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Life Changes

Friday, November 21, 2014

Life changes...that could be taken in a couple different ways. There have been changes in my life that have caused me to make other changes in my life. After mother died in February there were all kinds of changes. Would have been easier to deal with if mother had done the paperwork she should have. Do your loved ones a favor people! Get a will and power of attorney in place! Decide if you want a DNR and take care of that too! Talk to your local funereal director and get final arrangements started. Pre-plan! It's been 9 months and I'm still sorting things out.
Unfortunately, none of this has helped my health. I put on almost 30# and have had days when I could barely move. Finally got to a doctor a couple weeks ago and got put through a battery of tests. Results...high blood pressure, high cholesterol, elevated liver something or other and diabetes. No surprise there! 4 diabetics in 3 generations. I also had an irregular EKG which with everything else gave my doctor concern that I was "at risk of imminent heart attack"! Yeah, no stress there! Good news is meds are working, further tests show my heart is working as it should and the mammogram shows the Ta Ta's are healthy. Still have an ultrasound of the liver and gallbladder to do. Doctor is expecting results to be fatty liver disease because of my weight, but she feels that will resolve itself as I lose weight. More good news is I've gone from 260 to 253.4. Yay!

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MORTICIAADDAMS 11/21/2014 5:26PM

    My mother planned things well and when died everything she owned I immediately owned. There was no will and no need for one.

My MIL didn't do too well. She should have set up a special needs trust for one of my husband's brother so it took us over 2 years to get the estate settled.

I'm with you on the health front. Same thing happened to me when my MIL died. I had no time for myself and no time to consider my health. Things went down the tubes and I'm digging out. Sounds like you are doing well. emoticon

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KAREN608 11/21/2014 12:54PM

    Glad your weight is down... sounds like the stress was hard on you.

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Anyone doing genealogy on

Sunday, April 13, 2014

I had my genealogy on my computer , but neglected to have a backup. So when the computer crashed...well, you know! Recently my mother passed and I started updating my written records. I had downloaded the app, but have been too busy to do anything with it. I decided this was as good a time as any to recreate the pedigree online and put another copy on removable storage.

I began entering information on the pedigree chart and got quite a bit entered before I realized the numbers assigned each individual didn't match the position on a chart. By that I mean, on a pedigree chart I'm number 1, my father is 2, mother would be 3, my grandparents would be 4, 5, 6 & 7 and so on. However, as I was entering people this time I found my mother was now 13. The grandfather who should have been 8 was now 3. I don't know if I messed up a setting somewhere, or what, but this is a problem for me since no one past my father and myself will match up to the reference numbers on my wall chart.

Does any of this make sense to anyone? Any suggestions?

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PAMNANGEL 4/13/2014 10:32PM

    Sorry, I'm not very good at explaining things. The spaces on the charts are already numbered, at least, they are on the charts I have. The person starting the chart is #1, your father is #2, your mother is #3, etc.... I use a large wall chart to help me visualize what I've got on what lines and which family lines I need to work on.

My problem has nothing to do with emails. I'm trying to figure out how to renumber the entries on a pedigree chart. Apparently it can be done, but my current computer doesn't have internet access to I can't get to the help files to figure out how.

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    My father and maternal grandparents did out charts.

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GENRE009 4/13/2014 9:30PM

    If your computer crashes can't you go to the library and still pull up your email? I know I could pull up all my stuff. Maybe what you are talking about is losing your files, right. eva

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COOKIE_AT_51 4/13/2014 6:52PM

    I use it but didn't put in people by number just started with me then my parents ,,, their parents so on. Not sure what you mean by using numbers?

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BIGPAWSUP 4/13/2014 6:07PM

    I understand a pedigree chart but I've never used Ancestry. Best of luck.

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Coming back from financial disaster

Saturday, March 15, 2014

Coming back from a financial disaster. That's the goal. Real question is how. This time of year is a financial dead zone for petsitting. Always has been, but wasn't too bad before the economy crashed. I made enough to get by comfortably. Since the crash, I've depended heavily on the money I was paid for taking care of mother to get through until summer. I've spent years looking for something I could do from home. Most just didn't work with the space I have to work with. One actually backfired and left me heavily in debt. I started making soap and that shows promise (It's really good soap). A few months back I started making jewelry too, something I've dabbled with in the past. I had set up a shop on Etsy intending to sell the soap there (I should start listing soap soon). I put my first jewelry pieces online and it started getting views. Finally got my first sales. Yay!
It's going to be awhile before I can rely it for any real income, but it's a start. I'm focusing on paying my regular bills and hope to get funding to buy a new sewing machine so I can add tote bags, quilts, cat toys, etc... Oh, but I digress. The immediate future is truly frightening. One account overdrawn, another will be shortly, credit card over limit. The bank can't release my mothers remaining bank balance because I haven't had enough to renew my drivers license yet, my car insurance is due today and more bills coming very soon. I'm selling everything of my mothers I can, but haven't had many buyers yet. One of my clients donated a pair of shoes to sell, the woman at the cemetary felt so sorry for me she insisted on giving me a check to buy groceries. How sad is that? I'm trying to reach someone from church to see if they can help. People keep telling me I'm doing everything I can. It just doesn't seem to be enough.

