you get to the car-----to bring up whatever's bothering you.
DO stay on topic. First you're fighting about your mother-in-law, and next thing you know, every fight from the past 15 years is on the table. Take a deep breath and bring it back to the source of the argument---and work together on solving just that one this time around. Save some fun for next week!
DON'T fight to win. Fight with the intention of meeting in the middle, not with the intention to crush the competition. "Winning" the argument may feel good in the moment, but it's compromise that will actually lead to fewer arguments about the same thing in the future.
DO end on the same page. Make the fight worth it by getting some real problem-solving done---and confirm with each other that you're going back to your corners with that same solution in mind.
Fight fair-------instead of fighting to the death!!!
Sunday, February 12, 2012
Forget what you've heard about death by chocolate. A new Harvard study shows that chocolate may be good for your heart. It's a great day for chocolate lovers everywhere.
Murray Mittleman and his colleagues at Harvard Medical School studied data on 31,823 middle-aged and elderly Swedish women to assess the relationship between chocolate and heart failure. The women who consumed an average of one to two servings (that's a fairly small amount) of high-quality, cocoa-rich chocolate per week had a 32% lower risk of experiencing heart failure. Those women who ate 1 to 3 servings a month had a 26% lower risk of heart failure.
The scientists noted that the high concentration of phytonutrients called flavonoids in dark chocolate are potent antioxidants that are likely responsible for the results.. The flavonoids are believed to lower blood pressure and reducing inflammation linked with heart failure.
Keep in mind that not just any chocolate will do. Forget the vast majority of candy bars on the market. The study results were achieved with high-quality, cocoa-rich chocolate. Read DARK chocolate. The darker the better. And, be sure the one you choose is low in sugar, has no trans or hydrogenated fats, and no artificial colors, flavors, or other synthetic ingredients.
Saturday, February 11, 2012
Grandchildren are God's way of compensating us for growing old. Mary H. Waldrip
You do not really understand something unless you can explain it to your grandmother. Proverb
An hour with your grandchildren can make you feel young again. Anything longer that that, and you start to age quickly. Gene Perret
The best baby-sitters, of course, are the baby's grandparents. You feel completely comfortable entrusting your baby to them for long periods, which is why most grandparents flee to Florida. Dave Barry
I wish I had the energy that my grandchildren have---if only for self-defense. Gene Perret
Grandmother/Grandchild relationships are simple. Grandmas are short on criticism and long on love. Author Unknown
Nobody can do for little children what grandparents do.....Grandparents sort of sprinkle stardust over the lives of little children. Alex Haley (Love it)
Grandmother---a wonderful mother with lots of practice. Author Unknown
A grandparent is old on the outside but young on the inside. Author Unknown
One of the most powerful handclasps is that of a new grandbaby around the finger of a grandfather. Joy Hargrove (When our grand-daughter was born, my husband was holding her and she wrapped her fingers around one of his. He looked down and tears rolled down his face.........and he NEVER cries.)
It's amazing how grandparents seem so young once you become one. Author Unknown
If your baby is "beautiful and perfect, never cries or fusses, sleeps on schedule and burps on demand, an angel all the time," you're the grandma. Teresa Bloomingdale
Grandparents are similar to a piece of string---handy to have around and easily wrapped around the fingers of their grandchildren. Author Unknown
What is it about grandparents that is so lovely? I'd like to say that grandparents are God's gifts to children. And if they can but see, hear and feel what these people have to give, they can mature at a fast rate. Bill Cosby
Grandchildren don't make a man feel old.....It's the knowledge that he's married to a grandmother. G. Norman Collie
Friday, February 10, 2012
Grandmas are moms with lots of frosting. Author Unknown
What a bargain grandchildren are! I give them my loose change, and they give me a million dollars' worth of pleasure. Gene Perret
Grandmothers are just "antique" little girls. Author Unknown
Perfect love sometimes does not come until the first grandchild. Welsh Proverb
A grandmother is a babysitter who watches the kids instead of the television. Author Unknown
Never have children, only grandchildren. Gore Vidal
Becoming a grandmother is wonderful. One moment you're just a mother. The next you are all-wise and prehistoric. Pam Brown
Grandchildren don't stay young forever, which is good because Grandfathers have only so many horsy rides in them. Gene Perret
When grandparents enter the door, discipline flies out the window. Ogden Nash
Grandma always made you feel she had been waiting to see just you all day and now the day was complete. Marcy DeMaree (one of my favorites.)
Grandmas never run out of hugs or cookies. Author Unknown
Grandmas hold our tiny hands for just a little while, but our hearts forever. Author Unknown (Another favorite)
If I had known how wonderful it would be to have grandchildren, I'd have had them first. Lois Wyse
My grandkids believe I'm the oldest thing in the world. And after two or three hours with them, I believe it too. Gene Perret
If becoming a grandmother was only a matter of choice, I should advise every one of you straight away to become one. There is no fun for old people like it! Hannah Whithall Smith (Love this one too)
It's such a grand thing to be a mother of a mother---that's why the world calls her grandmother. Author Unknown
Thursday, February 09, 2012
(With any medical treatment, you should talk to your doctor to see what's right for you.)
1. Probiotics. The idea that good bacteria could crowd out bad ones makes sense, which is why scientists weren't surprised when a review last fall of 10 studies on probiotics found people taking supplements or yogurt with these cultures had 12% fewer upper respiratory tract infections. Another study confirmed that children, too, develop fewer bouts of coughs and runny noses. To be most effective, probiotics should be taken daily.
2. Zinc. Taken at the first hint of a cold (rather than continuously), seems to make your bout shorter and less severe, according to a review of 15 studies. The best way to take is in lozenges, since coating your throat stops the virus from proliferating.
3. Echinacea. A recent study by University of Wisconsin cold-remedy expert Bruce Barrett, MD, found this herb works no better than a placebo. But other trials had shown that it does. When all the studies are considered together, Barrett believes echinacea may lessen symptom severity by about 15%. Not great, but better than nothing.
4. Vitamin C. Despite its reputation as a sniffle-prevention powerhouse, Finnish researchers reviewing some two-dozen studies concluded it doesn't keep colds from coming on. Still, taking it regularly seems to make colds a bit shorter, Barrett says. You don't want more than a few grams daily, he cautions, or load up on citrus fruits, tomatoes, potatoes and juices.
5. Chicken Soup. Small laboratory studies have confirmed that its key ingredients reduce the inflammation that makes your cold feel so miserable, and they also speed mucous clearing. Maybe even more valuable, the warm liquid---and its memories of mom or grandma---make chicken soup super-soothing.
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