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adult day care

Thursday, August 22, 2013

I am doing better today. Yesterday was soooooo hard. It was not pretty and I just lost it. My mother-in-law drove me to a place I don't want to be. So today, as I walked and talked to God, He gave me such peace. I came home and had a long talk with my husband about it. I suggested we look into daycare for his mom and he agreed it would be a good idea. So we will go to check out the place today. I hope that having her go even one day a week will give us a sense of sanity again. You see, my m-i-l has dementia, her eye sight is failing and she can't hear with a darn. She has lived with us for 18 years now. Very trying... Anyone else out there in this situation??
By the way, I found my yarn!!!! Now I will have a way to keep my hands busy!!! YEAH!!!

  
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POUTINGPEGGY 9/5/2013 5:22AM

    I used to work in day care for older people. The people who came loved it. There carers, like you, loved it too. It will give you a little time for yourself and a chance to come to. God bless

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JILL4KELLY 8/22/2013 1:13PM

    I noticed the name of your blog on a mutual Team and had to look as my daughter is in Adult Day Care. Based on our daughter's needs, the day care option was the best for all of us when she aged out of school (at 22) and therefore it was fairly easy to send her. But I want to say that they are absolutely wonderful to her and for her. She attends 5 days a week (I work full time) and enjoys being there with others of her relative abilities and the staff is just wonderful!

I do understand the 'letting go' that you are going through since her father and I have realized that we will not be able to care for Kelly the rest of her life and have recently started putting her on wait lists for a permanent home (these facilities are geared towards adults with severe and special needs). Once she is placed (5-10 year waiting list for them), she can only be out of the home, overnight 18 days of the year (some strange Medicaid ruling). That is going to be super hard on us. But over time, we have come to realize (as you are doing now) that we just won't be able to do what is best for her at home.

My advice? Do what is best for all of you, most of the time. Would Kelly prefer to be at home full time more that 2 days a week? Sure - but that would not be best for all of us. Would we love to keep Kelly with us for her entire life? Sure - but that would not be best for all of us. I could never have stayed home with Kelly 24/7 - I would have become angry and mean, but having a break and being around typical adults allows me to be my best around Kelly. And Kelly having a break from me, allows her to be her happiest!

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MYUTMOST4HIM 8/22/2013 11:03AM

    My DH and I use to manage a home for the elderly. The state you M I L is in requires a lot of care and a break one day a week is a GREAT idea.
I hope you and DH don't feel guilty about this - it is and will be so good for your M I L as well as you and DH.
Hang in there
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empty nest

Friday, August 16, 2013

Well, it is time for my two youngest to go back to college. This is going to be tough. My oldest two are getting a place of their own. So I will be at home with my husband and mother in law! We have just moved as well, so I need to find something to do! I have not located my yarn yet, and I don't have my sewing room set up yet either. My mother in law is driving me crazy already.! She is worse than a little child. She will be 97 in November. She has no memory, except what has happened over 75 years ago. She can't hear and she can't see very well. I can not take my frustrations out by eating! I don't want to slip back to the old me. I have worked hard to get where I am! HELP!
Sorry, this is a very mixed up blog...

  
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CHERIJ16 8/18/2013 9:49AM

    Think one day, one step at a time. Give yourself a little free time even if it's just 15 minutes and do something you enjoy. emoticon

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SPARKLINGHOPE 8/17/2013 6:36PM

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LOOKINGUP2012 8/17/2013 7:59AM

    emoticon It has to be hard on you all moving right now. Hope her space turns out much the same.

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DJ4HEALTH 8/17/2013 12:43AM

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SPERRIN2012 8/16/2013 10:22PM

    Steady, deep breaths
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JIACOLO 8/16/2013 10:22PM

    Set a goal for yourself to find an activity or set up your sewing room. Then you will have the focus you need to keep yourself busy and avoid emotional eating. Good luck!

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stuck in a hole

Friday, August 09, 2013

Well, our move is 99 percent complete. Sorry to say, my healthy eating habits have not moved with me. I feel like all II have been doing since we got here is eat! I feel so helpless. I am trying to get things in place in my kitchen because I do a lot of cooking and it is important for me to get it organized. I need to stop this nonsense and get back to eating the way I know I should. I feel sluggish and tired and I know that is not helping my attitude. I need to take it one minute at a time and celebrate when I get through the day without giving in.

  
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SPARKLINGHOPE 8/9/2013 2:16PM

    Best wishes!

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july 4

Wednesday, July 03, 2013

Day 1 of moving begins tomorrow. Loading up the van with whatever will fit. Then off to buy a few new things for our new house. Picnic in there somewhere too and will do my best to make wise choices!

  
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SPARKLINGHOPE 7/4/2013 10:35AM

    Best wishes!

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Moving

Tuesday, July 02, 2013

Ugh, I hate to move, I hate to pack, I hate the whole moving thing. Stress, stress, stress, makes me want to eat, eat, eat. If I can maintain my weight during this process, I will be very happy...

  
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PATIENTSAM 7/3/2013 11:53AM

    Thanks everyone. I appreciate your support! I would much rather be quilting than packing though! lol
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SPARKLINGHOPE 7/3/2013 8:59AM

    Best wishes!

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STR458 7/2/2013 7:30PM

    emoticon you got this

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PATIENTSAM 7/2/2013 4:26PM

    Thanks, Barbara and Aggieliz

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REMEMBER_THIS 7/2/2013 4:25PM

    We will be moving too, I so understand!!!!
Good luck to you.

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BARBARASDIET 7/2/2013 3:52PM

    I agree and feel your pain!

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AGGIELIZ 7/2/2013 1:53PM

    lists lists lists - that's the secret of moving! I don't mind moving (I've done plenty of it!) though after every move I always say: never again. Just like having babies! emoticon But just like having babies, it's always worth it! emoticon

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PATIENTSAM 7/2/2013 1:30PM

    Thanks, Diana

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DIANAOR1 7/2/2013 1:13PM

    Just think you are keeping your hands busy by packing. Keep small snacks so that you don't overload. Lots of luck!!! emoticon

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