Tuesday, July 29, 2014
"I wonder, What does it feel like to really belong?"
Background for where this question came from:
This last Sunday, my h.s. graduation class of 50+ years ago, had their more or less monthly brunch scheduled for 9AM at a local restaurant. Since I usually have an early breakfast and cannot afford calorie-wise two breakfasts, I arrived early and ordered my breakfast right away. (note: I also had a 10AM meeting I wanted to attend in another nearby town.) Meanwhile, I was nearly done eating by the time others began to arrive, and was completely finished by the time that last of them straggled into the restaurant. I offered my seat to the last arrivals. Said my good-byes and left, oh your wondering how many showed up? Counting classmates and their side-kicks there were about 24 tushes in chairs around the tables that had been pushed together, all chattering away like long lost best friends.
The birth of the question:
On my way to my next stop of the day, the question popped into my mind. I wonder what it would feel like to really belong? You see, I would really like to fit in, but I almost always feel like I am on the outside pressing my nose against the window, looking at everyone else on the inside having an absolutely marvelous time while I am on the wrong side of a locked door. OH, yes, back to the question. Well, I chatted with myself for quite a bit of time and finally figured out that ….. those who I feel like they belong, WELL, feelings never cross their mind. They do not think about whether they belong or they fit in. They never question that they might be less a part of the group than anyone else. They are just there.
So my conclusion, aka answer, to the question:
No one “FEELS” like they belong.
You just keep putting yourself into the group, and as long as they do not actually put up barriers to keep you out… You belong. IF they put up the barriers… then it isn’t ‘feeling’ like you don’t belong. It becomes you have been kicked out of the group. AND, if you get kicked out of the group, then it probably was not a group that you really wanted to be a part of anyway. Oh, you may have thought you wanted the temporal status of belonging to the group; but I will bet dollars to doughnuts you did NOT really want any of those people as a FRIEND.
We all have lots of acquaintances, people to whom we say hello, nod our heads, and maybe share small talk, aka idle chit-chat. But Friends, they are a scarce commodity. They are the people with whom you share your deepest, darkest secrets. The people of whom you may ask anything at anytime and know with absolute certainty they will be there for you immediately if not sooner. Few people actually have more than a half-dozen friends over a whole life-time. True Friends are indeed a rare breed and something to be treasured for their rarity.
Are you a “Friend” to at least one other person… remembering that the other person needs to feel and know that they can trust you with everything they think and have experienced, that you will be there for them through thick and thin no matter what. You will not judge them, nor will you share anything they share with you with any other person. Are you that person? If you are, you truly are a very special person. May the Lord God bless you and keep you, and make certain your ‘needs’ are met. And hopefully some of your wants, too; as a reward here on earth for being one of God’s angels here on earth.
Friday, July 25, 2014
found this in my email inbox this morning... and decided to share it with those who happened by. I thought it was an interesting read. Not sure of the validity of the authorship and do not know when it was originally penned.
Statue of Liberty
For some reason, people have difficulty structuring their arguments when arguing against supporting the currently proposed immigration revisions. This lady made the argument pretty simple. NOT printed in the Orange County Paper ...
Newspapers simply won't publish letters to the editor which they either deem politically incorrect (read below) or which does not agree with the philosophy they're pushing on the public. This woman wrote a great letter to the editor that should have been published; but, with your help, it will get published via cyberspace!
From: "David LaBonte"
My wife, Rosemary, wrote a wonderful letter to the editor of the OC Register which, of course, was not printed. So, I decided to "print" it myself by sending it out on the Internet. Pass it along if you feel so inclined. Written in response to a series of letters to the editor in the Orange County Register:
So many letter writers have based their arguments on how this land is made up of immigrants. Ernie Lujan for one, suggests we should tear down the Statue of Liberty because the people now in question aren't being treated the same as those who passed through Ellis Island and other ports of entry.
Maybe we should turn to our history books and point out to people like Mr. Lujan why today's American is not willing to accept this new kind of immigrant any longer. Back in 1900 when there was a rush from all areas of Europe to come to the United States, people had to get off a ship and stand in a long line in New York and be documented. Some would even get
down on their hands and knees and kiss the ground. They made a pledge to uphold the laws and support their new country in good and bad times. They made learning English a primary rule in their new American households and some even changed their names to blend in with their new home.
They had waved good-bye to their birth place to give their children a new life and did everything in their power to help their children assimilate into one culture. Nothing was handed to them. No free lunches, no welfare, no labor laws to protect them. All they had were the skills and craftsmanship they had brought with them to trade for a future of prosperity.
Most of their children came of age when World War II broke out. My father fought alongside men whose parents had come straight over from Germany , Italy , France and Japan . None of these 1st generation Americans ever gave any thought about what country their parents had come from. They were Americans fighting Hitler, Mussolini and the Emperor of Japan . They were defending the United States of America as one people.
When we liberated France , no one in those villages were looking for the French-American or the German-American or the Irish-American. The people of France saw only Americans. And we carried one flag that represented one country. Not one of those immigrant sons would have thought about picking up another country's flag and waving it to represent who they were. It would have been a disgrace to their parents who had sacrificed so much to be here. These immigrants truly knew what it meant to be an American. They stirred the melting pot into one red, white and blue bowl.
And here we are with a new kind of immigrant who wants the same rights and privileges. Only they want to achieve it by playing with a different set of rules, one that includes the entitlement card and a guarantee of being faithful to their mother country. I'm sorry, that's not what being an American is all about. I believe that the immigrants who landed on Ellis Island in the early 1900's deserve better than that for all the toil, hard work and sacrifice in raising future generations to create a land that has become a beacon for those legally searching for a better life. I think they would be appalled that they are being used as an example by those waving foreign country flags.
And for that suggestion about taking down the Statue of Liberty , it happens to mean a lot to the citizens who are voting on the immigration bill. I wouldn't start talking about dismantling the United States just yet.
KEEP THIS LETTER MOVING. FOR THE WRONG THINGS TO PREVAIL THE RIGHTFUL MAJORITY NEEDS TO REMAIN COMPLACENT AND QUIET!! LET THIS NEVER HAPPEN!!
I sincerely hope this letter gets read by millions of people all across the nation!!
God bless America !
Wednesday, July 23, 2014
Today's daily spark... the inglorious Fruit & Vegetable...
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