Now I'm being harassed by an insurance company whose clients car I bumped into 2 years ago when my brakes failed.

4/29/14 I got desperate enough to set up a fundraiser account on a couple days ago. So far not one person has cared enough to help. Am I too pathetic, not pathetic enough or just not worth anyone caring about?

5/15/14 So far I've gotten gotten $45 in donations. That combined with what's left of my mothers money took care of this months car insurance. Still have to pay the phone, storage and my PO Box. Can't run my businesses without the phone and PO Box. The storage unit has items I need for work also. I need to bring them up to date so I can go in to clean out the unit. I'm holding a yard sale this weekend. Hopefully it'll be a good weekend for yard sales. I was hoping to go to a gem show tomorrow to get more supplies for my jewelry shop. So far I don't have enough gas to even get there. Oh well. What's a person gonna do?

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MORTICIAADDAMS 3/15/2014 10:27PM

    I'm sending prayers that your financial situation will change soon. emoticon

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BIGPAWSUP 3/15/2014 4:13PM

    I have no real advice but I will send hopes and prayers your way.

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GENRE009 3/15/2014 1:02PM

    I send you something to stimulate your money situation. I want you to listen to what I have to say:
1. you need to call a lawyer, and ask if you can get some kind of documentation to connect you to her money, monthly money, and also permanently if she dies. talk to her about it. You need an estate will. She is still a live right? then have her help with that.
2.Take her into the bank, and connect your name into her accounts, Also where you don't need two signatures to take money out. Have her write you checks for your services in her care weekly also. Keep a copy of these checks, cause I don't think you have to pay taxes on them. Also charge her for services like eating, cleaning, rent, and take at least a certain amount out on paper daily- keep track. take to a lawyer about that also.
3. You need to go to Social security, and also tell them that her care is costing you X amount, and that you need to take this from her disability, or social security? If this isn't the right department for that, then it's human services, where people get food stamps, call 211 -to find out .
4. You apply for services at human services, but remember you food, and eating is separt, other wise they cute back your monies.
email me, and tell me where you are having problems, and I will try to help you, take care. Also, the Jewelry thing, and soap to me isn't something that will bring you a lot of monies unless you have a place that has a big turn over of shoppers. mostly jewelry will go. But here in Michigan luxuries, aren't moving as well. you need constant monies. bye, eva

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FLYER99 3/15/2014 11:15AM

    This is such a sad post. So many people have never recovered from the recession. The economy is just still so very bad. It seems you are doing what you can. The church may help. Are there other agencies that may be of assistance? Also, some places have free debt counselling where they draw up budgets and do debt consolidation. I am praying for you. God Bless! Bob.

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Mom's coming home for last time

Wednesday, January 29, 2014

My mother has had diabetes for over 40 years. In the last 10-15 years she's also developed issues with congestive heart failure and renal failure. In September she ended up in the hospital with a sore on a toe and has spent more time in the hospital and nursing home than at home. In fact, she got home a week ago and was back in the hospital by Sunday with what we thought was a sinus infection. Today I got a call. Her body is failing. It can't take much more dialysis and apparently the coughing was congestive heart failure. She decided to sign a DNR and asked to go home with hospice care. They give her 2 weeks at best.

We thought we would have at least a couple more years. Time for me to get enough money together to buy an RV so I have a place to live and keep my fur-family together. As her caretaker I was getting paid to care for my mother. Not having her around for most of the last few months has been an emotional and financial drain. I'm just about broke. Business is extremely slow this time of year. I've only had a couple visits this month and, so far, I've got 2 or 3 next month. Trying to earn extra making jewelry, but that's just getting started. Haven't even had a sale yet. Some people are going to help me set up a gofundme page and I'm going to be selling everything pretty much everything I own that won't fit in an RV. Could use all the prayers I can get. Next few weeks gonna be rough.

2/10-Mother passed away this morning. My brothers & nephew are outside already plotting.

