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And While My Son Danced Zumba

Thursday, November 29, 2012

For those of you that dont know, Zumba has a special "Zumba For Kids" program called "Zumbatomic" Its fun. My son seriously LOVES Zumba (I do too) and this is the only time its offered.

When my local studio started offering it, it was primarily me and another woman and both of us used to dance with the kids. Great fun was had by all. Sadly, lack of interest forced the owner to cancel the classes after ~9 months.

Zumbatomic recently came back so Child and I have started going again. While I am thrilled to see more kids which gives me hope for its continuation, the current crop of parents DONT DANCE. And while I understand that this is the norm of dance classes (Who's seen a parent do ballet? Jazz? Gymnastics? Even sports: you can help, but not do it WITH them) I am a little bit sad about not being able to dance with my son.

And before you say "Well just go dance with him." You've obviously never seen social pressure in action. The first time we went, I danced quietly on the sidelines and DEFINITELY got more than a few odd looks.

So this is my plan going forward:
Wall sits
Overhead press
Forward arm raises
Side Arm Raises
(Remaining time, stretching)
(I take other suggestions! - She has 5lb weights, but no mats)

I figure I can do these quietly on the other side of the room, away from the chairs and while I'm sure I'll still get some looks, at least it will be obvious that I am quietly exercising. The room is darkish and kept at a "Night Club" feel.

I really would prefer to dance, but there is only so much boat rocking my ego can handle. Sometimes I'm awesome. Sometimes its like being back in HS where I'm just another scared person who is still seeking approval of my peers.

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DOGLADY13 12/2/2012 4:49PM

    I'm late to this party. Too bad the instructor is discouraging parent from doing Zumba. What a missed opportunity for everyone.

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2BDYNAMIC 12/2/2012 1:22PM

    emoticon I hope things are 'resolving' now ............. I have a series of zumba CD'S and they are so fun! I can do in the privacy of my living room ......... (Kids are grown now) But it might be a good idea for you to consider w/ your boy? ........ emoticon Otherwise, I think I might just JUMP right in ........... (and ignore the others) .. lol

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KRISZTA11 12/1/2012 9:24AM

    It is still great you have the opportunity and motivation to do some exercise in the next room, instead of just sitting around!

Sometimes I see moms sitting in their cars, waiting for their kids to finish their run on the trail, instead of taking a walk themselves too in the beautiful forest, and I'm thinking what a waste if time...

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    Dance in your head?

What the heck do they all do, watch the kids like it's a show or ignore them?

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SAMBIDEXTROUS 11/30/2012 12:25PM

    I don't have kids, but I'm *that* kind of auntie to my friends kids.
I would shake it with them, but I agree it would be hard depending on the group of adults there.

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OPTIMIST1948 11/30/2012 11:39AM

    Talked with Zumba instructor today (at regular class) and she said there were many parents who felt awkward about dancing with their kids and they would come once and not come back. So that's why she made the focus about the kids. She wants to build up to critical mass also so she can offer it 2x per week instead of once and is going to extend to 45 min. All excellent developments for the kids and her business. So I'm going to just suck it up and deal for the time being and do my little ST routine over here.

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ILIKETOZUMBA 11/30/2012 12:18AM

    I second the suggestion to get some Zumba DVDs or maybe a Zumba video game if you have a system. Zumba is so much fun!

I understand the social pressure to not dance...but maybe eventually you could be the trendsetter that starts getting the parents more involved so they're not just sitting on the sidelines like couch potatoes. :) Sing the praises of exercise and getting involved with your kids! Maybe you can guilt them into it. :)

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COLETTEISGREAT 11/29/2012 8:42PM

    Could you get some Zumba DVDs to dance to?

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ARCHIMEDESII 11/29/2012 1:55PM

    As Lady Gaga says,"Just Dance!"

I'm sure there are a lot of parents on the sidelines who really would like to try the class with the kids, but think they may be too old or awkward. I'll bet if you got out there to do Zumbatronic with your son, MORE parents would join you once they see how easy it is to do.

So, don't let any rude stares scare you off. Show them how much fun Zumba can be.


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BIGPAWSUP 11/29/2012 1:50PM

    Next awesome day, get up and dance. Maybe others will follow. Maybe not. I can relate to being off in the corner on a so-so day - I can't take it some days either. But when you can - DANCE and don't care!

