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7DBC: Strategy

Saturday, January 12, 2013

What 3 strategic initiatives would you like to accomplish this year?

Smart alec response 1: Is there anyone who smells a business consultant nearby? Really, I'm having flashbacks to my marketing career.

Smart alec response 2: Olivia Newton John moment "Lets get STRATEGIC, STRATEGIC. Lets get into strategy. Let me hear your body talk. Your body talk..."

I actually have NO strategy this year. I'm just sort of wandering and bumbling thru life at this point because with my career in shambles I just dont have the ability to make a long range plan. I had one, but when I lost my job the whole thing was just blown out of the water and now I'm just trying to make it one day at a time.

Weight loss: I'm pretty happy with where I'm at now. I had my hand on my hip the other day and realized that I could reach from my front hip to my back hip and feel both bones. I'm not boney, there is still plenty of ME, but if my weight loss slows, I'll of course be disappointing, but minorly. I'm getting pretty close to what I think is a good weight for me healthwise. Its a small 12/ large 10. I need to continue with the weights (more challenging now that I cant go to group classes and I'd like to add some muscle. Am I the only one that thinks a little muscle on women is incredibly sexy?

Racing: I'd like to have a well thought out racing season this year, the goal being one event per month. Start with some 5Ks in March/ April, June the Hopewell Junction Triathlon, July: Orange County Classic 10K, August West Point Triathlon, maybe a Du in September and perhaps volunteer at the Inaugural Hamiltonian Marathon in October.

Shh. There is a quiet hope in my heart, that eventually, some day, I will be able to run a half marathon. There are a number of challenges in the way. 1) No Local event 2) Time to train (CINERICIA can leave her kids at home for an hour and not worry about them setting fire to the house) I'd like to do Disney's Half. Someone here on Spark posted about the experience and it just sounded SO NICE. The Rock N Roll Marathon series also sounds tremendous. I think its within my eventual abilities, but not my grasp this year. So we file it under "eventually."

A few words on where I am working. Its a new school for severely emotionally disturbed kids. About half are in residence on the campus and the other half are bussed in from all over the county. For 60 kids, we have 6 VERY LARGE security guards - and they keep them busy! There are bright spots every day - the kid that tries, the kid that keeps it together, the kid who all of a sudden gets it. And there is a steady march of insults, foul language and "testing" (if you work with teenagers, you know what being tested is). There is MUCH talk at my job that they will grow a position for me part time teaching/ part time aide, so I need to see what happens there. I hope I grow into it and it becomes a calling. These are special kids that need a special person. I feel very shallow that I am disappointed to be here instead of a regular school. I am hoping this is an good opportunity. Keep in mind I've only been there 4 days!

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    Special kids with special needs need the right person for the job.
Be sure you love the challenge, can take the verbal abuse and will still love yourself when you go home at night if things haven't gone well.

YOU are special for wanting to give it a go! emoticon

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GODIVADSG 1/18/2013 7:15AM

    Boy that job sounds like a change from what you have been doing. I like that you are looking for the bright spots in the day. It is another opportunity to learn! You never know how God is going to use you either. Thank you for working with them. They need good teachers!
You can so do a half marathon! It is all about consistency and training... if I can do it, girl.....you can do it! Although I like both of those races I do get highly annoyed at the cost of both of them. I just don't think it should cost THAT much to run. There are many different races with many different prices! Have fun searching for one!!

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ANDY_54 1/14/2013 8:36PM

    I'll be doing a couple of 5K--I hope in the next few months or so. The Disney run sounds so sool to do! Congrats on the job--wow, it sounds demanding all right--but I hope it grows on you. It takes a special person to handle that kind of job and if you're wondering about it, maybe it's for you. Take care and have a good week!

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MISSIFISH 1/14/2013 11:06AM

    Wow! Your new job sounds challenging! I don't think it is at all strange to have the thoughts you are having about it. I hope you find the rewards great, and that you do wind up enjoying it. That population certainly isn't for everyone.

Thanks for all of your advice after my last blog. I don't think I'm in an exercise rut, but I did decide to go back to the prescribed Turbo Fire schedule since I know I tend to stick to my favorite workouts instead of mixing it up with strength training. I do think it is helping, as I saw scale movement in the RIGHT direction!

