Friday, January 24, 2014
Reflecting on tough lessons learned from fatloser.com free ebook...
Being an emotional eater the "critical thinking" component sounds like a useful tool.
Seibold analyzes positive, negative, and critical thinking strategies.
He says that both positive and negative thinking can serve us positively and not.
I tend to be a positive thinker and therefore, mostly guided by emotion. That is supportive of relationships and overall positive well being, but it also leads to some delusional everything's honkydory when in fact it may not be, hence hiding emotions, emotional eating for comfort.
Negative thinking leads me to anger and rebellion, hence emotional eating. But negative thinking can aid in strong positive decision making.
CRITICAL THINKING is based on criteria, evidence, and logic. It removes emotion from the equation in making decisions. That is extremely important in weightloss because it is such an emotional journey. Making wise food and fitness choices must be made through critical thinking.
I also will continue studying and developing changing "core beliefs."
The next couple of paragraphs are from a blog by Spark Friend, Watermellen whose words I quote..."Siebold gives us a list of 10 core beliefs he had when he was fat. Dieting equals pain; dieting is short term; I can lose weight without a formal diet; diets don't work; diets make me unhappy because I can't eat what I want; diets deny me pleasure; dieting means I can't eat in restaurants; diets are too much work; diets involve extreme discipline; the pleasure of fitness is not worth the pain of dieting. He says he had a whole lot more,
Then he deliberately "replaced" each of these core beliefs: Dieting equals the pleasure of being successful, energetic and happy with his body; dieting is long term success; dieting just means following a successful system; diets work perfectly so long as I stick to it; I can develop new favourite foods that are on my diet; dieting is pleasurable because I like feeling fit and looking great and being successful; I can eat in a restaurant so long as I prepare in advance; being fat is too much work, it weights on me all day long every day; dieting is a light discipline which returns disproportionate rewards including looking terrific all the time; the pleasure of fitness is worth any price I have to pay because without my health I have nothing.
These are two tools I feel will help me on this journey. Two toughies...to be continued.
I figure the more times and places I write about these, the more ingrained they become.
Thanks for listening.