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MARTY728 11/29/2012 1:24PM

    Just do it! I would bet all it takes is one then some others will join in! emoticon emoticon

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KIMPY225 11/29/2012 1:19PM

    I have different sides to me too - sometimes I feel like I could do anything and I don't mind making a fool of myself. Other times I am scared to call a business to ask what time they are open until! Life is crazy!

I think we are in control of our feelings sometimes. Little leaps can be tough, but you may be surprised with a good outcome!

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LENLEN3 11/29/2012 1:15PM

    Do you know any of the other parents? Perhaps you form a group and then challenge the grumpy parents to a dance off! XD Join everyone together through the power of ZUMBA!

Seriously though, I think your plan is a good one. It's hard to be the nail sticking out, so to speak. I hope you inspire the other parents. And if you can sneak in some dancing with your kid, I think you should. :3

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IRONBLOSSOM 11/29/2012 1:08PM

    Hmm, I absolutely feel ya, I would feel very uncomfortable as well. It would be nice to have the kind of confidence to just say "what do I care what they think!" But I think that's pretty rare, and frequently foolhardy.

What about talking to the instructor? He or she could encourage parents to dance, and although many might not, maybe a few would join you and then you wouldn't feel so weird?

Otherwise, I like your plan, I would suggest some core work since that's usually pretty low key. Crunches, planking, side planks, bridges, I used to (and need to get back to!) bridging (shoulders on ground, knees bent at 90 degrees with feet on floor and hips pushed to ceiling) and then do chest presses, tricept drops and chest flys. You really have to concentrate on keeping the bridge going, but since you have 5lb weights these might be good. If you have them, you can also bring in heavier weights, especially for the chest pressing.

Have fun!

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LESLIELENORE 11/29/2012 12:46PM

    I think I would feel uncomfortable too. But like the others have said maybe you can be a positive influence on the other parents!

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BEAUTY_WITHIN 11/29/2012 12:17PM

    I'd say dance when you feel up to it! Otherwise, yea, do your workout. You might inspire some of the other parents! :)

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JAS9096 11/29/2012 12:10PM

    It sucks that the other parents don't dance with their kids, I totally would be dancing too! Why wouldn't you want to?
It's fun. It's exercise. It allows you to spend quality time with your kid!

Good for you though, for "rocking the boat" and exercising on t he sidelines! Who knows, maybe you'll be a positive influence on the other parents.

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Bought flowers for myself - 'cause I'm awesome.

Wednesday, November 21, 2012

Sorry no picture, because I did this a while ago.

I'm awesome. Have you told yourself that you are awesome today? Sometimes its hard. Critique seems to be built into our self conscious. But you are. So tell yourself that once in a while.

I was at the supermarket and I really wanted a cookie. But then I spotted the mini-rosebush in the flower section. Seemed like a smarter choice and while my initial impulse was to get both, my conscious brain reasoned that the flowers would last longer than a cookie in terms of enjoyment. Then my selfish brain sulked for 20 minutes when it didnt get its own way.

But by that time, I was out of the store (and danger zone) with my lovely rose.

Which I enjoyed for 3 weeks. And if you work out "Enjoyment time vs Cost" ratio REALLY a bargain.

Because I am awesome.

And in case you were wondering, I'm not always awesome -- especially when I realized I was diving headfirst into my son's halloween candy - but who wants to read another blog about weakness? I know what I need to do - so do you. And I'm on day 4 of no candy. And yesterday, while my son was at Zumba, I did Wall Squats.

'Cause I'm awesome. You are awesome too; do something awesome for yourself.

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2BDYNAMIC 12/8/2012 12:45PM

    emoticon I agree!! U R Awesome!! .............. and those sound decisions pay off!! Good job friend!! .... Jan

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MAGGIE101857 11/22/2012 7:23AM

    Awesome AND human!!!! Happy Thanksgiving!!

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ROXYZMOM 11/22/2012 7:19AM

    Awesome blog! Good for you!

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BEAUTY_WITHIN 11/22/2012 12:59AM

    Awesome job! I love flowers too! :)

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DOGLADY13 11/21/2012 8:07PM

    Of course you are awesome.

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JAC_HAMIL 11/21/2012 6:37PM


'Success is not final, failure is not fatal; it is the courage to continue that counts.' -- Winston Churchill

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JPONCIN 11/21/2012 6:25PM

    Thanks so much for posting this, because I really needed to read it today. :)

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NILLAPEPSI 11/21/2012 3:11PM

    emoticon it! What an excellent idea. Yes, you are awesome & worth it! emoticon

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ADAGIO_CON_BRIO 11/21/2012 2:16PM

    That's fantastic! I'm happy for you. Now I need to reconsider the belief that I am the opposite of awesome. I'd be on fire if I thought I were merely acceptable.

