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I can see the light!

Wednesday, April 23, 2008

It has been a month since I last created a BLOG entry so I figure now is a good time to get one posted. I'm sitting in Panera Bread using their free WiFi to logon to the Internet. I love Panera Bread. They are great. I had their Fandango salad for dinner and I am contemplating whether or not to get their fruit salad for my evening snack. I need to get some more fruit in so I just might indulge.

My daughter is 15 and she is playing for a club Volleyball team. Her practices run from 7:00 to 10:00 at night. It is too far for me to drive home and then drive back to get her so I use the time to shop, run errands or relax at Starbucks or Panera Bread. I like Panera better than Starbucks because their WiFi is free and Starbucks charges to use theirs. You'd think that after paying the enormous amount of money that they charge for a cup of coffee would buy you a few minutes of WiFi time but nooooo they are too greedy for that. All I can say is you go Panera!

I thank GOD that my daughter is active in sports. I don't want her to go through having a weight problem for most of her life. Life is too short to worry about being fat. I regret it and wish I could turn back the clock but that is impossible as we all know. I am proud of her and I hope she maintains her healthy lifestyle.

Any way I seem to have gotten off track from my BLOG intentions. I wanted to post how I can see the light at the end of the tunnel. I have lost 21.6 pounds since January. When I first started I wasn't sure I was going to be able to make much of a dent in my weight loss since I have tried so many times before and failed. Now that I have lost over 20 pounds I know that I can do this and that I will do this. I still have a lot to go but I know it is not an easy fix and that I need to be in it for the long haul. I don't feel like I am lost in the dark any more. I am so motivated by reading other SPARKERS SparkPages, Blogs and posts. When I see how successful and dedicated everyone is it makes me want to do the same. I have met a lot of fun, caring and dedicated friends since January and I hope to meet many more as time goes on.

I want to end by saying thank you to everyone that sends me Goodies, posts on my SparkPage and replies to my posts in various topic threads. Your support is appreciated and needed. Keep the Spark!


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MOMTROY 6/4/2008 6:01AM

    Your kids learn from example. So, your new healthy lifestyle will help your daughter to learn how to eat healthy. After her first resistance to leaving the candy land...she will know how to do it right and feel better for it. You have a great goal. Keep up the good work.

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MRSWHITEWOLF 5/14/2008 4:11PM

    YOU CAN DO IT! Congrats on the loss. If you want a laugh...go read my latest blog, sad...funny...omgosh.

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If You Fall Off The Horse You Need To Get Back On!

Tuesday, March 25, 2008

Falling off the Horse is easy to do:
OK I admit this last week has been tough. First, It was my TOM which always has me feeling like a bottomless pit. Second, It was Easter/Spring break and I was home for a week entertaining guests and visiting the refrigerator way too often. Then of course the BIG Easter feast. Thirdly, my teenager son had decided to purposely fail most of his senior year courses so of course we had to administer "Tough Love" Since dealing with teenagers is stressful I felt the urge to eat more to make me feel better but all I suceeded in doing was to make myself feel worse.

Getting Back on is tough but it needs to be done:
Now that Easter break is over and I have returned to work and all of my guests have gone home I can get back into a routine. I threw out all the leftover cake, cheesecake, cookies and sent the Easter baskets to my kids rooms. Their rooms are a disaster so I know I'll stay away from it while it is in there. I started back on my exercise program by using my treadmill tonight and I plan to do so each night this week to elliminate the excess weight gain from this past week. I also joined a small group of SparkTeam members in a "loose 3 pounds this week challenge" It was what I needed to get back on that horse. Wish me luck! I need all the encouragement I can get to stay motivated. I want to do this. I need to do this. :)


Eating Triggers

Friday, March 21, 2008

Now that I have started SparkPeople I have been trying to be aware of what triggers me to eat. Today I feel like a bottomless pit. I am constantly hungry. I've been trying to be good by making good food choices. We went to IHOP and I even ordered a salad instead of the Belgium Waffles smothered in berry sauce and whipped topping. Trust me, I really wanted the waffles. When the meal was over I was happy that I chose the salad. When we arrived home I started to pick. I had a rice cake or 2 or 3. Then I hit the popcorn 100 cal. bags. So far not too bad. I even made some diet jello and put it in the refrigerator for later. The problem is that it did not set up quick enough so I ate a Little Debbie Marshmallow Cake. Bad Bad. Then I read the SparkPage for BAMMOM19 and regained my motivation. What an inspiration. If you have not visited her page you need to do so. I am back on track and will be ok for the rest of the evening.