I'm not posting it as official until it sticks around for a few days. You know how it is. :)

Good luck with getting in some races. I'm so impressed by all of you amazing competitors!

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MIMETALKER 1/13/2013 3:28PM

    Congratulations on your new job...challenges make us grow. Isn't it great that we don't have to worry about our spirit becoming too big?

Yes, muscles on women ARE sexy.

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CINERICIA 1/13/2013 10:35AM

    Ooohh. Your job sounds like my job but with kids instead of adults. And kids are that much harder, with the hormones and the emotions and the general teenager-y-ness. Congrats. It sounds really fulfilling.

I like your racing plan for the season. Some good stuff there. And I, too, would one day like to run Disney. Perhaps I'll see you there. But shh. I won't tell anyone.

I don't worry about my girls setting the house on fire. That is true. (Little One has a touch of OCD and is a checker.) However, I do worry about them setting *themselves* on fire. They are both...let's call them "challenged" ...in that regard.

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BIGPAWSUP 1/12/2013 9:46PM

    You are going to be great! I know it. You will have a fantastic year!

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ONEKIDSMOM 1/12/2013 9:17PM

    Ooh, ooh, a first time half in your future? When and where? I'm probably booked for 2013, having promised my cousin's daughter the Lady Schick women's HM in St. Pete next November if she trains up for it, and with my full in May right here in town... but I'm up for adventure when you're ready... never say never...

Good luck with the work growing... sometimes it takes a bit to adjust to the challenge one's been handed... and sometimes it's time to accept it's not where the heart is and move on. So, breathe and give it some time, and I'll be rooting for you to have the wisdom and acceptance to make the right choice for YOU.

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LESLIELENORE 1/12/2013 9:03PM

    Sounds like a challenging job! I like your racing goals. I will be doing at least 3 5ks this summer, and I am thinking of walking the women's half marathon at Niagara Falls. Wouldn't that be cool?

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not sure that was a good use of my time

Saturday, January 12, 2013

We interrupt this blog challenge for a swim lesson update.

I paid my money and was the first person to sign up. I had delusions of being the only person and getting private lessons for public price. Instead I was in a group of 5, 3 of whom were learning (deep water issues, face in water issues) myself and another person were comfortable and hoping to get better.

I'm not going to say it was a complete waste of time, but it wasnt thebest use of an hour of my time. I complained to the aquatic director explaining that I was not challenged. She offered to prorate me to private lessons but it was $200 DH and I had just had a discussion about needing to trim expenses.

If they dont split the class (basic adults/ adv adults) I am going to ask for my money back and just make a committment to swimming during open swim time. That would be a better use of my time.

For all of DogLady's protests, I dont think she is going to have to worry about me anytime soon. I might beat her out of the water, but she's totally going to smoke me on the bike. As all triathletes know, the tri is lost in the water or the run, but its won on the bike, where she excels. (And I dont)

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    I hope they'll split the class for you!

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CINERICIA 1/13/2013 8:47AM

    Weird that they would group people of different abilities in the same class. But lessons or no, I know you'll do great with your tris. You're a lean, mean swimming machine. (Except, you know, not at all mean. And not a cyborg. That I know of.)

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BIGPAWSUP 1/12/2013 8:30PM

    You are going to be fantastic! I know both of you are going to do great!

Good luck with your swimming. I hope they fix the problems with the class differential.

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ANSIN2011 1/12/2013 5:10PM

  I would definitely ask for my money back!!!

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LESLIELENORE 1/12/2013 2:57PM

    I agree with DogLady! I am still considering whether I will try and do one this summer or wait until the next.

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DOGLADY13 1/12/2013 2:10PM

    Your gym doesn't offer lessons based on ability? You know, like beginner, intermediate, advanced, competition? Private lessons is the only other option? I call BOGUS!

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ONEKIDSMOM 1/12/2013 9:45AM

    I may be doing the tri vicariously this year... because of my focus on the marathon for 2013, but face it, my heart is in the tri. Spark on, you two... it's going to be such fun watching you do your thing together from afar! emoticon emoticon emoticon

Spark on! emoticon

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7DBC: The Start Doing List

Wednesday, January 09, 2013

Eh gads.

Well for those of you who watch my "Status" feed know I just started a new job. Sorta exciting. Its education, its close to my house. But it's as a teacher's aide, not teaching.

