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Moderation; What's that?

Friday, September 13, 2013

As I am sure many of us did, I grew up being told to finish everything on my plate (regardless of the portions of course) so I did. When I was a teenager I could eat anything I wanted in any amount I wanted and didn't gain an ounce. It wasn't until adulthood I heard the term moderation, but never in relationship to food. Then sometime in my 40's I started gaining weight; at first a little at a time, then it seemed to add up over night. Still nobody mentioned moderation with food. (Or maybe I just didn't hear it.) When I had gained enough weight to do something drastic like join a 12 step program for people who were compulsive about food a sponsor mentioned moderation. That was a shock. She actually said I had two levels of everything...all out and stop. So when I ate I ATE! When I didn't feel like eating I ATE NOTHING. Even though she kept talking to me about that it wasn't until I joined SP and followed their menu plans that I understood what moderation is. Now my meals are moderate size, my activities are moderate (at 72 I am probably never going to compete in a triathalon) so I exercise to get healthy again. Had I not joined SP I never would have understood that moderation in food and in life is a good thing! With moderation I am getting healthy and I am happy. Now I just need to moderate the amount of TV I watch. While TV is on just as much as my husband is watching it, I am doing other things - like being on the SP website, cleaning out drawers, etc. - I am not just sitting there watching it and wondering what I can eat. Finding moderation in everything has improved the quality of my life. Thank you SP and SP friends for helping me "get it!"

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REENSKI 9/17/2013 2:32PM

    I am struggling to learn moderation too. Good for you for not giving up! emoticon emoticon

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    I do remember the finish everything on your plate years....and I also rmember eating and not gaining- miss that!
Moderation is key- I have tried some of the diets that restrict certain foods and they just do not work for me.

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BUNNYCATS 9/13/2013 10:32AM

    Moderation is the silken string running through the pearl-chain of all virtues. —Thomas Fuller, 1642

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KACAR51 9/13/2013 8:28AM

    With moderation, we can have what we want! Like eating two squares of dark chocolate (50 calories) instead of the whole bar (290 calories)!
I use a pedal cycle when I watch TV. Thaqt way I get to watch and get my exercise at the same time. ( the pedal cycle was 25$ at Walmart)
Have a great day! emoticon emoticon

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TRUE2NDCHANCE 9/13/2013 7:28AM

    Moderation is a wonderful thing!! I am having to learn that and make myself remember it too!!

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Changing my life one step at a time

Monday, September 02, 2013

This story from the on-liine site "Tiny Buddha" spoke to me today because I so need to turn around my life. Even at this late date.

Although I was never an insecure girl obsessed with weight or a bulimic I can understand this story because later in life I became an insecure woman obsessed with weight and was a binge eater (I hated throwing up or probably would have been a bulimic). My father is still alive and I do not go to him for help nor do I tell him I love him. That sounds like alot of exceptions, yet this story moved me to change. I hope it speaks to some of you as well.

“Waking up to who you are requires letting go of who you imagine yourself to be.” ~Alan Watts

I used to be an insecure girl obsessed with her weight, stepping on the scales about twenty times a day.

I used to be a bulimic teenager struggling with depression and a way too controlling father, whom I never told, “I love you, Dad.”

I used to be a lonely woman who always fell for the wrong men because she had not yet learned that she deserved better.

I used to be co-dependent, fighting for everyone but myself.

I used to be a bacteriophobe—I was so afraid of germs and dirt that I refused to stay in hotels because I could not stand the thought of having to lie in a bed that hundreds of other people had already slept in.

This is the way I used to be. And I thought I would be like that for as long as I live.

But when I was about to make the biggest mistake of my life and marry a guy who wanted to turn me into a Stepford Wife, I discovered what I was not: I was not afraid to change!

This is how my journey began, and it continued one step at a time.

I left my fiancé, although everybody thought I had gone crazy. But how could I have stayed with someone who only loved the idea of the girl he thought I could be?

Fighting the silence of my new place, I forced myself to join a yoga group. And through yoga, I learned something else about myself: I am strong.

Meditation taught me that silence does not equal loneliness. Silence equals inner peace. And inner peace equals strength.

I was ready to take the next step and, slowly but surely, I broke old behavior patterns.

I learned that if you want your future to be brighter than your past, you must start acting differently. Today.

Relationships suffered, but I decided to no longer surround myself with people who I knew would nourish my codependency.

I also learned another very important lesson: I need to put myself first when it comes to love.

Because only when you love yourself someone else can truly love you, too.

This is how I found my soul mate. And although we both are not perfect, we could not be more perfect for each other.

I moved to another country and finally understood that I was “uncontrollable,” no matter how hard people tried to tell me what to do.

Space taught me about freedom: the freedom to listen to my feelings, and the freedom to trust myself.

Once I understood that I could trust myself, I realized I could accept myself, too.

At this point, I was finally able to let go of my neuroses and cope with the emotions that had been feeding my eating disorder.

All my life I had been troubled by yesterday’s “what ifs” and worried about tomorrow’s “maybes.”