You are an inspiration!

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IRONBLOSSOM 11/21/2012 1:58PM

    Great blog! We all need to remember that sometimes and I LOVE that you did wall squats while your son was exercising. You could have just sat there and read a book or played on your phone but instead you did something to get you to your goals!!

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GINGERHAWK 11/21/2012 1:34PM

    You ARE awesome and heck, so am I. Love the idea of the pretty substitute for the sweet. Also, great job on the 4-day no candy streak!

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LESLIELENORE 11/21/2012 1:32PM

    emoticon emoticon You ARE awesome!

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MARTY728 11/21/2012 12:56PM

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GRACEFULJOURNEY 11/21/2012 12:49PM

    We are all awesome!

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JJAQUES41 11/21/2012 12:40PM

    I love that you rewarded yourself for being awesome! Flowers were an excellent choice! Other awesome rewards suggestions: new book, app, pedicure, manicure, cooking gadget, 20 minute power nap.

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BIGPAWSUP 11/21/2012 12:37PM

    Woo Hoo! You are AWESOME. That was a great reward for yourself and yes you do deserve it.

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Glee and Obesity

Tuesday, November 20, 2012

Glee is a tv show on Fox. I watch it on Hulu.com as we will not pay the cable company exorbitant rates.

I am a little behind on my watching but I am enjoying, well enjoying is the wrong word: following with interest(?) about a character who's mother is morbidly obese. As one of the cheerleaders calls it "circus freak big" The mother and daughter have a good relationship. Its complicated, but its shedding light on how our struggles with weight affect those around us.

My dear son, who is perfect not only in my eyes but in the height\weight chart at the doctors office, has started to parrot things that he hears me say "thats too much fat" "i need to get my protein" I have tried to offset this by talking with him about "all things in moderation" "even treat foods are ok once in a while" but the last thing I want is for my own struggles to warp him.

Anyway, not asking for advice. I keep plugging away at making good food choices for myself....not doing really well lately, but the more I try to be conscious with my choices, it seems the better I do.

The Glee episode that really brought this into focus for me was "Glease" it also deals with teenage pressure and bulimia. Theres also good oldfashioned singing and dancing for fun.

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LESLIELENORE 11/20/2012 1:14PM

    I don't think you are warping your son. If he is aware then he won't become overweight later in life due to lack of information.

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MARTY728 11/20/2012 12:48PM

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IRONBLOSSOM 11/20/2012 12:28PM

    I love Glee but I'm so behind! We DVR them (I would love to get rid of the cable bill but I can't get the household on board...) and I think I have 4-5 episodes waiting for me. It seems every time I have time to get caught up on one show, others get behind! :-)

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BEAUTY_WITHIN 11/20/2012 12:08PM

    Yea, it's really sad how society treats people who are fat. :( But alot of times people don't know HOW to get healthy, either. I know it took me a lot of time here to figure out how to eat healthy; there's way too much misinformation out there.

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GINGERHAWK 11/20/2012 8:54AM

    My nephew, who just turned 17, has some body images that concern me so I'm always interested to hear what other people are experiencing. He was a little chubby as a young boy (certainly not overly obese) and has since grown into a fairly lean young man. I worry that he is so concerned about his weight that he often restricts his eating to what I consider to be an unhealthy level. He brushes off feedback I give him and I worry. I want him to have a healthy relationship with food.

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JPONCIN 11/20/2012 8:22AM

    Wow, I could've written this. All of my kids are perfect in height/weight, and I don't want them to worry about it, but I don't want my own obsession with losing weight to warp them either! I think you're doing a great job. Keep the messages positive, and you can't go wrong. :)

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BIGPAWSUP 11/20/2012 7:40AM

    That is awesome. I'm hoping some of my healthier habits start to rub off on my boy and hubby.


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ROXYZMOM 11/20/2012 6:50AM

    My 24 year old son is like that too. He has always been in the 20% for weight - except when he was on one particular medicine in high school for A.D.D. & he gained a lot of weight. When he went off of it, he lost all the weight. This has been a long time but I think he is still worried he will gain it back. He eats pizza, etc but is very conscientious about portion sizes. He eats half a sandwich and broccoli instead of fries (learned that from me). He uses Splenda (weighs 135 lbs and he is 5'9). He doesn't look anarexic but does not have an ounce of fat on him.

He meets us out at restaurants a lot. I also send a lot of food home with him!