I have been out of work for *2 years* during which time I have applied for hundreds of jobs. In November I looked at my husband and said "If I cant get something by January, that's it. I'm done. I'll get a job as a cashier or secretary." This particular job pays the SAME as those positions, but at least its something I can put on my resume.

So Yes - Starting Things.
1) I will give myself 2-3 weeks to wallow in "Oh god, how do working people find balance time!" Then I will do it. This may mean getting up early for AM runs. This may mean Child gets to watch me sweat with a Jillian DVD. And when the weather gets warmer, I will start bicycling to work (its 3 miles) at least once per week.

2) I am restarting my program, not because I gained a buncha weight over the holiday, but because I need to reset my brain. 10 days of sickness, sloth and eating had a 3 lb impact. I've already lost 2 of the lbs so its really just one that needs my attention. But I was getting lazy with my tracking and eating anyway. So a Start-Fresh is in order.

3) I will restart blogging in my other blog. I havent posted anything since the August Monroe Triathlon. Family members comment that they enjoyed my writing and seeing what I'm up to. Now its just a matter of doing it.

Oh dear. This entry comes perilously close to New Years Resolutions.....

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MISSIFISH 1/11/2013 12:40PM

    Congrats on the job!! I had a friend who was a teacher's aide for less than a year when the lead teacher left and she got the teaching position. I hope this is a great experience for you. Your plans sound good - I hope you enjoy the new lifestyle!

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JPONCIN 1/10/2013 6:26PM

    Are you kidding?!?!? You don't have to deal with grades...parents...standardized testing... I think it sounds like a great gig. Maybe the pay isn't so great, but there is a lot less stress when you are an aide. You will get all that contact with your students, and not so much of the headaches/stress/responsibilities that come with being The Teacher. I'm excited for you.

I'm happy for your re-commitment too. You have great focus. :)

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KRISZTA11 1/10/2013 3:58PM

    I hope you'll like the new job!

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MARTY728 1/10/2013 1:18PM

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GINGERHAWK 1/10/2013 11:00AM

    These are great things to focus on! First, I hope you enjoy the new job. While it may not have been the perfect fit, it's in the field of interest and could open up opportunities in other areas. Second, I try to bike to work somewhat regularly - I have 3.5 miles each ways and it's fairly manageable. Pack the night before, check the weather, and you'll be all set. Once you establish a routine, it becomes a little easier to follow and stick with it.

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DOGLADY13 1/9/2013 10:42PM

    Yahoo on the job. You will be back to managing work, family, and health in no time because your are good at that.

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DOGLADY13 1/9/2013 10:41PM

    Yahoo on the job. You will be back to managing work, family, and health in no time because your are good at that.

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BIGPAWSUP 1/9/2013 10:26PM

    You are going to be FANTASTIC! I believe in you. A reset can sometimes be very beneficial!

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    There's nothing wrong with resolutions! Congratulations on the job and on taking a good attitude toward it!

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VIXSTERLU 1/9/2013 7:51PM

    I think balance is a figment of our imagination, just saying. But I am hopeful it exists and I know that if it does, you will find it :)

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FITFOODIE806 1/9/2013 7:49PM

    Glad you got a job in education. Maybe it'll doors down the road...

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ONEKIDSMOM 1/9/2013 7:35PM

    emoticon Perilous, Polly? Hooray for the job that's closer to your field by the way!

And reset is a good thing... renewed energy. Doesn't have to be New Year to have new resolve in your mind! emoticon

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CINERICIA 1/9/2013 7:19PM

    Yay to gainful employment! Extra yay for being in your field! Jobs are hard to come by these days. I'm glad you found something that suits you.

I completely agree with the reset thing. I did the same on January 2. (I couldn't quite bring myself to do it on January 1. It felt too resolution-y.) One pound isn't bad. It'll be gone before you know it. Especially with your new commitment to eating well again.

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LESLIELENORE 1/9/2013 7:12PM

    Balance? What's that?!

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ADAGIO_CON_BRIO 1/9/2013 7:03PM

    Good for you! I hope that you enjoy the job and find time to balance everything in your life.

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7DBC The Stop Doing List

Tuesday, January 08, 2013

I've never had or heard of a "Stop Doing" list, but there is something to be said for it. By nature, I am a people pleaser, and I know I am not alone in this characteristic. But going full on "FU! I am doing what I want " isn't always thebest way to keep a family and marriage functioning, and is a stupid idea at work too.