But when you are no longer haunted by your past nor concerned about your future, you are ready to see what’s beautiful today.

And beauty is all around you!

Now a holistic nutritionist and mindfulness coach, I know I have come a long way.

I teach my children to love themselves as much as I love them, and every day they tell me they love me, too.

I’ve also healed my relationship with my father. He is the one person I turn to whenever I get stuck in life and need someone to help me get back on track again.

He died on September 29, 2008. He was in a coma when I came to see him and I did not have a chance to say goodbye. I wasn’t there when he died; I only heard him take his last breath through the phone. But, Dad, wherever you are out there: I love you! I really do.

I am by no means flawless, but through my journey I have realized that anyone can change if they take it one step at a time.

You just have to try and put yourself out there, even though it means you need to leave your comfort zone.

Because we all deserve to be happy! And it is never—never—too late to take a U-turn and rewrite the plot of your own life.

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IYA_EKUNDAYO 9/11/2013 6:32PM

    Thanks for posting this, it spoke to me as well.

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XFLIPS2013 9/8/2013 4:12PM

  emoticon spoke to me too, thank you. Here's to each step we take, the one we need to take for ourself.

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SKINNYROBIN100 9/4/2013 2:07PM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon You have the ability to start anew everyday, and when the steps get harder, you have emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon SUPPORT from many people(ME) and places, to get you back on track! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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JINLYNN 9/3/2013 12:35AM

    Touching story - thanks for sharing it. It really enforces that changes can be made, one day at a time, if we are not afraid to change one step at a time!

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SYLVANELI 9/3/2013 12:04AM

    Blessed be! I am embarking on an opening to yoga/meditation :) emoticon

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TRUE2NDCHANCE 9/2/2013 6:28PM

    Awesome Story!!!!

It hit home in many ways to me also! Thank you for posting it!!

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MJRVIC2000 9/2/2013 4:21PM

    Remember that there is a BIG difference between making a DECISION and making a COMMITMENT! God Bless YOU! Vic.

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RAPUNZEL53 9/2/2013 4:18PM

  Good Luck!

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Thursday, August 29, 2013

emoticon My community assignment today on SparkCoach is to blog about who is sabotaging my weight loss plan and what can be done about it. I don't think my weight loss plan is being sabotaged by anything but my own body. Even my doctor can't figure out why I'm not losing. So I keep following the food and fitness plan with SP knowing that it is the last stop on the path to healthy and fit, and knowing that what ever is going to happen as long as I keep working the program and having faith. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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JINLYNN 8/30/2013 10:29PM

    A good positive attitude will make a big difference too!

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MEMKEEPR 8/29/2013 6:18PM

    Great attitude. I hope you see results soon and admire your persistence! emoticon emoticon

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I haven't being doing much exercise but now I think I can because...

Sunday, August 18, 2013

Ok, I never have liked to exercise, even when I was young - well I did like riding my bike. (Stationery bike is the only one I can do now.) But since being on SP the reasons I haven't exercised is illness and pain - alot of pain - and the time it takes me to recover from even the simplest exercises. Beginning today I am doing more! Hooray! With my doctor's permission I have stopped taking some of my meds and most of my supplements, and I am feeling so much better already! I have put in alot of time and energy today around the house, but tomorrow I am going to exercise for real and see how I do. If any of you have similar issues I recommend talking to your doctor about what you could change. It could help you as well! Till next time emoticon

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KATNAP2275 8/20/2013 10:32AM

  Keep up the positive attitude. I have found it goes a long way. When things get down just think of how far you have come. Have a blessed day my SP Friend! Kat emoticon emoticon

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MILLYMOUSE1 8/19/2013 6:00AM

    It's a true saying ... use it or Lose it.... When you don't use it things stiffen up you can end up worse, exercise will help your pain get's the blood flowing. Do what you can with out doing damage or busting your gut. Little and more is better that pushing yourself too far

Keep on keeping on

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Being Under Water

Sunday, August 04, 2013

emoticon! The phrase "being under water" doesn't just apply to some mortgages, it applies to people as well. And I am one of those people. I forgot what movie the phrase "I'm mad as hell and I'm not going to take it any more" comes from but it applies to me right now. I am not mad; I am not angry. I am exhausted trying to do everything, so...I am taking the month of August off to reflect and regenerate. Whle I will be on retreat I will check in with SP for 1 hour each day (right now it is more like 6 - 8 hours a day) so I don't lose the momentum and don't lose touch with my great SP friends. Wishing you all - each of you - an emoticon August. See you in September (isn't that a line from a song of the 50's?) Blessings and emoticon for your journey! B-

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LOSINGLINNDY 8/9/2013 3:25PM

    Enjoy your August retreat. Do remember to post your weigh in for weeks 9 and 10. Fall BLC doesn't start until Sept. 14. You should be ready by then.

My Aug. goal is to really get my workout routine going. At last!


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KATNAP2275 8/5/2013 8:21PM

  Looking forward to your return. Take care you...isn't that from a movie, too. Lol

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