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When will I be pretty?

Thursday, November 15, 2012


Poetry Slam about the meaning of Pretty.

I'm leaking tears because TRUTH sometimes smacks you upside the head.

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JPONCIN 11/21/2012 6:32PM

    Wow. I loved every second of this. Thank you.

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LESLIELENORE 11/15/2012 7:21PM

    Wow, "pretty" amazing!

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MINSOSTER 11/15/2012 5:27PM

    Can't wait to share this with my daughter! Who will then share it with her multitude of friends.

Thank you.

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IRONBLOSSOM 11/15/2012 3:33PM

    Holy cow. Chills. That's awesome. Thanks for the share. emoticon emoticon

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BEAUTY_WITHIN 11/15/2012 2:08PM

    Thank you for sharing. THis was an amazing piece of work and made me cry too!

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VONBLACKBIRD 11/15/2012 12:22PM

    Wonderful. I had never heard of poetry slam either..thanks for the link and sharing.

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COOP9002 11/15/2012 12:20PM

    Good word.

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BRENDA_G50 11/15/2012 12:06PM

    emoticon I had never heard of "Poetry Slam" until today. Enjoyed the link. Thank you for sharing it.

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ow. ow. ow.

Thursday, November 08, 2012

Things I do not recommend:
Trying a new ST group class (Cardio, core & sculpt) AND
Running a 5k on the treadmill in 28min which is fast for me AND
Sitting in a coolish room watching the snowfall.

The muscles in my legs have set up like giant blocks of cement. Sleeping is actually painful.

Its really all NancyAnne55's fault. Indirectly of course. She's had 4 kids and looks like...THAT. Be fair, she earned it. If she can, why cant I? So I've been better about doing my ST at home and at the gym. Vanity goals aside, I also still have this 5k speed goal on my mind and Nov 22 is coming up pretty fast. I also keep eatting candy (damn you halloween!) And so being mindful of calories in, calories out, I am trying to step up the activity.

So, yeah. That's why I am awake at 5am saying "Ow, ow, owwwww!"

Next gym visit: more of the same although perhaps stepped down a bit and with more post workout stretching.

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TEENY_BIKINI 11/13/2012 9:11PM

    Sorry aboout the ouchie, but the determination rocks!


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COLETTEISGREAT 11/12/2012 5:04AM

    Sorry about the pain!! Perhaps a little less is better? :-) And don't sit in too cold an area afterwards!

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NANCYANNE55 11/9/2012 8:14AM

    Glad I could help torture! LOL! Actually, I am very glad you are picking up your game. Big changes equals big changes. (Did a blog by that title a while back.)

Yes, stretching, but some soreness is to be expected. You won't be as sore next time you do it- muscles adapt very quickly! The most soreness will be experienced when y0ou introduce change.

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IRONBLOSSOM 11/8/2012 9:20PM

    Hahaha, I feel ya! Sometimes I get out of my chair and the 96 year old I live with goes "um, should I get that for you, I think I'm moving quicker!!"

Just keep stretching, maybe a nice hot bath/sauna/hot tub session is in order?


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MARTY728 11/8/2012 4:03PM

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LESLIELENORE 11/8/2012 3:49PM

    Yeah, stretching is kind of important.

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BIGPAWSUP 11/8/2012 2:27PM

    Ok, I can't help but giggle because I did a similar thing very recently. Only it was my glutes that cramped up!

You need to stretch! I really hope you loosen up soon! Good luck.

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BEAUTY_WITHIN 11/8/2012 1:47PM

    maybe try staggering the workouts a bit too? ;( feel better!

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FITFOODIE806 11/8/2012 1:26PM

    ow ow ow is right! That sounds painful! Hope stretching helps this time around.

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GINGERHAWK 11/8/2012 9:58AM

    Man, that's an impressive amount of activity though I'm sorry to hear you're so sore. Stretching, rest, walk? Feel better soon!

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DOTTIESPLACE 11/8/2012 9:54AM

    Holy cow, great run! Sounds like you need a massage. Your legs will thank you.


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SADWHITEWOLF 11/8/2012 9:23AM

    Hot bath....

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KALANTHA 11/8/2012 8:46AM

    Sorry you're so sore. A 28-minute 5K? Only in my dreams!! Nice run!

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LENLEN3 11/8/2012 8:42AM

    Augh worse feeling ever. Good work pushing yourself at the gym, and finding inspiration! (just don't hurt yourself :D )

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AUTUMNBRZ 11/8/2012 6:07AM

    awww big hugs!

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