There is the easy answer of "I will stop eating candy giant handfulls at a time" but I dont think that is really the introspection the question is looking for.

I think the best I can come up with is I will stop overcomitting myself. This means planning a solid racing season with a training plan, and possibly missing somethings that might be fun infanvor of better options.

I will also stop putting myself second. And I am doing that already because I signed up for swimming lessons on Thursday nights. My husband has his shooting on Tuesdays, so Thursday
*my* time.

So I dont know if my Stop Doing list is what was meant by the question, but its my answer. Contributions and comments (as always) are welcome.

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JPONCIN 1/10/2013 6:22PM

    Good for you! You have to give to yourself in order to give to others. Sounds like a great plan for your Thursday nights!!! :)

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GINGERHAWK 1/9/2013 8:48AM

    These are GREAT ideas - nice job!

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BIGPAWSUP 1/8/2013 10:44PM

    I like the idea of a "stop doing" list. I'm going to have to think about it. Thanks for always getting my brain working.

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ROXYZMOM 1/8/2013 10:00PM

    I can totally relate to your blog. It is hard to get "me" time without looking selfish. It feels, at times, like I have to hide things that are good for me to do and keep me on track.

Your blog has great points.

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ONEKIDSMOM 1/8/2013 7:00PM

    Sounds like a fine list to me! Small, concise, balanced... a good life list.

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CINERICIA 1/8/2013 6:34PM

    Your list, your rules.

Swimming lessons sound like a good way to get out the house and decompress. Nice that you and the husband can both get out and enjoy quiet time and separate interests. It reminds you that you are a person and not just half of a whole.

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DOGLADY13 1/8/2013 5:27PM

    It's your list. You can do with it what you want.

You are going to be a monster swimmer! You are already good.

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LESLIELENORE 1/8/2013 5:01PM

    Your answer makes sense to me. Yay, for swimming lessons! I want to take some.

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7DBG: Getting more of what you need

Sunday, January 06, 2013

2. How can you do more of the things that give you energy and less of the things that deplete your energy?

Hmm. This is a toughie. In the previous blog I identified the people around me as being both the source of energy and the greatest energy suckers. So the answer to this question is pretty simple: continue to surround myself with positive people and reject negativism.


Lets face it, misery loves company and when you feel like whining, there's nothing like a friend's shoulder to lean on. The trick is not to get trapped in that cycle of feeling helpless.

Sorry - its a short blog, but sometimes the answers, while individual, are simple. "And knowing is half the battle!"

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    Ooooo, good answer!

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MISSIFISH 1/7/2013 5:24PM

    I think it is great that you are doing all of this introspection. I should probably follow your lead!!! I don't know why, but I've been thinking a lot about you. I'm sending you my best vibes for a happy year full of energy boosters, NOT SUCKERS!!!

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MARTY728 1/7/2013 11:43AM

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BIGPAWSUP 1/7/2013 10:48AM

    You are right on target. No sorry. Answer is simple, just not easy!

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ONEKIDSMOM 1/7/2013 7:33AM

    No decent advice, I'm sorry. My own situation was in being married to a "Debbie Downer"... on many fronts, not just weight or activity. I am divorced now, for ten years in 2013. End of THAT story.

Still care about him. And he was great company for misery. But for happiness? Not so much. Is a relationship worth killing yourself over? Maybe Romeo and Juliet thought so, but look how young they died.


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CINERICIA 1/7/2013 7:21AM

    The key is having a positive shoulder. Attached to a hand willing to give you a good wallop when the legitimate whining has progressed to "poor me." Cause that's what friends do.

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DOGLADY13 1/7/2013 7:07AM

    One of my Debbie Downers is a friend I used to go to for misery loving company. This challenge helped me see that she can drain the life out of me. The killer is that she thinks she is positive, but the glass is always half empty for her.

I an going to limit the time I spend moaning and groaming to the people who will give me a kick in the pants after 5 minutes.

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VONBLACKBIRD 1/6/2013 8:50PM

    You find the friends that support you and are truly honest when you whine.

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LESLIELENORE 1/6/2013 8:40PM

    Misery does love company. It is finding a balance that can get difficult.

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