BTW, The eating trigger has been discovered.... It is the lovely time of the month that all women look forward to :)

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TIME4JUDI 3/21/2008 9:16PM

    BAMOM is an amazing motivator, and TOM is an amazing trigger! I fully understand both! It's good to prepare for TOM triggers (when you can)...invite friends over, or plan to go out..prep crunchy, munchy healthy stuff in advance (carrots, peppers and celery take a long time to eat and are low in sodium too!)'ll figure out what works best for you! Keep at it!

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Teenagers = stress eating

Tuesday, March 18, 2008

Today was a challenging day. I just discovered that my 18 year old teenager son who is a senior in high school is failing all of his classes except for three. His response was that he does not care and that he only needs to pass two classes to graduate. He has had a bad attitude about school since 8th grade and I can't seem to figure out how to get him to take school seriously. He refuses to try a 4 year college (not that he'd be accepted with his GPA). We have been able to get him to consider a 2 year community college. He wants to be a police officer. Which is kind of ironic since the profession is by the book and serious.

In response to his poor grades we moved his bedroom from the basement where there was little supervision to the second floor with the rest of the families bedrooms. He is not happy and feels that we took his whole world away from him. We tried to explain that he needed to prepare himself for leaving home since high school ends in 3 months and that his comfortable apartment like conditions in the basement will not last forever. We thought about the military y and he has threatened us with it but we are concerned because of the IRAQ situation and him being hurt or killed. I really hope it does not come to that but it may "make a man out of him".

It is difficult to be a parent and go through this but I know in the future it will be more difficult on him if he does not take his future seriously. I try not to compare him to other teenagers his age but it is difficult. His friends are going to big universities. Some received scholarships for academics or grades. There are even a few that already have grad school planned to be a surgeon or lawyer. It is frustrating for me because my son has an IQ of 132 so he is not stupid. It just kills me that he is wasting his intelligence. He had the opportunity to go anywhere he wanted and become very successful. He would have been the first generation college student in my husbands family. I wish I would have had the opportunities that were available to him that he threw away. I struggled without a father since I was 11. My mother worked three jobs to support 4 kids. I worked 3 jobs to get through college and then went on to get my Masters and additional certificates. It is hard for me to understand why he is not more motivated. He just does not care and he is very vocal about saying it too. I really feel bad for my 15 year old daughter. She has 3 more years to go at the high school where he is also attending. She is the total opposite of her brother and I feel she needs to do a lot of repair work with teachers so that they don't think she is like her brother. I love him but I really don't know what to do anymore. I guess it is time to let him fail.

I am a stress eater so today was not easy. I did do pretty well though. I went to my calorie limit but I managed to stay under it too. So I guess today was not a total loss.

If anyone has had a problem similar to mine I'd appreciate hearing about it and learning some things that might have worked with you and your teenager.

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TIME4JUDI 3/18/2008 10:44PM son is also a HS senior....has not been academically motivated for years...fortunately we realized it a long time ago, and suggested a technical high school (he loves working with his hands)...he is about to graduate with a degree in welding along with his high school diploma...he just passed a very difficult certification exam (first student at his school since 2003 to do so!), and already has 2 full-time job offers with benefits for after daughter, who is 23, is an auditor with a big 4 accounting firm in NYC...DH is a for my son not to go to college, not to have gone to our local (VERY academically oriented school system) was a big deal...BUT you have to deal with each child as an individual....perhaps there is a way you can help your son to figure out what he wants....and if it really is becoming a police officer he should start to find out what he needs to do to pursue that goal. Good for you for not eating your way out of the situation today - it doesn't help!

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