Family is behaving better than expected so far. They know mother and I talked at length about things, so I know what she wanted. I'm going to check with the cemetary this week to be sure we can inter both my parents together on March 28th. We've had Dad sitting here long enough and March 28th would have been their 55th wedding anniversary.

2/27-Brought mothers cremains home yesterday and we're almost finished clearing her storage unit. Next few weeks are going to be a lot of cleaning and sorting. Found out if we can find my fathers discharge papers the military will provide the headstone. Still have to pay to have it placed. Going to be having a lot of yard sales. Some of the more collectible things will probably go on EBay and Etsy.

3/6-found out there's an endowment fee that didn't get included in what was paid when we bought the plot, so I've got to come up with $120 for that. Also learned that unless I can find a piece of mail from 2005 addressed to my dad at a Roseville address he'll be considered a non-resident because he spent 9 months at a nursing home in Carmichael before he passed. That would cost us an additional $350 to inter him. That's $470 I have to come up with before the 28th. I'm hoping the weather will allow us to have a yard sale on the 15/16th, but the odds of us raising nearly $500 is not good.

3/7-Woooooo! Thank you Lord! The funeral home had a copy of dad's death certificate which showed a Roseville address for him! Still have to come up with the endowment fee, but $120 is a whole lot better than $470!

3/11-Had to get endowment fee from grandmother, but it's paid and everything is a go. My parents will go to their final rest together March 28th.

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DONNABRIGHT 2/7/2014 2:40PM

    Sorry to hear about this - prayers on the way for both of you.

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CLOVER2 2/7/2014 1:14PM

    You and your mother will be in my prayers. Trust that God will take care of you, he is always there. It's going to be tough but you can do it. We'll be here, whenever you need us.
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BIGPAWSUP 1/30/2014 12:31PM

    Prayers and hugs! Love and Light coming your way.

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MUMBLES40 1/30/2014 8:30AM

    Sending prayers and hugs your way- so sorry to hear about your Mom.

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STEPHLOKI 1/30/2014 1:03AM

    So sorry you have to go through all this

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KAREN608 1/29/2014 11:19PM

    Sorry about your Mom. Will pray, and for you to find a place for you and fur-babies. I realize that with more than one pet you can't get into HUD housing. All of us are just a paycheck away from dire straits.

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ONEWAYALI 1/29/2014 9:33PM

    Thinking of you. So sorry to hear about your mom.

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GAYEMC 1/29/2014 9:33PM

    So sorry about your mother. I lost mine many years ago to cancer so I know how hard it can be. You both will be in my thoughts.

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    I'm so sorry about your mom. I am sending prayers for both you and her. emoticon

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BJPENNY70 1/29/2014 9:14PM

    So sorry to hear about your mom. Losing someone you love is very hard. I will pray for you. GOD will take care of your financial needs. Just trust in HIM! Hugs!

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Emergency Help Needed

Friday, December 27, 2013

On twitter I've recently met a woman who could be me. Hard working, health issues, devoted 12 years of her life to caring for her mother. She's now living in a Motel 8, but only for a few more days. Friends have pitched in what they can and, last I checked, her room is paid until the 1st. After that she'll be living in her car with 2 elderly cats (11 & 14) while trying to cope with lupus in freezing weather. She's at her wits end. The shelters are all full and they don't allow pets anyway. She won't give up Buddy and Freddie. They're all she has left since her mom died.
Is there anyone in the Ames, Iowa area who could help her out. She just needs a safe place for her and the boys so she can get back on her feet. She doesn't have ties to anyplace in particular and is willing to relocate just about anywhere.

We're keeping our fingers crossed. There have been a couple possible leads tonight on temp housing including the offer to stay in a motorhome if she can get to Colorado. We'll know more tomorrow. If it works out we'll be looking for gas cards to help her get there. People have been so supportive. Prayers, donations of food & cat litter, gas money, money for the motel room...I'm very close to being in the same situation she's in. This has given me hope for my own future.

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JITZUROE 12/31/2013 3:30PM

    Ohhhh I hope someone was able to help!!!

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GAYEMC 12/27/2013 8:15PM

    I work with the homeless here in Portland and here stories like that all the time. It is so sad. We have a lot of shelters here and also free places to eat but it's not enough to help all those on the streets. I hope she can find something, you might reach out to some of the churches in your area.

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CIPHER1971 12/27/2013 5:23PM

    I hope you find some one, sending best wishes and positive vibes.

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BIGPAWSUP 12/27/2013 4:46PM

    Prayer hope love and light is all I've got for her.

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MORTICIAADDAMS 12/27/2013 2:57PM

    I sent a prayer for her.

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